Would you date someone with a disability?

CrazyRabbit

I have done so in the past (she lost her left leg below the knee).

It depends on a lot of things really. It's impossible to give an absolute Yes/No answer. Let's just say that I'm open to the possibility.

Queen-Mise

It would depend on the disability. I watched some of the show the other night - and the guy with Tourettes was very dateable. He was a really nice lad.
I'd find the guy with Aspergers hard work - I am far too messy & disorganised for someone who needs that much of their life structured & consistent.

The attitude of the blond girl was horrid - her head was stuck in her ass, not a girl I would like to spend any time with never mind date (you know what I mean:p).


What about people with severe scarring? Would people have any problem with something that is pure aesthetics?

Medusa22

Giselle wrote: »

Someone with a Cork accent? Absolutely not under any circumstances.*





*joke.:)

That means that I have two disabilities then!

CL7

Depends on the disability and the person.

cloptrop

Me and a few mates were drinking in a pub one afternoon . He has a bit of a problem with getting wasted and was on loads of e and everything . He was talking to a gang of people one of them in a wheelchair. During the silence between songs on the dukebox he was heard asking the girl in the wheelchair if she had feelings in her pussy . The funniest thing was the manner in which he said it , real seductive like . She was really embarrassed , not cool dude.
He is a drunken nuissance but a legend . Hed of dated her.

Robdude

Most people are going to think of someone who is physically attractive, smart, funny, rich, successful, great to be around, who has a limp....and say, 'Yes, I would!'

But mostly, no they wouldn't

Coriolanus

I'm dating an American. I think that counts.

Dudess

Robdude wrote: »

Most people are going to think of someone who is physically attractive, smart, funny, rich, successful, great to be around, who has a limp....and say, 'Yes, I would!'

But mostly, no they wouldn't

How do you know? Your own take isn't necessarily everyone else's. That's called projecting.

Halloran springs

I just watched that show, the little blonde girl had a seriously bad attitude problem, I think she actually said at one point "I'd rather date someone without a disability" !! And yet expects people to take her seriously.

In contrast, her date was adorable and had a great attitude. It goes to show that personality and confidence play a large part in attraction. I personally would look past a disability if the disabled person themselves wasn't constantly hung up about it.

xsiborg

Robdude wrote: »

Most people are going to think of someone who is physically attractive, smart, funny, rich, successful, great to be around, who has a limp....and say, 'Yes, I would!'

But mostly, no they wouldn't

you're describing me to a tee, except you left out the bit about me being married to a ferociously hot girl who couldn't give a fiddlers that i walk like forrest gump because she's not an immature gobshíte!

Temptamperu

I think i would although me being Bi-polar means most people would be wary dating me... Its a hard life loving you is what my girlfriend says.

RainbowRose81

Very very very vague, did the op see the definition of disability.

The world health organisation defines disabilies.. "Disabilities is an umbrella term, covering impairments, activity limitations, and participation restrictions. An impairment is a problem in body function or structure; an activity limitation is a difficulty encountered by an individual in executing a task or action; while a participation restriction is a problem experienced by an individual in involvement in life situations. Thus disability is a complex phenomenon, reflecting an interaction between features of a person’s body and features of the society in which he or she lives.

Chuck Stone

It depends. I like a woman to be able to carry me home from the pub on her back when we get pissed together so if she could pass that test then yes.

recylingbin

In alot of ways, women are retarded and often mental, so I guess I already do.

Dudess

I'm guessing you don't.

Chuck Stone

50% of the world's population dissed in one little sentence.

*shakes head*

Snowie

Ive got A.D.D which is behavioral disability in terms of hard to live with, depends I'm need tidy clean, full moon means il be up all night and i can't sit still, My right knee bounces up and down when i concentrate .. I get very excited easily, Ive since discovered that self medicating marjauna can be help full a shame its illegal I think if it was aloud to use it for that reason I would probably be a lot more relaxed..
But sure in terms of who i am it don't effect me that much i dunno...

but depends I would but... I'm sure it could be strained at times, but any one that does fair play to them...

Dj Stiggie

I have CF as well, and for me it would depend.

I wouldn't date someone with CF due to cross-infection. But I'd probably go out with someone who was blind or deaf or something that didn't immobilise them.

And for everyone saying they would have no problem with it, I've gone out with girls who got really freaked out when they found out I have CF, even though they had no idea before I told them, others who felt they needed to care for me then, and one girl recently who seemed to think she had to compete with me for worse lungs by constantly moaning about problems caused by her smoking, even though I never bring up my condition unless I have to

Galwayguy35

I got a mail from someone on a dating site i am signed up to. When i looked at her profile i saw she was a wheelchair user, ill be honest i didnt reply because i knew deep down that i wouldnt date a person with a disibility. I felt bad about not sending a reply but i just wouldnt have known what to say.

Galwayguy35

cloptrop wrote: »

Me and a few mates were drinking in a pub one afternoon . He has a bit of a problem with getting wasted and was on loads of e and everything . He was talking to a gang of people one of them in a wheelchair. During the silence between songs on the dukebox he was heard asking the girl in the wheelchair if she had feelings in her pussy . The funniest thing was the manner in which he said it , real seductive like . She was really embarrassed , not cool dude.
He is a drunken nuissance but a legend . Hed of dated her.

That was a very ignorant thing to say to someone TBH.

Temptamperu

Chuck Stone wrote: »

50% of the world's population dissed in one little sentence.

*shakes head*

Their is more women than men Chuck, I would say its about 56% split. Could be higher though.

44leto

We all have disabilities and individual handicaps, just some are more severe then others.

Would I date someone with a disability? that would depend on my heart.

sunflower27

Mr.Biscuits wrote: »

Of course.

