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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #8972
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,214 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    hollypink wrote: »
    Why do people add you to their favourites list on POF? No one who has added me has ever contacted me and although 3 have no pics (which might account for it), the rest do. I dont see the point. I also dont see the point of "meet me". I would prefer to get a few messages instead of these "x has added you to their favourites" or "x wants to meet you".

    Sometimes I do that when I intend to message them later or have another read off their profile. I don't always remember to get back to them though :o


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    #8973
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    hollypink wrote: »
    Why do people add you to their favourites list on POF? No one who has added me has ever contacted me and although 3 have no pics (which might account for it), the rest do. I dont see the point. I also dont see the point of "meet me". I would prefer to get a few messages instead of these "x has added you to their favourites" or "x wants to meet you".


    Is it not as a 'saved profile'? I might be looking through profiles, see one that i like but just can't get a natural sounding non copy and paste message out at that time for whatever reason, or might be looking on my mobile with it's cracked screen so save it for later when i'm at my pc or laptop....

    There are a couple on mine that i haven't gotten around to messaging yet as I've been having regular enough contact with someone who seems like a lot of fun, so even though it's dumb to keep all your eggs in one basket, I'd prefer to be mailing just one person until we've either dated and gone on to more things or dated and decided "yeah.... no, not for me" or just decided to stop mailing as we're in danger of just becoming penpals!


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    #8974
    Pepe LeFrits
    Users Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 15,001 ✭✭✭✭Pepe LeFrits


    smileyj1987 wrote: »

    I don't think its harsh , I have come across at least 10 profiles that have been filled in like this

    ksjfaksfbajbvkdjbvkjeBVKJVKJDSABVKJDABVSB Mail me if you want to get to know me !
    Was a joke.

    More bad profiles than good on there.

    'I don't really know what I'm doing on here but sure I'll give it a go!'
    'I like to laugh.'
    'I love my friends and family.'
    'Don't message me if you're a weirdo.'


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    #8975
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,117 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    hollypink wrote: »
    Why do people add you to their favourites list on POF? No one who has added me has ever contacted me and although 3 have no pics (which might account for it), the rest do. I dont see the point. I also dont see the point of "meet me". I would prefer to get a few messages instead of these "x has added you to their favourites" or "x wants to meet you".

    I ignore the meet me thing- dont think any of them have ever contacted me. If I like the look of them I will drop them a message though!

    As for favourites - I went through mine last night and deleted most of them - they have never contacted me despite having added me months ago.


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    #8976
    CastorTroy
    Registered Users Posts: 29,088 ✭✭✭✭CastorTroy


    hollypink wrote: »
    Why do people add you to their favourites list on POF? No one who has added me has ever contacted me and although 3 have no pics (which might account for it), the rest do. I dont see the point. I also dont see the point of "meet me". I would prefer to get a few messages instead of these "x has added you to their favourites" or "x wants to meet you".

    Dunno about anyone else, but the "Meet me" page always gives me the same 2 or 3 people. I just check the page out but don't use the buttons.

    As for favourites, if someone interests me, that I intend to message, I just make note of the page URL or username. But problem there is going directly to the profile or searching by username doesn't tell you when they were last online outside of the normal search.


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    #8977
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Something I don't get is when someone winks at you without having any photo or even anything resembling a profile.

    Maybe they should have a quick OD 101 course that you have to take before you can finish signing up :)


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    #8978
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,117 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    riveratom wrote: »
    Something I don't get is when someone winks at you without having any photo or even anything resembling a profile.

    Maybe they should have a quick OD 101 course that you have to take before you can finish signing up :)

    Bit like those who have 'dont have time to fill this in, will fill it in later'. If you dont have time then why bother doing it - think you are going to miss something amazing if you wait a day or two?? :confused::rolleyes:


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    #8979
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,214 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    riveratom wrote: »
    Maybe they should have a quick OD 101 course that you have to take before you can finish signing up :)
    Sounds like an excellent money making opportunity there, let's do it :P :pac:

    ETA: I think a lot of people who sign up to OD these days are not very.internet savvy or self-aware in the online sense - basically I don't think it even occurs to them that all you know about them is what they have filled into those boxes on the screen.


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    #8980
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    miamee wrote: »
    Sounds like an excellent money making opportunity there, let's do it :P :pac:

    ETA: I think a lot of people who sign up to OD these days are not very.internet savvy or self-aware in the online sense - basically I don't think it even occurs to them that all you know about them is what they have filled into those boxes on the screen.

    Ha indeed, let's do it is right!!

    Yeah this is it. I think that sometimes it's easy to assume that everyone is internet-savvy these days, because the internets are everywhere - but it's not actually the case.


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    #8981
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    So it would appear my hunch about BG was bang on the money.

    God, I hate being right all the time...


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    #8982
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    So it would appear my hunch about BG was bang on the money.

    God, I hate being right all the time...


    BG = Butterfly Guy?

    Or BG = Brown Gruaig?


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    #8983
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    knucklehead6 wrote: »
    BG = Butterfly Guy?

    Or BG = Brown Gruaig?

    Butterfly Guy, but I reckon the Brown Gruaig was the cause of it!


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    #8984
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Butterfly Guy, but I reckon the Brown Gruaig was the cause of it!


    Awwww...

    The only solace i can offer is that as a bar manager his hours would be anti social in the extreme.


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    #8985
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    knucklehead6 wrote: »
    Awwww...

    The only solace i can offer is that as a bar manager his hours would be anti social in the extreme.

