Using meal vouchers on a date

wile1000 · 31-01-2012 5:23pm #1

I've just had a bit of a spar with a friend of mine regarding a date I am going on tonight (date #3). As it happens, a meal voucher that I have expires today so I invited said person to join me if they would like to (making it clear that it is a voucher involved) or we can do dinner another time. I've been told by my friend that I am being too "thrifty" for a dinner date.

So, what's the consensus? Is a 'cheap date' a turnoff (and is the above scenario such an example) or is using a meal voucher ok these days given that everyone does it (even if it is a dinner date)?

sweetie · 31-01-2012 5:24pm

i see no harm but I wouldnt bank on any action

happyoutscan · 31-01-2012 5:24pm

I see no problem with it, seeing as you mentioned it already to your date. Might not get the ride though.

Sean Quagmire · 31-01-2012 5:26pm

Use the money you'll save and get yourself some tissues and lube. You'll need it.

crazyderk · 31-01-2012 5:26pm

I think if your upfront and go oh hey voucher expiring wanna come and then drinks afterwards would be cool.
but if you invite her out and say nothing then pull out a voucher that might look a bit to stingy.

It may affect the ride but you should still get the shift!

Nothingbetter2d · 31-01-2012 5:34pm

bring rohypnol and you'll get that ride

kfallon · 31-01-2012 5:37pm

You gonna use the plastic bag you bought in Mace today to carry home the shopping as a rubber later on too? :pac:

Fart · 31-01-2012 5:37pm

Nothing wrong with it I think. They wouldn't be giving out vouchers if they're not to be used, whether they were paid for or not it doesn't make a difference.

You might just get the finger in, but no royid though... depending on the girl, of course... or bloke.

RedXIV · 31-01-2012 5:38pm

nahhh if you used it as an excuse to have the date like "I have this voucher for a dinner thats going to expire, want to come with and get a nice meal out?" is grand and may give interesting dinner conversation (this is when you find out if she's a gold digger or a coupon whore, pray for latter)

If you haven't told her.....might be better off keeping it to yourself

telekon · 31-01-2012 5:39pm

I'd say use it. Only a complete bitch would care if you were being thrifty.

If she likes you, she likes you.

stupidusername · 31-01-2012 5:40pm

if you've already said it and she seems ok, then whatever. personally I would find it a tad off putting. I'm a whole different story though, so don't listen to me

TerrorFirmer · 31-01-2012 5:43pm

If by meal voucher you meant the back of a crumpled Dunnes receipt for 'Buy one Big Mac get one Free' , then yeah, maybe, but otherwise I really don't see a problem with it at all, can't imagine any decent individual would either. It's still a nice meal and a potential good time like any other, can't see why anyone would care how it comes about.

telekon · 31-01-2012 5:43pm

stupidusername wrote: »

if you've already said it and she seems ok, then whatever. personally I would find it a tad off putting. I'm a whole different story though, so don't listen to me

You're a gold digging bitch?

diamondp · 31-01-2012 5:44pm

if you have already told your date then there shouldnt be a problem. dont half the bill whatever you do and you should still be in with a chance

so der's more money saved on the tissues and lube you wont be needing.

stupidusername · 31-01-2012 5:46pm

telekon wrote: »

You're a gold digging bitch?

Not in the slightest.

Peetrik · 31-01-2012 5:47pm

Nothing wrong with it at all. Pretending to be rich is worse... just as long as it's an actual restaurant you take her to.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EU5FXMihhvM

judgefudge · 31-01-2012 5:47pm

Are people honestly suggesting you won't 'get the ride' from a girl because you used a voucher?!!?

I'm a girl and to be honest I couldn't care less if you used a voucher or not. It certainly wouldn't be something that would influence my decision to sleep with someone or not. As someone else said only a complete bitch would care. Its not about being stingy either, its just about not letting something go to waste.

azezil · 31-01-2012 5:47pm

That'd be a big no no for me. At best I'd find it amusing if my date did that, at worst I'd think him a cheapskate and would worry this is the way it's always going to be.

