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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #8582
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    riveratom wrote: »
    Guys,

    Do ya ever have those profiles where someone has a couple of photos up and you think you fancy them in one pic but not so much in another??!

    Oh God yeah. What I do in that situation is focus on the pic I don't find attractive, because usually that's how they look most of the time! Everyone posts some really flattering pics and if there are some not so flattering pics, you should really judge by those IMO.


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    #8583
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    Oh God yeah. What I do in that situation is focus on the pic I don't find attractive, because usually that's how they look most of the time! Everyone posts some really flattering pics and if there are some not so flattering pics, you should really judge by those IMO.

    It's funny, because the pic I don't fancy her as much in is one where she is wearing shades, and I thought everyone is meant to look damn hot in shades!! :)


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    #8584
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    riveratom wrote: »
    It's funny, because the pic I don't fancy her as much in is one where she is wearing shades, and I thought everyone is meant to look damn hot in shades!! :)

    Not everyone does! I look like a moron in sunglasses!


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    #8585
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    LyndaMcL wrote: »
    Not everyone does! I look like a moron in sunglasses!

    Haha don't be so hard on yourself!! :)

    Chatting with a really attractive girl last night and the upshot is we have a date this day week, I love Friday dates! :D


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    #8586
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    I don't buy the 'everyone looks good in sunglasses' angle either. Especially not those gigantic face covering ones some girls like to wear(usually whist pouting like an idiot).

    edit: that said, I don't look half bad in shades myself...

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    #8587
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    Not a sausage from Tuesday's date since the day after. Ah well!


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    #8588
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Not a sausage from Tuesday's date since the day after. Ah well!

    Who texted last?!


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    #8589
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    riveratom wrote: »
    Who texted last?!

    Me.


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    #8590
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Me.

    That's only 2 days....people like to play it cool sometimes...

    Suppose it depends a lot on how the date went too though.


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    #8591
    Siuin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,659 ✭✭✭Siuin


    Just went to a night club in Dublin last night and it was a rather strong reminder of why I turned to online dating to begin with...!! Nothing quite as nauseating as having a couple mauling each other in front of me and then seeing the guy whip up her skirt and presently started to spank her bare arse in the middle of a packed smoking area...

    Yeaaah, I think that confimed it for me. I'm done with clubs.


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    #8592
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    riveratom wrote: »
    That's only 2 days....people like to play it cool sometimes...

    I think 2 days is a tad beyond 'playing it cool' and into 'keeping option open' territory...


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    #8593
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I think 2 days is a tad beyond 'playing it cool' and into 'keeping option open' territory...

    That's just your opinion!

    I would tend to agree and it's not a good sign. But sometimes there's an element of lots of chit chat leading up to a date, and then once date 1 has been had, it's back into 'oh I should wait a day or two before texting' territory.

    It's not what I'd be doing, but not everyone is like me (or us).


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    #8594
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I think 2 days is a tad beyond 'playing it cool' and into 'keeping option open' territory...
    riveratom wrote: »
    That's just your opinion!

    I'm pretty sure everything I post on boards is just my opinion ;)


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    #8595
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I'm pretty sure everything I post on boards is just my opinion ;)

    Come on dude, I was mainly just trying to make Honey-ec feel better :)

    My philosophy is always 'onwards and upwards' in relation to such things anyway!


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    #8596
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    riveratom wrote: »
    Come on dude, I was mainly just trying to make Honey-ec feel better :)

    My philosophy is always 'onwards and upwards' in relation to such things anyway!

    My philosophy is "Expect the worst, so when something half decent happens you'll be pleasantly surprised!" :pac:
    It's coming in VERY handy with regard to my OD experiences.


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    #8597
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Siuin wrote: »
    Just went to a night club in Dublin last night and it was a rather strong reminder of why I turned to online dating to begin with...!! Nothing quite as nauseating as having a couple mauling each other in front of me and then seeing the guy whip up her skirt and presently started to spank her bare arse in the middle of a packed smoking area...

    Yeaaah, I think that confimed it for me. I'm done with clubs.

    Coppers?


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    #8598
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    riveratom wrote: »
    Guys,

    Do ya ever have those profiles where someone has a couple of photos up and you think you fancy them in one pic but not so much in another??!

    Yes this has happened to me quite a few times. I've also noticed that a lot of people have their best photo for their main profile pic (understandable). I'd see it and say,"Ohh she looks nice." Then I'd click on the profile and the rest of the photos are a disappointment and she's not as attractive as she first appeared. Sometimes I'd see a profile where a girl might look attractive in 2 photos and look unattractive in the other 2 and I just can't make up my mind. :mad::o


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    #8599
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Dermo73 wrote: »
    +1 on this. I'm upfront about it with mates and because I don't act embarrassed they don't see it that way either. If your own attitude is positive others will see that and react positively

    I have told some of my friends. I have a wide age group of friends though. The young'uns wouldn't get it. :D
    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Deafening silence on OKC since I changed my pic to the dark hair. Ah well!

