The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

hollypink

panda100 wrote: »

Nah, wouldn't agree with this. Most women want to go out with someone who is 'nice'. If someone was challenging to start with then I wouldn't give him the time of day tbh. You can be nice and still be charismatic. I'd say just be yourself Captain Havoc

I agree with you, most women I know, including myself, do want someone who is nice, so nice guys, don't lose heart

panda100 wrote: »

I've actually had to get the garda involved with the last guy I met on okcupid!He's been stalking me at work, and followed me home and has turned up at my house numerous time,making a lot of noise late at night.We only went on one date, and I think he just built me up into something amazing. I know the same thing could have happened if I met someone in a pub, but has turned me off okcupid for a while!

:eek: Wow how awful for you, scary stuff.

Bad Panda

panda100 wrote: »

I've actually had to get the garda involved with the last guy I met on okcupid!He's been stalking me at work, and followed me home and has turned up at my house numerous time,making a lot of noise late at night.We only went on one date, and I think he just built me up into something amazing. I know the same thing could have happened if I met someone in a pub, but has turned me off okcupid for a while!

:eek:

Jesus! What the hell is it with guys that so many (I've heard stories) become such stalkers!?!

awec

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Bad Panda

awec wrote: »

Yikes! Hope you get sorted panda.



That's hardly a fair comment.

I've heard so many stories about guys from female friends that used online dating before and in general.

I know women can be stalkers too, but from what I've heard most of the stalking population seem to be men.

Larianne

panda100 wrote: »

Nah, wouldn't agree with this. Most women want to go out with someone who is 'nice'. If someone was challenging to start with then I wouldn't give him the time of day tbh. You can be nice and still be charismatic. I'd say just be yourself Captain Havoc

I've actually had to get the garda involved with the last guy I met on okcupid!He's been stalking me at work, and followed me home and has turned up at my house numerous time,making a lot of noise late at night.We only went on one date, and I think he just built me up into something amazing. I know the same thing could have happened if I met someone in a pub, but has turned me off okcupid for a while!

Oh wow! :eek: I dunno where you're located but if its in a small catchment area maybe ladies can mail you so they don't have any contact with him either.

I like the guy to be nice, and funny and get my humour etc etc. I don't take any shít so wouldn't be into any game playing (maybe that's why I'm still single! :cool: )

JimBob777

panda100 wrote: »

Nah, wouldn't agree with this. Most women want to go out with someone who is 'nice'. If someone was challenging to start with then I wouldn't give him the time of day tbh. You can be nice and still be charismatic. I'd say just be yourself Captain Havoc

I've actually had to get the garda involved with the last guy I met on okcupid!He's been stalking me at work, and followed me home and has turned up at my house numerous time,making a lot of noise late at night.We only went on one date, and I think he just built me up into something amazing. I know the same thing could have happened if I met someone in a pub, but has turned me off okcupid for a while!

haa, i didnt mean turn into a a**hole just to be a challenge, i meant that maybe some guys focus all their profile into being a nice guy they are and maybe a hint of mystery and charisma doesnt shine through, thus not provoking women to message them or respond, any truth in this?

JimBob777

cue everyone bitching about the singles night message or whatever it was!! haha. got me too

sallyr

puzzle factory wrote: »

Im going putting myself on the market there shortly,which one will i use,seen loads of ye using plenty of fish, what's the story with ok cupid and connecting singles,what would ye recommend me.

I would say plenty of fish.. First time i joined i hadnt even picture up only a bit about myself and i still got about 30 messages from different people in the first couple of days! Although i did seem to recognise alot of people from the same area as i am from, and they were messaging me! so if u are looking for something discreet it may not be the best option!

finipops

Well my date that happen last thursday went great, and the girl i went on a date with was really nice and beautiful and we still talk and text alot but i think i'll leave it at that....She has a kid that is only four months old and i'm looking for someone without any children. She's really lovely but i think i will leave it at that but will still remain friends i suppose.

JimBob777

finipops wrote: »

Well my date that happen last thursday went great, and the girl i went on a date with was really nice and beautiful and we still talk and text alot but i think i'll leave it at that....She has a kid that is only four months old and i'm looking for someone without any children. She's really lovely but i think i will leave it at that but will still remain friends i suppose.

why did you go on the date then? did you not know she had a kid beforehand?

DwightShrute

Is it not possible to send pics to someone in a message on OKC??

sallyr

DwightShrute wrote: »

Is it not possible to send pics to someone in a message on OKC??