EddyC15 · 31-01-2012 5:48pm

Use the voucher away but maybe splash out a little on drinks afterwards or something.
I see no problem in using it when you've told your date already.

Thirdfox · 31-01-2012 5:48pm

It depends on the individual facts...

Would you prefer McDonalds without vouchers or Roly's with 50% off?

It smacks of common sense that you should save money where you can and spend it wisely.

Vouchers don't mean cheap - it could be a 100 euro meal has been reduced to 50. Steak is still steak... I'd take that over full price Abrakadraba.

Or do you mean would someone be more impressed by full price Roly's vs. half price Roly's? It'd be the same in my opinion as getting an early bird/sunday lunch menu. Spend money where necessary, don't spend it where it isn't.

Or is the OP expecting AH style "witty" answers?

Temptamperu · 31-01-2012 5:54pm

Nothing wrong with vouchers on a date, use it as a talking point and tell her you will have more moneys for tasty cocktails.

livinsane · 31-01-2012 5:56pm

Voucher=money with different pictures on it. Use it!

iguana · 31-01-2012 5:58pm

If I was asked out to dinner by a guy and at the end he pulled out a voucher to pay for it I'd be impressed by his sensible attitude to money.

Why would I want him to pay €70 on a dinner that he could have paid €35 for? That would be stupid.

newbee22 · 31-01-2012 6:01pm

A free dinner is a free dinner!

micropig · 31-01-2012 6:01pm

No issue at at using it- as another poster said No point in pretending to be rich

wile1000 · 31-01-2012 6:07pm

Thirdfox wrote: »

Or is the OP expecting AH style "witty" answers?

Heheh... no, a genuine question. Was starting to get cold on the idea earlier this afternoon, but reponses here have put faith in it being ok...

He likes his food and we did a fancy restaurant last week, so probably could've ditched me on Date #1 anyway if he didn't like me (yep, I'm a bloke also, but this more appropriate on AH that the queer threads I guess!). If I said it was a Japanese Restaurant on Parnell St (which it is), should I conjure up an excuse to go somewhere else?? I say that only because same friend suggested Parnell St adds to the "thriftiness"... :eek:

p.s. Cocktails for afters are planned too.

stovelid · 31-01-2012 6:08pm

If she has a problem with it, she's not worth banging anyway.

Unless she's really hot, in which case bang and leave.

jester77 · 31-01-2012 6:17pm

Not exactly classy but if you do manage to get the leg over (rohypnol doesn't count), then she's a definite keeper

Feisar · 31-01-2012 6:22pm

wile1000 wrote: »

Heheh... no, a genuine question. Was starting to get cold on the idea earlier this afternoon, but reponses here have put faith in it being ok...

He likes his food and we did a fancy restaurant last week, so probably could've ditched me on Date #1 anyway if he didn't like me (yep, I'm a bloke also, but this more appropriate on AH that the queer threads I guess!). If I said it was a Japanese Restaurant on Parnell St (which it is), should I conjure up an excuse to go somewhere else?? I say that only because same friend suggested Parnell St adds to the "thriftiness"... :eek:

p.s. Cocktails for afters are planned too.

I went to a restaurant on Panell St on a date once, it was fairly impromptu. We had arranged to go to Smithfield on Ice and after she laughed at me fumbling around for an hour I asked did she want to grab a bite to eat.

So of with us to one of the oriental places on Parnell st that I really like. i never thought of it in terms of being cheap or whatever and she was delighted with the razor clams so happy days all round.

Feisar · 31-01-2012 6:23pm

wile1000 wrote: »

Heheh... no, a genuine question. Was starting to get cold on the idea earlier this afternoon, but reponses here have put faith in it being ok...

He likes his food and we did a fancy restaurant last week, so probably could've ditched me on Date #1 anyway if he didn't like me (yep, I'm a bloke also, but this more appropriate on AH that the queer threads I guess!). If I said it was a Japanese Restaurant on Parnell St (which it is), should I conjure up an excuse to go somewhere else?? I say that only because same friend suggested Parnell St adds to the "thriftiness"... :eek:

p.s. Cocktails for afters are planned too.

