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Arranged co-parenting

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  • 18-03-2012 11:15pm
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    digiology
    Registered Users Posts: 180 ✭✭


    Hi all,


    I wonder if anyone here knows any parents that consciously arranged to rear a child without any prior romantic involvement?

    I'd love to know a little more about how this works out, I wonder what the downsides might be for example.


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    Orion
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    What do you mean exactly? Adopting/Fostering as a non-couple?


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    Teyla Emmagan
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    I don't know anyone who has actually done it OP, but there are a few websites (mostly UK ones) that also have 'connection' sections for people in Ireland looking for someone to have a baby with. In a girl meets boy's sperm kinda way.

    I would imagine there are a whole load of potential downsides in having a child with what is basically a stranger. I dunno if you're gay, but I have a notion that it's more common with gay people who want to have kids. Though maybe I've just been watching too much telly :) Could be an avenue to do your research in though!


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    digiology
    Registered Users Posts: 180 ✭✭digiology


    Orion, yeah I suppose so, though I'm not sure it matters how the child comes into existence (except maybe when it comes to legal issues).

    Teyla, I don't necessarily mean a stranger, I could only see it working if they knew and trusted each other very well.


    In many ways this just seems sensible, there is no risk of breaking up a family any more than it might be from the beginning and prospective parents don't need to be waiting for their perfect soulmate before having a family.


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    Sleepy
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    And what happens if you meet your perfect soulmate and they want a 'normal' family? Or aren't interested in dating a single parent with such baggage? Or you reduce your chances to meet that partner in the first place due to the time commitment of being a parent?

    In the ideal world these things obviously wouldn't be an issue but this is the real world which is far from ideal and often downright cruel.

    Not saying I agree with those viewpoints by the way, I've every respect for single parents (I've had a child with and am marrying one!) but it's a tough life that most wouldn't choose.


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