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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #7532
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    That_Guy wrote: »
    That's why you have to prepare back up questions.

    "What's your favourite humming noise?"

    I had back up questions! But it was all monotonous, one word answers. Through text, he was fine. Chatty, friendly, funny.

    Oh well, another one bites the dust!


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    #7533
    missbelle
    Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    I had back up questions! But it was all monotonous, one word answers. Through text, he was fine. Chatty, friendly, funny.

    Oh well, another one bites the dust!
    Ah, but who was actually writing the texts? help from friends? :D


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    #7534
    cade
    Registered Users Posts: 378 ✭✭cade


    missbelle wrote: »
    Ah, but who was actually writing the texts? help from friends? :D

    his Mom ;)

    No update on my ventures unfortunately.


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    #7535
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Sent a mail today. I feel vindicated in a "I did something constructive today" kind of way.


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    #7536
    LoTwan
    Registered Users Posts: 608 ✭✭✭LoTwan


    missbelle wrote: »
    Had a nice 1st date with a guy last night... he's not my usual type, but we seemed to get on pretty well. See what happens anyway :D
    That_Guy wrote: »
    That's why you have to prepare back up questions.

    "What's your favourite humming noise?"

    TG... That's a good one. I had the fish & the alien one :)

    I was worried that it was his best mate doing the texting and that I'd have an easier conversation with dishwater ;)

    PaleoGuy... Good for you being proactive today :)


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    #7537
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    LoTwan wrote: »
    TG... That's a good one. I had the fish & the alien one :)

    I lied. I don't have back up questions. I just talk utter bollocks and hope she doesn't get bored by it. :pac:


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    #7538
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    I really am not sure what I am doing wrong... Online dating confuses me more than real life dating :pac:


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    #7539
    SEEMagazine
    Registered Users Posts: 82 ✭✭SEEMagazine


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    Had a breakfast date, as the dude was working from 12. SO not my type. I'm not talking looks wise either. Lasted a little over 2 hours and was excruciating. Poor guy was either really aloof and cold or crippingly shy. I'm really shy but made some effort. All one word answers from him, no questions asked in return, and he looked like he hadn't shaved in 2 days.

    Got a text from him after we parted ways 'was lovely meeting you, I'd love to do it again. Was going to kiss you but didn't know how you'd react.'

    That text probably contained more words than he said through the whole 2 hour date.


    ahahaha, so much fun.

    Bleh! Replied, but then I realised I'd replied as a guest (not on my usual computer).

    Ok. Same as my first, hidden, reply (which the mods can delete) - this sounds like he was terrified. If a man had a date with a quiet girl, and she wasn't obviously looking to get out of there, we'd put it down to nerves.

    This guy could well be under huge amounts of stress - which can result in silent brooding. If this silence is the only reason you weren't happy with the date then you surely owe it to yourself to find out what he's really like? Clearly he found you attractive...


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    #7540
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Pembily wrote: »
    I really am not sure what I am doing wrong... Online dating confuses me more than real life dating :pac:

    Problem solved!!!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IBRL7D0wcXM


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    #7541
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Problem solved!!!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IBRL7D0wcXM

    Well that's my problem, I was looking for guys!

    ***trots off to rejig profile to find women :pac:


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    #7542
    Northclare
    Closed Accounts Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Northclare


    I'll be totally honest here.
    Online dating is like learning a trade.
    When I first started online dating I was a typical man,like a kid in a sweet shop.
    I never read the label, I went for what looked nice.

    So I have had a few flings over the last few year's but I'm starting to know what kind of woman suits me.

    But now I read the profiles and am totally honest on what in into and looking for.
    I don't bull**** or or manipulate I just say it as it is.

    Women prefer honesty and from what I hear the normal down to earth women are having more fun and dates than the stunners.

    Oh I don't know LOL


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    #7543
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    SEEMagazine wrote: »
    Bleh! Replied, but then I realised I'd replied as a guest (not on my usual computer).

