The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

Larianne

Dunno why you even bothered to keep that conversation alive as long as you did. I mean, she didn't even read your profile! !

smileyj1987

Larianne wrote: »

Dunno why you even bothered to keep that conversation alive as long as you did. I mean, she didn't even read your profile! !

Thats the thing aswell for me but I'm not a rude person and I just thought it would be nice to let her down gently .

Larianne

Well, I'd see it as she was rude enough not to read your profile. Feck that.

Galvasean

smileyj1987 wrote: »

Thats the thing aswell for me but I'm not a rude person and I just thought it would be nice to let her down gently .

No such thing as 'letting down gently' in such a situation. The more you mail someone (regardless of intention) that you don't want to meet up with the more you lead them on.

Honey-ec

smileyj1987 wrote: »

Thats the thing aswell for me but I'm not a rude person and I just thought it would be nice to let her down gently .

Oh you'll learn, young Padawan!

Seriously, if you're not interested, just don't reply. It saves a lot of hassle in the long run.

wobblyknees

I'm meeting someone today for coffee. Interesting person and a bit feisty when talking to her. Should be fun.



Also, someone else asked me if I'd like to talk first by video to save a bit of time. Is this normal? Anyone else done this kind of thing before? As daunting as it can be, I kind of like meeting someone in person.

Maguined

Rejoined OKC earlier in the week and have received more messages in a couple of days than I did for months before all thanks to a silly profile picture.

This must be what being a pretty girl feels like.

kiddums

Is the POF app playing up for anyone else?
I can't edit my profile on it, when it decides to connect that is.

miamee

kiddums wrote: »

Is the POF app playing up for anyone else?
I can't edit my profile on it, when it decides to connect that is.

It's told me several times this week that is it down for maintenance or cannot connect to the server.

miamee

riveratom wrote: »

Yep, both Match and Cupid Rocks are good.

I've seen you mentin CupidRocks a couple of times before - I signed up that that when it was brand new and really didn't like it. As far as I remember I could not do anything without paying for a subscription? But how could I tell if it was worht the money without being able to do or see anything?
At the time I wasn't committed enough to paying for a service (still am not signed up to a paying one, though I have in the past). Is it worth giving another go?

cantdecide

Larianne wrote: »

... and within 10 minutes of being on the site, with nothing more than the bare minimum details filled out...

I'm sure there are guys who just automatically check for 'Who's New'. Kinda like they want first dibs on someone new to the site.

wobblyknees wrote: »

...Also, someone else asked me if I'd like to talk first by video to save a bit of time...

My biggest objection to this would be I, like most people, look horrific on Skype/ webcams.

Crann na Beatha

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Honey-ec

wobblyknees wrote: »

Also, someone else asked me if I'd like to talk first by video to save a bit of time. Is this normal? Anyone else done this kind of thing before? As daunting as it can be, I kind of like meeting someone in person.

Yeah, I was asked a few times. I don't Skype, though. I look like Charlize Theron in "Monster" on camera.

wobblyknees

cantdecide wrote: »

My biggest objection to this would be I, like most people, look horrific on Skype/ webcams.

Yes, I think the worst bit is that you can see yourself, it feels a bit weird!

wobblyknees

Honey-ec wrote: »

Yeah, I was asked a few times. I don't Skype, though. I look like Charlize Theron in "Monster" on camera.

This! Its because you can see yourself in the corner isnt it?

CastorTroy

Aquila wrote: »

Im in the same situation wondering is it worth it!

When asking about a site, i'd say to take location into account as well. Like I've seen OKCupid mentioned here a few times, yet I signed up and only have about 9 or 10 results in searches around me for 50km. So it's not great for around Letterkenny. I'm sure most sites are the same.

kiddums

CastorTroy wrote: »

When asking about a site, i'd say to take location into account as well. Like I've seen OKCupid mentioned here a few times, yet I signed up and only have about 9 or 10 results in searches around me for 50km. So it's not great for around Letterkenny. I'm sure most sites are the same.

Your obviously looking at a different range than me, I'm only seeing 5.

wobblyknees

Ok, so I met someone for coffee at lunch. Couple of things, she was obviously very very nervous, and she made it clear that she liked me, a lot, and made it clear that she wants to see me again. On my side, I think she is really nice, and attractive, I just wasn't expecting someone to be as forward. But on the other hand, she seemed really down to earth and easy to talk to and I definitely enjoyed spending time with her. It was nice that she was nervous in a way and I think it would be good to meet again. Found myself caught between thinking that maybe she wants something more, a bit quicker than I would have expected (but this could have been the nerves) but not been too put off by this.

