I discovered my bf has been downloading porn through unethical means...what to do?

Shryke

Just checking her out on Pornhub there. Niiiiice. She's with some big black guy. Does your boyfriend like big black guys?

iguana

grindle wrote: »

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It's real, but they only track highly-seeded, popular material.
They knew I downloaded Game of Thrones, but that's all.

So what you are saying is that Brutal Dildo and the crass Hispanic ladies are just the really, really popular stuff he's downloaded. All of the more obscure and even crasser stuff he's into is still hidden from the OP.:cool:

120_Minutes

You should see the stuff my wife downloads! :eek:

omgitsthelazor

Pushtrak wrote: »

I don't know you, so this is a genuine question. If he hadn't agreed to it, would you have pressed the issue or would you have been ok with it? He might not have wanted a protracted discussion on it, to the point where he'd have to go along with it anyway.

Why does it even matter what I'd have said, it doesn't justify lying to your girlfriend. Are you trying to say that its ok to lie when the truth may not be received well?

btard

Sacramento wrote: »

"Esperanza Gomez is a Latina Pornstar born on the 13th of May, 1983 in the powdery hills of Columbia. She is a former Bunny of the infamous Playboy mansion and had the privilege of winning Miss Playboy TV in 2005. Her delicious 36D rack of delights coupled with jaw dropping beauty has caused a stir in the US where she has been working on some intimate projects. The lovely Latina is not at all camera shy, and claims to be a real life f*ck bunny and voyeur. She can be seen in a number of saucy outdoor scenes with Bang Bros where she flaunts a perfectly round ass tanned pert tits and takes a whole heap of hardcore c*ck."

I came.

omgitsthelazor

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

There were quite a few with a woman called "Esperanza Gomez" who I assume is hispanic based on the name. The distasteful part was the description of what was being done to said woman in the title.
It has nothing to do with nationality puuuulease, although there was none mentioned.

Ah no it's just there's a site of one nationality doing "distasteful things" that I thought it might've been. Quick look and I can't see any scenes that one was in that sounds particularly bad. Unless the F in MILF is insulting. :pac:

omgitsthelazor

Sacramento wrote: »

"Esperanza Gomez is a Latina Pornstar born on the 13th of May, 1983 in the powdery hills of Columbia. She is a former Bunny of the infamous Playboy mansion and had the privilege of winning Miss Playboy TV in 2005. Her delicious 36D rack of delights coupled with jaw dropping beauty has caused a stir in the US where she has been working on some intimate projects. The lovely Latina is not at all camera shy, and claims to be a real life f*ck bunny and voyeur. She can be seen in a number of saucy outdoor scenes with Bang Bros where she flaunts a perfectly round ass tanned pert tits and takes a whole heap of hardcore c*ck."

Shryke wrote: »

Just checking her out on Pornhub there. Niiiiice. She's with some big black guy. Does your boyfriend like big black guys?

helpful..

blaze1

Sacramento wrote: »

"Esperanza Gomez is a Latina Pornstar born on the 13th of May, 1983 in the powdery hills of Columbia. She is a former Bunny of the infamous Playboy mansion and had the privilege of winning Miss Playboy TV in 2005. Her delicious 36D rack of delights coupled with jaw dropping beauty has caused a stir in the US where she has been working on some intimate projects. The lovely Latina is not at all camera shy, and claims to be a real life f*ck bunny and voyeur. She can be seen in a number of saucy outdoor scenes with Bang Bros where she flaunts a perfectly round ass tanned pert tits and takes a whole heap of hardcore c*ck."

Cant believe I've not seen her before, thanks op for making Sacramento's post possible with your insane rantings.:cool:

celticcrash

Has the OP no shame, how would you like if every letter that came through your door that was addressed to you was opened by your boyfriend.
If I was him I would dump your ass. Jesus give a man room to breath.
Also at times of stress men are more prone to the five nuckle shuffle, fantasy (****)is a great way to relive stress.

Sonics2k

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Why does it even matter what I'd have said, it doesn't justify lying to your girlfriend. Are you trying to say that its ok to lie when the truth may not be received well?

Are you actually pissed your boyfriend had a ****?

What did you expect? "Sorry sweetheart, I couldn't resist jerking off to this latino chick with dilido shoved in her vag."