    Ok. Same as my first, hidden, reply (which the mods can delete) - this sounds like he was terrified. If a man had a date with a quiet girl, and she wasn't obviously looking to get out of there, we'd put it down to nerves.

    This guy could well be under huge amounts of stress - which can result in silent brooding. If this silence is the only reason you weren't happy with the date then you surely owe it to yourself to find out what he's really like? Clearly he found you attractive...

    Yeah, he finds me attractive from the 'I wanted to kiss you' text I received afterwards, but at the end of the day, I'm not going to work that hard to get to know someone after one date. I mean, if he'd told me he was shy or something, I'd have understood it, but it was like pulling teeth! And he told me previously when I warned him that I was shy, that he was outgoing! That is not outgoing!


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    #7544
    Ankhyu
    Registered Users Posts: 5,313 ✭✭✭Ankhyu


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    I know! Usually I'M the shy one! But oh my god. 'What sort of work do you do in your company, do you like it?' 'Yeah. It's fine.' Big silence.

    Eek!

    Father Stone anyone? That sounds painful. I'm shy myself at times but I still manage to keep a conversation going by asking questions. If I had a date with someone like that though I don't know what I'd do :/


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    #7545
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Hmm.

    Someone I had feelings for, for quite a while, who I met online about 5 years ago (we've never dated but have hung out lots) has just admitted he has feelings for me again (we fell out a few months back over me doing something stupid).

    So I guess it might soon be an end to POF for me depending on how this goes! :D


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    #7546
    newbee22
    Registered Users Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    Hmm.

    Someone I had feelings for, for quite a while, who I met online about 5 years ago (we've never dated but have hung out lots) has just admitted he has feelings for me again (we fell out a few months back over me doing something stupid).

    So I guess it might soon be an end to POF for me depending on how this goes! :D

    :):):) Delighted for you!


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    #7547
    crapmanjoe
    Registered Users Posts: 472 ✭✭crapmanjoe


    All,

    Wondering can any of the girls (ladies) out there rate (any offer tips on) my into message format. This is the standard template I use but obviously customize it dependant on the person - their interests etc.

    Not getting much responses so am wondering is it something Im doing wrong :confused::confused:

    Hi there

    Not sure what I'm suppose to say here but I opened up your profile and you definitely seemed interesting and a lot of fun, so said I'd say hello.

    (insert customized paragraph focused on the girls interest, likes etc)

    Definitely think we could have plenty of things in common, so feel free to write back, I love it when I get mail :)

    --- (my name)


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    #7548
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    crapmanjoe wrote: »
    All,

    Wondering can any of the girls (ladies) out there rate (any offer tips on) my into message format. This is the standard template I use but obviously customize it dependant on the person - their interests etc.

    Not getting much responses so am wondering is it something Im doing wrong :confused::confused:

    Hi there

    Not sure what I'm suppose to say here but I opened up your profile and you definitely seemed interesting and a lot of fun, so said I'd say hello.

    (insert customized paragraph focused on the girls interest, likes etc)

    DefinitelyI think we could have plenty of things in common, so feel free to write back I love it when I get mail :)

    --- (my name)

    Starting the email on a negative is not good, also saying you don't know what to say means you are unsure and not confident. My suggestions above.


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    #7549
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    had a date to day lasted around 45 minutes nice, girl...
    Went well, two things have come to pass recently Im kinda happy single...
    How ever going on dates and meet new people is fun and something i should be doing.. Im not playing any body but Im not in a hurry either...

    So thumbs up today.. Id rather not talk about something unless it happens I had a few other dates too ov er the past few weeks they were all ok.. One or too I could see developing into something platonic maybe :)


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    #7550
    Busy Lizzie
    Registered Users Posts: 40 ✭Busy Lizzie


    Pembily wrote: »
    crapmanjoe wrote: »
    All,

    Wondering can any of the girls (ladies) out there rate (any offer tips on) my into message format. This is the standard template I use but obviously customize it dependant on the person - their interests etc.

    Not getting much responses so am wondering is it something Im doing wrong :confused::confused:

    Hi there

    Not sure what I'm suppose to say here but I opened up your profile and you definitely seemed interesting and a lot of fun, so said I'd say hello.