Thoughts anyone?

KamiKazeKitten

Maguined wrote: »

Rejoined OKC earlier in the week and have received more messages in a couple of days than I did for months before all thanks to a silly profile picture.

Moral of the story: listen to me! :cool:

Piliger

wobblyknees wrote: »

I'm meeting someone today for coffee. Interesting person and a bit feisty when talking to her. Should be fun.



Also, someone else asked me if I'd like to talk first by video to save a bit of time. Is this normal? Anyone else done this kind of thing before? As daunting as it can be, I kind of like meeting someone in person.

This has happened to me ... I just always say sorry I don't have a cam.

sharper

smileyj1987 wrote: »

So she then messaged me back asking why . So I messaged he back

Never ends well. It's just an opportunity for them to plead or hurl abuse back because their feelings were hurt.

It's different if it's something they can address like "Your pictures are blurry and darkly lit" or "Your profile is two sentences long" or something like that. "We're not compatible" though is a hard sell.

miamee

wobblyknees wrote: »

Ok, so I met someone for coffee at lunch. Couple of things, she was obviously very very nervous, and she made it clear that she liked me, a lot, and made it clear that she wants to see me again. On my side, I think she is really nice, and attractive, I just wasn't expecting someone to be as forward. But on the other hand, she seemed really down to earth and easy to talk to and I definitely enjoyed spending time with her. It was nice that she was nervous in a way and I think it would be good to meet again. Found myself caught between thinking that maybe she wants something more, a bit quicker than I would have expected (but this could have been the nerves) but not been too put off by this.

Thoughts anyone?

A girl who you like, likes you too. Brilliant! Organise to meet her again before you over-analyse things and ruin it for yourself

(Assuming she didn't ask for your hand in marriage or anything over coffee :P)

smileyj1987

miamee wrote: »

A girl who you like, likes you too. Brilliant! Organise to meet her again before you over-analyse things and ruin it for yourself

(Assuming she didn't ask for your hand in marriage or anything over coffee :P)

That would be my take on it too , go for it because judging by what you are saying about her plenty of men wouldn't think twice about wanting to see her again .

miamee

Janey mac, got a message from a guy on POF "Hi I'm X, are you free to chat, howe about dinner" and a pic attached. Checked his profile, nothing much filled in apart from "can I fill this in later - I'm new" for all of the blurby bits about yourself, your life etc so replied asking him to tell me a bit about himself, what are his interests etc. His reply: "xxx"

Helpful :rolleyes:...what was the point in that? Such a waste of time :mad:

wobblyknees

miamee wrote: »

A girl who you like, likes you too. Brilliant! Organise to meet her again before you over-analyse things and ruin it for yourself

(Assuming she didn't ask for your hand in marriage or anything over coffee :P)

No, no hands of marriage request! Plenty of hugs though at the beginning and end, and I'm sure a bit more if I wanted if that makes sense. I am trying not to over analyse it. I am cautious though. And you are probably right in saying meet up again. I've told her I'd like to so that we can get to know each other a bit better. So I'll take it from there.

miamee

wobblyknees wrote: »

No, no hands of marriage request! Plenty of hugs though at the beginning and end, and I'm sure a bit more if I wanted if that makes sense. I am trying not to over analyse it. I am cautious though. And you are probably right in saying meet up again. I've told her I'd like to so that we can get to know each other a bit better. So I'll take it from there.

Well hopefully the nerves will have calmed a bit second time round. Exciting times!

CastorTroy

kiddums wrote: »

Your obviously looking at a different range than me, I'm only seeing 5.

Age 26-33. Don't think I had any other criteria. Maybe was less than 9. just remember the only one who didn't have kids was married.

wobblyknees

miamee wrote: »

Well hopefully the nerves will have calmed a bit second time round. Exciting times!

Yes, hopefully, we'll see!

njs030

Hmm thought I had a date arranged for Monday, was just waiting for them to confirm and decide a time but not contact since we discussed it last weekend.....pity seemed really nice

Armaghmagic

POF date tonight. She seems really nice, is goodlooking, intelligent and best of all she seems genuinely interested in meeting and chatting to me. Kick off is at 7pm....will give you the post date analysis!!