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LETS ALL LAUGH AT PEOPLE WITH DEPRESSION!!
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TheBellJar wrote: »70-80 p/h is pretty standard tbh, especially if you go about it properly and see a proper counselling psychologist as opposed to some eejit who decides to call themselves a counsellor after a 6month course.
Even if it's standard it's still a shocking amount of money to have to pay for something that may be needed to save someone's life.
Debt can exacerbate depression - how is someone in debt supposed to cope with paying that much?
I'm really gonna miss the NHS when I get back home.0 -
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Feel horrible today, its court case for my kids dad to get a protection order I cant believe thats it for us as a family.
I dont know what to do im 29 with 3 kids lm so afraid of being by myself. I feel so low today I feel like im in a daze I cant concentrate. 0 -
Feel horrible today, its court case for my kids dad to get a protection order I cant believe thats it for us as a family.
I dont know what to do im 29 with 3 kids lm so afraid of being by myself. I feel so low today I feel like im in a daze I cant concentrate.
Please take it easy. Take one step at a time. Today will be very difficult, however it will bring closure to the issues gone before and allow everyone a new start.
We all need to review and redirect our efforts at various stages in our lives.
Chin up Hollster, we will be thinking about you today. Remember you are not alone, we are always here for you on this thread:)0 -
delthedriver wrote: »Please take it easy. Take one step at a time. Today will be very difficult, however it will bring closure to the issues gone before and allow everyone a new start.
We all need to review and redirect our efforts at various stages in our lives.
Chin up Hollster, we will be thinking about you today. Remember you are not alone, we are always here for you on this thread:)
Thank you so much god that made me cry
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Thank you so much god that made me cry chin up x
You are very welcome .
It is good to cry, it is like releasing the pressure valve inside us. Be strong .
In a few hours al the technical stuff will be dealt with and you will be able to think more clearly.
Today you are starting to rebuild the rest of your life:)
There is nothing to be afraid of. Try some deep breathing to help you relax.:)0 -
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Feel horrible today, its court case for my kids dad to get a protection order I cant believe thats it for us as a family.
I dont know what to do im 29 with 3 kids lm so afraid of being by myself. I feel so low today I feel like im in a daze I cant concentrate.
I know this probably doesn't make you feel any better whatsoever but the night is darkest just before the dawn. Whatever it is that has happened in the past that has led you to today is not as important as how you respond and make the changes required to try to pick yourself up.
I cant say how you feel, why you feel a certain way, but what I can tell you is that from my experience, taking each day at a time has helped me get to a place in my life that I couldn't of imagined. It infects all other areas of my life. Instead of focusing on the things outside of my control (family, friends, job) I have instead focused on the things in me that I needed to work on. Ultimately this has helped shape and change (for the better) my perception of life.
What has happened in the past may or may not be something you can make up or change, but either way the one thing you can try to work on is how your life progresses going forward. If you are anything like me, this can indirectly repair relationships and things in your life that I thought were impossible to fix.
I don't want to put words in your mouth but today could be a new beginning if you can get by all the things that have happened in the past. I have been speaking with people struggling in different areas of their lives, particularly people who have zero confidence (and self esteem) or belief in themselves that they can change. The simple thing I say is that they are changing whether they realise it or not. Talking with people, writing how you feel down here, is a part of a change that could lead to something wonderful in your life. In one post here you were distraught, the next post you were crying with some sense of relief (however little it was or how long it lasted is irrelevant).
I am trying more and more to think about and accept that what happened in the past is not necessarily what will happen in the future, which helps me try to look forward with optimism. I try to couple this with trying to take each day at a time. For now, that's enough to help me feel like the entire world isn't against me. I don't feel like my entire life has already been mapped out , destined to be one major disappointment/disaster after another.
Good luck today, I really hope it helps you find a pathway to a more meaningful life .0 -
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Hi all (sorry for an awfully long post, bare with me!),
I have all of a sudden out of the blue been discharged from therapy for depression. I have been in therapy for about a year now.
Some people on the forum might remember me going through a crisis moment last year, I had started threads in the PI section and found a bit comfort here in this thread and became one the top posters here for a while.
I was suicidal for large periods last summer and many of those days were some of the hardest days I've ever had to go through, didn't think I was going to get through it.
I currently suffer from Social phobia/anxiety. And I have done since I was 13. Because of which I've never had any friends since, and never had a girlfriend or anything close to that. Nothing. I'm now nearly 27.
I considered suicide so many times over it, the fact whether I wanted to live in loneliness like this for the rest of my life.
My academic studies also suffered over the past 10 years, constantly scraping exams, just couldn't get motivated. I eventually scrapped a 2.2 in electrical engineering and pursued to do a masters, mainly because I had nothing else to do and didn't want to work as I thought the world disliked me and feared the social interactions (thats how irrational I was).
During my exam period with all my thoughts going on, I ended up thinking I had a failed some of the exams and it became the tipping point of failure that I attempted suicide (which failed cause I kinda sucked at it luckily).
That was april 2012 last year, I for the first time had counselling at my uni in may, came on here in june and opened up about my problems. I saw a gp, diagnosed with severe depression, and was off to have cognetive therapy that july.
I had a bit of a renaissance during that summer, I had decided I wanted to have a career change and build new foundations on my life on a career which I could enjoy.