Quiet you

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

There were quite a few with a woman called "Esperanza Gomez" who I assume is hispanic based on the name. The distasteful part was the description of what was being done to said woman in the title.
It has nothing to do with nationality puuuulease, although there was none mentioned.

So you demand honesty but spy on him to make sure he's telling the truth all the while making racial generalisations based on names?

omgitsthelazor

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

helpful..

I was proving you right, she is Latina.

omgitsthelazor

dj jarvis wrote: »

funny thing is , if it was the other way around , and HE was checking her internet history and coming up with all this control crap , the law would have been called in a heart beat , and a control order and a ankle tag fitted

could never understand the law in this regard - women stalks man , ah sure shes just worried/cares/loves him to much - but a bloke does it and hes a rapist/joseph fritzl - go figure

by the by , unintentional thread of the week

Excuse me, "control crap"? I'm not trying to control him, requesting a promise and accidentally discovering he broke it is not being controlling. I treat my boyfriend very well.

Hannibal Smith

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Stupid of him to accept if thats what he thought of it. It wouldn't have been an issue if he was just honest, honesty is all I ask.

That isn't a good enough reason to confront him over it. It's a little white lie, I'm wondering if this is an actual relationship....or an online one? Is that why it matters so much?

What honesty have you shown him? What you did is far worse. He didn't do anything underhanded *snigger* or sly on you, what you did was deliberately sneaky, sly and completely dishonest. Don't try and make him feel bad for what you did on him.

Just my opinion of course, if you want to confront him, do it.

omgitsthelazor

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Excuse me, "control crap"? I'm not trying to control him, requesting a promise and accidentally discovering he broke it is not being controlling. I treat my boyfriend very well.

Yes yes, all men want to be deprived of sex then castigated for watching porn.
He is one lucky guy!

mcmoustache

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

The only other person in the house (usually) is me though I wasn't there during the time the stuff was downloaded, it was only him. I don't know if its secure or not, the range on it is pretty weak (it can drop at the far end of the house) so I'd be surprised if neighbours could get at it. Unless they were literally camped in the garden or in a car outside.

Fair enough. You know your stuff so I'm thinking that your suspicions are most likely correct.

Anyway, I think that you should dump him now. Your posts show that you have unrealistic expectations as well as serious trust issues and for these reasons I don't think you're ready to be in a relationship with this guy. I'd even go so far as to say that unless you change, you'll never be able to have a relationship with anyone ever.

Dumping him now will help you assess your personality more objectively and it may also be a good idea to see about some therapy. Another added benefit is that a dumping will save him from being in a relationship with a Suspicious Sue.

It's really for the best.

omgitsthelazor

celticcrash wrote: »

Has the OP no shame, how would you like if every letter that came through your door that was addressed to you was opened by your boyfriend.
If I was him I would dump your ass. Jesus give a man room to breath.
Also at times of stress men are more prone to the five nuckle shuffle, fantasy (****)is a great way to relive stress.

How is unintentionally finding something you weren't supposed to akin to opening every letter? Now you're just being ridiculous. I never went out of my way to snoop until I accidentally found something and had reason to, before this I trusted him. I'm not sure what to think now.

Teyla Emmagan

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

I treat my boyfriend very well.

Bar the fact you spy on him and don't trust him, of course.

Shryke

Seriously though OP, you admit not just to going through his internet history but going through all his stuff? You need to go through his mp3 player... can I ask do you go through his phone much?

Just for fun is a terrible excuse for invading every inch of privacy. Completely not on.
And he has every right to tell you he didn't look at porn tbh. It's none of your business. You don't own him. Build a bridge. I bet you don't tell him everything. If you did he would know you were looking at his internet history. He's not a pet he's a human being.

Pushtrak

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Why does it even matter what I'd have said, it doesn't justify lying to your girlfriend. Are you trying to say that its ok to lie when the truth may not be received well?

If he felt the only outcome of that conversation was you to keep going on about it until he agreed, and he didn't want to agree, what is the shortest course? It isn't something to dump someone over, and stupid arguments that will get nowhere... Get nowhere.

You'll have to fess up about spying though. Either that or your issues with it will come up by you unconsciously and isn't healthy. Oh, not that spying is healthy either.

