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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #662
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Larianne wrote: »
    For anyone who uses POF, do you read the little 'advice' piece when you log out?

    Log off??? :confused:

    I haven't clicked log off on anything in years. :pac:
    Larianne wrote: »
    I read one last night (i dunno if they change every so often) and it said how you should go on at least 6 dates with the one guy before making your mind up. :eek:

    I get what they were saying as regards to not making your mind up straight away about someone but I think 6 dates is a waste of time. I've gone on 3-4 dates with guys who I didn't feel any spark with as my friends told me I was too dismissive about. So I said right I'll give this way a go.. Went nowhere and ended up not being nice where I had to say "thanks, but no thanks" to guys who thought it was going somewhere. :o Or is this the whole point of dating? Maybe I'm not doing it right.

    Hmmm, suppose it all depends on how long the amount of time would be between dates. If it's a once a week thing, 6 dates, that's a month and a half and is more then enough time to have made up your mind long before then. If it was 6 dates within 2 / 3 weeks that would also give the impression that there's an eagerness about it more so then getting a gist of things.

    I'd of thought people would know something of interest was going on after about 2 / 3 dates.


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    #663
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Pembily wrote: »
    Eh no, you do know after a few dates, after 6 someone has feelings and will get hurt... Not the point of dating IMO!
    Dravokivich wrote: »

    I'd of thought people would know something of interest was going on after about 2 / 3 dates.

    Yeah that's what I thought. The advice is a load of crap! :cool:

    See what you're missing out on Drav when you don't log out!


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    #664
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 53,829 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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    #665
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Larianne wrote: »
    Yeah that's what I thought. The advice is a load of crap! :cool:

    See what you're missing out on Drav when you don't log out!

    I just want to bump myself up on the results pages when people search by "Online Recently" ;)


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    #666
    Maguined
    Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    Dravokivich wrote: »
    I just want to bump myself up on the results pages when people search by "Online Recently" ;)

    It works, I helped my room mate setup her profile the other night and every single page she went to had your sexy mug floating in the potential matches section.

    I even put in a good word about your magic hips. ;)


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    #667
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Maguined wrote: »
    It works, I helped my room mate setup her profile the other night and every single page she went to had your sexy mug floating in the potential matches section.

    I even put in a good word about your magic hips. ;)

    Haha, cool man.


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    #668
    silvervixen84
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 6,485 Mod ✭✭✭✭silvervixen84


    Do some people have standard generic messages they have ready to send to profiles they're interested in?

    I'd just be a bit suspicious about getting a lengthy message from someone about what themselves and their interests, with no reference to anything I've mentioned in my profile.


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    #669
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    silvervixen84 wrote: »
    Do some people have standard generic messages they have ready to send to profiles they're interested in?

    I'd just be a bit suspicious about getting a lengthy message from someone about what themselves and their interests, with no reference to anything I've mentioned in my profile.

    Ah you got a copy and paster! Only ever replied to one of those. Well two actually. One was very funny so I said I'd give him a go. The other, I just let him know he'd been rumbled as a copy and paster! :D


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    #670
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    I generally message about what's in their profile and try to associate with anything I find interesting.

    If I'm going to write a big speil about myself, it'll be in my profile.


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    #671
    silvervixen84
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 6,485 Mod ✭✭✭✭silvervixen84


    I have received a funny message from someone already but want to wait until I'm at home to check his profile.

    /paranoid

    Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?


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    #672
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    silvervixen84 wrote: »
    Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?


    Ah, this question has been debated a lot on this thread. Ultimately it's up to yourself. Some people would like a "Thanks but no thanks" reply to their mails they send out, others perfer not to.


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    #673
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,117 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    silvervixen84 wrote: »
    Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?

    Ooh I love noobies!! Fresh meat lol
    Opinions vary on this. Be polite and say thanks but we arent a match or ignore - up to you really. The polite version is obviously the nicer way to go but it can lead to 'why?' - 'Stuck up b**ch' etc etc so be prepared!


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    #674
    andreac
    Registered Users Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    silvervixen84 wrote: »
    I have received a funny message from someone already but want to wait until I'm at home to check his profile.

    /paranoid

    Another noob question - do you reply to all your messages or only ones you're interested in?

    It depends, if they seem genuine and made an effort to mail you a decent message then yes i would always reply even if im not interested.

    But if its just "Hi" or "How r u?" then no, i dont reply.


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    #675
    JohnMearsheimer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,302 ✭✭✭JohnMearsheimer


    I'd be the same, if someone read my profile and actually took a bit of time to mail me I would reply. One liners or hi or anything like that I wouldn't take the time to reply to. If they didn't make any effort then why should you?

    On another note, have any men here got messages from female perverts? It's seems a lot of the women in this forum have from men.


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    #676
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Larianne wrote: »
    For anyone who uses POF, do you read the little 'advice' piece when you log out? I read one last night (i dunno if they change every so often) and it said how you should go on at least 6 dates with the one guy before making your mind up. :eek:

    As a guy some of the tips they give you seem off. One says 'try to make contact with her every day;. Sounds clingy to me.
    Then they have a list of things to mail about and not to mail about. On the 'not' list one of the mail things was sci-fi. I think thats based on old stereotypes considering mos girls I've back n' forth mailed seemed quite interested to talk about sc-fi. Much better than feigning interest in clothes and makeup which most girls wont want to talk to some lad about IMO.


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    awec
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    #678
    newbee22
    Registered Users Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    A girl just mailed me....wants to fulfill my fantasies, pity I don't want another women to do that! :p


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    #679
    JohnMearsheimer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,302 ✭✭✭JohnMearsheimer


    newbee22 wrote: »
    A girl just mailed me....wants to fulfill my fantasies, pity I don't want another women to do that! :p

    A lot of confident people on POF!


