The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

riveratom

Got another date lined up for next week...

Out of all the girls I've met or chatted with, she seems the most interesting thus far, I had a few 'raised eyebrows' moments reading her profile, she just sounds real interesting and independent. Two musts when it comes to the opposite sex

Honey-ec

Piliger wrote: »

POF

What exactly is entailed in hiding a profile on POF and to what extent does it actually hide it ? I gather it hides it from searches, but what about from people's inbox ? and can it be clicked through to ?

It will hide it from all searches, but if someone you've been messaging still has the conversation in their inbox, they can still access your profile.

riveratom

Hmmmmmmm.

Here's an interesting one. I got chatting with this girl who is supposedly from Dublin on one of the free sites, now it was mainly purely out of interest because her main profile photo looks like something out of a magazine or MTV. Have had only a few emails back and forth, with her mainly giving short one-line answers.

The last email I sent was 'what brings you to {Site Name}', and this morning I saw that she had read my last email and has replied with 'I'm here to meet someone, my number is xxx-xxxxxxx' !!

Just like that!

My thinking is that this could be a way of getting numbers so you can be sent lots of phone chat messages and what not! Thoughts?!

Honey-ec

riveratom wrote: »

Hmmmmmmm.

Here's an interesting one. I got chatting with this girl who is supposedly from Dublin on one of the free sites, now it was mainly purely out of interest because her main profile photo looks like something out of a magazine or MTV. Have had only a few emails back and forth, with her mainly giving short one-line answers.

The last email I sent was 'what brings you to {Site Name}', and this morning I saw that she had read my last email and has replied with 'I'm here to meet someone, my number is xxx-xxxxxxx' !!

Just like that!

My thinking is that this could be a way of getting numbers so you can be sent lots of phone chat messages and what not! Thoughts?!

Spambot. Or possibly a real person, but still collecting numbers to spam.

riveratom

Honey-ec wrote: »

Spambot. Or possibly a real person, but still collecting numbers to spam.

Yep, my money is on spam-bot too alright.

Galvasean

Uninstalled the POF app from my phone this morning. I have had it up to the proverbial with that site and its woeful layout. Still gonna pop in and out of OKC. Yeah, there's a lot less users on it, but by in large they are a hell of a lot more literate and 'pound for pound' the profiles are vastly better, with much more genuine people.
Don't get me wrong, there are some nice people out there on POF, but I really can't be bothered searching for them in a sea of txt spk. I just don't have the time or patience these days.

riveratom

Galvasean wrote: »

Uninstalled the POF app from my phone this morning. I have had it up to the proverbial with that site and its woeful layout. Still gonna pop in and out of OKC. Yeah, there's a lot less users on it, but by in large they are a hell of a lot more literate and 'pound for pound' the profiles are vastly better, with much more genuine people.
Don't get me wrong, there are some nice people out there on POF, but I really can't be bothered searching for them in a sea of txt spk. I just don't have the time or patience these days.

Tis a site full of little princesses!

I've been mailing back and forth with a girl on it though, who seems really nice (and literate!!), only thing is there's always a bit of a pause in between her replies. I hadn't heard from her in about a week or so and had written her off until I got a nice surprise email from here last night. Replied with a nice breezy message so hopefully will hear back later!

If and when she does reply, I'm just gonna ask her out. My last message had strong hints of that, as I was asking when she was up in Dublin next..

Mr_Spaceman

A quick observation on profile pics.

I've just noticed quite a large number of girls with one or two photos and they are wearing sunglasses.

Honestly, why bother if you can't even see someone's eyes?

I suppose they think they look cool. No, you just look a bit, well... shifty.

The same applies to men as well, obviously.

riveratom

Mr_Spaceman wrote: »

A quick observation on profile pics.

I've just noticed quite a large number of girls with one or two photos and they are wearing sunglasses.

Honestly, why bother if you can't even see someone's eyes?

I suppose they think they look cool. No, you just look a bit, well... shifty.

The same applies to men as well, obviously.

I think there's an element of not wanting to be recognised...

Honey-ec

There's also an element of "everybody looks good in sunglasses", which is why I never trust a profile where the only pic they have up is a sunglasses one. Same goes for baseball caps. All men look good in a baseball cap...

Mr_Spaceman

riveratom wrote: »

I think there's an element of not wanting to be recognised...

I realise there's an element of that, but I would question the motives.

xDramaxQueenx

Yeah but why would you put up a hot photo and then show up and be mad ugly?? It doesn't make sense to me. I would rather put up a rough out picture, and show up looking a little bit better.

Its kind of like when youd get in trouble at home as a teenager.