Coriolanus

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Excuse me, "control crap"? I'm not trying to control him, requesting a promise and accidentally discovering he broke it is not being controlling. I treat my boyfriend very well.

Accidently my as$. Did you also accidently track his ip usage patterns allowing you to accidently confirm in your own head that it was him and not just a mixup with dynamic ips?

token101

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Oh please you don't know me.

Are you.....Mary Whitehouse?

Quiet you

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Excuse me, "control crap"? I'm not trying to control him, requesting a promise and accidentally discovering he broke it is not being controlling. I treat my boyfriend very well.

Accidentally?

dj jarvis

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Excuse me, "control crap"? I'm not trying to control him, requesting a promise and accidentally discovering he broke it is not being controlling. I treat my boyfriend very well.

so installing spy software and checking his history is a accident ???
can i ask what color is the sky in your world ???

sorry love but from the information supplied by YOU , i come to the conclusion that your a control freak - in fact you are a lot worse, but cant say it becasue i cant go back to prison

best troll all week - bravo miss bunny boiler

omgitsthelazor

Sonics2k wrote: »

Are you actually pissed your boyfriend had a ****?

I'm pissed that he lied to me. I feel hurt that he made an empty promise and sad that while I was away it seemed he just happily replaced me with Esperanza Gomez and the dildo partywagon.

Caliden

Username: 'omgitsthelazor'
Registered: May 2012
Posts: 29

And this somehow got to 8 pages.
OP you've either led a sheltered life or you're a decent troll.

If you want serious advice: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1174

MagicMarker

OP, I should warn you, anytime you and your BF are having sex, when he closes his eyes, that means he's thinking of latinos with big dildos.

Quiet you

Quiet you wrote: »

Accidentally?

Easy mistake to make, I mean she just ACCIDENTALLY came across his IP address and then ACCIDENTALLY looked through everything he had downloaded, then ACCIDENTALLY posted the details of it on boards. ACCIDENTALLY. THE WHOLE THING.

omgitsthelazor

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Was wondering if he bootlegged any really bad music that I could playfully tease him about

Oh come on, you were hardly looking for bootlegged music. Deep down you wanted to find some dirt on him. Even ignoring the hundreds of explanations for how you might have found that download history, and assuming he did in fact look at porn while you were away, it's hardly like he was looking at porn featuring a dead family member. He looked at porn at a time when you both said you'd "save" yourselves. It's hardly as bad as checking his IP address' history.

Usually if you go looking for trouble, you'll find some. Give the man a break.

Teyla Emmagan

Caliden wrote: »

Username: 'omgitsthelazor'
Registered: May 2012
Posts: 29

And this somehow got to 8 pages.
OP you've either led a sheltered life or you're a decent troll.

If you want serious advice: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1174

Decent troll I think. Still, there's clearly nothing else going on on AH tonight..

The_Thing

He left the Brutal Dildo stuff there on purpose in order to throw you off the scent of what he's really looking for - bestiality vids.

Pushtrak

Caliden wrote: »

Username: 'omgitsthelazor'
Registered: May 2012
Posts: 29

And this somehow got to 8 pages.
OP you've either led a sheltered life or you're a decent troll.

If you want serious advice: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1174

4 pages.

token101

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Excuse me, "control crap"? I'm not trying to control him, requesting a promise and accidentally discovering he broke it is not being controlling. I treat my boyfriend very well.

Clearly not well enough if he's jacking off to Hispanics being rode by rubber.

wellboytoo

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Oh please you don't know me.

Thank Christ

Pushtrak

token101 wrote: »

Clearly not well enough if he's jacking off to Hispanics being rode by rubber.

That's low. I'll point out the snooping isn't on, but there isn't call for this.

omgitsthelazor

Nevore wrote: »

Accidently my as$. Did you also accidently track his ip usage patterns allowing you to accidently confirm in your own head that it was him and not just a mixup with dynamic ips?

dj jarvis wrote: »

so installing spy software and checking his history is a accident ???
can i ask what color is the sky in your world ???

sorry love but from the information supplied by YOU , i come to the conclusion that your a control freak - in fact you are a lot worse, but cant say it becasue i cant go back to prison

best troll all week - bravo miss bunny boiler

Well its clear people want to make me out to be the bad one in all this, don't let the facts get in your way or anything.