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    #680
    panda100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,551 ✭✭✭panda100


    Galvasean wrote: »
    As a guy some of the tips they give you seem off. One says 'try to make contact with her every day;. Sounds clingy to me.
    Then they have a list of things to mail about and not to mail about. On the 'not' list one of the mail things was sci-fi. I think thats based on old stereotypes considering mos girls I've back n' forth mailed seemed quite interested to talk about sc-fi. Much better than feigning interest in clothes and makeup which most girls wont want to talk to some lad about IMO.

    I think all those dating 'tips' are a bit stupid. They always tell you not to mention religion or politics on a first date,which is ridiculous. Your political or religious persuasion can be a big part of who you are and what makes you tick. I couldn't date anyone very religious or right wing, so best to just find out on the first date.
    I think best thing to do is be true to yourself.If your into sci-fi then be out and proud about it.Certainly wouldn't put me off anyway!


    Just got this message on okcupid:
    Hi Miss
    Hows you today
    I'm looking to be made a cuckold
    Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
    I hope this pleases you Miss xx

    Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???


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    #681
    babyfratelli_x
    Registered Users Posts: 209 ✭✭babyfratelli_x


    How often do guys get messages from girls?
    And more to the point ones from girls who arent crazy?

    Just wondering would you generally be used to being the one sending the mails?Or would a girl mailing you 1st be common enough?

    I am such a newbie to this craic! :)


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    #682
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    babyfratelli_x wrote: »
    How often do guys get messages from girls?
    And more to the point ones from girls who arent crazy?

    Just wondering would you generally be used to being the one sending the mails?Or would a girl mailing you 1st be common enough?

    I am such a newbie to this craic! :)

    Nope for me a girl messaging first never happens, only happened about 3 times ever.

    Even if I didn't like the girl I'd be flattered to get a message first I'd reply back. I think alot of girls don't message first in case they don't get a reply. I think most fellas would reply either way.

    Also a cuckhold is when you watch your partner with someone else. I read that.....somewhere. :pac:


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    #683
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    I've messaged a few boys and got no reply *sniff* :(
    ah well....I'll let the boys come find me.....eh, I hope :D


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    #684
    newbee22
    Registered Users Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    I've seen a few guys I want to write to but I'm just too nervous! Actually had written a message to one, but clicked out of POF, guess it's just the fear of not getting a reply. I will be brave one day:o


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    #685
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    newbee22 wrote: »
    I've seen a few guys I want to write to but I'm just too nervous! Actually had written a message to one, but clicked out of POF, guess it's just the fear of not getting a reply. I will be brave one day:o
    Just message, it won't kill you! Give it a shot, it's fun :)


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    #686
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    panda100 wrote: »
    I think all those dating 'tips' are a bit stupid. They always tell you not to mention religion or politics on a first date,which is ridiculous. Your political or religious persuasion can be a big part of who you are and what makes you tick. I couldn't date anyone very religious or right wing, so best to just find out on the first date.
    I think best thing to do is be true to yourself.If your into sci-fi then be out and proud about it.Certainly wouldn't put me off anyway!


    Just got this message on okcupid:
    Hi Miss
    Hows you today
    I'm looking to be made a cuckold
    Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
    I hope this pleases you Miss xx

    Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

    A cuckold is basically someone that is married being "serviced" by a third party while the other person watches in secret.

    He sounds like a keeper tbh.

    :pac:
    babyfratelli_x wrote: »
    How often do guys get messages from girls?
    And more to the point ones from girls who arent crazy?

    Just wondering would you generally be used to being the one sending the mails?Or would a girl mailing you 1st be common enough?

    I am such a newbie to this craic! :)

    I get as many first mails as first mails I send.The problem is that the over whelming majority of them consist of "hi,how are you" or "how was your weekend"

    Im at the stage that I just delete the messages when I get em like that.


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    #687
    Owen
    Registered Users Posts: 12,683 ✭✭✭✭Owen


    They're advertising now on TV, like eHarmony and the rest. Expect an influx of noobs :pac:


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    #688
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    panda100 wrote: »
    Just got this message on okcupid:
    Hi Miss
    Hows you today
    I'm looking to be made a cuckold
    Id do your housework,pamper you and cook for you
    I hope this pleases you Miss xx

    Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

    What he's described isn't a cuckold. It's a kind of swinger thing.


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    #689
    finipops
    Closed Accounts Posts: 201 ✭✭finipops


    Owen wrote: »
    They're advertising now on TV, like eHarmony and the rest. Expect an influx of noobs :pac:
    We needs moarrr fish!
    newbee22 wrote: »
    I've seen a few guys I want to write to but I'm just too nervous! Actually had written a message to one, but clicked out of POF, guess it's just the fear of not getting a reply. I will be brave one day
    Just mail them!! :D


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    #690
    Wester
    Registered Users Posts: 118 ✭✭Wester


    I find that when I use POF, I message girls and barely receive any responses but on OK Cupid, I get the messages first and I barely use the site, sometimes going for weeks without realising I still have a profile on it. Go figure!!


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    #691
    parker kent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,289 ✭✭✭parker kent


    panda100 wrote: »
    Whats a cuckold?Never heared that before.I do like the sound of the free cleaning and cooking for life though!Seriously, do women actually respond to these type of messages???

    Cuckold is an old term that comes from Middle English for a man with an unfaithful wife. It was never meant as a complimentary term.

    So I think he needs to brush up on his medieval literature. Tell him to read some Chaucer :pac:


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