The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

hollypink

Mince Pie wrote: »

I can safely say I am not a porn star.

Galvasean wrote: »

That was painful. Loathe as I am to admit it, I'm actually glad it's over. Ever have one of those IM chats where it feels like you're doing all the driving and can't get a decent flow of conversation out of it? Probably should have guessed from the one word initial mail, but nothing ventured, nothing gained I suppose.

Having a similar experience, really short messages (not IM) so the conversation isnt exactly flowing!

Mince Pie

See I met someone after been talking to them via IM and staying up till the wee hours chatting. We met, got on great. Haven't seen each other for a couple of weeks due to both having other commitments. Now it seems to have fizzled out chat wise. Meeting up this week though. Confused.

ETA: Its same guy I thought I had blown it with by overcommunicating with in a previous post. Maybe he's going to tell me to take my stalkerish ass somewhere else. :-(

Itwasntme.

POF account deleted. Again. It seems I just don't have the patience for it. I may be back yet. It depends on how long it takes me to forget the frustration that was this experience. Good luck to all you still in the game.

Siuin

I think I'll be following your lead pretty shortly... I've had quite a few obnoxious ones tonight...

Him: Ahh you're so beautiful I love redheads!
Me: Aw, thanks! Do you have a pic?
Him: Haven't uploaded any yet.
Me: Ah ok, well I'm just heading to bed now but let me know if you upload one and we'll chat
Him: That's pretty superficial of you... can see why you're on here now :rolleyes:

... wtf? You wouldn't be talking to me if you didn't like how I looked- you think women don't care about appearances too? Ahhhh...

Larianne

Siuin, if you're getting overwhelmed with messages, try hiding your profile so then you can message guys you're interested in without have to go through a heap of mails every day.

You can also have in your mail settings that if someone contacts you they must have a photo.

Galvasean

Siuin wrote: »

Him: That's pretty superficial of you... can see why you're on here now :rolleyes:

I hate the way people assume you're superficial for wanting to know what the person you're talking to looks like. Of course I would say that...

big superficial head on me

Mr_Spaceman

Thinking about the laughable debris which is my online dating "history", it occurred to me that the majority of girls I've met here in London have been Irish. Coincidence, maybe? I'm not sure.

Not that I like to deal in stereotypes but it sure seems that Irish girls are less uptight and willing to at least have a cup of coffee or a pint and chat without making you sweat and fill out a mortgage application first.

Siuin

Galvasean wrote: »

I hate the way people assume you're superficial for wanting to know what the person you're talking to looks like. Of course I would say that...

big superficial head on me

Lol! Tbh I think it's unrealistic for anyone to expect on a dating site that people will not base a substantial part of their choice on appearances. In 'reality' there is more room for winning a person over with charm and personality- or even that unexplainable 'sexy aura' some people have. But on a site like POF it's pretty cut and dry.

ladylost

Siuin wrote: »

I think I'll be following your lead pretty shortly... I've had quite a few obnoxious ones tonight...

Him: Ahh you're so beautiful I love redheads!
Me: Aw, thanks! Do you have a pic?
Him: Haven't uploaded any yet.
Me: Ah ok, well I'm just heading to bed now but let me know if you upload one and we'll chat
Him: That's pretty superficial of you... can see why you're on here now :rolleyes:

... wtf? You wouldn't be talking to me if you didn't like how I looked- you think women don't care about appearances too? Ahhhh...

That's a bit cheeky when he can see your pic.
Well I was told earlier I was 'not unattractive'... way to go to make a girl feel good, not!!:(

Galvasean

ladylost wrote: »

Well I was told earlier I was 'not unattractive'... way to go to make a girl feel good, not!!:(

Blergh, are guys still doing that 'game' shyte?

