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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #3812
    smallgarden
    Registered Users Posts: 1,637 ✭✭✭smallgarden


    i kind of dated a musicain who was a bit like that.he often had to cancel dates last minute due to gigs and stuff.i think some of it was genuine but there was alot of stringing me along i think as well,cancelling last minute for babysitting.im more wary of people like that since but like to see good in people that they are being honest and genuine but its hard to tell when there are so many lying ***** out there


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    #3813
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Email of the day....

    'You make me rock hard your hot wanna chat' :rolleyes:


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    #3814
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    Email of the day....

    'You make me rock hard your hot wanna chat' :rolleyes:

    So......how did the chat go??haha


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    #3815
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    So......how did the chat go??haha

    Can't talk right now... busy throwing on my finest booty call out fit, I've got a date :p


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    #3816
    CastorTroy
    Registered Users Posts: 29,036 ✭✭✭✭CastorTroy


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    Email of the day....

    'You make me rock hard your hot wanna chat' :rolleyes:

    Were you playing electric guitar, or jazz flute or something?


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    #3817
    jimbobaloobob
    Registered Users Posts: 5,153 ✭✭✭jimbobaloobob


    tatumkelly wrote: »
    Email of the day....

    'You make me rock hard your hot wanna chat' :rolleyes:


    translated that means you make him want to listen to very heavy metal music and he wants to talk about that.
    (maybe its causing tinitius)


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    #3818
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    CastorTroy wrote: »
    Were you playing electric guitar, or jazz flute or something?
    jimbobaloobob wrote: »
    translated that means you make him want to listen to very heavy metal music and he wants to talk about that.
    (maybe its causing tinitius)

    Aaah now I feel mean for jumping to the conclusion that he's just a sleaze :o


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    #3819
    jimbobaloobob
    Registered Users Posts: 5,153 ✭✭✭jimbobaloobob


    so long as he keeps his love of music up youll be fine.
    :D


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    #3820
    smallgarden
    Registered Users Posts: 1,637 ✭✭✭smallgarden


    ive now got song, thunder, na na na na na ! in my head,think it could be theme tune for the chat


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    #3821
    jimbobaloobob
    Registered Users Posts: 5,153 ✭✭✭jimbobaloobob


    i think he will hear more of simon and garfunkel with the sound of silence


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    #3822
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Why do people come out with that kind of stuff?!

    You're not Charlie Sheen.

    You never will be Charlie Sheen.

    Stop talking like Charlie Sheen!!


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    #3823
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Maybe he had an unsexy voice, like that guy from the old Meteor ad, "Hello its me, the guy from the bar... no honestly it is."

    Acksherly that was a Digifone ad. My sister went out with that guy a few times.

    /useless fact


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    #3824
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Pet OD peeve of the day, main profile pics & additional pics with people sticking their tongues out. On the rare occasion, it "can" look sexy, but 99% of the time that I'm seeing it on POF, it looks completely stupid, immature, retarded and ignorant.


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    #3825
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    Pet OD peeve of the day, main profile pics & additional pics with people sticking their tongues out.

    Mine are the pics that are so blurry they look like they've been pixellated to protect an identity on "Cops" or something. They're usually the ones with the old Plenty of Fish banner on them. What's that about?


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    #3826
    The Master
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 14,316 CMod ✭✭✭✭The Master


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    They're usually the ones with the old Plenty of Fish banner on them. What's that about?

    It would mean they've been on the site for years and never updated the pics or they re-signed up and used pics from a few years ago.
    Either way it means pics are old and not what the person might look like now


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    #3827
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    Pet OD peeve of the day, main profile pics & additional pics with people sticking their tongues out. On the rare occasion, it "can" look sexy, but 99% of the time that I'm seeing it on POF, it looks completely stupid, immature, retarded and ignorant.

    Often a method of errr... creating cheekbones.


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    #3828
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Mine are the pics that are so blurry they look like they've been pixellated to protect an identity on "Cops" or something. They're usually the ones with the old Plenty of Fish banner on them. What's that about?

    They probably saved a thumbnail and enlarged it.


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    #3829
    Piliger
    Registered Users Posts: 6,741 ✭✭✭Piliger


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    It's anything but a choice I'm afraid. Unlike someone in a PAYE job, what I pay myself is completely down to my business staying open & trading sucessfully on a day to day basis, which is my responsibility, and unlike someone in a PAYE job, if I can't manage for whatever reason to accomplish that, and my business fails, there is no possibility of me getting €188 a week to survive on.

