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35 and on the shelf

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  • #52
    pickarooney
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 35,508 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    Hang on, only last night you had a girlfriend, OP. What gives?


  • #53
    King of Kings
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,695 ✭✭✭King of Kings


    i dunno what the fuss is about failed relationships are.
    The tone of some posts indicate they are some sort of burden or negative on one's cv.
    What gives?
    Relationships come - they sometimes go - big deal.
    The fun is living life whatever it throws your way.



    .


  • #54
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,582 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    pickarooney wrote: »
    Hang on, only last night you had a girlfriend, OP. What gives?

    Ah different thread, different story.


  • #55
    Itsdacraic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,361 ✭✭✭Itsdacraic


    dxhound2005 wrote: »
    Tell them about your colourful past or how you want us to riot and burn like the Greeks. That will take their minds of the recession for a little while.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=77011734

    Convenient the one night he was sick with "tonsillitis" the club got raided and everyone else got arrested.

    I smell a rat.


  • #56
    ejmaztec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,133 ✭✭✭✭ejmaztec


    pickarooney wrote: »
    Hang on, only last night you had a girlfriend, OP. What gives?

    Perhaps she didn't want to be punished, so shelved him?


  • #57
    Jesus Shaves
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,959 ✭✭✭Jesus Shaves


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.

    Moaning about it won't get you anywhere


  • #58
    Jesus Shaves
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,959 ✭✭✭Jesus Shaves


    Itsdacraic wrote: »
    Convenient the one night he was sick with "tonsillitis" the club got raided and everyone else got arrested.

    I smell a rat.

    I smell someone living in a land of fantasy that only exists inside their head


  • #59
    okiss
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 699 ✭✭✭okiss


    35 is not old and why are you on the shelf at this age?
    I know people who meet the oh when they were older than you.
    Look at the people you know who have one wage coming into a house as one person has lost there job or is minding the kids. They have a car which won't pass the nct, the cost of everything is going up and they have to count every cent to keep the bills paid.
    Be thankful you don't have this to deal with.
    There are people out there at the moment who would like to meet someone, get married and have families.


  • #60
    Wattle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,075 ✭✭✭Wattle


    Judging by some of the marriages I've seen I'm quite happy to be 'on the shelf'.


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  • #61
    ThOnda
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,699 ✭✭✭ThOnda


    I'll be 35 this year, renting, one car, eventually job I could be proud of, lots of friends, few great hobbies. Should I complain? I could...
    But... if you live and do something, you'll create and gain some "baggage", but rather experience that make you more interesting, will form you and make you what you are. That is not bad, that is just part of the life. If you don't have baggage, you don't have life.
    You seem to be bored, careful with complaining about that, you never know what can happen, e.g. tax on single people who don't have kids to generate taxes to pay for their health care and pensions in the future!


  • #62
    earpiece
    Closed Accounts Posts: 550 ✭✭✭earpiece


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    Shut up Bítch, don't like your status, go do something about it!:)


  • #63
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Itsdacraic wrote: »
    Convenient the one night he was sick with "tonsillitis" the club got raided and everyone else got arrested.

    I smell a rat.

    True story.
    Don't take my word for it though.
    http://history-is-made-at-night.blogspot.com/2009/02/club-uk-in-wandsworth-love-ecstasy-and.html


  • #64
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    pickarooney wrote: »
    Hang on, only last night you had a girlfriend, OP. What gives?

    I have a girlfriend.
    I am looking for more than that in life.


  • #65
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    latenia wrote: »
    Why not go to Eastern Europe and pick up a sexy subservient 20 year old wife?

    No need to go to Eastern Europe.
    Eastern Europe has come to me.
    I live in Dundalk, its like little Latvia or little Poland here.
    My cousin has been married to a Slovakian woman for 12 years. Eastern European women are far from subservient.
    At 35 I am not interested in 20 year old women.


  • #66
    earpiece
    Closed Accounts Posts: 550 ✭✭✭earpiece


    WTF.........
    You looking for us to give you the courage to propose, have kids and sign up for a mortgage, etc.
    This is one confused thread?


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  • #67
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,080 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I have a girlfriend.
    I am looking for more than that in life.

    Go on.


  • #68
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    darokane wrote: »
    I smell someone living in a land of fantasy that only exists inside their head

    Sometimes the truth is harder to believe than fantasy.
    Ironic really.


  • #69
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Micky Dolenz wrote: »
    Go on.

    I am at a stage in life where I would like to have kids.
    I think that is what is missing in my life.
    I have friends and a girlfriend, but I am looking for more than that.


  • #70
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,582 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    No need to go to Eastern Europe.
    Eastern Europe has come to me.
    I live in Dundalk, its like little Latvia or little Poland here.
    My cousin has been married to a Slovakian woman for 12 years. Eastern European women are far from subservient.
    At 35 I am not interested in 20 year old women.

