I discovered my bf has been downloading porn through unethical means...what to do?

downwithpeace

So he's enjoying porn while your not around, no big deal really but you should consider that he might take you spying on his online activities badly or worse if the ip is shared or someone else uses his computer.

omgitsthelazor

RDM_83 again wrote: »

Its probably better he was looking at porn tbh because that means he's going to bed horny.

Whats the big deal really with the porn anyway, like you let a dude choke you during sex (not that there's anything wrong with that all i can think of is the scene from Peep Show) but he might think you allowed yourself to have someone do something that could be viewed as violent and degrading to you is pretty shocking

Correction, I got asked by a guy if he could do that. It didn't actually happen because I said no.

Also investigating my posting history to dredge that up is an invasion of privacy. :rolleyes:

Sonics2k

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Also investigating my posting history to dredge that up is an invasion of privacy. :rolleyes:

It's really not. It's freely available.

Gosh, it must be nice to be young and naive.

Memory Of 98

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Correction, I got asked by a guy if he could do that. It didn't actually happen because I said no.

Also investigating my posting history to dredge that up is an invasion of privacy. :rolleyes:

You`re on a public forum, whatever you post can be seen by anyone and everyone, forever. Sorry to burst your bubble.

brummytom

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Also investigating my posting history to dredge that up is an invasion of privacy. :rolleyes:

Hahaha, brilliant.

I wasn't sure if you were a troll until this. Kudos.

SafeSurfer

Brutal Dildo is a documentary on the use of highly toxic and non biodegradable plastics in the sex toy industry and their devastating effect on the environment and people of the Indonesian region in which they are manufactured.

So he was just being a sweet sensitive boy all along.

Andy!!

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

I got his IP address and checked it www.youhavedownloaded.com, just out of curiosity.

Wow. Psycho girlfriend alert...

Rabidlamb

Ah, a wind up gone fishin' thread, we all like them, I consider myself a master at the art

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=77331678

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=78560873

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=78324772

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=77933795

You're only on level 1 baby, you may bask at the feet of the master.

RDM_83 again

And by the way I did that because of all the troll accusations earlier in the thread so I was wondering if you were real didn't mean to offend (its only 34 posts so thought it was a possibility)

And that post just stood out lol

Shryke

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

19. I didn't think he would by default, I thought he would because he agreed with my suggestion and said he would. Is it naive to believe your partner?

It's about the most naive thing you could believe after Santa Claus. Every single grown man you have met or will meet for the rest of your life that doesn't live in a hut in the desert watches porn and ****.
This is an absolute truth. Take it into your heart, like a brutal dildo entering a vagina.

arse..biscuits

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

arse..biscuits wrote: »

I haven't had a **** for a few days if you're interested?

I'm interested in you leaving me alone, verrrry interested.

No problem. I'm off look up that latino lady and do what comes naturally safe in the knowledge that if my OH sees my internet hidtory, she won't give a sh*t.
Night.

btard

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

This post makes me sad.
Why do you call what she did "silly romantic ideas", it sounds really cute and what should be in a relationship. It sounded like she cared for you a lot, maybe you should have reassured her that you weren't trying to pull away from her and she would have been less clingy? All she needed was to feel secure that you were hers.

But thanks for sharing, I wouldn't like to be thought of that way by my man.

It got too tiring trying to reasure her all the time. I felt smothered. She didn't get my sense of humour either. I liked to tease her good humourdly but she didn't understand I was only joking with her. She would get all sulky and I'd have spend ages trying to explain what I meant. Honesty was a big thing with her too, but if I was honest about some things she could get upset so it was easier to just lie sometimes. I never lied about my feelings towards her just what I considered unimportant stuff. It got so I was afraid to be myself anymore. Don't think too badly of your b/f. He may have wanted to keep his promise but guys are wired differently. Don't worry about his choice of porn either. I've watched much worse and consider myself a pussy cat. I'm going to lose any AH cred I have by saying this, but you sound like a really sweet girl and he's lucky to have you. I wouldn't confront him about it, or quiz him about that time so he has to lie to you. The more he loves you the more he will lie to you. Love him for how he is and remember he's just a guy and not perfect.

Fozzydog3

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

I got his IP address and checked it www.youhavedownloaded.com, just out of curiosity. Was wondering if he bootlegged any really bad music that I could playfully tease him about but wasn't happy with what I saw.

I don't trust my boyfriend because I have low self esteem not only that I was tricked by a website so I'm dumb aswell as needy


Especially since the downloaded stuff was dated and a lot of it was around December, a time of emotional significance for us (which I wont get into) that he absolutely should not have been looking for porn.

It was dated ? Case closed detective mcneedy

Not looking for in desperate need of relationship advice or anything just thoughts on the dilemma, do I let on what I know or should I not? How bad ethically is checking someones online history?

:pac:

El Weirdo

And we're done here.


In my opinion, you have issues, OP - take them to the correct forum...


... or just download some porn and fud yourself off.