I went to a restaurant on Parnell St on a date once, it was fairly impromptu. We had arranged to go to Smithfield on Ice and after she laughed at me fumbling around for an hour I asked did she want to grab a bite to eat.

So of with us to one of the oriental places on Parnell st that I really like. i never thought of it in terms of being cheap or whatever and she was delighted with the razor clams so happy days all round.

iguana · 31-01-2012 6:23pm

wile1000 wrote: »

If I said it was a Japanese Restaurant on Parnell St (which it is), should I conjure up an excuse to go somewhere else?? I say that only because same friend suggested Parnell St adds to the "thriftiness"... :eek:

I'm going there for dinner tonight. I'll be on the lookout for a couple on a second date, especially if there is an awkward pause around bill paying time.:pac:

Seriously though. That place is fantastic, does the best Japanese food in Ireland. The handrolls are especially delicious. And I have a voucher too.

Feisar · 31-01-2012 6:27pm

iguana wrote: »

I'm going there for dinner tonight. I'll be on the lookout for a couple on a second date, especially if there is an awkward pause around bill paying time.:pac:

Seriously though. That place is fantastic, does the best Japanese food in Ireland. The handrolls are especially delicious. And I have a voucher too.

Can you PM me the restaurants name please?

Eric Cartman · 31-01-2012 6:31pm

your using the voucher for the food , but shell be expecting expensive drinks to make up for it

Mickey Dazzler · 31-01-2012 6:37pm

To avoid any embarrassment just stand up at the end of the meal, pull out your cock, stare straight into her eyes and growl through gritted teeth "you're gonna get it in the ass tonight"

This way she will probably be too detracted thinking about where the exits are located to notice that you are a cheap douche.

Jaxxy · 31-01-2012 6:38pm

What is with this attitude that you have to spend money to get the ride!? I must have been out sick the day they taught that in stuck up money grabber lady school.

skimpydoo · 31-01-2012 6:40pm

Mickey Dazzler wrote: »

To avoid any embarrassment just stand up at the end of the meal, pull out your cock, stare straight into her eyes and growl through gritted teeth "you're gonna get it in the ass tonight"

This way she will probably be too detracted thinking about where the exits are located to notice that you are a cheap douche.

Did you not notice that his date is a he not a she?. It was mentioned on op's second post on this thread.

Thirdfox · 31-01-2012 6:49pm

Mitsuba on Parnell street?

It's delicious and highly recommended - I've taken my gf there before and the food is relatively authentic (at least it seemed to taste the same as in tokyo).

You guys should love it

buswankers · 31-01-2012 7:26pm

wile1000 wrote: »

I've just had a bit of a spar with a friend of mine regarding a date I am going on tonight (date #3). As it happens, a meal voucher that I have expires today so I invited said person to join me if they would like to (making it clear that it is a voucher involved) or we can do dinner another time. I've been told by my friend that I am being too "thrifty" for a dinner date.

So, what's the consensus? Is a 'cheap date' a turnoff (and is the above scenario such an example) or is using a meal voucher ok these days given that everyone does it (even if it is a dinner date)?

Not at all. Particularly when you actually mentioned the whole "voucher" thing when asking them out in the first place AND ye have cocktails planned for afterwards! Cant see why anyone would have a problem with it - all people are different tho I guess!

& no wouldnt be bothered about the whole Parnell St thing either - maybe I'm too easily pleased

Enjoy

Novella · 31-01-2012 7:47pm

Woah, I wouldn't have even thought twice about using a voucher. I can't see anything wrong with it at all.

Sky King · 31-01-2012 7:55pm

Foodstamps eh?

Proles.

micropig · 31-01-2012 7:56pm

Thirdfox wrote: »

Mitsuba on Parnell street?

It's delicious and highly recommended - I've taken my gf there before and the food is relatively authentic (at least it seemed to taste the same as in tokyo).

You guys should love it

Should make it about 8 but I'll have to leave before 10:D

Using meal vouchers on a date

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