Really?

smileyj1987

ladylost wrote: »

That's a bit cheeky when he can see your pic.
Well I was told earlier I was 'not unattractive'... way to go to make a girl feel good, not!!:(

F*** him then , If I was mailing somebody and I didn't find them attractive I would just say that I am too busy to date or try and blow them off without saying they are not attractive . I just find telling somebody something like that is a c*** like thing to do on anybody .

ladylost

Galvasean wrote: »

Blergh, are guys still doing that 'game' shyte?

Really?

it seems they are... he seems a nice enough guy so I was surprised... would have preferred he hadn't said that.. was having a crap day already so could have done without the kick!

Mince Pie

Ouch, seems like everyone is having a bugger of a weekend. Is there a full moon or something?

ladylost

Mince Pie wrote: »

Ouch, seems like everyone is having a bugger of a weekend. Is there a full moon or something?

Might be

doctorwhogirl

Really considering giving the OD world a go for the first time...

Last lad I went out with really broke my heart and I'm finding it tough to move myself on, and also tough to meet any decent lads with similar interests.

Only thing I'm nervous about is anonymity because I'm in education. I'd be mortified if the parents/kids found me... I know I shouldn't be, but I would!

Just need to get myself back out there properly. You know how it is; eventually your mind returns back to the last love of your life and the rose tinted glasses come on. He was bloody horrible to me in the end but my fingers were itching to send a text this weekend. Definitely must have been a full moon!

Also, I just did that Google Images search and I'm Robert Pattinson. Could be worse.

sarah42012

Ugh those rose tinted glasses are the worst!

Perhaps you could set your profile pic on private so that only ppl who mail you can see it? Better chance at anonymity then

smileyj1987

doctorwhogirl wrote: »

Really considering giving the OD world a go for the first time...

Last lad I went out with really broke my heart and I'm finding it tough to move myself on, and also tough to meet any decent lads with similar interests.

Only thing I'm nervous about is anonymity because I'm in education. I'd be mortified if the parents/kids found me... I know I shouldn't be, but I would!

Just need to get myself back out there properly. You know how it is; eventually your mind returns back to the last love of your life and the rose tinted glasses come on. He was bloody horrible to me in the end but my fingers were itching to send a text this weekend. Definitely must have been a full moon!

I think you should give it a shot ! If he treated you horribly it his loss and its time to move on . I wouldn't be too worried about people spotting you on it because you just have to ask why are they on it ?
The only advice I would give to you if you do like somebody and decided to date them make sure you are over your ex 100% because it wouldn't be fair on that person .

doctorwhogirl

smileyj1987 wrote: »

I think you should give it a shot ! If he treated you horribly it his loss and its time to move on . I wouldn't be too worried about people spotting you on it because you just have to ask why are they on it ?
The only advice I would give to you if you do like somebody and decided to date them make sure you are over your ex 100% because it wouldn't be fair on that person .

Thanks all.

Oh I completely agree. I've been on a few dates since we broke up but of course I'm comparing them to him. Disaster!

I think though, in my heart of hearts, that exploring what's out there may help. It's the same old break up story where he knocked my confidence that I felt for a long time noone else would want me blah blah blah. Which is a load f nonsense, I know. So I have to prove it to myself.

Didn't realise you could make your profile pic anonymous unless someone messages you. That's a good feature. But I'm assuming it lessens the flow of traffic considerably!

I'm also nervous of the slightly promiscuous reputation POF has. Don't know if I'm going to be able to handle random pictures of appendages being thrust in my face!!!!

Mince Pie

doctorwhogirl wrote: »

Thanks all.

Oh I completely agree. I've been on a few dates since we broke up but of course I'm comparing them to him. Disaster!

I think though, in my heart of hearts, that exploring what's out there may help. It's the same old break up story where he knocked my confidence that I felt for a long time noone else would want me blah blah blah. Which is a load f nonsense, I know. So I have to prove it to myself.

Didn't realise you could make your profile pic anonymous unless someone messages you. That's a good feature. But I'm assuming it lessens the flow of traffic considerably!

I'm also nervous of the slightly promiscuous reputation POF has. Don't know if I'm going to be able to handle random pictures of appendages being thrust in my face!!!!

