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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389
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You seem to get a dodgy message daily !!!
You don't see the half of them, believe me. I have some kind of flashing neon light over my head for these people!
I do sort of love it though, I like messing with the crazies. And it makes for some good stories!
:pac:
And if this guys reply doesn't contain the word "shawty", I will be very disappointed...0 -
Haha! Your post cheered me right up Itwasntme.
The date went really nice! I picked her up after work, she doesn't drive so her Mam dropped her off at a neutral location so I didn't have to drive all the way out after work, which was lovely of her. She apparently really wanted to meet me! (The mammy) She was a nice woman. I figured I must be doing ok if my dates Ma was eager to meet me!
We parked in town, had some food in a nice little place, went to see a play, had a drink (non-alcoholic unfortunately, as I was driving her home!) and some ice cream.
Conversation was good, and I really enjoyed it.
Before I dropped her off I mentioned meeting up again and she was up for it. I suggested maybe having her over to meet my Mam some evening and chilling with a movie and some home cooked food afterwards (Which I thought was a reasonable enough idea, considering everything had been going so well!)
But apparently it was a tad too early for that kinda talk, and I appear to have scared her off real good.
We swapped a text or two this evening, and she said she needed to talk about something....
So she rang, and in the sweetest, nicest most genuine way - and to make it basically long story short, told me she doesn't wanna take it further, but is happy to be friends.
I'm fairly "devo" to be honest. Uuuuugh. Feel rotten.
Ah GrumPy genuinely sorry to hear this, I was really enjoying the posts.0 -
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Haha! Your post cheered me right up Itwasntme.
The date went really nice! I picked her up after work, she doesn't drive so her Mam dropped her off at a neutral location so I didn't have to drive all the way out after work, which was lovely of her. She apparently really wanted to meet me! (The mammy) She was a nice woman. I figured I must be doing ok if my dates Ma was eager to meet me!
We parked in town, had some food in a nice little place, went to see a play, had a drink (non-alcoholic unfortunately, as I was driving her home!) and some ice cream. Conversation was good, and I really enjoyed it.
Before I dropped her off I mentioned meeting up again and she was up for it. I suggested maybe having her over to meet my Mam some evening and chilling with a movie and some home cooked food afterwards (Which I thought was a reasonable enough idea, considering everything had been going so well!)
But apparently it was a tad too early for that kinda talk, and I appear to have scared her off real good.
We swapped a text or two this evening, and she said she needed to talk about something....
So she rang, and in the sweetest, nicest most genuine way - and to make it basically long story short, told me she doesn't wanna take it further, but is happy to be friends.
I'm fairly "devo" to be honest. Uuuuugh. Feel rotten.:(:( 
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Why did she string it out over 6 dates then?
Sweet or not, she could have easily let you know after the 2nd at the latest?
Women like this really piss me off and if it were me I would have given her an earful.
Ah I like to think she was just being cautious and doing lotsa research!
She just didn't think we "clicked" well enough overall. But part of me is convinced if I had said nothing, and kept on the same course for another "regular" date at least, she might not have "frightened" so easily.
Ah well, she's a lovely girl and I wish her all the best. I sent her a single message after the call just to re-thank her for being so honest, and that I really appreciated it. I wished her the best of luck with the new career path she's taken recently, and told her I enjoyed the time we spent together.
It's nice to be nice afterall! Bitterness won't get me anywhere. I'm fairly upset though.
She responded with an equally lovely text and guess that's where my second experience of online dating ends.
Won't be rushing back anytime soon, dating is expensive and a time consuming business to boot! :pac: Don't think my mentality is in the right place right now to handle any more first dates either.
It's a pitty though, I did genuinely really like her.
Think I need some time to settle back into "normal" single me again, my couch ass-groove was so close to fading away... Guess I have time now to re-shape it. 0 -
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Ah I like to think she was just being cautious and doing lotsa research!
She just didn't think we "clicked" well enough overall. But part of me is convinced if I had said nothing, and kept on the same course for another "regular" date at least, she might not have "frightened" so easily.
Ah well, she's a lovely girl and I wish her all the best. I sent her a single message after the call just to re-thank her for being so honest, and that I really appreciated it. I wished her the best of luck with the new career path she's taken recently, and told her I enjoyed the time we spent together.
It's nice to be nice afterall! Bitterness won't get me anywhere. I'm fairly upset though.
