The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

Shapey Fiend

dp.. stupid phone.

Micky 32

Well AF is working a lot better for me than POF, had a date yesterday ( but didn't click) and have another ( different girl) date on Wednesday. Also i got a compliment on my Photo how attractive i am, never got that on POF! One thing about AF it seems it can't handle the traffic, can be slow and glitchy..

I reckon AF make their money on the recurring subscription, people don't realise it or forget about it. Doesn't seem right to me.

Galvasean

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Boards is jumping in on the OD bandwagon, sort of. :pac:

http://www.boards.ie/love.php

LyndaMcL wrote: »

My top match was a toss up between That_Guy and Galva. :pac:

There's an image that'll replace the whale in my nightmares...

LyndaMcL wrote: »

I've noticed from here and from the thread on the matchmaking on AH, Galva is in huge demand. And all these silly women don't reply to him on POF? Pfft.

None of TGC made my list (shame on you all!).
Most of my matches are the Palaeontology forum regulars as it happens...

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Tyrannosaurus sex as opposed to a tyrannosaurus rex?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GC1kJYcEHeQ

The worst part is that is a legitimate trailer for a legitimate documentary! :eek:

Galvasean

Weird thing happened last night when I was out. My phone buzzed and it was an OKC notification telling me that a user was nearby. I never knew such a feature existed. Is it just me or is that a little bit creepy?

Larianne

KTRIC wrote: »

We had a couple of drinks in her place and it got late. I ended up staying over because it seemed like the right thing to do. She barely came near me for the night which I thought was odd because she was all over me the last time. Anyway , fast forward to the next morning and I woke with a sticky mouth and was trying to moisten it. She didn't like the sound I was told and not to do that !! I was like WTF, my mouth is stuck together. :rolleyes:

There was other things but to be honest if my normal (non farting) bodily functions annoy her then there's clearly a problem. Also thought her idea of a night cap, Solpadeine and Captn' Morgans leaves a lot to be desired.

Like I said, I seem to attract the nut jobs !! I think I said that before in another thread but I really don't know why

Maybe she wasn't comfortable with you staying over in the first place.

mood

Galvasean wrote: »

Weird thing happened last night when I was out. My phone buzzed and it was an OKC notification telling me that a user was nearby. I never knew such a feature existed. Is it just me or is that a little bit creepy?

Yes it's a bit creepy. I would disable such a feature if possible.

Esoteric_

Galvasean wrote: »

Weird thing happened last night when I was out. My phone buzzed and it was an OKC notification telling me that a user was nearby. I never knew such a feature existed. Is it just me or is that a little bit creepy?

Bit stalkey, all right.

Esoteric_

Larianne wrote: »

Maybe she wasn't comfortable with you staying over in the first place.

Agreed 100% with this. I'd probably be REALLY 'off' with someone if they stayed in mine after only a couple of dates.

The Solpadeine and rum nightcap is more than a little worrying, though. :eek:

Galvasean

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Bit stalkey, all right.

That's what I was thinking. something like that could be rather easily manipulated for nefarious purposes. I wonder how one turns it off?

KTRIC

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Agreed 100% with this. I'd probably be REALLY 'off' with someone if they stayed in mine after only a couple of dates.

The Solpadeine and rum nightcap is more than a little worrying, though. :eek:

Well she suggested it to be honest and we didn't do anything apart from sleep.

KTRIC

Galvasean wrote: »

Weird thing happened last night when I was out. My phone buzzed and it was an OKC notification telling me that a user was nearby. I never knew such a feature existed. Is it just me or is that a little bit creepy?

That happens to be quite a bit.

Esoteric_

KTRIC wrote: »

Well she suggested it to be honest and we didn't do anything apart from sleep.

Hmm. Maybe she was just moody without her codeine fix? :pac:

mood

KTRIC wrote: »

Well she suggested it to be honest and we didn't do anything apart from sleep.

Maybe she wasn't all over you incase you assumed it meant s*x.

sharper

mood wrote: »

Yes it's a bit creepy. I would disable such a feature if possible.

Women don't like "Hi! I used the internet and a series of geosynchronous satellites to track you down! Want to get a coffee?" ?

It is a bit of a disconcerting feature though it is what okcupid market the app as doing and you can turn it off under "Locals options".

DerekDGoldfish

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Bit stalkey, all right.

It could be the perfect anti stalker app, let you know when your staker is getting too close.

KTRIC

mood wrote: »

Maybe she wasn't all over you incase you assumed it meant s*x.

I don't think sex is a banned word on boards.ie

She wanted it on our first date after telling me she doesn't do that. I declined and told her plenty of time for that. I'm going to let this one run free, I really don't need the hassle.

Larianne

Just got a text from a guy I went on a date with back in May! :eek: I learnt from past mistakes not to delete numbers to avoid the awkward "Who's this?" message. Phew! :pac:

DerekDGoldfish

Larianne wrote: »

Just got a text from a guy I went on a date with back in May! :eek: I learnt from past mistakes not to delete numbers to avoid the awkward "Who's this?" message. Phew! :pac:

Maybe he was stuck down a mine for the past few months and wants to chat about it?

