Should women value the relationship more?

Scanlas The 2nd

IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



What are your thoughts on this?

force eleven

Always thought it was 50-50 to work.

FatherLen

i reckon it's a two way street.

Domitius Felix Invictus Aurelianus

Womens views ina relationship are of little importance......IMO

smash

They should be lucky to have me!

Frank Black

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



What are your thoughts on this?

I've read this about 5 times and I still don't get it.

chin_grin

This thread immediately made me think of this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qE41YPdPuis

K-9

black francis wrote: »

I've read this about 5 times and I still don't get it.

The man should have less interest in a relationship to keep the wimminz on their toes basically.

More dating guru stuff.

The King of Moo

I'm not sure how a man would feel worse after a break-up than a woman if they were both equally committed to the relationship: maybe because he would have less support in terms of friends to talk to than a woman.

But as the cliché goes, surely 'tis better to have loved [your girlfriend as much as she loves you] and lost [and felt worse than her afterwards], than never to have loved [her as much as she loved you] at all.

There's always going to be some slight disparity in levels of affection and commitment between both members of a couple, but surely it's best to have as high and equal a level of affection as possible between both members.

du Maurier

black francis wrote: »

I've read this about 5 times and I still don't get it.

I'm not really getting it either!

RachaelVO

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



What are your thoughts on this?

Bet you're a catch...:rolleyes:

Abi

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man. Otherwise the woman tends to lose attraction for the man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

So if a man values it more he would feel worse if it ended than the woman would feel.



What are your thoughts on this?

If one doesn't value the relationship as much as the other, then it's going to end eventually.

girl in the striped socks

That makes no sense. At all.

RachaelVO

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

a womans view in a relationship should always be through the kitchen window

So she can see her OH in the dog house?

Scanlas The 2nd

Abi wrote: »

If one doesn't value the relationship as much as the other, then it's going to end eventually.

I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

Duggy747

RachaelVO wrote: »

So she can see her OH in the dog house?

Which he is constructing for the pet dog :pac:

Anyways, as long as she isn't completely unhappy / bored then there shouldn't be much to be worried about.

Unless the dirty bint is cheating on her fella.

Yeah right - because if your other half suddenly has gone off having sex with you it is because it is really the _relationship_ she has gone off. It could not be you and/or your aged and spare tyre insulated good looks or anything like that

Scanlas The 2nd

K-9 wrote: »

The man should have less interest in a relationship to keep the wimminz on their toes basically.

More dating guru stuff.

No because it's just the way it works, nothing about keeping anyone on their toes. If the man needs the relationship more than the woman the woman simply tends to not want sex as much. It's just the way it is.

Scanlas The 2nd

Deleted User wrote: »

Yeah right - because if your other half suddenly has gone off having sex with you it is because it is really the _relationship_ she has gone off. It could not be you and/or your aged and spare tyre insulated good looks or anything like that

It could be a million reasons but if a man values it more the sex will become infrequent and the naturally happy equilibrium will be turned into an unhappy one on both sides.

Logical Fallacy

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

No because it's just the way it works, nothing about keeping anyone on their toes. If the man needs the relationship more than the woman the woman simply tends to not want sex as much. It's just the way it is.

What are you basing this on?

I reckon it's personal experience...because it sure as **** isn't science.

Sindri

Every minute I have spent with prostitutes I have valued.

And they were also great value money wise.

Scanlas The 2nd

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

What are you basing this on?

I reckon it's personal experience...because it sure as **** isn't science.

No wiki articles today I'm afraid. My opinion.

opinion guy

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

Yes you are right its that simple:rolleyes:
Scanlas can you enlighten us next on your latest Grand Unified Theory so we can stop spending money on this Large Hadron Collider malarky ?

Aoifey!

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

Ah, I see, well now it all makes sense...

Abi

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I doubt you have ever valued any of your relationships the exact same as the men. 50 -50 doesnt't work imo whereas 51-49 does work if man is 49.

Yeah, you know, maybe you're right.

Sindri

jaja321 wrote: »

Such insight!

Are you Spanish?

Wattle

Yeah lads but lets not forget that they feel more than we do:

'My heart is so low
As only a woman's heart can be
As only a woman's heart can now'

28064212

IMO in order for a relationship between a woman and man to work well in all aspects the man must value the relationship at least slightly more than the woman. Otherwise the man tends to lose attraction for the woman and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

IMO in order for a relationship between two men to work well in all aspects the first man must value the relationship at least slightly more than the second man. Otherwise the first man tends to lose attraction for the second man and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

IMO in order for a relationship between two women to work well in all aspects the first woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the second woman. Otherwise the second woman tends to lose attraction for the first woman and sex becomes infrequent. I think that's just the way it is.