She responded with an equally lovely text and guess that's where my second experience of online dating ends.
Won't be rushing back anytime soon, dating is expensive and a time consuming business to boot! :pac: Don't think my mentality is in the right place right now to handle any more first dates either.
It's a pitty though, I did genuinely really like her.
Think I need some time to settle back into "normal" single me again, my couch ass-groove was so close to fading away... Guess I have time now to re-shape it.
Dude. You totally just made me cry.:( Seriously though, eff the ass-groove. Go out and have a roaring good time (as much as one can on a budget). You'll be back in good spirits within no time and when you least expect it, love will smack you in the face at 90m/h. That's the best kind according to my love guru, Hollywood. 0 -
Itwasntme. wrote: »Dude. You totally just made me cry.:( Seriously though, eff the ass-groove. Go out and have a roaring good time (as much as one can on a budget). You'll be back in good spirits within no time and when you least expect it, love will smack you in the face at 90m/h. That's the best kind according to my love guru, Hollywood.
Oh god! Don't you cry, I totally already shed a tear... or five if I'm honest.
*Ahem* I mean, beer, football, porn! :pac:
Hehe, unfortunately I don't share your confidence in Hollywood....
Ah I'm sure I'll be out and about plenty next weekend considering the day in it. Course Paddy's day is a Sat this year, too.
I'll try keep my chin up and make sure my breath is extra fresh just in case this 90m/h hot babe you speak of smacks one on me though!
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Stood you up? No excuse for that in my book, that's just not on.
His loss pembo, best way to think of it!
Defo agree here. Some people just haven't a breeze!Just had a date tonight and got on really well and even better in person rather than messages and she also looks more beautiful in person than her pictures.
My stomach was trembling with nerves seeing as it was my first time doing this online dating thing but all went well....i hope!:D
This is so cute! Delighted for ya!:)Ah well, she's a lovely girl and I wish her all the best. I sent her a single message after the call just to re-thank her for being so honest, and that I really appreciated it. I wished her the best of luck with the new career path she's taken recently, and told her I enjoyed the time we spent together.
It's nice to be nice afterall! Bitterness won't get me anywhere. I'm fairly upset though.
Really sorry to read this Grumpy. Fair play to you for being mature about it all. These things happens, albeit shítty. But she was honest and upfront which not every person tends to be.
Take a break and come back to us!! 0 -
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Irish Wolf wrote: »and they couldn't be bothered visiting my awesome profile
/waves.. Newbie here
Lol, oops, didn't realise there was a "hide" option..0 -
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Hi All,been reading through some of the older posts here,but couldn't make it through the full 315 pages so sorry if this question has been asked already!!Seriously considering joining an online dating site, and I'm just wondering which ones were better....or is there such a thing??Are the fee paying ones better than the free ones,if you're in you mid(ish:D) 30's should you stay away from POF,someone told me it's all "hook ups"
on that site.....sorry for long winded post but need advice on how to do it right!! 0 -
fallen01angel wrote: »Hi All,been reading through some of the older posts here,but couldn't make it through the full 315 pages so sorry if this question has been asked already!!Seriously considering joining an online dating site, and I'm just wondering which ones were better....or is there such a thing??Are the fee paying ones better than the free ones,if you're in you mid(ish:D) 30's should you stay away from POF,someone told me it's all "hook ups" on that site.....sorry for long winded post but need advice on how to do it right!!
I was on Another Friend last year, its a paying site but i found the people genuine on it. Im on Connecting Singles at the moment, its free and seems ok. I have an account on POF as well but i dont find it a good site TBH.0 -
Just when I thought everything was going well, I logged in to POF this morning and the guy I was meant to be meeting up with next weekend has deleted his account. I honestly give up. I honestly have been having the worst luck with dating since I've been single. I wouldn't mind but I added him on facebook because I wouldn't put a photo of myself on POF and he knows a lot of people I know. Can anyone give me a logical explanation for this!! 0
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icescreamqueen wrote: »Just when I thought everything was going well, I logged in to POF this morning and the guy I was meant to be meeting up with next weekend has deleted his account. I honestly give up. I honestly have been having the worst luck with dating since I've been single. I wouldn't mind but I added him on facebook because I wouldn't put a photo of myself on POF and he knows a lot of people I know. Can anyone give me a logical explanation for this!!
