Stalking

Wossack

Feeona wrote: »

To be a member of the Gardaí, a pre-requisite is to act like Joey from friends :pac:

On a serious note, I really hope you didn't get treated like that?

Hah nah, was going for the southpark reference, but Ill take what I can get :P

later12

Feeona wrote: »

To be a member of the Gardaí, a pre-requisite is to act like Joey from friends :pac:

More like Pat Shortt really.

Nothingbetter2d

just kiss her but be like a slobbering dog while doing it and eat garlic before hand.... also fart and beltch just as you go to kiss her, she'll soon stop stalking ya.

Anyone

Crazy bitches need lovin' too. Go on, its Valentines

the_syco

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I met them on a night out, met up for a while, then I decided to leave it at that, explained this to them on 3 separate occasion after being guilt tripped by text messages.

Report them to the Gardai.

jayteecork

Wish I had a stalker tbh.

mysteries1984

charlietheminxx wrote: »

......or you know, blast them with piss.

+1 to this.

OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

kfallon

VagnerLove wrote: »

make sure you lock your windows.

For some reason I read that as "make sure you lick your windows" and thought, "Yip, that's our Teddy!!" :pac:

gypsy_rose

mysteries1984 wrote: »

+1 to this.

OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

Oh. My. God. What a psycho. I hope he's left you alone.

mysteries1984

gypsy_rose wrote: »

Oh. My. God. What a psycho. I hope he's left you alone.

Eventually, yeah, but I bumped into him in town when I was of course dressed as Wally for that record-breaking thing in Merrion Square a while ago...anyway he did, I had to block his emails, calls, get a friend to send him emails for me, get the housemates to open any post addressed to me, that sort of thing, but it's all good now

jayteecork

mysteries1984 wrote: »

+1 to this.

OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

lol wtf?

mysteries1984

jayteecork wrote: »

lol wtf?

I understand it about as much as anyone here does, to be honest. I'm not particularly pro or anti religion, neither is he. I do like floral dresses...that's about the only link I can make.

antonymous

jayteecork wrote: »

lol wtf?

I second that... Creepy sh*t...

Nothingbetter2d

screw with her head for a lol...when she is peeping in your window dress up in women's clothes and pretend to be her.

mysteries1984

mysteries1984 wrote: »

I understand it about as much as anyone here does, to be honest. I'm not particularly pro or anti religion, neither is he. I do like floral dresses...that's about the only link I can make.

Oh! I meant to add the floral dresses thing is the only link I can make except for the fact that he may have wanted to crucify me.

skeptik

mysteries1984 wrote: »

+1 to this.

OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

That's a wee bit disturbing :eek: hope you got that nutter sorted!

mysteries1984

skeptik wrote: »

That's a wee bit disturbing :eek: hope you got that nutter sorted!

It is fairly odd, yeah. But he sorted himself in the end, thanks

--LOS--

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I met them on a night out, met up for a while, then I decided to leave it at that, explained this to them on 3 separate occasion after being guilt tripped by text messages.
I got messages asking why I hated them ect ect. I explained myself over and over that I didn't and it's just how I wanted things and they seemed to understand this, but then I start receiving the messages and phone calls again and again.
To give you an example, I had 14 or 16 missed calls last Friday and a few text messages that I shudder to read.
I sort of need to keep my phone number is the only thing.

Teddy that sucks but I would say this person is not getting the message, you need to send them one last clear message, whether that is a text/in person w/e next time they contact you that you do not want to hear from them again and to stop contacting you and then just never reply to them again. Hopefully they'll get the message, otherwise you might have to look at changing your number, there's not much else you can do when it's just at this level.

Yellowroses

She followed you to a club? What happened there, if anything? Is she not entitled to go to any club she wants? Just because you were there you persumed that she followed you there?

Anyways, I registered to remain anon and give my two cents and to pick up on a few bits that some posters posted.

Unfortunately, I displayed similiar behaviour in the past with an ex. It was mentioned here last week about dumping people to be 100% honest or it leads to a head wreck.

My ex was a head wreck who did nothing but lie, lie, lie. I put up with this behaviour for a long time, believing him in the hope things would change and go back to the way things were. There came a time when I realised that would not happened. He kept giving empty promises and never following through. He showed absolutely utter disregard towards me and lied to the very end.

That head wreck was like a disease on the brain. I tried so hard to get over it but eventually it got the better of me, I cracked and displayed similiar behaviour to what you have described. I hated it. It wasn't out of revenge. It wasn't stalking. I didn't even want him back. I wanted to give him a headache like what he caused me. I hated that behaviour in me.

All to often men love playing the 'she's a crazy' card without ever taking a look as to what part they played in the failure of the relationship/friendship.

Of course there would be situations where things are completely innoscent and a partner or ex may never be able to handle any form of rejection and snap.

Please and I urge you and also others who find themselves in such a situation to take a look at their part in things. I see all to often when a partner decides things are finished they/he/she just completely blanks the other individual. Fine, if something dreadful happened but if it is just a change of heart, it is absolutely rude and disrespectful. Don't lie when cutting things off either.

