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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #5012
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    KTRIC wrote: »
    Have a coffee date this evening, I'm very nervous :(

    Thankfully it went well, never been nervous before a date before :confused:

    She was lovely and by the looks of it I might see her again. :D


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    #5013
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    missrandomer wrote: »

    I can see what you mean about people being in different moods at any one time, but surly a funny message thats a bit random but makes you smile would more likely catch your attention. (maby thats where im going wrong, my username will be my demise :D:D)

    That better have been intentional...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0A5t5_O8hdA


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    #5014
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Psst, when girls say, "If you want to know anything just ask!" what is expected from a guy here? Because all I can think of is, "Boxers or briefs?"
    That and,
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCvQ_7u1XeI


    edit: and a pet peeve of mine is profiles that refuse to divulge any information about themselves, citing "then what would we talk about on a date?!". Do they have such low expectations from people that they cannot formulate a conversation that stretches beyond very basic details?
    How obvious is it that I'm bored right now?


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    #5015
    missrandomer
    Registered Users Posts: 390 ✭✭missrandomer


    Galvasean wrote: »
    That better have been intentional...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0A5t5_O8hdA

    Now thats what im talking bout!! Class :D:D

    I still dont get why a girl wouldnt like a funny message, who wants some Carl Pilkinton mailing her (although he is funny, you couldnt tell that through a message)

    And there is definitly some of them out there..


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    #5016
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Got a number from a girl on POF. Called her the other night and it was one of the most awkward, stilted, forced conversations I've ever had. Doesn't bode well.


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    #5017
    missrandomer
    Registered Users Posts: 390 ✭✭missrandomer


    G-Money wrote: »
    Got a number from a girl on POF. Called her the other night and it was one of the most awkward, stilted, forced conversations I've ever had. Doesn't bode well.

    Maby she was shy though, some girls can be shy on the phone aswell. Them auwkward silences seem to go on for ever yet in your head your screaming at yourself "say something funny, say something funny" before you know it the silences are getting longer untill you hear ok bye... thats it ruined.

    She might be lovely and just didnt know what to say on the phone.


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    #5018
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    missrandomer wrote: »
    Maby she was shy though, some girls can be shy on the phone aswell. Them auwkward silences seem to go on for ever yet in your head your screaming at yourself "say something funny, say something funny" before you know it the silences are getting longer untill you hear ok bye... thats it ruined.

    She might be lovely and just didnt know what to say on the phone.

    Yeah will see how it goes. I haven't text'd her since or called and neither has she so will play it by ear.


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    #5019
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    G-Money wrote: »
    missrandomer wrote: »
    Maby she was shy though, some girls can be shy on the phone aswell. Them auwkward silences seem to go on for ever yet in your head your screaming at yourself "say something funny, say something funny" before you know it the silences are getting longer untill you hear ok bye... thats it ruined.

    She might be lovely and just didnt know what to say on the phone.

    Yeah will see how it goes. I haven't text'd her since or called and neither has she so will play it by ear.

    I wouldn't worry yet. I am much less nervous when I'm actually with the girl than when I'm on the phone to be honest.

    She could have had people near her so she didn't want to say too much or was a bit embarrassed who knows.

    Also on the Facebook group.....sounds like a FANTASTIC idea!


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    #5020
    missrandomer
    Registered Users Posts: 390 ✭✭missrandomer


    G-Money wrote: »
    Yeah will see how it goes. I haven't text'd her since or called and neither has she so will play it by ear.

    Well all i can say is from my own experience and im pretty shy, and i can come across really odd on the phone, especially if i like someone. I usually come away kicking myself. Im hoping someone will be able to see past my shyness :D

    If you liked her then No harm in dropping her a text though. If she felt the same then she you will know by her response.


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    #5021
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    I'd be another one of the people who can be quite awkward on the phone. not just re: dating and such. In most things. I can never seem to remember anything when on the phone. I'd say I come across as being extremely scatter brained.