"Im not angry, Im disappointed". Disappointment is always worse than anger. I would hope nobody would freak out at their date, "how dare you, pretend to me you weren't fat, you're a troll!" - rather, they would make polite conversation, never to contact you again after the date because they were disappointed that you turned out not to be as pretty as they thought??

well wouldnt it be nicer to have it the other way.

sharper

xDramaxQueenx wrote: »

Yeah but why would you put up a hot photo and then show up and be mad ugly?? It doesn't make sense to me. I would rather put up a rough out picture, and show up looking a little bit better.

For one thing people aren't necessarily honest with themselves about how they look - they want to believe the best picture from the best angle is what best represents them.

For another there are those that think if they can get someone interested they can win them over with their other attributes.

Daveysil15

It's a bit like a McDonald's menu. You walk in and see a picture of a big fat juicy burger and you say, "Ohh I fancy some of that." Then you get it and its a little flat fecking burger which looks nothing like the picture. Now on the other hand... if they were to put up a picture of a flat unappealing burger then not as many people will want to buy it. So a good photo will get more attention. At least if you meet a person who doesn't look as good as they do in their photo, you might still like their personality.

MizzWolfie

I've a close-up of myself wearing absolutely no make-up as one of my pics (not the profile ) so no one can be crying caveat emptor! Was a teensy bit tempted to use flattering pics from a few years ago but picked a bunch of badly lit though somewhat accurate shots from the last year.

I'm 30 and was on dating sites briefly when I was 23 and 26. Though I'm receiving less mail overall it's not at all as little as I feared. And a lot less messers too, which is good.

xDramaxQueenx

im so conflicted on what to do. start with od again, or just stick to what i know in teh form of an ex-boyfriend. he made it clear last night what he thought, initally i wasn't interested, but now i have no idea what to do. bleh.

AnnyHallsal

Whatever you do Drama Queen, don't go back to the ex just because OD doesn't seem to be working. And make sure that whatever broke ye up has been resolved and things will be different this time.

xDramaxQueenx

it was my fault we broke up, im a much better person when hes in my life, but then - im thinking, move on?? online dating is much easier, for that i suppose. dunno what to do. am meeting him later so might see what happens and take it from there.

dylbert

Hey I'm thinking of giving this whole interweb dating a shot but haven't a clue where to start, what sites do people recommend?

AnnyHallsal

There seem to be two main choices:

Pof - lots of people, quality questionable
Ok Cupid - almost no-one, suits a certain type

Pof is unbelievably ugly, Ok Cupid is quite a pretty site.

I wouldn't bother with any others though I may be wrong.

Piliger

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

There seem to be two main choices:

Pof - lots of people, quality questionable
Ok Cupid - almost no-one, suits a certain type

Pof is unbelievably ugly, Ok Cupid is quite a pretty site.

I wouldn't bother with any others though I may be wrong.

What happened to Match.com ? Used it to good affect a couple of years ago but haven't visited it since.

riveratom

Match and CupidRocks are both good options too.

AnnyHallsal

Piliger wrote: »

What happened to Match.com ? Used it to good affect a couple of years ago but haven't visited it since.

I've no experience of it so couldn't comment.

Daveysil15

I've never tried Match but I'd imagine it would be a bit like OKC, slim pickings. I could be worng but I couldn't see as many people paying for a site when there are free ones out there. How much does Match cost anyway?

Strawberry Fields

Daveysil15 wrote: »

I've never tried Match but I'd imagine it would be a bit like OKC, slim pickings. I could be worng but I couldn't see as many people paying for a site when there are free ones out there. How much does Match cost anyway?

30 euro a month. slim pickings is right. Problem with it is people put up pics and never take them down, you end up messaging people who haven't logged in for months and need to fork out to read the bloody thing anyway.

riveratom

godeas16 wrote: »

30 euro a month. slim pickings is right. Problem with it is people put up pics and never take them down, you end up messaging people who haven't logged in for months and need to fork out to read the bloody thing anyway.

Completely disagree, there are loads of very recent profiles, you can see when they've last logged in and the quality of people/profiles is a million years higher than the like of POF and OKC!

dylbert

OK, sorry but I'm not up with all the acronym's, POF, OKC?

Strawberry Fields

riveratom wrote: »

Completely disagree, there are loads of very recent profiles, you can see when they've last logged in and the quality of people/profiles is a million years higher than the like of POF and OKC!

I haven't had a paid subscription for months but I logged in today when I got the usual daily mail of my matches and clicked on a profile of a pic I liked. If someone saw that and mailed me they wouldn't be hearing back.

Ah_Yeah

Honey-ec wrote: »

There's also an element of "everybody looks good in sunglasses", which is why I never trust a profile where the only pic they have up is a sunglasses one. Same goes for baseball caps. All men look good in a baseball cap...

I beg to differ

miamee

dylbert wrote: »

OK, sorry but I'm not up with all the acronym's, POF, OKC?

Pof = Plenty of Fish
OKC = Ok Cupid