Shifting....

BLynch

I'm sure you're all familiar with shifting (French kissing) I always thought the way this worked among young people was quite strange. I'min my late teens and the way it always worked for me was go to a youth disco, get a friend to ask random girls if they would shift me, and eventually get lucky and snog her for a minute, then move on.

Was it like this for everyone else? Would love to hear people's takes and personal experiences, always seemedlike a weird experience. Also, what worked, how did you get the shift? :P As in did you get a friendto ask, ask a girls friend to ask her, or chat up the girl and ask yourself? And what age did you find random shifting ended at?

MGHOW

Discos are basically just clubs for kids. Which means that the principles are the same for getting lucky if you're a male; everything is about looks.

If you were a good-looking young fella' as a youth, then yeah you could go to one of those places and 'shift' literally 100s of girls in a night. But if you were unfortunate enough to be born unfavorable in the looks department, then you will get turned down over and over again with no avail.

Just my experiences.

Sky King

But when you're older you discover alcohol, and the amazing effect it has.

[on women]

John Doe1

I shifted my way out the womb, is it strange to shift so soon?

The King of Moo

MGHOW wrote: »

Discos are basically just clubs for kids. Which means that the principles are the same for getting lucky if you're a male; everything is about looks.

If you were a good-looking young fella' as a youth, then yeah you could go to one of those places and 'shift' literally 100s of girls in a night. But if you were unfortunate enough to be born unfavorable in the looks department, then you will get turned down over and over again with no avail.

Just my experiences.

Looks help, but confidence is more important and probably the thing most women find attractive in a man.

I had little experience of shifting as a teen, as I hated going to discos, went to an all boys's school, and was (charmingly) awkward.

Looking back, I could've got so many more shifts if I'd bothered trying.

bebostunnah

Teen fingering

El Weirdo

BLynch wrote: »

I'min my late teens and the way it always worked for me was go to a youth disco, get a friend to ask random girls if they would shift me, and eventually get lucky and snog her for a minute, then move on.

I'm 35 and I still do this at youth discos.

I get older, they stay the same age.

ThePower11

Drop the hand OP, shifting is so last century.

Logical Fallacy

If you are in your late teens it's time to start asking the girl yourself OP.

boomkatalog

The way they did it in college was the guy would dance up behind you, ragin boner rubbing off your arse. The girl then would mouth across to her friend and ask is he good looking, if the friend says yes you turn around for the shift. If the friend says no, she grabs your hand, spins you around and ye pretend the guy doesn't exist.

If your friend is an asshole and says yes anyway, you turn around and get the face mauled off ya by whatever homely looking lad is rubbing himself up against the back of you. Once you're facing him, there's no goin back!

stupidusername

awh I miss those days. though my first 'shift' was when I was 17

TheZohanS

BLynch wrote: »

I'm sure you're all familiar with shifting (French kissing) I always thought the way this worked among young people was quite strange. I'min my late teens and the way it always worked for me was go to a youth disco, get a friend to ask random girls if they would shift me, and eventually get lucky and snog her for a minute, then move on.

Was it like this for everyone else? Would love to hear people's takes and personal experiences, always seemedlike a weird experience. Also, what worked, how did you get the shift? :P As in did you get a friendto ask, ask a girls friend to ask her, or chat up the girl and ask yourself? And what age did you find random shifting ended at?

Why do I get the feeling that you're a 50 year old man wearing nothing but a trench-coat looking for cheap thrills on the internet.

sebastianlieken

The King of Moo wrote: »

Looks help, but confidence is more important and probably the thing most women find attractive in a man.

as a teenager, i'm gonna say that looks are more important than confidance, this switches around when you hit your twenties. I was never the most confident teen, but (and I know it's the most twatish thing to say) I was good looking, and that got me lots of attention. My best mate was very confident and was always my wingman, he did the the talking, i did the shiftin' ... it was a good balance. :P

but now I find when you hit your twenties, it's all about confidence! so yeah, i'm here playing catch up!

hondasam

stupidusername wrote: »

awh I miss those days. though my first 'shift' was when I was 17

17 :eek: were you afraid of boys?

Sky King

TheZohan wrote: »

Why do I get the feeling that you're a 50 year old man wearing nothing but a trench-coat looking for cheap thrills on the internet.

She hasn't posted here in a while. Maybe try TLL?

themadchef

hondasam wrote: »

17 :eek: were you afraid of boys?

I'd say i wasint far off 17 either...

Late bloomer :pac: fugly

flutterflye

I was 14 to 16 when I did this I think.
Lucky for me - I was a girl, so never had to do the asking!
(They really should change the social rules there actually - not really fair on the boys putting themselves out there so much)
For me, it was all about looks or charm, or both.
If there was a guy I just did not find attractive, there was no manipulation/technique that would work!

cazzzzz

All I remember from teenage discos if a group of lads coming up to me and my friends..
'Will you shift him?'
'No'
'Will you shift him?'
'No'
'Will you shift me?'
'Alright Gwaaan so'
Most asked question after a night out 'Did you get the shift?'

stupidusername

hondasam wrote: »

17 :eek: were you afraid of boys?

a little, but I think it was mostly the ugliness.