    (insert customized paragraph focused on the girls interest, likes etc)

    DefinitelyI think we could have plenty of things in common, so feel free to write back I love it when I get mail :)

    --- (my name)

    Starting the email on a negative is not good, also saying you don't know what to say means you are unsure and not confident. My suggestions above.

    I'd agree with Pembily. :) I'd reply to that message of I got it!
    No one should put anything negative in their profiles. It's kinda off putting.


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    #7551
    newbee22
    Registered Users Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    Totally agree with negatives in profiles being off putting, you're meant to be hightlighting your good points in them! :rolleyes:


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    #7552
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    newbee22 wrote: »
    Totally agree with negatives in profiles being off putting, you're meant to be hightlighting your good points in them! :rolleyes:

    but i think people say took much try over kill there profile I think leaving hints and the way you work your profile up is important to :)


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    #7553
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Snowie wrote: »
    had a date to day lasted around 45 minutes nice, girl...
    Went well, two things have come to pass recently Im kinda happy single...
    How ever going on dates and meet new people is fun and something i should be doing.. Im not playing any body but Im not in a hurry either...

    So thumbs up today.. Id rather not talk about something unless it happens I had a few other dates too ov er the past few weeks they were all ok.. One or too I could see developing into something platonic maybe :)

    Why did it only last 45 mins? I think I would take that as a sign it went very badly.


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    #7554
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    mood wrote: »
    Why did it only last 45 mins? I think I would take that as a sign it went very badly.



    OOoooo a cynic? are your going to make us all feel awful? :p


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    #7555
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Snowie wrote: »
    OOoooo a cynic? are your going to make us all feel awful? :)

    I would honestly feel 45 mins meant it went badly (unless there was a good reason why). I've had internet dates that lasted 6 hours! But I go for a drink rather than the coffee option.


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    #7556
    managerman
    Registered Users Posts: 249 ✭✭managerman


    any mid week dates ?


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    #7557
    KamiKazeKitten
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,399 ✭✭✭KamiKazeKitten


    mood wrote: »
    I would honestly feel 45 mins meant it went badly (unless there was a good reason why). I've had internet dates that lasted 6 hours! But I go for a drink rather than the coffee option.

    45 minutes is ok for a first meetup I think, quick chat to make sure they ain't a crazy is always nice. :)


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    #7558
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    KamiKazeKitten wrote: »
    45 minutes is ok for a first meetup I think, quick chat to make sure they ain't a crazy is always nice. :)

    I know what you mean but personally prefer to go for drink. That way if you are getting on you can spend longer chatting and getting to know each other.


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    #7559
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    mood wrote: »
    I would honestly feel 45 mins meant it went badly (unless there was a good reason why). I've had internet dates that lasted 6 hours! But I go for a drink rather than the coffee option.

    I know it went well i text her and she said it was shame it could be longer so i dint reply I rang her and explained she was cool and she was very coy and said shed have to think about it but her tone was complete sarcasm...:) she said she call during the week.. sound..

    I don't spend hours sitting with some one I'v never meet before idrather spend 45 minutes see if we can communicate and go from there, and I never put all my eggs in one basket.. they came into my life quickly if they leave o well :)


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    #7560
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    KamiKazeKitten wrote: »
    45 minutes is ok for a first meetup I think, quick chat to make sure they ain't a crazy is always nice. :)


    thank you thats exactly it and if you get on go from there way more relaxed :)


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    #7561
    Snowie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,048 ✭✭✭✭Snowie


    mood wrote: »
    I know what you mean but personally prefer to go for drink. That way if you are getting on you can spend longer chatting and getting to know each other.

    Thats the issue I've gone one countless amounts of dates that have been 3 hours... They never went any were since i started being really strict on time for a first date Ive found I've gotten 2nd and 3rd dates and they've been more interesting as well..

    having said that if i feel a connection with the person and it feels good its a completely different story... :)But that don't happen all that often...


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