The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

stargazer 68

That_Guy wrote: »

Message on POF just there:



:eek::eek:

Lol at least we know men get the weirdo messages too!

SineadMarie

I joined POF and i'm not sure about it i was on it a few hours and had been asked out on 3 dates, anyone think its a bit too much too soon. I suppose don't know if i'm ready for dates this way

stargazer 68

SineadMarie wrote: »

I joined POF and i'm not sure about it i was on it a few hours and had been asked out on 3 dates, anyone think its a bit too much too soon. I suppose don't know if i'm ready for dates this way

If you arent ready for dates this way then don't sign up. Sorry if thats harsh but the amount of complaints from people on the site and on here about the 'timewasters' that sign up and then won't meet up is enormous. Makes it more difficult for those people who genuinely want to date.

Let the me bashing begin! :rolleyes:

SineadMarie

Yea i see your point.. but i've just recently broken up with someone and i thought this might be another way of meeting someone new. I replied to the guys and just asked them to give me a few weeks and we can chat / mail for a while longer get to know one another before meeting them in person. Just i guess deep down i don't know if its the way to go i guess im just nervous!

awec

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Honey-ec

That_Guy wrote: »

Message on POF just there:

"Your ears are very lickable-looking

:eek::eek:

So far today I've had:

- A 47 year old man
- A 22 year old with no car, who lives on the opposite side of the country (I’m 30)
- Someone send me their number in their very first message
- A guy lying on his bed in nothing but his (very small) pants
- A guy who invited me to check out his profile, where he goes into great detail about his massive willy

Captain Havoc

I wouldn't say POF is more full of pretentious people than any night club. My profile is very normal, I don't claim to be anyone special (even if my mommy says I am). Same with girls, some have normal profiles (the ones I go for) and other are princesses that want special attention or a free dinner. When I go out, I'm normal, I don't wear sunglasses in the club stinking of lineament oil, white shirt open with horribly applied fake tan.

I think if fellas are asking you out without chatting, I'd assume they're just looking for the ride, if they ask 100 women and one says yes, bingo.

SineadMarie

awec wrote: »

Did they ask you out in their first message?

No not first after a few "how are you" "where you from" "what do you do"

Also this one guy basically said i asked you out first now remember that.

Is it normal for online dating / POF i'm not used to it?

SineadMarie

I think if fellas are asking you out without chatting, I'd assume they're just looking for the ride, if they ask 100 women and one says yes, bingo.[/QUOTE]

Yea i think so too

Captain Havoc

Question about POF, I live in Kilkenny and work in Carlow, so I wouldn't mind extending out the net a bit. Is there a way to change the my city search from 10 miles to further away?

Busy Lizzie

Captain Havoc wrote: »

Question about POF, I live in Kilkenny and work in Carlow, so I wouldn't mind extending out the net a bit. Is there a way to change the my city search from 10 miles to further away?

On the POF search page, you can search from your home town with the dropdown menu for 10 miles, 15, 25, 50 etc.

Also I see people are complaining about getting mails from people who are way too old/young for them. You can restrict in your mail settings what age group can contact you. Yes you're going to cut out certain people, but is it likely that I go out with a 17/77 year old....no!

Captain Havoc

Thanks

Busy Lizzie

Not sure what that pic means but if you can only search for 10 miles, try putting Carlow into the search options instead, or anywhere else you want to look.

Captain Havoc

Busy Lizzie wrote: »

Not sure what that pic means but if you can only search for 10 miles, try putting Carlow into the search options instead, or anywhere else you want to look.

It's a joke, the meme is called first world problems as it's hardly the biggest problem that one could encounter.

Galvasean

It would appear the girl I've been exchanging mails since Friday has packed up and deleted her profile. Mid conversation too. Bah, I was about to ask her on a date and all!


NEXT! :pac:

That_Guy

Galvasean wrote: »

It would appear the girl I've been exchanging mails since Friday has packed up and deleted her profile. Mid conversation too. Bah, I was about to ask her on a date and all!


NEXT! :pac:

That'd be like me having a conversation with you and after you ask me a question I'd leave the room, get my stuff and move to Australia.

Captain Havoc

POF claim if I upgrade my chances improve by 530%. What's 530% of zero?

Galvasean

That_Guy wrote: »

That'd be like me having a conversation with you and after you ask me a question I'd leave the room, get my stuff and move to Australia.

Except you'd never walk out on me

Larianne

Busy Lizzie wrote: »

Seriously?!! Online dating has prevented you from living your life?! In that case, maybe it's not for you. With an attitude like that I can't see you attracting anyone. I live my life like I've highlighted above, and yes if I meet someone either online or 'in real life' that's a bonus, but regardless of how we met there'll still be the same obstacles that occur in all relationships.

