Levels of love

lanomist

I recently came back from the States after a short holiday. While there i met some cousins for the first time and after only about two days they were telling me they loved me. How could they love me ?They dont even know me.Before i came home even some of their friends were telling me the same. It got me thinking about the way the word Love is used in such a casual and flippant manner.Performers telling their audiences that they love them ! Religious leaders telling their congregations they love them. Politicians telling party members they love them.How can you love someone you do not even know ? At the top level of love i would put Parents, wife and children and grandchildren.At the next level i would put siblings, some Uncles Aunts and cousins. At that point in my opinion the word love ends and changes to like. !!

retalivity

i love cake

D1stant

Love this thread

Praetorian Saighdiuir

I cake love

MickySticks

Love yore Ma's diddys

stupidusername

I agree OP, it's thrown around like a greeting nowadays. I passed a group of teens the other day, a couple of them were leaving, and one of the girls hugged one of the lads, said love you. you could tell by her body language that it wasn't a boyfriend.

I may say it about things that I love, but I don't say it to people very often at all. though, that's probably not good either.

1966

I've loved you all my life :P

harvester of sorrow

Me balls are full of love.

forfuxsake

Love is a chemical reaction, common among family members, close friends and sexual partners.

It is also a synonym for

fancy/want to fúck - I love the new girl
enjoy - I love Ben and Jerrys
like - I love all my mates
respect - I love my new history professor
sex = we made sweet anal love all night long

ChunkyLover_53

I Love Scotch

Scothchy Scotchy Scotch

WoollyRedHat

lanomist wrote: »

I recently came back from the States after a short holiday. While there i met some cousins for the first time and after only about two days they were telling me they loved me. How could they love me ?They dont even know me.Before i came home even some of their friends were telling me the same. It got me thinking about the way the word Love is used in such a casual and flippant manner.Performers telling their audiences that they love them ! Religious leaders telling their congregations they love them. Politicians telling party members they love them.How can you love someone you do not even know ? At the top level of love i would put Parents, wife and children and grandchildren.At the next level i would put siblings, some Uncles Aunts and cousins. At that point in my opinion the word love ends and changes to like. !!

Aha! So you do love your cousins!

forfuxsake

ChunkyLover_53 wrote: »

I Love Scotch

Scothchy Scotchy Scotch

and chunkiness surely?

Eathrin

I love lamp.

CavanCrew

Rather a lot of love than a lot of hate !

LOVE U BBZ XOXOXOX.

Ficheall

With the overuse and consequent depreciation leading to the creation of such awful distinctions as "I love you but I'm not in love with you..."

ihsb

I love my family, my friends and my OH. I cannot imagine having friends around that I didn't love.

forfuxsake

Ficheall wrote: »

With the overuse and consequent depreciation leading to the creation of such awful distinctions as "I love you but I'm not in love with you..."

so do you love yore ma?

it's a necessary distinction

ejmaztec

lanomist wrote: »

I recently came back from the States after a short holiday. While there i met some cousins for the first time and after only about two days they were telling me they loved me. How could they love me ?They dont even know me.Before i came home even some of their friends were telling me the same. It got me thinking about the way the word Love is used in such a casual and flippant manner.Performers telling their audiences that they love them ! Religious leaders telling their congregations they love them. Politicians telling party members they love them.How can you love someone you do not even know ? At the top level of love i would put Parents, wife and children and grandchildren.At the next level i would put siblings, some Uncles Aunts and cousins. At that point in my opinion the word love ends and changes to like. !!

Is one of your cousins called Cletus, and can he play the banjo?

Togepi

Eathrin wrote: »

I love lamp.

