What are people going to think of me?

Mucky.Bucky

I want people's opinions and advice if you have any and something light-hearted all the same so posting it here instead of PI.

Last year I got involved briefly with a man who ended up being a headwreck giving empty promises and imo with his lack of actions a liar. Leaving me in anticipation which built up into frustration when there was nothing there from him. He eventually came back to propose another hook up and I brought things up about his promises and he had an excuse for not fulfilling them. He knew I was annoyed. I was left with a false hope that maybe he would continue with his promises or follow it up with some sort of an action but there was nothing there from him.

My mind was so messed up from all this and I fell into a downwards pit and eventually copping that my leg was pulled. I couldn't figure out why. Imo there is no place for lies.

Anyways I transmitted my annoyance, frustration and black mind back at him in the form of nasty, insulting messages and it was very severe. When others wrong on me I take it in my stride but in this case I snapped and snapped hard. I handled the situation all wrong. I bottled up all these feelings and instead of reaching out, I threw it all back at him. I had that done to me many times where after an arguement the other person throws insults and I know it does nothing. Solves nothing and makes everything worse.

I can't stop locking myself away from the outside world and I need to make an effort to start going out again. However we have some mutual acquaintances and I am terrified of making that step forward.

Battered Mars Bar

What's the question?

Bipolar Joe

Move in with me, my bed is half empty and I'm a clingy bastard who will fucking REFUSE to let you go.

freeze4real

Battered Mars Bar wrote: »

What's the question?

What are people going to think of me?

The King of Moo

Battered Mars Bar wrote: »

What's the question?

"What are people going to think of me?"

OP, I admire you for opening up in the manner you have, but I think this would probably be better being moved to PI as I wouldn't expect a great many serious replies here.

Maybe I'm being overly cynical, but I fear I'm not.

smokedeels

It sounds like you're trying to make something out of a big pile of nothing.

My advice: chill*

*do people still say chill?

Bipolar Joe

I was deathly serious, Moo. Deathly. In fact, I am already tracking Mucky down now.

WindSock

These spam threads are getting more complicated. There's not even a link to the hot sister's dress now.

Jen Pigs Fly

What was the promise he broke?

leggo

So you're a female who fell for the tricks of a bloke who promised a lot and delivered very little?

They'll think...you're exactly the same as every other girl out there who no doubt has done the same at some stage.

Or maybe they'll think you're a dirty auld huuuer, but people can be cruel for no reason sometimes. So don't mind them.

the keen edge

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

Move in with me, my bed is half empty and I'm a clingy bastard who will fucking REFUSE to let you go.

Herr Fritzl, we thought we made it clear, you are not allowed ANY visitors.

mackg

if you have mutual acquaintances and are not talking to them then all they are hearing is his side of it, so tell yours. Messy break ups happen and most people are happy just to mind their own business and not get involved in stuff like this so I wouldn't worry too much.

Temptamperu

xxxJennyxxx wrote: »

What was the promise he broke?

He said, I wont eat crisps in bed... THE BASTARD ATE CRACKERS INSTEAD!!!!

Statistician

people don't care.

Jen Pigs Fly

Maybe you made him a gammy sandwich ...

cruiser178

Mucky.Bucky wrote: »

I want people's opinions and advice if you have any and something light-hearted all the same so posting it here instead of PI.

Last year I got involved briefly with a man who ended up being a headwreck giving empty promises and imo with his lack of actions a liar. Leaving me in anticipation which built up into frustration when there was nothing there from him. He eventually came back to propose another hook up and I brought things up about his promises and he had an excuse for not fulfilling them. He knew I was annoyed. I was left with a false hope that maybe he would continue with his promises or follow it up with some sort of an action but there was nothing there from him.

My mind was so messed up from all this and I fell into a downwards pit and eventually copping that my leg was pulled. I couldn't figure out why. Imo there is no place for lies.

Anyways I transmitted my annoyance, frustration and black mind back at him in the form of nasty, insulting messages and it was very severe. When others wrong on me I take it in my stride but in this case I snapped and snapped hard. I handled the situation all wrong. I bottled up all these feelings and instead of reaching out, I threw it all back at him. I had that done to me many times where after an arguement the other person throws insults and I know it does nothing. Solves nothing and makes everything worse.

I can't stop locking myself away from the outside world and I need to make an effort to start going out again. However we have some mutual acquaintances and I am terrified of making that step forward.

Let me get this right, A guy filled you with lies, false hope and promises. You then sent a few nasty messages? if that's it hold your head up high and fcuk what anyone thinks, meaning its not you your "mutual acquaintances" will think is a dope.

FloatingVoter

Move on, OP....I'd imagine he has.

Mucky.Bucky

leggo wrote: »

So you're a female who fell for the tricks of a bloke who promised a lot and delivered very little?

They'll think...you're exactly the same as every other girl out there who no doubt has done the same at some stage.

I was severely fcuked crazy though. Doubt anybody would have been as fcuked as I was. I was cruel.

branbee

OP- just ask yourself will all this matter in five years time, if the answer is no then stop worrying!

If the answer is yes i dunno what to say coz i always answer no! The majority of stuff that seems to matter now will never still be an issue in five years time so why spend so much time worrying about it now. It just ruins your day and doesn't help what will happen one bit.


Im assuming i should be giving a witty AH answer but I got nothin- what will the people of AH think of me!

Jen Pigs Fly

Lesbianism is the way to go, at least with girls you know where you stand.

Sappa

Mucky.Bucky wrote: »

I want people's opinions and advice if you have any and something light-hearted all the same so posting it here instead of PI.

Last year I got involved briefly with a man who ended up being a headwreck giving empty promises and imo with his lack of actions a liar. Leaving me in anticipation which built up into frustration when there was nothing there from him. He eventually came back to propose another hook up and I brought things up about his promises and he had an excuse for not fulfilling them. He knew I was annoyed. I was left with a false hope that maybe he would continue with his promises or follow it up with some sort of an action but there was nothing there from him.

My mind was so messed up from all this and I fell into a downwards pit and eventually copping that my leg was pulled. I couldn't figure out why. Imo there is no place for lies.

Anyways I transmitted my annoyance, frustration and black mind back at him in the form of nasty, insulting messages and it was very severe. When others wrong on me I take it in my stride but in this case I snapped and snapped hard. I handled the situation all wrong. I bottled up all these feelings and instead of reaching out, I threw it all back at him. I had that done to me many times where after an arguement the other person throws insults and I know it does nothing. Solves nothing and makes everything worse.

I can't stop locking myself away from the outside world and I need to make an effort to start going out again. However we have some mutual acquaintances and I am terrified of making that step forward.

That`s your dilemma,quit feeling sorry for yourself and forget about what others think of you,there are folks with disfigurements who face the world every day with a smile because they just don`t give a **** what others think of them but rather value what they think of themselves.

Mucky.Bucky

cruiser178 wrote: »

Let me get this right, A guy filled you with lies, false hope and promises. You then sent a few nasty messages? if that's it hold your head up high and fcuk what anyone thinks, meaning its not you your "mutual acquaintances" will think is a dope.

A few hundred maybe. I didn't count.

cruiser178

Mucky.Bucky wrote: »

I was severely fcuked crazy though. Doubt anybody would have been as fcuked as I was. I was cruel.

For gods sake delete this post before Bipolarjoe sees it

biko

OP, please use Personal Issues forum.