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Bridesmaids costs!

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  • #52
    ynul31f47k6b59
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    Best of luck to anyone getting married soon or planning a wedding, and I shall be firmly avoiding this end of Boards until after the big day - my god.

    FIN


  • #53
    qwerty13
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,272 ✭✭✭qwerty13


    Ingrid Ashy Quartet wrote: »
    Jesus, I'm not that bad! The comment about letting them keep the stuff was in regard to an earlier comment when someone said they'd suggest asking for the dresses back to sell them after the wedding!! I'd never do that, ever. Probably should have quoted the post!

    Hi Shanna, I didn't realise that you were responding to an earlier comment, sorry about that.

    And I'm also sorry if I made you feel attacked - that wasn't my intention at all. I guess I just feel really strongly that it is a given that anyone you've asked to be a bridesmaid will be there for you before and during the big day; they'll be people that you can rely on to help you out, be a sounding board about ideas, will listen to you about stuff that drives you bonkers (families, numbers, kids going/not, things that you don't really want being strongly 'suggested' by direct family - on both sides!), and will be there to help sort out any little hassles on the day (which do happen!). I'm not talking about roping them into every tiny little detail, or making them do lots of work - but it still isn't like it's a 'no hassle' deal for bridesmaids! Of course it is hassle for them, and time out of their life, however small.

    To me, it is an absolute given that anything to do with 'the look' on the big day is paid for (dress, hair, make-up, shoes, bag, accessories). I wouldn't feel comfortable with the jewellery that I'd like them to wear on the day also doubles as their 'thanks'. So I feel that paying for their accommodation is just a nice way of saying thanks, which I simply cannot imagine not doing. If you expect them to stay in the hotel the night before the wedding, or if location means that they must stay the night before, then I believe that both nights should be paid for by you. If there is an 'extra day' of people staying and having a bbq/party, then I don't believe that needs to be paid for - although I think it could be perceived as rude to put that point to people who have put themselves out for you before and during the big day.

    Perhaps I could've put that a lot better in earlier posts, so if I've offended you, I am sorry, and I hope you know where I'm coming from now.


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