The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

HellFireClub

mood wrote: »

I used a free site so profiles tend to be better I think. I generally judge by the overall tone of a profile. Why are you interested in such superficial girls anyway?

I just think it's a crying shame that's all, seeing pics you really like, reading a profile that resonates with you, only to get to the bottom and read a list of childish qualifications. As I said, do you ever see them hanging out of lads profile's? I doubt it very much!

mood

HellFireClub wrote: »

Just think about the sheer stupidity of this for a moment, (the petty rules that I've been referring to)...

You're out in a late bar and get chatting to a girl, she asks you to remove your shoes and stand up against a wall as she produces a measuring tape from the handbag to measure your height!

Or you are chatting to a girl on a night out and swop numbers, next day you get a text asking for your qualifications!

Do either of these scenarios sound credible or normal to you?!?!?!?

But surely it's a bullet dodged??? Why on earth you would be put out by not having a chance with such superficial women???

Galvasean

Chazz Michael Michaels wrote: »

Ok. Interesting girls who want something in-between sex and marriage.

In that case I'd recommend okcupid.com
The quality pf profiles tends to be quite good (generally well filled out and interesting). The only problem is it hasn't that many users so if you are not located in Dublin you might find it hard to find many people.

If OKC doesn't work out you could give plentyoffish.com a go. It's a bit more 'meat market'ish with lots of frankly, rubbish profiles swamping out the good ones, so more searching/effort is required to find interesting people. That said, there are so many profiles on it that with some perseverance you're bound to find something good eventually.

mood

HellFireClub wrote: »

I just think it's a crying shame that's all, seeing pics you really like, reading a profile that resonates with you, only to get to the bottom and read a list of childish qualifications. As I said, do you ever see them hanging out of lads profile's? I doubt it very much!

Yes I have but I don't take much notice and just move on. I'm not going to waste my time on people who are so naive and superficial etc. I don't know why you do!

Galvasean

mood wrote: »

But surely it's a bullet dodged??? Why on earth you would be put out by not having a chance with such superficial women???

Exactly what I was thinking.
When I see a diva esque list at the end of a profile I don't think, "Oh darn, I don't meet her criteria". I think, "Better not message her as she's a bit of a twat."
If anything those demanding lists are a great way to save time by identifying overly superficial people beforehand and subsequently avoiding them.

HellFireClub

mood wrote: »

Yes I have but I don't take much notice and just move on. I'm not going to waste my time on people who are so naive and superficial etc. I don't know why you do!

Of course you don't take notice, because you being female, you would rarely see or run into what I'm talking about, because guys wouldn't dare be so flaky in relation to their profile content, because they wouldn't get a single message or a single reply. As I said before, OD is a very different experience for guys as it is for girls. Meanwhile for guys, it's actually difficult to find a profile for a girl that you find attractive, where the profile sounds decent, AND where there are not one or several per-requisites stapled onto the profile. I've found that it's the latter point that is the show stopper for me. Again, you can't relate to it because guys don't carry on like this, so you don't see what I'm talking about.

mood

HellFireClub wrote: »

Of course you don't take notice, because you being female, you would rarely see or run into what I'm talking about, because guys wouldn't dare be so flaky in relation to their profile content, because they wouldn't get a single message or a single reply. As I said before, OD is a very different experience for guys as it is for girls. Meanwhile for guys, it's actually difficult to find a profile for a girl that you find attractive, where the profile sounds decent, AND where there are not one or several per-requisites stapled onto the profile. I've found that it's the latter point that is the show stopper for me. Again, you can't relate to it because guys don't carry on like this, so you don't see what I'm talking about.

Guys do carry on like that. I have seen it plenty of times. But unlike you I don't let it bother me. I don't waste me time with unsuitable profiles or people. I simple look at the next profile which is what you should do.

HellFireClub

mood wrote: »

Guys do carry on like that. I have seen it plenty of times. But unlike you I don't let it bother me. I don't waste me time with unsuitable profiles or people. I simple look at the next profile which is what you should do.

I do, and I run into the same thing!

