Did you get hit by your parents?

Chuck Stone

I did.

I think it was unnecessary adult-on-child violence.

Hitting children is stupid.

What say y'all?

Teyla Emmagan

Not 'hit', but slapped on the leg the odd time. Never when I didn't deserve it though, they weren't doing it for kicks.

MagicSean

Only when I deserved it. The threat of the wooden spoon was usually enough. Didn't do me any harm.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

i had many a wooden spoon hit on my arse

didn't do me any harm, although it also didn't stop me from doing whatever it was that caused me to have wooden spoons slapped off my arse

krudler

once that I remember vividly, probably got a couple of slaps growing up but mostly no. there's other options instead of belting kids. as an absolute last resort for someone throwing a temper tantrum or being as bold as brass then yeah a slap never did anyone any harm, but constant smacking for little things is just stupid.

Dudess

Got a light slap on the bum or hand if being a pain in the tits. Last resort, not fun for the parent.

the monk5845

I did
with a wooden spoon on the ass, only when i deserved it and it never did me any harm

AnonoBoy

Once. With a Ford Mondeo.

AlmightyCushion

Better to be slapped as a child then be put on the naughty stool and have pussied assed hippies for parents.

Chuck Stone

Hitting children is fucking stupid.

Sky King

I dunno man, you know when you see a kid having a complete spa attack in the supermarket because it wants a golly bar or whatever - do you think if that kid got a punch in the face every time it did that, it would continue to behave in this way?

For more helpful parenting tips, PM me.

AnonoBoy

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Hitting children is fucking stupid.

Yes but they are a greater challenge as they're small and therefore much harder targets to hit from a distance.

MagicSean

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Hitting children is fucking stupid.

It depends on the child. Some don't respond to the "naughty step" approach and a slap does them good.

Micko23

Yes, when my siblings and I deserved it. Wooden spoon threats and slaps on the leg.

My neighbours try the naughty step and discussing behaviour with there little kids...either theyre really bad at at it or it just doesn't work- their kids are wild!

Chuck Stone

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Not 'hit', but slapped on the leg the odd time. Never when I didn't deserve it though, they weren't doing it for kicks.

MagicSean wrote: »

Only when I deserved it. The threat of the wooden spoon was usually enough. Didn't do me any harm.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar wrote: »

i had many a wooden spoon hit on my arse

didn't do me any harm, although it also didn't stop me from doing whatever it was that caused me to have wooden spoons slapped off my arse

Dudess wrote: »

Got a light slap on the bum or hand if being a pain in the tits. Last resort, not fun for the parent.

Don't try to explain it away lads. Your parents, like mine, lacked intelligence when it came to disciplining children.

Say it and say it loud - my parents assaulted me as a child and I'm proud.

Jay D

Yes I did, lazy parenting. I am saying now I won't ever and I hope I never hit my children if I have any, cause it's done me no good whatsoever. It never changed the way I thought about things, it didn't make me not do something again, in fact it was just the responsible one's way of dealing with their own rage.

Mr.Crinklewood

AnonoBoy wrote: »

Once. With a Ford Mondeo.

Son, will you come home and clear leaves from the drive?

seantorious

Of course it was, however it annoys me that now my parents say "it never did them any harm". I always reply with "Is that why you sit up at night wondering where it all went wrong". Freaks them out.

John Doe1

Nah both decided that because their parents used to beat them, they wouldnt hit us. There was the occasional stabbing though:(

Sky King

A lick of the hickory stick, that's what's needed.

I wasn't hit. I dunno why. If I had a kid like me I'd murder the little fuc|<er.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Don't try to explain it away lads. Your parents, like mine, lacked intelligence when it came to disciplining children.

Say it and say it loud - my parents assaulted me as a child and I'm proud.

my parents also bathed me when i was a baby, should I report them for sexual abuse?

MagicSean

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Don't try to explain it away lads. Your parents, like mine, lacked intelligence when it came to disciplining children.

Say it and say it loud - my parents assaulted me as a child and I'm proud.

My parents did a fine job disciplining me.

Teyla Emmagan

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Don't try to explain it away lads. Your parents, like mine, lacked intelligence when it came to disciplining children.

Say it and say it loud - my parents assaulted me as a child and I'm proud.

Ah no, it only happened when they were especially frustrated because I was being particularly troublesome.

They're great parents.

woodoo

Yeah slapped loads of times , wooden spoon too, nipped if i was playing up in a place i shouldn't be.

Chuck Stone

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar wrote: »

my parents also bathed me when i was a baby, should I report them for sexual abuse?

No.

And stop trying to divert attention from the fact that your parents physically assaulted you as a way of making you do what they wanted.

Hitting children is stupid.

Reamer Fanny

Chuck Stone wrote: »

I did.

I think it was unnecessary adult-on-child violence.

Hitting children is stupid.

What say y'all?

I got a swift and hard smack on the back once from my Dad for being a little shít nothing like it put me right straight.

WoollyRedHat

I got hit with a wooden spoon too.... a fairly Irish phenomenon...

Some people say they was for cookin' and bakin' , but I say, they was for hitting children who was disobedient or too smart for our own good... tools of the devil.

pragmatic1

I got battered by my auld ones. Belts and all. I'd like to see them try it now though. Muhahaha.

Sky King

You've issues Chuck.

Did you get a light smack that hurt for 30 seconds or were you psychologically and physically tortured for days?

MagicSean

Chuck Stone wrote: »

No.

And stop trying to divert attention from the fact that your parents physically assaulted you as a way of making you do what they wanted.

Hitting children is stupid.

