Funerals

paddyandy

Clergy prefer Funerals too because people are thoughtful at a graveside more so than any place else
The Romance of Death is not the same ;the rough looking gravediggers
have been replaced by mechanical diggers ....not the same thing at all .
How can ya make a decent horror film with a jcb yoke at all .

Ultra Classic

A funeral is the celebration of a life, not the occurrence of the death. It is a "vehicle" for the family to grieve, surrounded by family and friends.
The amount of "humanist" (non-religious) funeral services is on the increase in Ireland. What people have to remember is that when you pass away your funeral arrangements will be arranged by a family member or a person nominated by you. They only way to have your own wishes fulfilled is by you making your own funeral arrangements. A very prudent thing to do is to talk to your family and discuss what you would like.

Any funeral director in Ireland will gladly meet with you and put your wishes down on paper (no payment required). Once this is done you can tell your family you have your funeral planned and who your funeral director is.

The most unusual thing, in my opinion, is that Funerals take place so quickly in Ireland. The deceased is possibly buried within 48 hours of their passing! This short time span does not give the family to come to terms with their loss. The family are in deep shock, no matter how well prepared they thought they were, and before they know it the funeral is over.

Why do families do this to themselves ?? In the UK it's not unusual to have the funeral one or even two weeks after the death.

Galwayguy35

Ultra Classic wrote: »

A funeral is the celebration of a life, not the occurrence of the death. It is a "vehicle" for the family to grieve, surrounded by family and friends.
The amount of "humanist" (non-religious) funeral services is on the increase in Ireland. What people have to remember is that when you pass away your funeral arrangements will be arranged by a family member or a person nominated by you. They only way to have your own wishes fulfilled is by you making your own funeral arrangements. A very prudent thing to do is to talk to your family and discuss what you would like.

Any funeral director in Ireland will gladly meet with you and put your wishes down on paper (no payment required). Once this is done you can tell your family you have your funeral planned and who your funeral director is.

The most unusual thing, in my opinion, is that Funerals take place so quickly in Ireland. The deceased is possibly buried within 48 hours of their passing! This short time span does not give the family to come to terms with their loss. The family are in deep shock, no matter how well prepared they thought they were, and before they know it the funeral is over.

Why do families do this to themselves ?? In the UK it's not unusual to have the funeral one or even two weeks after the death.

What would be the point in dragging a funeral out over 2 weeks?

It's not going to make the fact that a family member has died any easier to deal with .

girl in the striped socks

Ultra Classic wrote: »

A funeral is the celebration of a life, not the occurrence of the death. It is a "vehicle" for the family to grieve, surrounded by family and friends.
The amount of "humanist" (non-religious) funeral services is on the increase in Ireland. What people have to remember is that when you pass away your funeral arrangements will be arranged by a family member or a person nominated by you. They only way to have your own wishes fulfilled is by you making your own funeral arrangements. A very prudent thing to do is to talk to your family and discuss what you would like.

Any funeral director in Ireland will gladly meet with you and put your wishes down on paper (no payment required). Once this is done you can tell your family you have your funeral planned and who your funeral director is.

The most unusual thing, in my opinion, is that Funerals take place so quickly in Ireland. The deceased is possibly buried within 48 hours of their passing! This short time span does not give the family to come to terms with their loss. The family are in deep shock, no matter how well prepared they thought they were, and before they know it the funeral is over.

Why do families do this to themselves ?? In the UK it's not unusual to have the funeral one or even two weeks after the death.

Can you imagine what two weeks of whiskey or brandy would do to someone? Even a seasoned campaigner would be broke up after it.

Chorcai

My grandmother died in August this year and my grandfather in Feb '11 both were waked at our home, there were nearly 600 people for my grandmother and over 700 people came to the house for my grandfather over the 3 days. We wouldn't have had people telling us fond memories or the great stories of them both, if we held it from a funeral home.

SafeSurfer

Do you ever wonder why people rarely take photographs at funerals? Weddings, birthdays, christenings but not funerals.

I know they are not happy occasions, but why are we as people only eager to record our happy moments?

Even recordings of eulogies would be as interesting to future family members as the bestman/bridesmaid speech at a wedding.

donegal_road

Irish comedian Dave Allen said that shortly after he first learned to bless himself he was at a family funeral. At the grave-side he thought the priest said 'in the name of the father, and the son, and into the hole he goes amen'

Naid23

As bad as this sounds, I'm a bit of a funeral dodger. Cant deal with them tbh - I go to close family ones etc but if my mams Great aunt who she hasnt seen in 20 years dies then No!..

My poor friend has 2 just this weekend, one today then another one on monday - shes just waiting on the third one now! :(

Canis Lupus

SafeSurfer wrote: »

Do you ever wonder why people rarely take photographs at funerals? Weddings, birthdays, christenings but not funerals.

I know they are not happy occasions, but why are we as people only eager to record our happy moments?

Even recordings of eulogies would be as interesting to future family members as the bestman/bridesmaid speech at a wedding.

Old thread is old but I have a mate who was at a funeral and apparently there was one dude there with a camera acting like it was a wedding. Later on all the pics went up on his facebook. Apparently they didn't last long but that has to rank as of the most hilariously inappropriate things I have ever heard.

gobnaitolunacy

SafeSurfer wrote: »

Do you ever wonder why people rarely take photographs at funerals? Weddings, birthdays, christenings but not funerals.

Unless it's Michael Collins lying in state, it's just plain creepy.

Like, who, esp. a family member wants to re-live that day? Was offered a video of a funeral of a close family member by a local camera nut, twas a case of 'thanks but no thanks'.

Ultra Classic

emer_b wrote: »

Anyone been to a humanist funeral? Thats what I'd like to have but I think I'd have to have it all planned out in advance as I couldn't expect anyone to organise it for me when I die.
Its just a funeral without the religion really but still gives people the chance to grieve/sympathise and generally follow the Irish format so that everyone doesn't get completely confused!
Also, if you're not cremated, where can you be buried of you haven't had a religious funeral. I know our main local graveyard is run by the council, but isn't it catholic consecrated ground in most cases??

You can be buried in almost any cemetery without religious ceremonies. The only exception may be a Churchyard. Most Cemeteries have been blessed but I don't think they are considered "Consecrated" ground.IMHO.

paulbolg

true wrote: »

whats the weirdest thing anyone wanted in a coffin with them...eg anyone ever request beforehand they wanted to have a whistle or mobile phone?

and ever heard any stories of what condition the remains were in if they were dug up after a few years?

apologies in only gettin back to you now.

alot of people would place sentimental things in the coffin. i often seen a remote control for the telly (Strange i know), alcohol, pictures, cigarettes and a lighter, and often yes a phone. alot of people now request that if a loved one is deceased before the other and if cremated that their ashes be placed in the coffin for burial so they are both together.

and also when is comes to exhumation or as u quote dug up.

alot of it depends on the area in which a person is buried. if it is dry or wet land. ive exhumed people who have been buried since the 70's and have been in almost perfect condition due to the dry land. and ive exhumed people who have been buried only a few years and its not a nice thing.
hope this helps