EDIT: And others on the thread also seem to, so it isn't just me as you are portraying it!

mood

HellFireClub wrote: »

I do, and I run into the same thing!

EDIT: And others on the thread also seem to, so it isn't just me as you are portraying it!

But you are the one going on and on about it. Why waste you time? Just accept the fact that there is a certain amount of bull sh*te that you will come across with OD and try to ignore it. Or else just forget about OD if it bothers you so much. Life is too short.

HellFireClub

mood wrote: »

But you are the one going on and on about it. Why waste you time? Just accept the fact that there is a certain amount of bull sh*te that you will come across with OD and try to ignore it. Or else just forget about OD if it bothers you so much. Life is too short.

I do accept the fact you mention, I also wish to discuss it on here to get a feel for the views of others on thread, on the subject, given that the thread is for discussing the pro's AND con's of OD, if that's quite ok with yourself that is. :rolleyes:

Panthro

mood wrote: »

But you are the one going on and on about it. Why waste you time? Just accept the fact that there is a certain amount of bull sh*te that you will come across with OD and try to ignore it. Or else just forget about OD if it bothers you so much. Life is too short.

There's some sound advice,
Now HellFireClub, leave it at that, I DO NOT want to see a continuation of this debate from either side, if ye want to continue the discussion, do so by PM.

miec

Tell me this, as you are browsing around on lads profiles, do you see these silly petty rules there on lads profiles???

Yes I have seen similar rules on lads profiles, usually in relation to a woman's body size eg: she must be slim or a size ten.

I have even come across a few men's profiles that have stated a certain height for a woman and the famous 'no pic, no reply'. In one instance the guy had no pic but insisted on a picture. Also I have experienced a number of men go on about looks mattering, insisting on pictures or they quickly get into the 'what is your chest size' discussion or what clothes a woman should wear, etc.

There are issues with OD for both sexes but they manifest themselves in different ways.

I have rejoined OD again as some of the success stories here have been about persevering and I really would like to meet someone special so just need to apply patience and I can always hide my profile if it gets too much.

HellFireClub

Well I've just been asked out on a date tonight by a girl who I gave my num to during the week, I told her I was not pursuing the OD thing anymore but we were texting by phone all week and not chatting on POF, sure why not...

riveratom

HellFireClub wrote: »

If you are a year older than their age range, you can't even message them to begin with, your message will be blocked, so I'm not too sure where you are going there with that point you are trying to make?!? :cool:

??!

So they have to enter an age range, and you're basically blaming them for that. Would you date, say a 50 year old?

People have to put something down as their age range. My previous point still stands.

Varied

HellFireClub wrote: »

Well I've just been asked out on a date tonight by a girl who I gave my num to during the week, I told her I was not pursuing the OD thing anymore but we were texting by phone all week and not chatting on POF, sure why not...

Good man, don't bitch about online dating to her though. :pac::P

HellFireClub

riveratom wrote: »

??!

So they have to enter an age range, and you're basically blaming them for that. Would you date, say a 50 year old?

People have to put something down as their age range. My previous point still stands.

Would love to get into it with ye but heading out on a date!

GrumPy

:pac:

Armaghmagic

Had 2 dates today. Both were eating dates, I am absolutely stuffed now. Glad the second didn't ask why I couldnt finish off my dinner!!

Both went well and both up for date #2!

Piliger

Galvasean wrote: »

Exactly what I was thinking.
When I see a diva esque list at the end of a profile I don't think, "Oh darn, I don't meet her criteria". I think, "Better not message her as she's a bit of a twat."
If anything those demanding lists are a great way to save time by identifying overly superficial people beforehand and subsequently avoiding them.

Just bumped into this one in 'my matches' tonight ......

FIRST DATE
Dinner - Lunch - or just chicken wings in Elephant & Castle!
Not interested in 'walks on the beach' seriously? Who does that?!?!?
Not interested in going to the cinema to sit in silence for 2 hours
Not interested in having a coffee.. too much effort to meet up for a coffee...

So, lads... we all know what we want and we all know what we don't want!

I definitely know what I don't want.. no boring conversations, no nerdy wimpy guys, no over the top full on conversations about love and marriage two minutes in ....and NO sleaze bags.. there are sex sites for 'those' types of girls!