Do you really love lamp or are you just saying that because you saw it? :cool:

Latchy

The cute girl in the bakery shop always greets me with a ' hiya love ' but not in a stoopid ,sloppy way so I don't mind ...ffs she look like Britney Spears so why would I

John Doe1

This one goes out to the one I love
This one goes out to the one 've left behind
A simple prop to occupy my time
This one goes out to the one I love

FIRE

Posy

I love my brick.

forfuxsake

Latchy wrote: »

The cute girl in the bakery shop always greets me with a ' hiya love ' but not in a stoopid ,sloppy way so I don't mind ...ffs she look like Britney Spears so why would I

Does she have big baps?

Cassidy28

I love my ass

John Doe1

forfuxsake wrote: »

Does she have big baps?

I heard she was an (apple) tart

HazDanz

ihsb wrote: »

I love my family, my friends and my OH. I cannot imagine having friends around that I didn't love.

No liking? Just striaght to love? What a beautiful open heart you have ihsb.

TeddyTedson

thread is full of incest right from the get go:eek:

Latchy

forfuxsake wrote: »

Does she have big baps?

Yea ...sprinkled with wheatgerm to .

Snowie

I love lots of stuff

ihsb

HazDanz wrote: »

No liking? Just striaght to love? What a beautiful open heart you have ihsb.

Friends are those people I have known for years and tell everything to. I have about five of them. Everyone else is an acquaintance to me.

And yes my heart is very open.

BASHIR

The love between a man and a woman, or the love a man has for a fine cuban cigar?

the_monkey

I don't say I love men much, but I do Love Fernando Torres.

HazDanz

the_monkey wrote: »

I don't say I love men much, but I do Love Fernando Torres.

Is it because he's scoring goals again or because of his lovely preened blonde hair?

token101

lanomist wrote: »

I recently came back from the States after a short holiday. While there i met some cousins for the first time and after only about two days they were telling me they loved me. How could they love me ?They dont even know me.Before i came home even some of their friends were telling me the same. It got me thinking about the way the word Love is used in such a casual and flippant manner.Performers telling their audiences that they love them ! Religious leaders telling their congregations they love them. Politicians telling party members they love them.How can you love someone you do not even know ? At the top level of love i would put Parents, wife and children and grandchildren.At the next level i would put siblings, some Uncles Aunts and cousins. At that point in my opinion the word love ends and changes to like. !!

Maybe you're just a ride

MaroonAndGreen

its said way too much

Eathrin

MaroonAndGreen wrote: »

its said way too much

Alright but it's not a crime either. I wouldn't stop someone saying "I love football" mid-sentence to question whether they value football as much as their closest.
The one exaggeration that really annoys me thoughts when people say literally. "I literally died". Did you now? Feck off.

Togepi

Eathrin wrote: »

Alright but it's not a crime either. I wouldn't stop someone saying "I love football" mid-sentence to question whether they value football as much as their closest.
The one exaggeration that really annoys me thoughts when people say literally. "I literally died". Did you now? Feck off.

Literally is the worst. 'The crowd is literally going mental.' Really? :rolleyes:

Frynge

retalivity wrote: »

i love cake

In Russia cake love you

Jammy Donut

I'm not the only one thinking OPs cousin is into incest am I?


Sowwi OP

jiltloop

lanomist wrote: »

I recently came back from the States after a short holiday. While there i met some cousins for the first time and after only about two days they were telling me they loved me. How could they love me ?They dont even know me.Before i came home even some of their friends were telling me the same. It got me thinking about the way the word Love is used in such a casual and flippant manner.Performers telling their audiences that they love them ! Religious leaders telling their congregations they love them. Politicians telling party members they love them.How can you love someone you do not even know ? At the top level of love i would put Parents, wife and children and grandchildren.At the next level i would put siblings, some Uncles Aunts and cousins. At that point in my opinion the word love ends and changes to like. !!

That's strange, you would love your siblings less than parents, wife children and grandchildren? For me they would be on at least the same level. I'd certainly love my siblings more than "some uncles, aunts and cousins". Do you not get on too well with your siblings?

Battered Mars Bar

I think females can be flippant about love. Are these cousins female? I think men take longer to fall in love, real love and it's deeper and more complex than what women understand of the word.