Dont know anything about okc but u can on plenty of fish

VinLieger

JimBob777 wrote: »

cue everyone bitching about the singles night message or whatever it was!! haha. got me too

Yup thats the 2nd time that stupid bitch has got me with one of those

GrumPy

• Log onto pof
• See one new message
• Get excited
• Open message
• Admin invite to a singles night
• Foreveralone.jpg

That_Guy

GrumPy wrote: »

• Log onto pof
• See one new message
• Get excited
• Open message
• Admin invite to a singles night
• Foreveralone.jpg

It's like getting excited about getting a package through the post and when you open it up it's just full of old newspapers. :pac:

Lon Dubh

panda100 wrote: »

I've actually had to get the garda involved with the last guy I met on okcupid!He's been stalking me at work, and followed me home and has turned up at my house numerous time,making a lot of noise late at night.We only went on one date, and I think he just built me up into something amazing. I know the same thing could have happened if I met someone in a pub, but has turned me off okcupid for a while!

Oh god, that sounds scary.

VinLieger

One thing i have been holding off putting in messages recently is a bit of a cheesey line or two.
Looking for the opinions of the girls here does stuff like that catch your eye and maybe make you more inclined to reply? Or is it off putting?

stargazer 68

VinLieger wrote: »

One thing i have been holding off putting in messages recently is a bit of a cheesey line or two.
Looking for the opinions of the girls here does stuff like that catch your eye and maybe make you more inclined to reply? Or is it off putting?

Depends on what it is really!

Discodog

VinLieger wrote: »

a bit of a cheesey line or two.

ChannelNo5

Discodog wrote: »

Mmmm Cheestrings mmmmm:p

I ike a bit of a cheezy line for a laugh as long as it's a really obvious one and can't be misconstrued

panda100

Larianne wrote: »

Oh wow! :eek: I dunno where you're located but if its in a small catchment area maybe ladies can mail you so they don't have any contact with him either.

Well this particular guy is no longer on okcupid, so all you guys are safe from him at the moment. I am keeping my profile up for the moment, so I can keep an eye on his whereabouts!

JimBob777 wrote: »

haa, i didnt mean turn into a a**hole just to be a challenge, i meant that maybe some guys focus all their profile into being a nice guy they are and maybe a hint of mystery and charisma doesnt shine through, thus not provoking women to message them or respond, any truth in this?

Well of course you want someone to be interesting. I still think you can be nice, and have mystery and charisma. What is a turn off is when someone lacks any type of assertiveness and agrees with everything you say and has no personality of their own. I think sometimes men,and women, can fall into this trap, and are so eager to please and be nice that they agree with everything the other person is saying.

Larianne

Okay, same question (every week! )

Who's dating it up this weekend??

Ooh Silvercvixen is dating it up tonight I think.

stargazer 68

Larianne wrote: »

Okay, same question (every week! )

Who's dating it up this weekend??

Ooh Silvercvixen is dating it up tonight I think.

Not me - nothing new there! Dont have any time this weekend even if I had a sniff of a date though!

Ankhyu

Larianne wrote: »

Okay, same question (every week! )

Who's dating it up this weekend??

Ooh Silvercvixen is dating it up tonight I think.

Have one for tomorrow Coffee in Limerick. While I'm at it, anybody know of any nice cafes in Limerick for a first date? If you could call it that

Vanbis

Dovies wrote: »

Not me - nothing new there! Dont have any time this weekend even if I had a sniff of a date though!

I lol..

Galvasean

Dates this weekend, are you mad?
Paddy's weekend is a time for drunken debauchery with as many women as possible!

Is he joking?

JimBob777

Galvasean wrote: »

Dates this weekend, are you mad?
Paddy's weekend is a time for drunken debauchery with as many women as possible!

Is he joking?

answer is no but good job in makin it seem like your joking ha

Panthro

So I sent a message to a girl on POF, it said "sent" yet the message isn't in my "sent messages"
Glitch in the system or am I missing something here?

Galvasean

JimBob777 wrote: »

answer is no but good job in makin it seem like your joking ha

Yes and no. As many as possible = none

Pembily

Dovies wrote: »

Larianne wrote: »

Okay, same question (every week! )

Who's dating it up this weekend??

Ooh Silvercvixen is dating it up tonight I think.

Not me - nothing new there! Dont have any time this weekend even if I had a sniff of a date though!

I agree totally