He was out last night and pulled. :rolleyes:0 -
icescreamqueen wrote: »Sometimes it pays to be upfront. I messaged your man earlier and asked him if he had lost interest or was just playing games... He messaged back to say he was really busy and defo hadn't lost interest He asked me when I was free to meet up and it just to happens we're both going home next weekend. We'll probably go for a walk with his dog on the beach .
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icescreamqueen wrote: »Can anyone give me a logical explanation for this!!icescreamqueen wrote: »Oh, just copped on you were having a bit of a flirt there:p.
Er maybe that your a bit slow Is your user name supposed to be Ice Cream Queen or I Scream Queen :eek:
I watched a rather silly program based on the blog of a female dater. But there were a few interesting insights. For example everyone said that they would use the net & social networking to find out as much as they can about the person before meeting them - they'd turn into cyberstalkers :eek:. The other "difference" was profile deletion. Women delete their profiles almost after a first date, as a sign of commitment, & men keep theirs online indefinitely
So the most likely reason for his profile deletion is that she has found out
The simple fact is that it is too easy to lie online so you have to assume that everyone & anyone may be lying. Not really a good way to start a relationship. And because so many lie us genuine people get tarred with the same brush.0 -
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icescreamqueen wrote: »Just when I thought everything was going well, I logged in to POF this morning and the guy I was meant to be meeting up with next weekend has deleted his account. I honestly give up. I honestly have been having the worst luck with dating since I've been single :'(. I wouldn't mind but I added him on facebook because I wouldn't put a photo of myself on POF and he knows a lot of people I know. Can anyone give me a logical explanation for this!!
Don't let it put you off there's been many a time I've been chatting to guys getting on well and their profile is deleted the next day I log on. You'll never know why really. Yes they could have met someone else on it or off it or may just be bored with it. Gaurantee he'll be back on it in a month though seen that alot!
Personally I never add anyone to my facebook as I don't like someone I've never met yet looking through all my photos and whatever info I have on it. I did before and like you the guy was from the same area as me. First thing he told me was he checked did we have any mutual friends. I think if we had, he didn't want them knowing he was on dating site. Maybe your guy was worried people would find out he's on it (yes there's still that stigma).0 -
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icescreamqueen wrote: »Maybe I am a bit slow when it comes to this kind of thing. Was a bit dubious about the online thing anyway so don't think it's for me. Some people just seem to be lucky in love, have a few friends who were in long term relationships, broke up and all of them within 6 months had new relationships on the go with great guys. Think I'll stick to my own company for the time being, dating is a game that I don't want to play.
I meant that as a joke. You can't let the false people ruin your chances of meeting someone nice. There are good & bad in real life as there are on the net. But when you meet someone face to face you have so much more information so I would never build up any real hopes until you meet.
Some people do play games whilst dating but not all people. The hard part is spotting the genuine ones from the "players". Rather than closing your eyes use the opportunity to open them to other possibilities. Maybe take a look at people that you might of otherwise not considered. Be open to all opportunities.0 -
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fallen01angel wrote: »Seriously considering joining an online dating site, and I'm just wondering which ones were better....or is there such a thing??Are the fee paying ones better than the free ones,if you're in you mid(ish:D) 30's should you stay away from POF,someone told me it's all "hook ups" on that site.....sorry for long winded post but need advice on how to do it right!!
I think that it is very hard to classify dating sites because people choose them for personal reasons. I can't see any point in paying because all the evidence seems to suggest that they have just as many time wasters or even addicts - I have seen people that have been paying for several years :eek:
Personally I would avoid sites that claim to be able to interpret your character on the basis of you answering their "personality test". The one that I did got me very wrong.
I would avoid Meetic - one of the many sites that bombards you with emails promising you that a gorgeous woman is desperate to meet you & all you have to do is give them lots of money :rolleyes:.
I would also avoid sites that don't tell you when a member was last online. Nothing worse than having the hots for someone & then finding that they haven't used the site for months. It is also useful to know when someone joined - if they have been on the site for years there might be a reason why.
As someone in my 40's I haven't found any particular site that is better for any specific age group. So in conclusion join a free site & see how you get on - good luck 0 -
icescreamqueen wrote: »Thanks so much for all your replies, I probably over reacted to it. His loss and all that. However, the online thing isn't my thing. Think I'll stick to meeting face to face
You say you added him on fb? You friends with him on it?
If you're friends with him on it I'd say you're still in there.0 -
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