For example, men sometimes commit suicide when relationships end, I've never heard of a woman doing this. I think men have deeper emotions in respect of love, something a woman could never understand imho.

.SONIC.

brick love lamp

johndaman66

Eathrin wrote: »

The one exaggeration that really annoys me thoughts when people say literally. "I literally died". Did you now? Feck off.

Or just as bad is when people say "its the worst thing ever". NO, getting a few grey hairs doing i your hamstring is not the worst thing ever. On the other hand if you had all the limbs pulled apart in your body or burying one of your children.

johndaman66

Battered Mars Bar wrote: »

I think females can be flippant about love. Are these cousins female? I think men take longer to fall in love, real love and it's deeper and more complex than what women understand of the word.

For example, men sometimes commit suicide when relationships end, I've never heard of a woman doing this. I think men have deeper emotions in respect of love, something a woman could never understand imho.

Your well and truly opening up a can of worms there. Although I think theres a certain level of foundation in the point you make I do see it as too much of a generalisation all the same. I think you need to look at each individual as opposed to the two genders

duiggers

Eathrin wrote: »

I love lamp.

Do you really love that lamp?

Battered Mars Bar

johndaman66 wrote: »

Your well and truly opening up a can of worms there. Although I think theres a certain level of foundation in the point you make I do see it as too much of a generalisation all the same. I think you need to look at each individual as opposed to the two genders

I agree, but I did intend it to be a generalisation and why not. I think it's safe to generalise men and women as we're fundamentally different.

Perhaps, females can better manage and deal with their emotions. I've heard the argument that women can open up and have better support from their peers than men. Which is fine but I don't buy it. We know the adage of "forgetting the pain of birth" maybe they simply forget emotions and feelings quicker and more easily than men.

Or maybe as I was originally suggesting, they don't feel love to as a deep a level as men do. Maybe that's why the best pieces of work in terms of art & music throughout history are from men and not women. Is it because a womans passion is not as passionate as a mans.

wilkie2006

lanomist wrote: »

I recently came back from the States after a short holiday. While there i met some cousins for the first time and after only about two days they were telling me they loved me. How could they love me ?

Hmm, are your cousins from the deep south? Perhaps they weren't saying "we love you" but rather, "we loved you" in the biblical sense. Did you wake up with a sore ar$e and feelings of guilt in the morning?

johndaman66

Battered Mars Bar wrote: »

I agree, but I did intend it to be a generalisation and why not. I think it's safe to generalise men and women as we're fundamentally different.

Perhaps, females can better manage and deal with their emotions. I've heard the argument that women can open up and have better support from their peers than men. Which is fine but I don't buy it. We know the adage of "forgetting the pain of birth" maybe they simply forget emotions and feelings quicker and more easily than men.

If you are to generalise I would certainly tend to agree with you Battered Mars Bar. From experience of relationships I've being in and those of friends that have failed it would certainly seem as if women tend to bounce back quicker usually, or so it would seem anyway. I suppose the fact that men are more inclined to bottle up their emotions and not deal with them effectively doesn't help though.

Battered Mars Bar wrote: »

Or maybe as I was originally suggesting, they don't feel love to as a deep a level as men do. Maybe that's why the best pieces of work in terms of art & music throughout history are from men and not women. Is it because a womans passion is not as passionate as a mans.

I'm not entirely sure if I follow your point on that one. Although I would again agree that men generally tend to possess deeper levels of love and passion I'm note entirely sure how this translates into higher levels of artistic talent....perhaps there is some correlation though

mongdesade

Love comes in spurts :eek:

wilkie2006

mongdesade wrote: »

Love comes in spurts :eek:

I like to let love wash over me.

Galwayguy35

I think women say it much more than men, my ex was always telling me she loved me and would be expecting me to say it back. But to me it sounds soppy to be saying it everyday to someone.