_feedback_

Yellowroses wrote: »

She followed you to a club? What happened there, if anything? Is she not entitled to go to any club she wants? Just because you were there you persumed that she followed you there?

Anyways, I registered to remain anon and give my two cents and to pick up on a few bits that some posters posted.

Unfortunately, I displayed similiar behaviour in the past with an ex. It was mentioned here last week about dumping people to be 100% honest or it leads to a head wreck.

My ex was a head wreck who did nothing but lie, lie, lie. I put up with this behaviour for a long time, believing him in the hope things would change and go back to the way things were. There came a time when I realised that would not happened. He kept giving empty promises and never following through. He showed absolutely utter disregard towards me and lied to the very end.

That head wreck was like a disease on the brain. I tried so hard to get over it but eventually it got the better of me, I cracked and displayed similiar behaviour to what you have described. I hated it. It wasn't out of revenge. It wasn't stalking. I didn't even want him back. I wanted to give him a headache like what he caused me. I hated that behaviour in me.

All to often men love playing the 'she's a crazy' card without ever taking a look as to what part they played in the failure of the relationship/friendship.

Of course there would be situations where things are completely innoscent and a partner or ex may never be able to handle any form of rejection and snap.

Please and I urge you and also others who find themselves in such a situation to take a look at their part in things. I see all to often when a partner decides things are finished they/he/she just completely blanks the other individual. Fine, if something dreadful happened but if it is just a change of heart, it is absolutely rude and disrespectful. Don't lie when cutting things off either.

It seems she has found you Ted.

du Maurier

MBNA trying a different tactic now? Poetry and whatnot...

Yellowroses

Yes it is me Ted!

Don't you fcuking he'll dare rat me out to the gardai. I want closure. Give it to me. I will not be ignored.

Oh yeah, get yourself tested for Std's. I'm riddled with them. Probably from you I picked them up from.

Yellowroses

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I'm riddled with STD's,
And so are you.

Abi

Aquila wrote: »

Oh i know what its like to be stalked,especially an unregistered person who without fail every day keeps a close eye on my account!

Same. It's fcuking tragic.

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I met them on a night out, met up for a while, then I decided to leave it at that, explained this to them on 3 separate occasion after being guilt tripped by text messages.
I got messages asking why I hated them ect ect. I explained myself over and over that I didn't and it's just how I wanted things and they seemed to understand this, but then I start receiving the messages and phone calls again and again.
To give you an example, I had 14 or 16 missed calls last Friday and a few text messages that I shudder to read.
I sort of need to keep my phone number is the only thing.

Whoa there horsey. Stage 10 clinger right there. People like that don't like the loss of control over you, and come up with all kinds of dramatic shyte in a bid for your attention. Next step is the 'Im going to kill my myself' gig.

Ignore all calls and texts, and as another poster said - start making a diary of this stuff.

TURRICAN

silly wrote: »

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Has anyone ever had, well basically it's beginning to seem like stalking.
I'm getting constant texts every day. They ring my phone time and time again and then text me asking why I never answer. I've explained to them 3 times now in person. I'm receiving very weird messages of poetry. I've been followed to a nightclub. It's getting beyond obsessive. I was woken up in the middle of the night last night at 4am with phone calls.
I don't want to have to change my number but I might have to. Luckily they don't know my exact address.
What can you do in these situations? I'm really getting sick of it.

Do you know the person or is it completely anonymous?

Why do you say "they"


Edit. Meant for op

Micky Dolenz

This just got interesting.

*Slips back into shadows*

Yellowroses

You are a rude, obnoxious man Ted,
I'm a clucking hen that needs to wed,
I want to have your babies,
No looking at other ladies,
You love me and that's what you said.

_feedback_

Pity it wasn't someone funny who re-regged...

Abi

Yellowroses wrote: »

You are a rude, obnoxious man Ted,
I'm a clucking hen that needs to wed,
I want to have your babies,
No looking at other ladies,
You love me and that's what you said.

That was crap.

hondasam

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

This just got interesting.

*Slips back into shadows*

You would make a terrible stalker.

BunShopVoyeur

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Has anyone ever had, well basically it's beginning to seem like stalking.
I'm getting constant texts every day. They ring my phone time and time again and then text me asking why I never answer. I've explained to them 3 times now in person. I'm receiving very weird messages of poetry. I've been followed to a nightclub. It's getting beyond obsessive. I was woken up in the middle of the night last night at 4am with phone calls.
I don't want to have to change my number but I might have to. Luckily they don't know my exact address.
What can you do in these situations? I'm really getting sick of it.

Never heard of a pity shag?

I think it's time...

hondasam

Yellowroses wrote: »

You are a rude, obnoxious man Ted,
I'm a clucking hen that needs to wed,
I want to have your babies,
No looking at other ladies,
You love me and that's what you said.