What method do you use?

Teyla Emmagan

Chuck Stone wrote: »

No.

And stop trying to divert attention from the fact that your parents physically assaulted you as a way of making you do what they wanted.

Hitting children is stupid.

Just talk to us Chuck, tell us what's wrong.

Chuck Stone

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Ah no, it only happened when they were especially frustrated because I was being particularly troublesome.

They're great parents.

My parents are fucking awesome. Hard working grafters. I can only hope that I'm as good a man as they were parents.

They hit me though.

Which was fucking stupid.

ThePower11

Got the odd belt for being a little prick but nothing like this... Sick Bastard!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDPy9aik_g8

MagicSean

Chuck Stone wrote: »

My parents are fucking awesome. Hard working grafters. I can only hope that I'm as good a man as they were parents.

They hit me though.

Which was fucking stupid.

So how do you discipline your children?

Chuck Stone

MagicSean wrote: »

What method do you use?

This isn't about me. I don't say personal shit on this public forum anyway.

MagicSean

Chuck Stone wrote: »

This isn't about me. I don't say personal shit on this public forum anyway.

You mean you don't have children and have no experience with raising them. That figures.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

MagicSean wrote: »

So how do you discipline your children?

I beat the livign crap out of them. Only the other day, the eldest came in after getting in a fight, so I slapped him. That'll teach him that hitting people is wrong.

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3hn2givr7mx1sc

Few slaps across the leg/arse. Didn't do the slightest bit of harm to me.

dahamsta

Chuck Stone wrote: »

This isn't about me. I don't say personal shit on this public forum anyway.

It is, and you did.

Chuck Stone

Sky King wrote: »

You've issues Chuck.

Did you get a light smack that hurt for 30 seconds or were you psychologically and physically tortured for days?

I wasn't particularly beaten for being a child and yes I do have issues like every honest person does but assaulting children to make them do what you want is fucking stupid.

That's my view and until someone gives me a good reason that assaulting children has any benefit I will not change my stance.

vtec_vixen

To be honest yes, If I was ill behaved or threw tantrums I was smacked,
Yes it hurt. It was meant to! It's called learning Wrong from Right.

There'd be tears for a little while but after a few mins you'd be back out playing with your friends
I do think my father was a little over zealous with the wooden spoon at times.

It did me no harm. I grew up reasonably respectful and Never got into any major trouble.

I dont have any kids at present.. I think Id consider all other avenues to try to re-inforce good behaviour over physical punishment

Last resort kind of thing.
thats just my 2c

Amalgam

Open hand, fist, pots, pans, anything on the mantlepiece..

Verbal, one classic being, "I'll cut the legs from under you.."

Myself? I see it as totally counterproductive. Not just physical pummelling, but people swearing blind at very young children, I don't understand a parent that would do that..

moco

Chuck Stone wrote: »

No.

And stop trying to divert attention from the fact that your parents physically assaulted you as a way of making you do what they wanted.

Hitting children is stupid.

I agree. I got slapped and I really don't see the point in hitting children. If as a parent you can't outsmart a 6 yr old, or have the patience to discipline them in other ways without resorting to physically assaulting them then there's something wrong.

It's a quick fix, and lazy parenting. I'd have had more respect for my parents if they hadn't slapped us. My mother agrees that if she could do things again she would never have slapped us. She was a child minder, so obviously couldn't slap the children she minded, and they were no less well behaved without the threat of physical punishment. She just had to have more patience with them and now wishes she'd been the same with us when we were kids

Giselle

My parents never hit, slapped, tapped or otherwise physically disciplined me as a child, no matter how I acted up they found another way to make me behave.

Strangely enough, not being hit never did me any harm.

It wasn't me!

Worked on me. I got a smack when I deserved it. Wakes some smartarse little brats right the fook up. It can work, therefore it can be an appropriate tool of parenting. Made me smarter, certainly. I always moderated my behaviour, making a judgement call. Following an evaluation, I either decided not to do whatever got me smacked again, or I made the judgement that it was worth it and changed my behaviour to reflect my new desire to not get caught again.

dahamsta

You were obviously assaulted as a child Chuck Stone, rather than disciplined, and that's terrible, but projecting your own experiences onto other people isn't going to make it better. If it still makes you that angry, you should talk to someone about it -- confront your parents and/or talk to a professional.

(I don't hit my kids. But I got a few smacks when I was a child when I was acting the langer and I don't resent it. It was how things were done then.)

saintsaltynuts

I'd a great childhood my Da used to throw me up in the air..and walk away.

moco

Just because chuck disagrees with physically assaulting children doesn't mean he was badly beaten as a child. I only remember the odd slap, nothing serious at all, but I'm still completely against it.

Taco Corp

Got a bamboo cane across the back of my legs once. Fcuking hurt. I turned out ok in the end.

Teyla Emmagan

Chuck Stone wrote: »

My parents are fucking awesome. Hard working grafters. I can only hope that I'm as good a man as they were parents.

They hit me though.

Which was fucking stupid.

They were doing their best by the sound of it. Presuming that by 'hit' you don't mean 'battered' you (and if you do, that's a whole different story and something that could never be justified). Things have changed a lot in the last few years, physically chastising your kids used to be normal, now nobody does it. I'm sure your folks would take it back the slaps if they could.

G.muny

Yeah I would get slapped in the face by my Mam sometimes for silly things and it had an effect on me. In fairness she was going through some tough times at the times but If I ever have kids I will NEVER do it them. Might be a bit controversial but when I got to about 12 and she done it I hit her back and told her if she ever done it again to expect it back. She never did it after that.