I think this is where a lot of people go wrong. They get stuck on the whole online dating thing that they forget about going out and socialising and meeting people that way too.

awec

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Discodog

ChannelNo5 wrote: »

You're a bit possessive Dd! I'll know it's you if you send me "mail no other man, you're mine rock chick" messages:D

I'm working on the profile it's the pics are the problem:(

If I spotted your profile, which is highly unlikely given the number of people on these sites, I would be totally honest & confess to my Boards identity. If you asked for a truthful opinion on the pics or profile then I would give it but I might be a little biased

Dovies wrote: »

Now the 'hotels' you want are full and the ones that entice you in with special offers are 'hostels'!

Do you mean B&B's without the breakfast

In the past, especially in a geographically divided country, people had a pretty limited choice. Now, especially for women, there is a huge choice but is it quantity at the price of quality ?

Discodog

Larianne wrote: »

I think this is where a lot of people go wrong. They get stuck on the whole online dating thing that they forget about going out and socialising and meeting people that way too.

I agree but a lot of people turn to internet dating because they either don't go out or they feel that they are stuck with the same group of friends when they do. I wonder how many people would use internet dating if they were meeting lots of new people in real life ?

Maybe there is also the feeling that they could be missing out on the perfect person by not going online.

Pippy1976

Hi, I love reading all the replies / questions / quips - really entertaining and an eye opener.

I joined a dating website recently after reading about it on here. Not to get anything specific out of it but just to see what's out there. My friends are all attached and don't go out much anymore... I guess that's the main reason why it's a good option for me.

So far it's going ok. I've got my first date on Friday... really excited - about getting out for a drink to be honest. Not reading too much into it. Just, honestly looking forward to being out and socialising.

Pippy1976

mc_grens wrote: »

I think I've done that.

I do that too!

Honey-ec

Honey-ec wrote: »

Right, what do all y'all make of this?

Joined POF on Wednesday. One of the first guys to message me seemed really nice. We were on chat for ages that night.

Didn't talk on Thursday, I missed a chat request from him.

I was out on Friday night, came in at about 2am, blotto, and logged on. He invited me to chat immediately and we were on again for ages. Nothing sleazy, just friendly, with a mildly flirtatious undertone.

Arsed around the house Saturday day, was thinking about our conversation a bit and went "Oh God, did I ask him out last night?" Logged on, he was online, invited him to chat and asked him out straight had I asked him out. He was like "Yep . No backing out now!" We were chatting for about an hour and next thing he went offline literally mid-conversation. I was like "Christ, bet you he's married and his wife walked into the room or something."

Anyway, I really couldn't be bothered playing games so I just sent him a message yesterday morning saying that I wouldn't be online all day, here's my number, I asked you out, I'll leave the rest up to you. Needless to say, he didn't text me, but when I logged in this morning, I had a missed chat request from him from last night. WTF?

I have the app and apparently if you leave yourself logged in on your phone, it shows you as being online. So now I'm like, great, he probably thinks I was blanking him now. But then on the other hand I'm just going he has my number, if he wanted to talk to me that badly, he could have just texted me.

Bloody mixed messages! :mad:

An update on this guy. Still no text and we haven't been online at the same time since. Just logged on there a while ago and got a chat request from him. He sends me a smiley face, I respond with "Howdy stranger", he doesn't bother replying and then 5 minutes later was gone offline again.

I have no idea what the hell this guy is at, but I don't think it's game I'm interested in playing.

stargazer 68

Honey-ec wrote: »

I have no idea what the hell this guy is at, but I don't think it's game I'm interested in playing.

Unless you actually log off POF it will keep you logged on for a certain length of time whether you are using your phone or computer. Leave him to it!

Discodog

Honey-ec wrote: »

I have no idea what the hell this guy is at, but I don't think it's game I'm interested in playing.

It might be this game. The book & it's follow ups have sold millions of copies. I once joked to a girl that was buying it that it was a book for men. She replied that she wanted to see what they are all reading so that she would know what to expect.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Game:_Penetrating_the_Secret_Society_of_Pickup_Artists

Larianne

Honey-ec wrote: »

An update on this guy. Still no text and we haven't been online at the same time since. Just logged on there a while ago and got a chat request from him. He sends me a smiley face, I respond with "Howdy stranger", he doesn't bother replying and then 5 minutes later was gone offline again.

I have no idea what the hell this guy is at, but I don't think it's game I'm interested in playing.

Well screw that if he has your number and hasn't text.

Honey-ec

Dovies wrote: »

Unless you actually log off POF it will keep you logged on for a certain length of time whether you are using your phone or computer. Leave him to it!

Nah, he definitely logged off.

Anyway, he can sing for it now. I'm too old for this juvenile crap of keeping me guessing.

Discodog

ChannelNo5 wrote: »

Ah..... Discodog and Dovies sittin in a tree K...I...S...S..I...N...G:D

You must be psychic. Two Dove 'ies have started building a nest in my hedge

I think they are Collared Dovies