Should I continue? It starts getting complicated when you go up to polyamorous relationships. And all of the statements are at least as accurate as what you posted

nozzferrahhtoo

Ah I get it. Post egregious and unsupported nonsense in the guise of "opinion" in order to make people miss wiki and thereby heighten peoples anger and suspicion towards the new Internet Piracy Laws. I like it.

K-9

Abi wrote: »

Yeah, you know, maybe you're right.

That 1% makes all the difference.

BraziliaNZ

The relationship issues thread seems to be full of women gone off their partners and only seeing them as friends, or men having been dumped by their partners because they weren't attracted to them anymore. Seems to be a spike in these situations lately! Maybe the OP is one of them?

Sindri

Look we all know women just go with men because they need someone to do manual labour.

Otherwise they'd all be lezzys.

Abi

K-9 wrote: »

That 1% makes all the difference.

I've already sent the "It's over" text :pac:

Abi

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

No wiki articles today I'm afraid. My opinion.

And out of curiosity, where was this derived from? Is it a personal experience of yours?

I've no idea why, but this thread has actually boiled my blood a little.
Oh dear. Cup of tea required I think.

charlietheminxx

I don't think anybody really likes a needy partner. Male or female.

If a guy was more clingy in a relationship than me, I wouldn't like it, but similarly I wouldn't waste my time on someone who wasn't as interested in me as I was in them.

50/50 is where it's at.

nozzferrahhtoo

Deleted User wrote: »

I've no idea why, but this thread has actually boiled my blood a little.

Clearly because you care about the thread more than it cares about you and so the relationship was always doomed to failure. Also it doesnt want to have sex with your ugly ass either.... oh no wait thats the OPs GF. Got mixed up

kfallon

My head hurts I prefer the more lighthearted threads in AH tbh!

Abi

Deleted User wrote: »

I've no idea why, but this thread has actually boiled my blood a little.
Oh dear. Cup of tea required I think.

It's based on a theory the OP has, shouldn't let it bother you.



Two sugars, drop of milk, stir to the left. Thanks doll :cool:

nozzferrahhtoo

Ok I will bite.... why left?

Beruthiel

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

IMO in order for a relationship between a man and woman to work well in all aspects the woman must value the relationship at least slightly more than the man.

Too bad for you Scanlas, you were born a century too late.

28064212

nozzferrahhtoo wrote: »

Ok I will bite.... why left?

Because if you stir to the right, your cup will value you more and your cup-tea relationship will fail

Abi

Abi wrote: »

It's based on a theory the OP has, shouldn't let it bother you.

Ah see I know that logically which was why I was all conflustered as to my annoyance :pac:

here you are dear

kfallon

nozzferrahhtoo wrote: »

Ok I will bite.... why left?

Everybody stirs to the left (as you are looking at the cup) don't they?

strobe

kfallon wrote: »

Everybody stirs to the left (as you are looking at the cup) don't they?

I stir in a figure of 8, like a boss.

Abi

nozzferrahhtoo wrote: »

Ok I will bite.... why left?

I'm a bit of a trickster see. All whoopie cushions and squirting flowers. It's a well known fact that if you stir anti-clockwise it creates a temporary black hole which sucks in the stirrer then closes up.

charlietheminxx

If you stirred anti-clockwise in the olden days they branded you a witch :pac:

nozzferrahhtoo

kfallon wrote: »

Everybody stirs to the left (as you are looking at the cup) don't they?

No idea I am not a tea or coffee drinker, or any drink in fact that requires one to stir anything into anything else. The only exception being the very occasional lemsip which I stir in both directions on the assumption that the sudden change of direction causes a sudden deceleration and acceleration in the opposite direction and so will increase the distribution of the particles.

It probably doesn’t but in my head it works. Someone a little more versed in the area of physics regarding the distributions of particles in a liquid needs to step in here and explain it… likely using words like Avogadro and Brownian and strange diagrams with spheres suspended in a beaker.

One thing I can safely say is that even if said person gets bogged down in details, analogies, diagrams and equations it will still be more engaging than what the thread WAS about.

dr.bollocko

Apparently I am supposed to give a reason for locking threads.

Surely it's so obvious I don't need to? Right?

You'd think that. But you'd be wrong.

So I am just going to leave my name as the last poster to indicate that I closed this thread.

That way, in the extremely unlikely (touch wood) event that somebody can not fathom why a thread of this calibre was closed, they can bother me with their questions because I really don't have anything better to do with my time anyway.