    So what do I do? Do I forget about internet dating, or dating in general, for as long as I'm self employed? Or do I try to put my best foot forward, even if that means that due to the nature of the job that I do, I might not be able to follow through on plans that were made, because I don't know from day to day, how much spare time I might have on any particular evening???

    Well. I don't know about PAYE people because I work for myself. If I want something badly enough, I lose a bit of income. As I said it's about choices. I never said they are easy choices.


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    #3830
    R019912
    Closed Accounts Posts: 160 ✭✭R019912


    Thought I'd share something from my experience of online dating after tryin it out of curiosity for the last while. Originally I created a pof profile and in the about me section I pretty much done the "usual" thing of describing myself, interests etc. Mailed around 20 girls, usually mentioning something to show I had read their profile, got 2 replies in total.

    Then randomly, I decided that seeing as I was getting next to no replies, I'd try a new approach for the laugh/out of boredom. Basically, come across as a funny/c*ocky bastard in the about me section, say next to nothing actually true about myself, and send an opening message something along the lines of "Pepsi or Coke?" After sending 20 messages, I got 17 replies..WTF!!

    So basically lads, if you want to get more replies, be witty/arrogant and don't take it too serious. That's just my experience anyway!


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    #3831
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Piliger wrote: »
    Well. I don't know about PAYE people because I work for myself. If I want something badly enough, I lose a bit of income. As I said it's about choices. I never said they are easy choices.

    Well, I don't want to get off topic on this but for a lot of business owners at the moment, taking days off at short notice just isn't an option, it isn't simply a matter of just losing a day's income, if that was the only concern, I'd gladly forfeit a days pay to pursue something that I had a good feeling on. It's not a money thing, it's a worry about losing customers and damaging the business if I'm not around when I need to be, or worst case scenario, letting customers down and coming back the next day to a damaged business because someone has decided to take their highly valued business elsewhere on the basis of having been let down the previous day.

    If you are self employed and are a sole trader, you might be able to schedule your work around a date, that isn't the case here sadly, or I would gladly have done it.


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    #3832
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    R019912 wrote: »
    Thought I'd share something from my experience of online dating after tryin it out of curiosity for the last while. Originally I created a pof profile and in the about me section I pretty much done the "usual" thing of describing myself, interests etc. Mailed around 20 girls, usually mentioning something to show I had read their profile, got 2 replies in total.

    Then randomly, I decided that seeing as I was getting next to no replies, I'd try a new approach for the laugh/out of boredom. Basically, come across as a funny/c*ocky bastard in the about me section, say next to nothing actually true about myself, and send an opening message something along the lines of "Pepsi or Coke?" After sending 20 messages, I got 17 replies..WTF!!

    So basically lads, if you want to get more replies, be witty/arrogant and don't take it too serious. That's just my experience anyway!

    This does actually work! I send out mails that are just banter filled arm chancing blags & I get loads of replies!


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    #3833
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    This does actually work! I send out mails that are just banter filled arm chancing blags & I get loads of replies!

    How many would continue to reply after the initial messages? 17 out of 20 messages being replied to seems like a bit of a result. I think it might get people to reply to the initial message but unless you're a standup comedian IRL, how can it be sustainable?

    Does it prove that most women are *'looking for a laugh' whereas as most men are looking for **a meaningful relationship?


    *(phrase seems to be mandatory for all profiles)
    **except those who are just looking to 'bump uglies' of course...


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    #3834
    smallgarden
    Registered Users Posts: 1,637 ✭✭✭smallgarden


    cantdecide wrote: »
    How many would continue to reply after the initial messages? 17 out of 20 messages being replied to seems like a bit of a result. I think it might get people to reply to the initial message but unless you're a standup comedian IRL, how can it be sustainable?

    Does it prove that most women are *'looking for a laugh' whereas as most men are looking for **a meaningful relationship?


    *(phrase seems to be mandatory for all profiles)
    **except those who are just looking to 'bump uglies' of course...
    no not in the slightest.id guess majority of men are looking for dating but not serious or no commitment whatsoever based on profile. women like guys with sense of humour,its very attractive. im personally drawn to more relaxed people who are laid back rather than being highly strung.ill go for someone who seems fun to be around.which is why im baffled by the amount of photos that people have up that they look scary in


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    #3835
    R019912
    Closed Accounts Posts: 160 ✭✭R019912


    cantdecide wrote: »
    How many would continue to reply after the initial messages? 17 out of 20 messages being replied to seems like a bit of a result. I think it might get people to reply to the initial message but unless you're a standup comedian IRL, how can it be sustainable?