I think that people that would answer a flat no to such a question - is just a little immature tbh.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e6kJ1ZJbFZo

Interesting about the prize there: 2 photo shoots but no CONTRACT with a top modelling agency, which is always the main prize for the other competitions.

44leto

Another question is, would you ditch your partner if they became disabled. If you go by the oracle of the "stats" a lot of us will develop disabilities.

Ghost Buster

My wife has curly red hair and wears glasses.:eek:

Mrs Garth Brooks

My sister has a disability and she always gets men. The disability isn't noticeable and she throws herself at them. It doesn't stop her.

corktina

yes but my Wife wouldn't be in favour of me doing so.

Katgurl

Yes absolutely.

Ms. Pingui

Physical disability= maybe
Mental disability= no

Dudess

MugMugs wrote: »

AngryBollix wrote: »

MugMugs wrote: »

I'd say there's a fine line tbh

Best avoided then

Probably.

If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has a pretty severe disability, just say it - nothing wrong with that.

grindle

Dudess wrote: »

If you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has a pretty severe disability, just say it - nothing wrong with that.

Exactly.

Severely pretty disabilities FTW.

spurious

Very few people have nothing that some others might call a disability.

Dudess

Giselle wrote: »

Someone with a Cork accent? Absolutely not under any circumstances.*





*joke.:)

It's ok Giselle - I appreciate it but you don't have to pretend you're joking, there is only so much a human can tolerate. :pac:

grindle

spurious wrote: »

Very few people have nothing that some others might call a disability.

We're all disabled liars, apart from the honest disabled.

Brendan97

Whats really hard is when you want to break up with your girlfriend and then she developes a disability or has an accident that confines her to a wheelchair before you can break up
Then if you do break up after, everyone thinks you're a horrible, shallow person

Fluorescence

It really depends on how much "maintenance" (for want of a better term) the disability requires, and how much it would affect day-to-day life.

It's hard to say unless the question is more specific, to be honest.

Dudess

Shortened life expectancy would be one of my biggest concerns.

Gummy Panda

Depends on person and disability.

mikeym

Reminds me of this movie

Nyan Cat

Being deaf itd be stupid if i said 'never' and dismissed the person before i even met them. It depends on who they are as a person. I know how hard it is to be even considered a sexual being just based on being deaf. so i think they deserve to feel at least human.

When a fella who could hear broke up with me after a few years going out he said to me itd be great if you went out with a deaf person, which i ignored at the time but upon reflection it pisses me off to think thats all some people think im good for.

Intellectual disability? No as people said itd feel like taking advantage. Its not fair on them but its not really much diffrrent than a person of authority taking advantage of that poition with someone

Ronin247

CrazyRabbit wrote: »

I have done so in the past (she lost her left leg below the knee).
...................

So how did that work out for you Mr McCartney?

Gummy Panda

Nyan Cat wrote: »

Being deaf itd be stupid if i said 'never' and dismissed the person before i even met them. It depends on who they are as a person. I know how hard it is to be even considered a sexual being just based on being deaf. so i think they deserve to feel at least human.

When a fella who could hear broke up with me after a few years going out he said to me itd be great if you went out with a deaf person, which i ignored at the time but upon reflection it pisses me off to think thats all some people think im good for.

I'm not trying to belittle your disability if this comes across wrong, but being deaf these days shouldn't impact as much due to technology.

When I was college I worked in a pub where two deaf lads drank. They had great looking girlfriends and lots of mates who all could hear. So I don't see why that guy felt you should be limited to deaf people.

Nyan Cat

Gummy Panda wrote: »

I'm not trying to belittle your disability if this comes across wrong, but being deaf these days shouldn't impact as much due to technology.

When I was college I worked in a pub where two deaf lads drank. They had great looking girlfriends and lots of mates who all could hear. So I don't see why that guy felt you should be limited to deaf people.

Oh i agree. Thanks to smartphones, tablets and computers you dont even have to use a notepad to converse although most people i know prefer the notepad. Im post lingually deaf so i can speak.its not like the dude couldnt converse with me.
It does matter in group situations. You cant just chime in. But i manage, pin one person down for a bit and work your way around people. No thats not innuendo,lol.

It goes to show you can work around disabilities.

Robdude

Dudess wrote: »

How do you know? Your own take isn't necessarily everyone else's. That's called projecting.

How do you know I'm wrong? Your own take isn't nessecarily everyone else's?

The answer to my question will also be the answer to your question.

Blue_Seas

Depends on the person and the disability. I'm a tad shallow. Good looking guy in a wheelchair? Yes. Okay looking guy? Wheelchair or not, I'd be aprehensive, and in that case the fact that he's disabled could throw it for me.

Really it does depend on the person, you don't know who you'll end up liking.

--LOS--

I'd say overall it's a yes, obviously depends on the extent of the disability, if something happened to someone I was already going out with I would stand by them for sure.

gordon_gekko

depends , i have asthma which is technically a disability , someone who enjoys going for three mile runs with thier partner might not appreciate my shortcoming

i wouldnt date someone with a severe psychological disorder

Big Nasty

Gummy Panda wrote: »

When I was college I worked in a pub where two deaf lads drank. They had great looking girlfriends and lots of mates who all could hear. So I don't see why that guy felt you should be limited to deaf people.

Deaf people are cnuts at closing time:

'Right there now folks please!'

They just fcukin' sit there ignoring you. :mad:

RiseToTheTop

It depends on the disability. There are some disabilities which are not inhibiting, but others which is not the case.

anplaya

MCMLXXV wrote: »

Deaf people are cnuts at closing time:

'Right there now folks please!'

They just fcukin' sit there ignoring you. :mad:

so are people who can hear,they do the exact same thing,nothing to do with being deaf.