    Ah Dundalk...it's a magical place really.

    Did you know that in Dundalk you never lose your woman? You lose your turn.


  • #71
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    earpiece wrote: »
    WTF.........
    You looking for us to give you the courage to propose, have kids and sign up for a mortgage, etc.
    This is one confused thread?

    I haven't met the right one to marry yet, so wouldn't be proposing.
    I am looking for a house to buy, with a budget of 50,000 Euro cash I wont be getting a mortgage.
    I am looking for someone to settle down with and have kids.
    I hope this clarifies things for you, so you are less confused.


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  • #72
    Wattle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,075 ✭✭✭Wattle


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I haven't met the right one to marry yet, so wouldn't be proposing.
    I am looking for a house to buy, with a budget of 50,000 Euro cash I wont be getting a mortgage.
    I am looking for someone to settle down with and have kids.
    I hope this clarifies things for you, so you are less confused.

    Maybe you should tell your girlfriend this seein as how she's going to get binned an all.


  • #73
    Micky Dolenz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,080 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I am at a stage in life where I would like to have kids.
    I think that is what is missing in my life.
    I have friends and a girlfriend, but I am looking for more than that.

    Kids you say. You need a women to have kids. you have all the ingredients.

    Want an educational video?


  • #74
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Micky Dolenz wrote: »
    Kids you say. You need a women to have kids. you have all the ingredients.

    Want an educational video?

    I haven't found the right one to have kids with.
    That's the problem.
    Many women my age want kids, but its for the wrong reasons; running out of time being one of them.


  • #75
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Wattle wrote: »
    Maybe you should tell your girlfriend this seein as how she's going to get binned an all.

    I will inform her when I find a suitable replacement.


  • #76
    ejmaztec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,133 ✭✭✭✭ejmaztec


    Wattle wrote: »
    Maybe you should tell your girlfriend this seein as how she's going to get binned an all.

    Re-cycling or not re-cycling? I can never work out which one to use.


  • #77
    token101
    Registered Users Posts: 3,050 ✭✭✭token101


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    No need to go to Eastern Europe.
    Eastern Europe has come to me.
    I live in Dundalk, its like little Latvia or little Poland here.
    My cousin has been married to a Slovakian woman for 12 years. Eastern European women are far from subservient.
    At 35 I am not interested in 20 year old women.

    Yeah, you're alone there!


  • #78
    earpiece
    Closed Accounts Posts: 550 ✭✭✭earpiece


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I haven't met the right one to marry yet, so wouldn't be proposing.
    I am looking for a house to buy, with a budget of 50,000 Euro cash I wont be getting a mortgage.
    I am looking for someone to settle down with and have kids.
    I hope this clarifies things for you, so you are less confused.

    Thanks.:p


  • #79
    aquaman
    Registered Users Posts: 172 ✭✭aquaman


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I will inform her when I find a suitable replacement.

    GASP! Thats a bit harsh..

    As regards your OP.. My guess is that you've had one or two nights on the piss over the weekend and are suffering from a case of the sunday blues.. fear not, by Wednesday all will be right with the world again. Except your girlfriend problem that is...


  • #80
    Wattle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,075 ✭✭✭Wattle


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I will inform her when I find a suitable replacement.

    Sounds like your ordering her out of a catalogue.


  • #81
    ejmaztec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,133 ✭✭✭✭ejmaztec


    Wattle wrote: »
    Sounds like your ordering her out of a catalogue.

    Free air-pump supplied.


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  • #82
    Icepick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,456 ✭✭✭Icepick


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.
    Don't meet people?


  • #83
    Serenity Squeaking Signpost
    Posts: 0 ✭✭✭ Serenity Squeaking Signpost


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    Wattle wrote: »
    Maybe you should tell your girlfriend this seein as how she's going to get binned an all.

    I will inform her when I find a suitable replacement.
    !!!
    wow ur some catch ! NICE be careful how u treat others it may come back to haunt u ......


  • #84
    aquaman
    Registered Users Posts: 172 ✭✭aquaman


    Serenity Squeaking Signpost wrote: »
    !!!
    wow ur some catch ! NICE be careful how u treat others it may come back to haunt u ......

    that'd be the Karma again


  • #85
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    35 and on the shelf.
    Anyone else feel like that?
    My friends are either married with kids and a mortgage, or emigrating.
    Everyone my age I meet has either had kids or a failed relationship.
    Its rare to find someone who doesn't have kids, debt, a negative equity property, or emotional baggage.
    Facebooking your old friends in Australia just isn't the same as seeing them.
    What are your options, waiting until 10.00pm to go out then binge drink until 2.00am? That's modern Irish culture for you.
    People are just trying to depress their senses with excess drinking to cover up their insecurities, and cope with the pressures.
    Its like everyone you meet talks about the recession, or emigrating.