So believe it or not, I picked Dentistry, good pay, potential secure job, and I figured I wanted to help people for a living. A job doesn't define my life, but I desperately wanted a career change as I was going nowhere with my previous choice.
For this however I had to redo my a levels from scratch, and require 2A*'s & 2A's minimum (I live in Northern Ireland looking to apply to trinity).
I've become an extremely motivated guy since last summer, looking to constantly improve on social interactions, and work harder at things I've done wrong. Believe it or not, so far academically I am achieving 4A's during my AS's (Maths, Physics, Biology and Chemistry). On top of which if that was enough I finished off my remaining 3 exams for my masters and scored 61, 71 and 65, bringing my average up to 60, and thus I have graduated with a 2:1 (commedation) in my masters.
However I have been consumed with my studies its nearly burned me out this year. I was diagnosed with shingles as well in april crippling me during that time.
Because of my commitments, I was only having therapy once a month from march onwards, and didn't have any for nearly 2 months because of my shingles.
I had absolutely no social life before hand and it hasn't really picked up because of my academic commitments, and so because I wasn't getting enough opportunities to practice my social skills, and being consumed relentlessly with study we could only have one therapy session a month.
Today, fifteen minutes from the end (just out of the blue) my therapist decided she was going to discharge me on the grounds that she was satisfied with my progress but cannot make social interactions happen for me and because of which there was no point having any therapy.
Honestly, as strange as it sounds I have no idea how to "create opportunities". Jobs, although I'm applying, are hard to come by, volunteering takes time organise, and doing some sporting activities (e.g. tennis lessons) can only really offer only a little. She also struggled to know what could be done to create social opportunities and said she couldn't help me on that and that we've hit a "brick wall" on that issue. Anyway I was discharged, boom like that.0 -
The problem is I'm home with my parents over the summer months now, couped up in the house and not sure what to do, lonely, and by time I sort anything out, I'm back at college early september, studying relentlessly to get A*'s.
I'm concious about making the first post too long so I've split it up a bit. I'm just so lonely right now feel a little hopeless again. Utterly dejected and feel a little directionless after just being tossed out like that from therapy. Perhaps I'm over reacting and she probably was doing the right thing naturally. But I am stuck at home worry the same problems might exacerbate again. I'm nearly 27 now, I'm not getting any younger.. 0 -
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ThomasFlynn wrote: »The problem is I'm home with my parents over the summer months now, couped up in the house and not sure what to do, lonely, and by time I sort anything out, I'm back at college early september, studying relentlessly to get A*'s.
I'm concious about making the first post too long so I've split it up a bit. I'm just so lonely right now feel a little hopeless again. Utterly dejected and feel a little directionless after just being tossed out like that from therapy. Perhaps I'm over reacting and she probably was doing the right thing naturally. But I am stuck at home worry the same problems might exacerbate again. I'm nearly 27 now, I'm not getting any younger..
Hi Thomas,
I guess your therapist is confident that you are ready to paddle on your own.
May I suggest volunteering in a local charity shop, which would firstly get you out of the house every day and bring some focus to your life. It would also be a nice way of giving something back to people whose lives are much less fortunate than ours.
Alternatively is it possible to get yourself some type of part time or temporary job, again bringing a bit of focus to your days and also making some money to treat yourself before returning to college.
In addition either scenarios would introduce you to some new people,with whom you may interact and develop your social skills.
You are obviously a very bright person intellectually, however you have lost some of your self confidence.
Take small steps first , start making new friends through a work environment as suggested above. By meeting new people it may be possible to go out the odd evening with your work mates to a sporting event, a meal out. Once you get your confidence back , your self esteem will improve immensely.
From a fitness point of view are there any walking or cycling clubs in your area?
Cycling walking and jogging are a great way to improve one's fitness, but also a great way to make new friends.
Give yourself a chance, get out there and enjoy life.
Best wishes
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ThomasFlynn wrote: »The problem is I'm home with my parents over the summer months now, couped up in the house and not sure what to do, lonely, and by time I sort anything out, I'm back at college early september, studying relentlessly to get A*'s.
I'm concious about making the first post too long so I've split it up a bit. I'm just so lonely right now feel a little hopeless again. Utterly dejected and feel a little directionless after just being tossed out like that from therapy. Perhaps I'm over reacting and she probably was doing the right thing naturally. But I am stuck at home worry the same problems might exacerbate again. I'm nearly 27 now, I'm not getting any younger..
Hi Thomas, welcome back.
I'm gonna keep this short cause I'm writing this on my ipad and it gives me carpel tunnel syndrome using it too much (yes I'm in my mid thirties And have the wrists of a 90 year old!).
I only ever try to write about my own experience and hope that in some way somebody can use it in their own life in their own way. I will skip through my depression stories straight to how I am trying to learn social skills and enjoy life more.
Do you know what I dreamt of when I was younger ? Being a footballer professionally. I play 5 aside every week. I dreamt of being in movies , I am a member of movies extra and might get roles on tv. I also would of loved to be a lead singer of a band (was for a brief time) and I have decided if the extra thing isn't as I hoped I might explore it again.
My point is that we all have to live in the real world and get a job and study for exams. But it doesn't mean we can't live our dreams in some form. A little bit of what I always dreamed of when I was younger is infinitely better then nothing but the monotonous slog of working class 9-5 life!
In short, I am at my most confident when I am happy or enjoying myself so it makes sense for me to try and be in these kind of social situations.0 -
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