Aoifey!

My first shift was at a friend's birthday playing spin the bottle when I was 12. We went into the party deciding none of us would be fridgits by the end, and none of us were.

BLynch

cazzzzz wrote: »

'Did you get the shift?'

Classic line, only in Ireland :P

BLynch

Did anyone ever have the balls to go up to random girls at a disco and chat them up for a while, then ask for the shift himself? I can't ever remember anyone doing that...

hondasam

themadchef wrote: »

I'd say i wasint far off 17 either...

Late bloomer :pac: fugly

stupidusername wrote: »

a little, but I think it was mostly the ugliness.

I doubt either of ye were fugly, i'm sure ye have made up for the late start:D

El Weirdo

flutterflye wrote: »

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If there was a guy I just did not find attractive, there was no manipulation/technique that would work!

There was.

You just wouldn't remember.

Feisar

BLynch wrote: »

Did anyone ever have the balls to go up to random girls at a disco and chat them up for a while, then ask for the shift himself? I can't ever remember anyone doing that...

That would have been creepy!

stupidusername

hondasam wrote: »

I doubt either of ye were fugly, i'm sure ye have made up for the late start:D

In kissing...yep.

Domo230 wrote: »

I was (am) ugly

Nobody ever asked me for the shift and they always said no

sames.

Snowie

first girl I kissed Ive mentally blocked out of my mind. seriously it was messy, drippy, and so much more, never again would i kiss a woman like that again after a long time the women's i kissed got better

Samich

Asked a friend to ask a girl once in a youth disco. She said no. Never asked a girl again.

I've shifted 3 girls. Bahhhhhhh.

Killer Pigeon

Shifting is for amateurs, hard anal is where it's at nowadays.

Carverkid

I don't ask any more, just a quick chat up, and if they're feeling it, lay the gob. ;-) If not just move on. Shift and drift, shift and drift.

phasers

I have honestly never experienced this. I had a few fellas asking 'will ya meet (clondalkin equivilant of shift) me' when I was out an about, but never had someone's friend ask me, nor was I ever asked if I 'got the shift'.

I feel like I missed out now, anyone want to shift?

stupidusername

we used to call it meeting as well i had friends ask on my behalf

flutterflye

Yeah it was "meeting" for me too.
I thought "shifting" was just a country term?

TeddyTedson

Usually you walk around the Square in Tallaght, going past UCI some girls would roar at you, "Here, young fella! Will you meet her?"
You'd be backed up by your buddies and approach. After you're mates sorted it out with the group of girls you'd be brought to a secluded spot, and you would get the first decent look at the girl in question and almost immediately start kissing. If you were lucky enough to be with a girl who wasn't licking your chin it would go on for several minutes and if you were felling brave you'd grab her arse and maybe a boob.
Good times.


Also who ever came up with the terms "meet", "shift" and now "score" needs to be shot loike.

cazzzzz

The worst thing was to be a fridget

''Are you a fridget?''
''No I shifted some on holidays last year''
''Sureee.....''

TeddyTedson

cazzzzz wrote: »

The worst thing was to be a fridget

''Are you a fridget?''
''No I shifted some on holidays last year''
''Sureee.....''
If you can't lift her, don't shift her..

It's sort of disappoint when you get older that peer pressure just diminishes
I'd say a little bit is go for you.

Dravokivich

BLynch wrote: »

And what age did you find random shifting ended at?

Haven't found it started...

phasers wrote: »

I have honestly never experienced this. I had a few fellas asking 'will ya meet (clondalkin equivilant of shift) me' when I was out an about, but never had someone's friend ask me, nor was I ever asked if I 'got the shift'.

I feel like I missed out now, anyone want to shift?

I'll be in Quinlans on Saturday

:pac:

DB21

There was a while in college when I couldn't get the shift for the life of me. Turns out it is actually a confidence thing. Walk around like you own the place, and women throw themselves at you. Worked for me last Monday (10 different girls in 6 hours in the SU on College's Christmas Day).

BLynch

DB21 wrote: »

There was a while in college when I couldn't get the shift for the life of me. Turns out it is actually a confidence thing. Walk around like you own the place, and women throw themselves at you. Worked for me last Monday (10 different girls in 6 hours in the SU on College's Christmas Day).

Standing looking like a fool while your friend asks someone to shift you must be one of the more awkward expeirences in life, especially if she says no the only thing that I found even slightly helps that is drink, and even then it's still fairly awful

carfiosaoorl

This post reminded me why I would never like to be a teen again. I can remember when I went to teenage discos as soon as the slow set came on every girl in the place bolted for the girls bathrooms (except the sluts hehe) and we would stay crammed in there until the slow set ended.
I never asked a friend to ask someone but had guys friends ask me.
I was a late starter too, never kissed a guy until I was 17 and got pissed on vodka and lemon at a new years eve disco. I think I might have shifted every guy on the floor that night. Happy new year:o

DB21

BLynch wrote: »

Standing looking like a fool while your friend asks someone to shift you must be one of the more awkward expeirences in life, especially if she says no the only thing that I found even slightly helps that is drink, and even then it's still fairly awful

Oh Jesus yeah.