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    #5022
    missrandomer
    Registered Users Posts: 390 ✭✭missrandomer


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    I wouldn't worry yet. I am much less nervous when I'm actually with the girl than when I'm on the phone to be honest.

    She could have had people near her so she didn't want to say too much or was a bit embarrassed who knows.

    Also on the Facebook group.....sounds like a FANTASTIC idea!

    This is a good point, if she was afraid of someone overhearing her then this would also make her quiet, ive had a guy hang up on me and call me a player for that very same situation, even though i knew him well.

    You have five minutes to make a good impression, and with the phone its kinda make or break situation.


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    #5023
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    BOOB alert!!

    Lads get on "Meet me" and have a look at the newbies. First time I've seen a profile photo of a woman with her Tatianas out!


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    #5024
    MizzWolfie
    Registered Users Posts: 22 ✭MizzWolfie


    A Facebook group sounds like a great idea. Could have some kinda codename only known to those who frequent this thread.


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    #5025
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    Back to online dating it is for me...last time I thought I got really lucky and met a great guy via online dating. Was going great for 3 months but fizzled out/no chemistry ;( . Might be good friends in the long run, which if that works out will be a good thing...

    Sure giving it a go, it's nice distraction anyway. Really thought I'd cracked the whole online dating game


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    #5026
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    magneticimpulse wrote: »
    Back to online dating it is for me...last time I thought I got really lucky and met a great guy via online dating. Was going great for 3 months but fizzled out/no chemistry ;( . Might be good friends in the long run, which if that works out will be a good thing...

    Sure giving it a go, it's nice distraction anyway. Really thought I'd cracked the whole online dating game

    Really sorry to hear that. Hope you're doing okay.


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    #5027
    sffc
    Closed Accounts Posts: 433 ✭✭sffc


    miamee wrote: »
    Galvasean wrote: »
    Oooooh, POF has a new feature where you rate photos. It's not a thing of rating people's looks though. You get options:
    'Approve'
    'Reject/Delete'
    'Shirtless Photo/Delete'
    'Nude/Delete'
    'Cartoon/Delete'
    'Needs Cropping'

    Based on what many of the ladies are saying on thread, the third and fourth option may come in very handy indeed!
    First picture it shows me is of a bicycle. Second is a flower. Dafug???

    Sounds like they are looking for members to do quality checks on the photos so they don't have to. Remember when you'd have to wait for your photo to bre approved before it would appear on a profile? (not on POF, can't remember which ones now tbh)
    That feature has been available for at least a year.


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    #5028
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Galvasean wrote: »
    By in large I find people who actively hide their appearance like that are doing it for no other reason than they are physically unattractive.
    Or else are married or in a committed relationship of some sort & looking for a brief sexual encounter & obviously can't be seen on a dating site...


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    #5029
    missrandomer
    Registered Users Posts: 390 ✭✭missrandomer


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    Or else are married or in a committed relationship of some sort & looking for a brief sexual encounter & obviously can't be seen on a dating site...

    jeez i didnt think of that either. I think im to gulable for this online dating lark!!


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    #5030
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,159 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Lads - a very basic Tumblr blog that I am trying to link to an appropriate Facebook page so you can choose whichever one you like to view OD messages. Having a mental block on an appropriate name. If you have any messages you want to add, PM the text to me until I can think of a better way to do it :)

    I have added a few of my own to get the ball rolling...


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    #5031
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    miamee wrote: »
    Lads - a very basic Tumblr blog that I am trying to link to an appropriate Facebook page so you can choose whichever one you like to view OD messages. Having a mental block on an appropriate name. If you have any messages you want to add, PM the text to me until I can think of a better way to do it :)

    I have added a few of my own to get the ball rolling...

    Good work!


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    #5032
    Mr_Spaceman
    Registered Users Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭Mr_Spaceman


    I have a date arranged for Tuesday night - meeting for a drink. Hope it goes well, obviously!