Esoteric_

DerekDGoldfish wrote: »

Maybe he was stuck down a mine for the past few months and wants to chat about it?

Or better yet, down a well!

Great. The post-Halloween costume profile pictures are coming.

mood

Larianne wrote: »

Just got a text from a guy I went on a date with back in May! :eek: I learnt from past mistakes not to delete numbers to avoid the awkward "Who's this?" message. Phew! :pac:

How did the date go in May? What was his excuse of only getting in touch now?

Larianne

DerekDGoldfish wrote: »

Maybe he was stuck down a mine for the past few months and wants to chat about it?

mood wrote: »

How did the date go in May? What was his excuse of only getting in touch now?

I'm sure it was a mistake.

Date went fine in May. I just wasn't interested in taking it further.

Meauldsegosha

Larianne wrote: »

Just got a text from a guy I went on a date with back in May! :eek: I learnt from past mistakes not to delete numbers to avoid the awkward "Who's this?" message. Phew! :pac:

It must be the time of the year, I got a text last night from a guy I met back in August. The date didn't go well but he kept texting me until I told him I would contact the Guards if he didn't stop. Hopeing he sent the message by mistake.

yeahimhere

My first evening on the site went well, think I'm off to a good start (I hope I don't live to regret saying that!)

Chatting to two guys who both seem nice, one in particular is promising....the other may be a little above my preferred age and seems to use the site more for chatting rather than dating. I get the impression he's very much an eternal bachelor and doesn't have much interest in relationships, I'm not all together sure what's going on there if I'm honest!

So happy the other one is there, we have a lot in common and seem to be on the same wavelength so far. Might be one to meet up with anyway and see. I'm a big one for chemistry, so perhaps would like to meet sooner rather than later just to see if the attraction is there.

knucklehead6

yeahimhere wrote: »

My first evening on the site went well, think I'm off to a good start (I hope I don't live to regret saying that!)

Chatting to two guys who both seem nice, one in particular is promising....the other may be a little above my preferred age and seems to use the site more for chatting rather than dating. I get the impression he's very much an eternal bachelor and doesn't have much interest in relationships, I'm not all together sure what's going on there if I'm honest!

So happy the other one is there, we have a lot in common and seem to be on the same wavelength so far. Might be one to meet up with anyway and see. I'm a big one for chemistry, so perhaps would like to meet sooner rather than later just to see if the attraction is there.

you'll start off another debate here now... how soon is too soon to meet up.

I'm a big believer in the sooner rather than later meet up. I have spent time chatting online to people and the initial attraction has dissipated, and by the time we met there was just a friendliness rather than anything else

yeahimhere

knucklehead6 wrote: »

you'll start off another debate here now... how soon is too soon to meet up.

I'm a big believer in the sooner rather than later meet up. I have spent time chatting online to people and the initial attraction has dissipated, and by the time we met there was just a friendliness rather than anything else

I think it's really up to the individual but I'm definitely a sooner rather than later to meet up. Like you said, it runs the risk of just dragging on.

But I may change my tune on that though!

Galvasean

I'm also sooner rather than later for the reasons stated above. Also because oftentimes people misrepresent themselves online be it through outdated pictures or an assumed persona. You don't really know who you're talking to online so meeting them in the flesh sorts that out.

This might be a slight controversial post, but something that I found incredible is the amount of Transsexuals on dating sites, especially POF. I really don't have a problem with them, it's their lives, nor do I have a problem with anyone who is interested in them, but what really irks me is when it's not stated anywhere on their profiles. I feel like they should, because in some cases they would have photos of them wearing large sunglasses, where it's hard to identify their exact gender.

There have been one or two occasions where I almost mistook them for a girl, especially when you're using a mobile device to browse and the photos are smaller/harder to see.

smallgarden

panthro and mood top matches on boards thing, mainly matched with women methinks

KungPao

Hey everybody!

Just thought I'd share a story with you...

I broke up with my ex over summer (long-term) and very shortly after joined POF. Initially, I wasn't very interested, as I was going though hell to be honest, totally heart-broken big time, and nobody could possibly measure up to my ex...at the time. But as the pain went away, I felt it was really time to "get out there" and at least socialise with some woman/women and see what happens...so started actively sending out properly constructed and relevant messages to girls that interested me.

So after a good few messages with a certain nice lady we organised to meet, and after a delayed first date due to illness, we met. We had a really really enjoyable first date, a standard few drinks - which included a venue change, which encouraged me as she could have wrapped things up after the first place. We had a good chat and a laugh that led to a prolonged kiss at the end of the night, and there were no silences at all :-) We exchanged very late "Had a great night!" types messages when we both got home.

So fast forward 4 weeks, we've had multiple dates, contacted each other everyday and things seem to be going great, we are very at-ease with other and both want to see each other whenever we can. :-) I could be onto to something very good here!

A few months ago, I'd never have thought I'd be in this position (considering my mangled heart and dented confidence) but I am in a good place now.

Now of course, who knows what could happen, good or bad but maybe my story can be encouraging to anybody who is perhaps disillusioned with OD...!

Thanks for reading!