I'm more proactive about it though. After a couple of ciders, I'm king of the f**king castle in my mind, and in drunken arrogance, I think the women should be lining up for me.

WindSock

phasers wrote: »

I have honestly never experienced this. I had a few fellas asking 'will ya meet (clondalkin equivilant of shift) me' when I was out an about, but never had someone's friend ask me, nor was I ever asked if I 'got the shift'.

I feel like I missed out now, anyone want to shift?

Yeah back in my days the popular jargon was to 'meet' which came not long after the term 'get off with'

So at the local teenage dishco a very awkwardly standing me to the sounds of whatever horrible tunes were big in 1994 would have a devishly handsome chap approach to ask 'will ya meeh me mahe'
I look over to see some pizza faced skanger in with the look of murder in his eyes, staring straight back at me, politely decline and have my heart sink as handsome skang #1 tuts 'sluh' and walks over to my friend to do the boner dancey move as described by Boomkatalog.
The rest of the evening has them two waring the faces off each other while me and the murderous ben sherman are left standing awkwardly together.
God I don't miss dem days :pac:

starlit

Ya, shifting was the big thing in my day when in my teens. All my classmates were talking about it and going to youth discos. I was a bit of a late developer and never went to youth discos. Wanted to wait till I were older and enjoy it and of course be of the legal age to drink. Never liked weddings when I was underage! Since being at the legal age, I enjoy weddings more cause of the buzz and being older too is good. I felt like an outsider when I were a teenager at weddings cause everyone else was drinking like.

Shifting is for the younger kiddies I think, teenagers. I like sweet subtle kisses now maybe that's me getting old lol.

My classmates were very much into underage drinking and I never took part of it, never went out at all until my debs! I am a bit traditional like that. I wanted to enjoy it didn't drink at all despite being 18. Didn't enjoy it. I had no interest in discos and going out like then, I was in college before I started going out and enjoying it. Wasn't really ready for all that malarky of going out like. Was too focused on the leaving so waited till I were in college to start going out properly. Still go out now and again.

I probably kissed a fella when very young in school but I was a bit old when I got a proper shift. It was a randomer in a nightclub and not the case of 'will you shift my friend'. Was a good kiss buts sloppy.

Oh stopped kissing randomers since I were 22. From 22 to now, I nearly know the guys name most of the time or know the fella a bit. Would have at least chatted to him, spent a bit of time with him as well as danced with him and so on. Though only one lad I suppose when 25 he was a randomer alright. I suppose I were 25 I'm 26 now. Though most lads I do kiss lately I know their name and have danced as well as chatted with them. After that well depends. Last guy well I knew him for a short while before hand things did progress but not much after meeting each other. Haven't kissed anyone since!

Might need to pucker up for New Years! Where's my mistletoe!?

starlit

To be honest any time I got the shift well, the guys just turn their head in such a way like to ask if we can kiss. Sweet though, with their puppy doe eyes! Pleading and begging like a little puppy to want to kiss me, its an honour if they ask and are polite like that than just going in for the kill and diving their mouth onto mine. Though there be the few that will do that alright to me sometimes! Met good kissers and bad ones, and a few frogs but a few nice ones along the way!

The whole french kissing thing took me a bit of time to get used to was a bit of a shock to the system at first. Drunken first kiss though...which was in fact my first shift!

Katgurl

We never got the shift or asked to meet anyone, we definitely got off with people. I just had vague heart attack when realised given my first snogfest was at 12, that's over 20 years ago and although the random encounters should have stopped by now, I still occasionally find myself lips locked with some handsome stranger on a night out.

Sky King

I've often wondered what age is too old to be after the shift of a night out.

starlit

DB21 wrote: »

There was a while in college when I couldn't get the shift for the life of me. Turns out it is actually a confidence thing. Walk around like you own the place, and women throw themselves at you. Worked for me last Monday (10 different girls in 6 hours in the SU on College's Christmas Day).

The most guys I ever kissed in one night was two guys. Generally just snog the one lad or randomer on a night out. Tend to know him or know his name now a days! So don't just kiss random strangers any more at least. Hopefully grown out of that sort of thing.

starlit

carfiosaoorl wrote: »

This post reminded me why I would never like to be a teen again. I can remember when I went to teenage discos as soon as the slow set came on every girl in the place bolted for the girls bathrooms (except the sluts hehe) and we would stay crammed in there until the slow set ended.
I never asked a friend to ask someone but had guys friends ask me.
I was a late starter too, never kissed a guy until I was 17 and got pissed on vodka and lemon at a new years eve disco. I think I might have shifted every guy on the floor that night. Happy new year:o

Was a late developer myself too, 19. But was drunk for that first shift! :cool:

Eathrin

Some of ye were late indeed! I wasn't exactly too busy meeting women but I did have my first at 13:D
Now nightclubs is a different experience for me, only gone a couple times now but am yet to get anything. What should I be expecting to achieve at the club?

stupidusername

Cian A wrote: »

What should I be expecting to achieve at the club?

N'awh,look at da little baby!

DeadbeatDancer

My first shift turned out to be gay...