I checked multiple IPs after my initial search from the first IP of his I was able to find showed up the dildo videos. After that I had reason to search for more. Had the first search not showed anything I wouldn't have continued because I love and trust him.

And I never "installed spy software", you'll be claiming I had espionage teams tracking him next.

omgitsthelazor

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

I'm pissed that he lied to me. I feel hurt that he made an empty promise and sad that while I was away it seemed he just happily replaced me with Esperanza Gomez and the dildo partywagon.

Best thing ever.

How Soon Is Now

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

I'm pissed that he lied to me. I feel hurt that he made an empty promise and sad that while I was away it seemed he just happily replaced me with Esperanza Gomez and the dildo partywagon.

Haha Dildo partywagon!!! thats to good :pac:

To be honest he probley just fancied a **** theres feck all u can do about it weather you like it or not

Stop moaning and find a real problem to worry about.

Or become a nun.

mcmoustache

Gummy Panda wrote: »

The internet is for porn so grab your díck and double click

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNARJPNz2CA

Benny_Cake

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Sonics2k wrote: »

Are you actually pissed your boyfriend had a ****?

I'm pissed that he lied to me. I feel hurt that he made an empty promise and sad that while I was away it seemed he just happily replaced me with Esperanza Gomez and the dildo partywagon.

Just wondering if it's possible to hire the dildo partywagon for private parties and functions?

dj jarvis

and women wonder why, when men are asked " what are you thinking "
we say NOTHING
for good reason - you and your troll thread make this point eloquently

( but we are thinking of latino birds being hammered )

MagicMarker

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Well its clear people want to make me out to be the bad one in all this, don't let the facts get in your way or anything.

I checked multiple IPs after my initial search from the first IP of his I was able to find showed up the dildo videos. After that I had reason to search for more. Had the first search not showed anything I wouldn't have continued because I love and trust him.

And I never "installed spy software", you'll be claiming I had espionage teams tracking him next.

LOL

How does he like his bunnies, boiled or deep fried?

omgitsthelazor

MagicMarker wrote: »

OP, I should warn you, anytime you and your BF are having sex, when he closes his eyes, that means he's thinking of latinos with big dildos.

The_Thing wrote: »

He left the Brutal Dildo stuff there on purpose in order to throw you off the scent of what he's really looking for - bestiality vids.

token101 wrote: »

Clearly not well enough if he's jacking off to Hispanics being rode by rubber.

Well I think this has all got unnecessarily nasty and I'm feeling rather upset so I'll leave this thread here. Thank you for those with good intentions in their replies.

dj jarvis

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Well its clear people want to make me out to be the bad one in all this, don't let the facts get in your way or anything.

I checked multiple IPs after my initial search from the first IP of his I was able to find showed up the dildo videos. After that I had reason to search for more. Had the first search not showed anything I wouldn't have continued because I love and trust him.

And I never "installed spy software", you'll be claiming I had espionage teams tracking him next.

oh please , do you even remember what you posted , a good troll never makes such a amateur mistake

BUNNY BOILER

Shryke

He's probably watching porn right now.

celticcrash

The Op remindes me of Annie Wilkes in the Stephen Kings movie Misery.
I bet she grouges out her boyfriends eyes with a rusty spoon.
YOU WONT LIE TO ME AGAIN.

efb

it was all the gay porn yeah?

Hannibal Smith

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

I'm pissed that he lied to me. I feel hurt that he made an empty promise and sad that while I was away it seemed he just happily replaced me with Esperanza Gomez and the dildo partywagon.

He didn't replace you with Ms Gomez and her party wagon, he fancied a tug, went on the internet to get something to make it more enjoyable.

You found something you didn't like. You've had loads of input in this thread from online porn experts it seems telling you it's just something men do and it's nothing against or about you.

omgitsthelazor

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Well I think this has all got unnecessarily nasty and I'm feeling rather upset so I'll leave this thread here. Thank you for those with good intentions in their replies.

You chose AH, we did not choose you.

wellboytoo

Does it count that he only watched the first three minutes of all of the downloads?