I know it's valentines day but really that's a bit sad. I feel sorry for you. Get a life.

Yellowroses

I'm really not Ted's stalker

Gummy Panda

mysteries1984 wrote: »

charlietheminxx wrote: »

......or you know, blast them with piss.

+1 to this.

OP, I had a similar situation with an ex a couple of years ago. Here's my advice, and what I wish I did myself.

Don't wait for it to get worse. Go to the Gardai. Don't wait for him to make a photo of you like this one which I got emailed shortly after we broke up without any explanation. I've removed my face, I value my privacy, but you get the idea.

Maybe he was a big fan of Madonna and didnt know how to express it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cSVbwwsLPqw

hondasam

Yellowroses wrote: »

I'm really not Ted's stalker

We know who you are

SheFiend

I had a similar situation a few years ago. One drunken fumbling and months of deleting my full inbox daily, missed calls, etc. The main thing is to stop replying! I know it would drive you mad and you just want to yell down the phone at them to feckoff but don't! These types crave attention of any kind. By the way, i still get the occasional message asking how i am. Haven't replied in years.

Micky Dolenz

Your inbox was filled daily?

Shryke

Ted! Still kicking? They haven't gone Sweeney Todd on you have they.

Katgurl

Actually I have been here and it is $hit.

You need to send a message saying "stop contacting me, I will not ask you again. If you continue, I will take all evidence of your harassment to the police".

Keep a log of everything.

Gummy Panda

Seriously is this shít really common or are people blowing things out of proportion? e.g. OMG he left another message on my Facebook... STALKER

Katgurl

Gummy Panda wrote: »

Seriously is this shít really common or are people blowing things out of proportion? e.g. OMG he left another message on my Facebook... STALKER

yeah I know it sounds hilarious but when a person will Not Hear What You Are Saying it is terrifying. I like the OP had only a fling, explained why it wasn't working really really clearly but the man wouldn't hear it. Literally. We'd talk, it would seem to have gone in then the phonecalls & "i miss you baby, call me back. Xxx" would start again.

Everytime my phone beeped I'd a feeling of dread.

Gummy Panda

Katgurl wrote: »

Gummy Panda wrote: »

Seriously is this shít really common or are people blowing things out of proportion? e.g. OMG he left another message on my Facebook... STALKER

yeah I know it sounds hilarious but when a person will Not Hear What You Are Saying it is terrifying. I like the OP had only a fling, explained why it wasn't working really really clearly but the man wouldn't hear it. Literally. We'd talk, it would seem to have gone in then the phonecalls & "i miss you baby, call me back. Xxx" would start again.

Everytime my phone beeped I'd a feeling of dread.

The fúck..

What's wrong with these people. I can understand mixed signals and someone coming on strong by mistake but I don't understand why they wouldn't just cut their loses

RachaelVO

Eh, Teddy, where are ya??? I think this being the night of LURVE you need to us know you're still alive n kicking!!!!!!

OMG, she went all psycho b1tch on his ass on valentines night!

mackeire

tell her you're gay and not interested in her or any woman.

Gummy Panda

mackeire wrote: »

tell her you're gay and not interested in her or any woman.

Then he'll become a challenge. Forbidden fruit

saa

I had a guy stalking me before, talked to him before in a friendly way then I started getting all these messages asking when I was going to be online and why didn't I talk to him like I used to and he thought we had something :S
I told him I'm very busy and I don't like him in that way but apparently that is not the impression he got and he know how he felt so I would basically be the biggest cnut in the world if I didn't give in..

So the more I ignored him the worse it got, any attempt at straight talking saying I don't want contact didn't work, getting someone else to basically go what do you think you're doing, that helps because the stalker aways feels like they can manipulate your no's but if its someone else they feel a bit exposed.

If its just a number and the harassment continues you can go to the gaurds and then receive permission to have the number blocked, according to Meteor

Pacifist Pigeon

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Has anyone ever had, well basically it's beginning to seem like stalking.
I'm getting constant texts every day. They ring my phone time and time again and then text me asking why I never answer. I've explained to them 3 times now in person. I'm receiving very weird messages of poetry. I've been followed to a nightclub. It's getting beyond obsessive. I was woken up in the middle of the night last night at 4am with phone calls.
I don't want to have to change my number but I might have to. Luckily they don't know my exact address.
What can you do in these situations? I'm really getting sick of it.

Someone must have heard you **** in bed while they were sitting on the toilet.

travelledpengy

Get one of your friends to have a chat and explain to them that it is not acceptable behaviour, maybe he doesn't realise it is freaking you out..

I would advise saying don't contact me again and if they do, go to the gardai, I would say that blocking there number would possibly make things worse. There are plenty good apps out there to block numbers

Gummy Panda

This all has me paranoid I might have come on strong to someone before and they thought I was stalkerish. I don't think I did

SheFiend

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Your inbox was filled daily?

As i was typing that i wondered how long it would be before a double entendre was implied. Congrats on getting first place, with merits :-)