I am so glad she put this stuff in and saved me a lot of wasted time ...

Northclare

Well I heard it all now,this lady who has been texting me for ages to meet up with her for 2 months now.

So I met her the other night for a coffee we got on well had a laugh etc

She started to text me this eve and waffled on about the fact she's into drinking and couldn't be dating a guy who doesn't drink.

I never liked drinking but have no problem with people who drink...

As some of ye know I left POF for a while and don't think I'll go back.

Ladies What're your thoughts on guy's who don't mind people who drink,but are a non drinker.

CastorTroy

I got a message from a woman who said something like "If you don't drink what could we do?" I know there's not a lot around here apart from pubs, cinema and restaurants but just because I don't drink doesn't mean I can't go to the pub

Northclare

I dodged a bullet there lol
The funny thing is I socialise in pubs have the craic etc and drive home sober.

Is there any women on this thread who don't drink...

Sure drinking doesn't take up much of people's time in their life does it unless one is a heavy drinker or a practicing alkie...

So Castortroy have you had some funny situations with mad drinkers on dates,I had a few close ones lol

closeline

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Closeline,
Your post had no relevance to this thread, this is about Online Dating Experiences ONLY.
Either stay on topic or don't bother posting in here

Panthro

seachto7

Northclare wrote: »

She started to text me this eve and waffled on about the fact she's into drinking and couldn't be dating a guy who doesn't drink.

Ladies What're your thoughts on guy's who don't mind people who drink,but are a non drinker.

red card!!! Why would you waster your time with someone who would say that?

CastorTroy

Northclare wrote: »

So Castortroy have you had some funny situations with mad drinkers on dates,I had a few close ones lol

To be honest, me and dating aren't well acquainted. Any dates I get from PoF will probably be the first time been out with someone I didn't know for a wee while beforehand

closeline

Moderator, where can I post that question so???

Larianne

Northclare wrote: »

Well I heard it all now,this lady who has been texting me for ages to meet up with her for 2 months now.

So I met her the other night for a coffee we got on well had a laugh etc

She started to text me this eve and waffled on about the fact she's into drinking and couldn't be dating a guy who doesn't drink.

I never liked drinking but have no problem with people who drink...

As some of ye know I left POF for a while and don't think I'll go back.

Ladies What're your thoughts on guy's who don't mind people who drink,but are a non drinker.

So she didn't know you weren't a drinker in the 2 months you were messaging or did she?

If she did, well she just wasn't interested in you (For whatever reason) but used the non-drinking as an excuse.

If she didn't know beforehand but stated the above, well then she must live a very sheltered life where there's nothing else to do but get locked every weekend.

It wouldn't bother me if someone didn't drink. Free taxi home!

I think some Irish people are nervous of people who don't drink. Dunno why.. ?

CastorTroy wrote: »

I got a message from a woman who said something like "If you don't drink what could we do?" I know there's not a lot around here apart from pubs, cinema and restaurants but just because I don't drink doesn't mean I can't go to the pub

Eh, there's lots to do. Go for a drive, go to art galleries, take a boat trip out to Ireland's Eye, take the dart out to Malahide and walk around the castle grounds and along the sea front, go sit in a cafe and have coffee and people watch, viking splash tour, go for ice-cream, quad biking.

Jeez, its not that hard to think outside the box, or is it?

Panthro

closeline wrote: »

Moderator, where can I post that question so???

I've moved your thread to After Hours.
Don't post off topic in this thread again please.

CastorTroy

Larianne wrote: »

Eh, there's lots to do. Go for a drive, go to art galleries, take a boat trip out to Ireland's Eye, take the dart out to Malahide and walk around the castle grounds and along the sea front, go sit in a cafe and have coffee and people watch, viking splash tour, go for ice-cream, quad biking.

Jeez, its not that hard to think outside the box, or is it?

I'm in Letterkenny. A lot less to do.

Larianne

CastorTroy wrote: »

I'm in Letterkenny. A lot less to do.

Is there no lakes around there? What do tourists do? Do that!