    I think it really suits you!


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    #8600
    miamee
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    Daveysil15 wrote: »

    Yes this has happened to me quite a few times. I've also noticed that a lot of people have their best photo for their main profile pic (understandable). I'd see it and say,"Ohh she looks nice." Then I'd click on the profile and the rest of the photos are a disappointment and she's not as attractive as she first appeared. Sometimes I'd see a profile where a girl might look attractive in 2 photos and look unattractive in the other 2 and I just can't make up my mind. :mad::o
    I presume you judge on more than just the pics? What I mean is, if you like half the pics and she sounds like an interesting, funny, intelligent woman (or whatever you look for), wouldn't you take the chance?


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    #8601
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    miamee wrote: »
    I presume you judge on more than just the pics? What I mean is, if you like half the pics and she sounds like an interesting, funny, intelligent woman (or whatever you look for), wouldn't you take the chance?

    If she was all of those things I probably would take a chance yes. But its difficult to know if someone is interesting, funny, intelligent etc just by chatting to them online. Of course people sometimes look better IRL than they do in their photos, but the pics are the first thing I notice and are probably the biggest deciding factor when judging wheather or not I find them attractive. That's just me though. I'm sure there are many who look at it differently, but I need to be physically attracted to the person.


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    #8602
    BoyJohn129
    Registered Users Posts: 23 ✭BoyJohn129


    I recently had a first date -

    I thought it went well, there was no awkwardness and we chatted at length for the whole night and were about the last ones to leave the pub. I was told afterwards that she thought the date was lovely!

    I was delighted with it! There's been a little bit of radio silence since.

    So I'm looking for a bit of advice... I don't do very well at playing games and don't really have any interest in them. However, I don't want to seem to keen and on the other hand I don't want her to think that I'm not interested!

    I'm wondering should I leave the radio silence for, say, another day before texting her again?


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    #8603
    andreac
    Registered Users Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    Did you text her at all after the date?


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    #8604
    BoyJohn129
    Registered Users Posts: 23 ✭BoyJohn129


    andreac wrote: »
    Did you text her at all after the date?

    Yup.... that's when she said she thought it was a lovely date.


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    #8605
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    BoyJohn129 wrote: »
    Yup.... that's when she said she thought it was a lovely date.

    And that was the end of the texts? I'd move on I'd say....


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    #8606
    smileyj1987
    Registered Users Posts: 5,325 ✭✭✭smileyj1987


    BoyJohn129 wrote: »
    Yup.... that's when she said she thought it was a lovely date.

    To me it seems like there is no chemistry on her side , it happens and just have to move on . At least you had a nice date and you can take some positives from it .


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    #8607
    BoyJohn129
    Registered Users Posts: 23 ✭BoyJohn129


    Wow, that wasn't my impression of the date all. :confused:

    We loosely talked about a second date during the 1st date etc...


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    #8608
    smileyj1987
    Registered Users Posts: 5,325 ✭✭✭smileyj1987


    BoyJohn129 wrote: »
    Wow, that wasn't my impression of the date all. :confused:
    We loosely talked about a second date during the 1st date etc...

    If you don't think its a lack of chemistry maybe ring or text her and just ask her out straight if she would like to see you again . I would say find out as quick as you can because it will melt your head .


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    #8609
    BoyJohn129
    Registered Users Posts: 23 ✭BoyJohn129


    smileyj1987 wrote: »
    If you don't think its a lack of chemistry maybe ring or text her and just ask her out straight if she would like to see you again . I would say find out as quick as you can because it will melt your head .

    Well in fairness she did say she'll see me again last night at the end of the date. There was a level of alcohol involved though!


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    #8610
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    BoyJohn129 wrote: »
    Yup.... that's when she said she thought it was a lovely date.

    Okay, so if I'm reading rifght she replied to your last text? If that's the case I'd say giver her a buzz and see if she's up for another date. Worst she can do is say no/not respond. Better off knowing for certain than being unsure of where you stand.


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    #8611
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    BoyJohn129 wrote: »
    Well in fairness she did say she'll see me again last night at the end of the date. There was a level of alcohol involved though!

    How long has it been since the date? If it has been a few days and there has been no texting then I don't think there is anything there...

    Big difference between getting on well, and actual chemistry...


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