Handing up.....

OneArt

niallers1 wrote: »

At least 50% of his wage should be handed up if he is being fed as well as housed.

Any less and he's being a sponger.. Man up and pay your way.

Fifty percent for fixed living costs? Haha. I never do that if I can help it. And I live on my own. Cheap studios/flatshares for the win if you can find them. I mean how much space does one person need?

SeanW

ejmaztec wrote: »

Too right it's flawed, 150% is missing from it.

Great, now how do you suppose he could get 150%?

Dan133269

naoise80 wrote: »

I handed up 25% for 10 years after I started working, even though they probably didn't need it.

Unbeknownst to me it was put in a savings account and given back as a deposit for a house.

What goes 'round, comes 'round.

Fair play to you and fair play to your parents, that was very nice of them.
What goes around comes around? Blatantly untrue. I'm living proof.

HazDanz wrote: »

It really is. Getting laid-off is tough and losing that element of independence and a sense of control on your circumstance is horrible. The parents taking half his benifits will do no good to the son, he'll only end up feeling more sh*t about his situation and it won't help his confidence in pursuing another job by getting grabbed by the proverbial balls by his parents.

I feel parents should always help out a son or daughter when they are after taking a hit in life, such as losing their job. Makes me proud to have my parents who have always been supportive, especially during the tough times.

Yes, very true. If this fella wanted to upskill, say go back to college or do some sort of a course, how is he meant to save up for it with only 40 euro a week? How is he meant to buy a new suit for job interviews? New shoes if he needs them? If his parents are that stingey they'll probably charge him for using the landline phone to call about jobs, charge him for paper and ink for printing CVs. All of these things cost money. I can never understand the mentality of parents to worsen their childrens' problems when they're at their most vulnerable and then say "Oh he/she needs to get used to living in the real world, we're doing them a favour."

nicechick!

kkdela6 wrote: »

right so you worked a part time job for the extra bit of pocket money while your parents essentially put you through college... and you paid them back in later years. That is exactly my point. Would you have been able to put yourself through college with 40 euros a week? to pay fees, books, food, travel, etc?

My point is that the parents should be supporting this kid and help put him through college, or some sort of training course and help him obtain new employment. Maybe then, when he's making a bit of money, he can repay them somehow. Jesus christ he's only 18

I really didn't make any sense there! I saved my parents a fortune! by my working part time and working/saving towards my education as best though they did support me in small measures but if I actually needed monies it was always towards the end of calender year and on a short term measure of course I am grateful for that! though I admit I probably didn't need to work and they would have taken on the burden of putting me through but if they had it makes me think I'd still be relying on them I think it was for me character building and I don't see why he couldn't contribute something towards his upkeep even if its not in monies do something

To be fair if he's looking to upskill and they can afford to help support him I would definitively go for it but if this fella is not looking to do something of this nature I still think he should contribute in some shape or form to the house nor do we know the finical circumstances of this family they may need this money.

Son Of A Vidic

Freddie59 wrote: »

There's an obvious solution here........:rolleyes:

Ya...............this.

hondasam

Parents are unreasonable here, he only gets €80 a week. I think they could work out a better system that would benefit everyone.
He does all the housework, cooking etc and he keeps his €80. A few months of this and he will gladly hand over the €40.
Parents should help their kids when they need it and vica versa.

Sky King

Freddie59 wrote: »

Yep. Show him the door and let him have a taste of it.

I don't see what could possibly be achieved by showing him what a door tastes like

Feisar

When I was in college and home for the summers and was working I didn't give anything to the parents. I was putting myself through college so they weren't going to take anything off me.

Feisar

Sky King wrote: »

I don't see what could possibly be achieved by showing him what a door tastes like

Have to admit I had a guilty titter at this.

Rahc

I moved out of home when I was 19 (I'm 23 now) but for the two years before I moved out I handed up €40 a week.. I discovered that it was put into an account for my brothers who are 12 years younger than I am so that they'll be able to go to college without any financial worry. I've put €40 into that account every week since!

If he's living with his parents I don't see why he should refuse to hand up money. At least give €15 towards household expenses. It'd be very disrespectful not to!

jillyb

€40 does seem like a lot considering he's only gettin €80.

Think €20 seems fair as thats 25%.

I wouldnt want to hand up more than €60 myself if it was me as i'm living out of
home at the mo and my weekly rent, gas, electricity, tv, broadband and food comes to bout *€100 a week and I earn €260 a week.

If I was paying €100 to stay at home and not have my own space it wouldnt be worth it!!

*3 bed house in waterford- 3 of us sharing.