    The other solace is that I'm owed two lunches from friends I bet that he would do a fade :)


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    #8986
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    The other solace is that I'm owed two lunches from friends I bet that he would do a fade :)


    Well there ya have it... 3 solaces. I have no idea what point i was making but there are at least 3 positives from this. Somewhere.


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    #8987
    CastorTroy
    Registered Users Posts: 29,088 ✭✭✭✭CastorTroy


    Dovies wrote: »
    Bit like those who have 'dont have time to fill this in, will fill it in later'. If you dont have time then why bother doing it - think you are going to miss something amazing if you wait a day or two?? :confused::rolleyes:

    Even better when they fill out part of the profile saying something like "I'm 31 years old. Work in Admin. Will fill the rest out later" then I look at the person's info again where it says they're 32 or 33. Either 1 is filled out wrong or later to her is at least a year, which I personally wouldn't find a good thing in a person. :)


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    #8988
    supackofidiots
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 187 ✭✭supackofidiots


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    Having said that I was chatting to a lovely lady off POF and couldn't believe she was chatting to me and hadn't been snapped up already. Turns out she has a kid.....bummer!!

    Is this not a bit harsh?

    I mean, being online looking for dates is pretty much bottom of the barrel stuff, beggars can hardly be choosers? (Not making an insult at you in case it sounds like that, more of a general comment)


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    #8989
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    supackofidiots wrote: »
    Is this not a bit harsh?

    I mean, being online looking for dates is pretty much bottom of the barrel stuff, beggars can hardly be choosers? (Not making an insult at you in case it sounds like that, more of a general comment)


    Online looking for dates is bottom of the barrel stuff??

    Troll town is that way >>>>>>>>>>>>>>


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    #8990
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    supackofidiots wrote: »
    Is this not a bit harsh?

    I mean, being online looking for dates is pretty much bottom of the barrel stuff, beggars can hardly be choosers? (Not making an insult at you in case it sounds like that, more of a general comment)

    on a thread dedicated to online dating, that kind of comment is at best unhelpful and at worst trolling/baiting. Don't post in a similar manner again here or else you will be banned.


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    #8991
    supackofidiots
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 187 ✭✭supackofidiots


    Hardly trolling mate, everyone on online dating is on it because mroe conventional methods haven't or don't work for them.

    Maybe bottom of the barrel was the wrong term, last chance saloon perhaps more appropriate.

    I mean, online dating isn't the first port of call when someone thinks to themselves ''oh I'd liKe to find a partner"


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    #8992
    smileyj1987
    Registered Users Posts: 5,325 ✭✭✭smileyj1987


    supackofidiots wrote: »
    Is this not a bit harsh?

    I mean, being online looking for dates is pretty much bottom of the barrel stuff, beggars can hardly be choosers? (Not making an insult at you in case it sounds like that, more of a general comment)

    How is it though ? Maybe Armaghmagic isn't ready for children and if that is the case why would he even think about going out with somebody who has children .


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    #8993
    CastorTroy
    Registered Users Posts: 29,088 ✭✭✭✭CastorTroy


    Seems he's saying that if someone you absolutely despised or someone who you had no interest in approached you in a bar, you should go for it just because you're desperate and will settle for anything.

    Online Dating is just another means of meeting someone that doesn't involve loud music, drunkenness and shouting


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    #8994
    supackofidiots
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 187 ✭✭supackofidiots


    CastorTroy wrote: »
    Seems he's saying that if someone you absolutely despised or someone who you had no interest in approached you in a bar, you should go for it just because you're desperate and will settle for anything.

    Online Dating is just another means of meeting someone that doesn't involve loud music, drunkenness and shouting


    bit of an ott reaction there mate,I've explained myself to sam via pm. report the posts and they'll be dealt with, otherwise leave your bs at the door please.

    I made a valid point. You just don't like hearing the truth. my initial point was put across badly, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. I used a poor choice of words I concede.


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    #8995
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    supackofidiots wrote: »
    bit of an ott reaction there mate,I've explained myself to sam via pm. report the posts and they'll be dealt with, otherwise leave your bs at the door please.

    I made a valid point. You just don't like hearing the truth. my initial point was put across badly, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. I used a poor choice of words I concede.


    How was castors post OTT or BS?

    Those of us who use Online Dating are using it as it is a different way of meeting someone.
    You might consider it last chance saloon, but that's your problem, not ours.


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    #8996
    andreac
    Registered Users Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    supackofidiots wrote: »
    Hardly trolling mate, everyone on online dating is on it because mroe conventional methods haven't or don't work for them.

    Maybe bottom of the barrel was the wrong term, last chance saloon perhaps more appropriate.

    I mean, online dating isn't the first port of call when someone thinks to themselves ''oh I'd liKe to find a partner"

    Eh, no it isnt.

    Is just another avenue, as not everyone goes out to bars/clubs every weekend to meet people.

    Its nothing to do with it not working at all, far from it. Its just another means to meet people.

    The same could be said about people who just go to clubs to hook up, you could say it only works for them when they are pissed :rolleyes:


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    #8997
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    I tend to do a lot better with girls IRL than on OD and yet I use OD... Does that make me more or less desperate? :confused:


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    #8998
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    Lads, the post has been dealt with, lets move on.


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    #8999
    supackofidiots
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 187 ✭✭supackofidiots


    On the original point.

    Is it off putting for most of you if a person is a single parent?


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    #9000
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    supackofidiots wrote: »
    On the original point.

    Is it off putting for most of you if a person is a single parent?

    Personally, for me it is a bit. I wouldn't be completely put off by it, but it wouldn't be my ideal preference, if that makes sense?


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    #9001
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    I split up with my husband because I didn't want kids, I'm sure as hell not taking on someone else's.


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