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    #5033
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Hmm. How do you report a user on POF? I know how to block, but not report.

    Some girl (albeit a hot one!) sent me a message saying 'Hi! Interested in girls?' followed by a few nudes. :pac::pac:


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    #5034
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,159 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    Hmm. How do you report a user on POF? I know how to block, but not report.

    Some girl (albeit a hot one!) sent me a message saying 'Hi! Interested in girls?' followed by a few nudes. :pac::pac:

    On the desktop version it is at the very bottom of their profile page - not sure about the app though if that is what you are using.


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    #5035
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Thanks, miamee! Done. :)


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    #5036
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    Hmm. How do you report a user on POF? I know how to block, but not report.

    Some girl (albeit a hot one!) sent me a message saying 'Hi! Interested in girls?' followed by a few nudes. :pac::pac:

    You lucky lucky thing!! Any chance of uploading them onto the Facebook page?


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    #5037
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    You lucky lucky thing!! Any chance of uploading them onto the Facebook page?

    I'm really not gonna violate somebody's privacy like that, even if they were violating my eyes by sending them to me.


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    #5038
    CastorTroy
    Registered Users Posts: 29,039 ✭✭✭✭CastorTroy


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    I'm really not gonna violate somebody's privacy like that, even if they were violating my eyes by sending them to me.
    No lesbian violation. Ok, got it!
    G-Money wrote: »
    Got a number from a girl on POF. Called her the other night and it was one of the most awkward, stilted, forced conversations I've ever had. Doesn't bode well.

    I hate talking on the phone, even to people I know. Too many awkward silences and in those silences there's no way to tell what the other person's thinking/feeling.
    If I'm talking to someone I prefer it to be face to face. Or even by text/mail where you can actually think about what's been said and not the same awkwardness in ending the conversation.


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    #5039
    Tchaikovsky
    Registered Users Posts: 2,185 ✭✭✭Tchaikovsky


    Just a quick question for you guys; I met up with a girl from POF last week and it went pretty well. I mean, we chatted for about 5 hours in the pub, no awkward silences or anything, lots of things in common, and then she invited me back to her's for another drink. We kissed and I ended up sleeping in her bed (clothed), but there was no sex.

    She told me she thought I was hot (ok, when we were drunk) and when I texted her afterwards asking whether she'd like to hang out again she said 'absolutely!'.

    I tried to arrange something on Tuesday for the weekend but never got a reply. What do you think I should do from here? I don't want to bug her if she's busy or whatever, but she did seem fairly into me.
    I just get the feeling that maybe she's out of my league because her place was amazing and she drives a great car and has a cool job.


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    #5040
    Mr_Spaceman
    Registered Users Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭Mr_Spaceman


    Tchaikovsky wrote: »
    Just a quick question for you guys; I met up with a girl from POF last week and it went pretty well. I mean, we chatted for about 5 hours in the pub, no awkward silences or anything, lots of things in common, and then she invited me back to her's for another drink. We kissed and I ended up sleeping in her bed (clothed), but there was no sex.

    She told me she thought I was hot (ok, when we were drunk) and when I texted her afterwards asking whether she'd like to hang out again she said 'absolutely!'.

    I tried to arrange something on Tuesday for the weekend but never got a reply. What do you think I should do from here? I don't want to bug her if she's busy or whatever, but she did seem fairly into me.
    I just get the feeling that maybe she's out of my league because her place was amazing and she drives a great car and has a cool job.

    Don't think this way please - self-sabotage is the enemy of dating.

    For all the superficial trappings of wealth you can bet your hot girl has the same insecurities as everyone else.

    Just get in touch, arrange to see her again and just keep doing what you're doing minus the internal negative vibes. You know it makes sense.


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    #5041
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,799 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    You lucky lucky thing!! Any chance of uploading them onto the Facebook page?

    That's probably not a good idea.


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