    Does it prove that most women are *'looking for a laugh' whereas as most men are looking for **a meaningful relationship?


    *(phrase seems to be mandatory for all profiles)
    **except those who are just looking to 'bump uglies' of course...

    You don't really have to sustain the comedic value I guess. Although my opening message is never really anything funny, I just say something different, so then the person will view my profile and that's where they see the humour. Getting a girls attention is the hardest part IMO, seeing as most will have to sift through hundreds of messages a day. Once you have their attention it tends to work if you just be yourself and try be slightly witty.


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    #3836
    smallgarden
    Registered Users Posts: 1,637 ✭✭✭smallgarden


    R019912 wrote: »
    most will have to sift through hundreds of messages a day.

    i think this is a myth,theres probably a small proportion of women who get anywhere near that, i get a handful at most, im not gorgeous but im not hideous.im somewhere in the middle. im convinced there are hundreds emailing about ten hot women. richard hammonds advice on top gear "go ugly early" although completely horrible makes complete sense.


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    #3837
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    smallgarden wrote: »
    ...women like guys with sense of humour,its very attractive. im personally drawn to more relaxed people who are laid back rather than being highly strung.ill go for someone who seems fun to be around.which is why im baffled by the amount of photos that people have up that they look scary in

    It's a tough balance to strike. I don't spit one-liners like Jimmy Carr or have them rolling in the aisles. I'm easygoing and I like to think I'm funny IRL but I don't think it's accurate to think someone is highly strung because they're not the class clown.

    Anyone wish to post examples of their humour??


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    #3838
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    R019912 wrote: »
    Thought I'd share something from my experience of online dating after tryin it out of curiosity for the last while. Originally I created a pof profile and in the about me section I pretty much done the "usual" thing of describing myself, interests etc. Mailed around 20 girls, usually mentioning something to show I had read their profile, got 2 replies in total.

    Then randomly, I decided that seeing as I was getting next to no replies, I'd try a new approach for the laugh/out of boredom. Basically, come across as a funny/c*ocky bastard in the about me section, say next to nothing actually true about myself, and send an opening message something along the lines of "Pepsi or Coke?" After sending 20 messages, I got 17 replies..WTF!!

    So basically lads, if you want to get more replies, be witty/arrogant and don't take it too serious. That's just my experience anyway!

    Yep I started the exact same thing a while back. Send them a message with one or two funny opening questions along the lines of your pepsi or coke question and I usually get a ton of replies back.

    The only thing I'm starting to think is that girls who aren't really interested message back with an answer as well cause they find it funny and original. Usually the replies stop after a message or two once you try to get to know them, even while staying witty.

    It definitely help massively cause being witty and funny is good, but I think it creates a false hope at times as well. Although it keeps the confidence up so who am I to complain :p


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    #3839
    smallgarden
    Registered Users Posts: 1,637 ✭✭✭smallgarden


    i wasnt implying people who arent class clown are highly strung.was just stating i dont like that kind of person personally.can see where it might have come across like that alright. i find theres also a danger with humour veering off into innuendos and down wrong path completely


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    #3840
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    smallgarden wrote: »
    i wasnt implying people who arent class clown are highly strung.was just stating i dont like that kind of person personally.can see where it might have come across like that alright. i find theres also a danger with humour veering off into innuendos and down wrong path completely

    I wasn't aiming my comment at you, btw. It was more of a general point about women who might over-valuing 'humour' in the context of OD profiles. That said, no one wants to end up with Fr. Stone, I'm sure!


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    #3841
    R019912
    Closed Accounts Posts: 160 ✭✭R019912


    Herrick wrote: »
    Yep I started the exact same thing a while back. Send them a message with one or two funny opening questions along the lines of your pepsi or coke question and I usually get a ton of replies back.

    The only thing I'm starting to think is that girls who aren't really interested message back with an answer as well cause they find it funny and original. Usually the replies stop after a message or two once you try to get to know them, even while staying witty.

    It definitely help massively cause being witty and funny is good, but I think it creates a false hope at times as well. Although it keeps the confidence up so who am I to complain :p


    Yeah I get that aswell haha, girls who are ridiculously hot (I'm talkin 9.5 outta 10 and probably outta my league) reply to these messages, and with some of them the conversation goes on for one or two messages and then stops. But ya just take it on the chin and move on :) I think the witty way is the best way to approach these sites anyway


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