Maybe try out OK Cupid for starters. Its not as busy and I haven't seen any appendages. I had some jokey pics I posted removed as they weren't me by the admin. So they seem to be on top of it there.

smileyj1987

doctorwhogirl , sign up to both but on POF just set your profile up so you can view people and they can't view you . So you can browse around people and have a nose at the men in your age bracket and mail the ones you find attractive and have a nice filled out profile none of the 2 or 3 lines crap . Best of luck on your hunt for a new man just do yourself a big favour don't let him treat you like crap nobody deserves that ever .

doctorwhogirl

smileyj1987 wrote: »

doctorwhogirl , sign up to both but on POF just set your profile up so you can view people and they can't view you . So you can browse around people and have a nose at the men in your age bracket and mail the ones you find attractive and have a nice filled out profile none of the 2 or 3 lines crap . Best of luck on your hunt for a new man just do yourself a big favour don't let him treat you like crap nobody deserves that ever .

Aw thanks! Just setting up an OK Cupid one now and freaking out! This is all very new, shiny and scary! Why I decided to do this at 1am I do not know!

smileyj1987

doctorwhogirl wrote: »

Aw thanks! Just setting up an OK Cupid one now and freaking out! This is all very new, shiny and scary! Why I decided to do this at 1am I do not know!

Ah its grand . Don't be staying up browsing all the hunks you school in the morning Ms .

Jimmy Bottlehead

I really, REALLY wish there was a 'hide' option on POF. Some profiles you just don't want to keep seeing!

stargazer 68

Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »

I really, REALLY wish there was a 'hide' option on POF. Some profiles you just don't want to keep seeing!

Yep wish there was too. Just hit it and the ones you don't want to see on the 'online' list etc disappear!

Galvasean

doctorwhogirl wrote: »

Oh I completely agree. I've been on a few dates since we broke up but of course I'm comparing them to him. Disaster!

I never got the whole 'comparing to the ex' lark (as someone who'se been on the recieving end of it more times than I'd care to mention). I mean, you broke up for a damn good reason no doubt. Usually when I'm on a date with someone the only cmparison to an ex that I get is, "Wow, this new gal is much nicer!"

doctorwhogirl wrote:

Didn't realise you could make your profile pic anonymous unless someone messages you. That's a good feature. But I'm assuming it lessens the flow of traffic considerably!

Based on what lots of girls are saying here, that's probably a good thing. At least you'll spare yourself a sea of "how r u" messages and pictures of overenthusiastic genitalia. So long as you're pro-active and message guys you like the look/sound of you should be fine.

Honey-ec

Had to cancel a date tonight with what seems to be a lovely feller cause I'm more than likely going to be stuck in work late.

Fcuk you, work!

We're doing tomorrow instead. And I'll be like, by the way, next time you see me (assuming things go well, obviously) I won't look anything like this as I'm dyeing my hair almost black tomorrow, byeeee!

Galvasean

Honey-ec wrote: »

And I'll be like, by the way, next time you see me (assuming things go well, obviously) I won't look anything like this as I'm dyeing my hair almost black tomorrow, byeeee!

And if the date goes badly you'll have the perfect disguise to aid in your escape!

Jimmy Bottlehead

Galvasean wrote: »

And if the date goes badly you'll have the perfect disguise to aid in your escape!

With the amount of weirdos out there, one of these might also be necessary:

Honey-ec

Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »

With the amount of weirdos out there, one of these might also be necessary:

I would absolutely love the balls to show up wearing those...

Daveysil15

doctorwhogirl wrote: »

I'm also nervous of the slightly promiscuous reputation POF has. Don't know if I'm going to be able to handle random pictures of appendages being thrust in my face!!!!

Galvasean wrote: »

pictures of overenthusiastic genitalia.

I really think those guys would be better off visiting an escort website instead. I can't see them doing a whole lot of copulating as a result of sharing dic pics on a dating site.