    Theres a lot packed into that post Johnny. Some of it sounds self-reflective (35 and still on the shelf) and a part of you realises your pals have moved on with their lives, another part of you is bitter about it and kind of negative (kids, failed marriages, recession).. what is it that you want exactly?


    I'm 32, I've a 'failed marriage' as you put it, and all the trimmings - but I couldn't be happier. If I didnt end my marriage with a fcuk hole that likes to mentally and physically abuse his partner, I wouldn't be with the man I love now. I've a lot of crap to deal with as Im still trying to get a divorce, but I wouldn't be able to handle it only for my partner. He's a pillar of strength for me, but we both know it will come to an end and it will be all duddly after that.

    I think you're taking stock, and rather than seeing the positives of your situation you're seeing the negative. Putting myself in your shoes, I'd go and travel. I crave to see a bit of the world myself, as I just never got around to it before, so in that sense I'm envious of you.


  • #86
    TheZohanS
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,582 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    I have a girlfriend.
    I am looking for more than that in life.

    How long are you dating her?


  • #87
    stovelid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,252 ✭✭✭✭stovelid


    Taking heroin will make you feel a lot better.


  • #88
    kfallon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    33 and single!
    No debt and no kids
    Can spend my money on what I want
    Can go for a few jars when I like
    Don't have anybody moaning at me when I have a bet

    See OP it's not all that bad


  • #89
    Jesus Shaves
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,959 ✭✭✭Jesus Shaves


    kfallon wrote: »
    33 and single!
    No debt and no kids
    Can spend my money on what I want
    Can go for a few jars when I like
    Don't have anybody moaning at me when I have a bet

    See OP it's not all that bad

    plus you get to have sex everyday, with your hand.


  • #90
    Jess16
    Registered Users Posts: 1,176 ✭✭✭Jess16


    Johnny Foreigner wrote: »
    No need to go to Eastern Europe.
    Eastern Europe has come to me.
    I live in Dundalk, its like little Latvia or little Poland here.

    Well there's your first mistake


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  • #91
    kfallon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    darokane wrote: »
    plus you get to have sex everyday, with your hand.

    I have magic hands ;)


  • #92
    Shtanto
    Registered Users Posts: 179 ✭✭Shtanto


    I've met plenty of folks with similar stories. It's not so rare. You still have time to change the world.


  • #93
    Jesus Shaves
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,959 ✭✭✭Jesus Shaves


    kfallon wrote: »
    I have magic hands ;)

    must get mental image out of my head agggghhhhhhhh:eek:


  • #94
    Dostoevsky
    Registered Users Posts: 1,023 ✭✭✭Dostoevsky


    Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »
    I would say, lucky you, especially the no mortgage part. Buy a house now while they're cheap

    *Cough* * Cough*.


  • #95
    Pacifist Pigeon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 504 ✭✭✭Pacifist Pigeon


    Dostoevsky wrote: »
    *Cough* * Cough*.

    Sorry, sorry...

    CHEAPER!


  • #96
    WoollyRedHat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    Dunny! wrote: »
    21

    FACE!:cool:

    20 and 364/365th!


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  • #97
    Johnny Foreigner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 923 ✭✭✭Johnny Foreigner


    Jess16 wrote: »
    Well there's your first mistake

    Agreed.
    I am planning a move soon when I have found the right place.
    I think living in a social desert doesn't help when you are seeking your soul mate.


  • #98
    Laalaaa
    Registered Users Posts: 47 ✭Laalaaa


    35 and on the shelf or 35 and just not settling like so many other people who are that age and even younger seem to do? I'd rather wait it out and find someone who really makes me happy instead of trying to convince myself everyday that it's what I want just because everyone else seems to have it


  • #99
    BrianOFlanagan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭BrianOFlanagan


    WoollyRedHat wrote: »
    Dunny! wrote: »
    21

    FACE!:cool:

    20 and 364/365th!

    20 and 184/365th, touche!

    Op you must be trollin, the stuff you're coming out with is plain ridiculous. At least you have a girlfriend.........*cries in corner*


  • #100
    WoollyRedHat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,462 ✭✭✭✭WoollyRedHat


    BrianOFlanagan wrote: »
    20 and 184/365th, touche!

    Op you must be trollin, the stuff you're coming out with is plain ridiculous. At least you have a girlfriend.........*cries in corner*

    **** gets crazy when you turn 20 and 200/365th


  • #101
    BrianOFlanagan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 179 ✭✭BrianOFlanagan


    WoollyRedHat wrote: »
    BrianOFlanagan wrote: »
    20 and 184/365th, touche!

    Op you must be trollin, the stuff you're coming out with is plain ridiculous. At least you have a girlfriend.........*cries in corner*

    **** gets crazy when you turn 20 and 200/365th

    You sir have made my day, thank you.


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