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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #9242
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Tigger99 wrote: »
    I'm early 30's and id be looking at 2/3 years younger & up to 10 years older. I def prefer an older guy, dunno why.

    I've noticed guys messaging me even tho im a few years older than their specified age range, which is interesting considering I'm usually their age.

    So basically it depends on the person i suppose.

    I wouldn't have a problem with messaging someone my own age, just there aren't that many single women on the sites who are 37. :)


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    #9243
    riveratom
    Registered Users Posts: 964 ✭✭✭riveratom


    Meauldsegosha wrote: »
    Would you say you're typical of men your age? I'm 41 and would message men between the ages of 35-48. The reason I have that age limit is due to the fact my last 3 relationship have been with younger men. So did I just happen to meet 3 unusual men who didn't have an age "thing".

    I only ask because I've been in those relationship for the last ten years or so and maybe I should change my thinking in terms of OD.

    I wouldn't say there's a 'typical' in all of this, I would say there would be few guys who would blanket rule out someone based on their age, at least not if the age difference wasn't that big. Think it comes down to attraction ultimately!


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    #9244
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    riveratom wrote: »

    I wouldn't say there's a 'typical' in all of this, I would say there would be few guys who would blanket rule out someone based on their age, at least not if the age difference wasn't that big. Think it comes down to attraction ultimately!

    I'd agree with this.

    I don't have a blanket rule, if an attractive (to me, cos one mans goose is another mans pigeon) 40 yr old woman started messaging me I'd certainly not rule her out based purely on her age.


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    #9245
    Tigger99
    Registered Users Posts: 6,247 ✭✭✭Tigger99


    Ha, a cougar dating website is being advertised on this page now. How apt!


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    #9246
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    Tigger99 wrote: »
    Ha, a cougar dating website is being advertised on this page now. How apt!

    Thank god for ad blocker!! Hehehehe


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    #9247
    Meauldsegosha
    Registered Users Posts: 7,598 ✭✭✭Meauldsegosha


    riveratom wrote: »

    I wouldn't say there's a 'typical' in all of this, I would say there would be few guys who would blanket rule out someone based on their age, at least not if the age difference wasn't that big. Think it comes down to attraction ultimately!

    I know there's no "typical" just trying to get a different perspective on things. Some men in the lower age range have replied but most haven't. I think the think is in RL I can pass for 3/4 years younger then I am but I hate having my photo taken so they are probably not the best. And as we know photos can play a big part in OD.


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    #9248
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Just a thing which may or may not apply; but in terms of OD you tend to get a lot of lads looking for the ride on it, so they may in fact be messaging older women due to the 'fact' that they put out quicker.

    How do you know they put out quicker? :)


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    #9249
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    How do you know they put out quicker? :)

    I said 'fact' in adverted commas because it's one of those oft-repeated stereotypes that passes for common knowledge these days.


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    #9250
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I said 'fact' in adverted commas because it's one of those oft-repeated stereotypes that passes for common knowledge these days.

    Ahh I see, I thought you were speaking from personal experience. The cougars are popular these days all the same.


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    #9251
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Personally. I'm gonna log off 'til new year. It's hard enough to get in regular contact with a girl on OD these days without the added Xmas busyness/stress. I'd imagine it will be hard enought to organise dates between now and Dece,ber 25th. Not to mention most places will be jammers.




    Well, the last two girlfriends I had were at least 3 years older than me, so I'm probably not the bst guy to ask.
    Conversely, I have noticed that most girls seem to leave alot of leeway for dating older guys, but not much in terms of younger (I've been told I'm 'too young' by girls the same age as me).
    It just seems to be an old fashioned kind of thing, where the guy is typically older. I think it's some sort of traditional 'breadwinner' thing. A lot of guys can be insecure about their percieed 'mailiness', and being seen to be the one 'bringing home the bacon' is a priority for them.

    Really? In the majority of longterm couples I know the woman earns more!


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    #9252
    Mince Pie
    Registered Users Posts: 3,901 ✭✭✭Mince Pie


    Can I ask, how old does a lady have to be to be a cougar or is it the age of the men she pursues? I'm a bit worried being a bit of an oul wan meself.


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    #9253
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    The cougars are popular these days all the same.

    I think part of the attraction/stereotype is that they tend to have their own home (ie: no parents to avoid), so sexy time is an easier prospect all 'round.

    I fear I'm straying slightly off topic, so Ill say this: It's been 3 days snce I last logged on (starting to sond like AA here..) and I honestly can't say I've missed it much.


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    #9254
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    I prefer guy around my own age. I've never been attracted to a guy more than 5 years older and would have not so much in common either. I also noticed I get messaged mostly but guys close to my age on the site with only a few young lad and aul fellas chancing their arm.


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    #9255
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I fear I'm straying slightly off topic, so Ill say this: It's been 3 days snce I last logged on (starting to sond like AA here..) and I honestly can't say I've missed it much.

    I haven't been on it in over a week. I'm going to wait till the new year before I get back into it. People will be getting busy coming up to Christmas (I know I am anyway).


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    #9256
    sffc
    Closed Accounts Posts: 433 ✭✭sffc


    "Cougarlife" ???? Not much life - none of them look much more than 30 !


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    #9257
    manafana
    Registered Users Posts: 3,484 ✭✭✭manafana


    i just get ads for electricty and sports.


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    #9258
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    The advantage of online dating - you know that the person is single (hopefully!). I just can't read men any more!


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    #9259
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    mood wrote: »
    The advantage of online dating - you know that the person is single (hopefully!). I just can't read men any more!

    That's true. The amount of times I've tried to approach women in bars or clubs only to be interrupted by a menacing boyfriend. Feck that.


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    #9260
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    And as soon as I comment about being in a dating desert since October I end up with a first date for Friday!


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    #9261
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    That's true. The amount of times I've tried to approach women in bars or clubs only to be interrupted by a menacing boyfriend. Feck that.

    I know! I was starting to think an acquaintance might like me. I only meet him a few weeks ago through work so didn't know if he was single or not. He mentioned his girlfriend this evening for the first time. I really got that one wrong!


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    #9262
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    Galvasean wrote: »


    Personally. I'm gonna log off 'til new year. It's hard enough to get in regular contact with a girl on OD these days without the added Xmas busyness/stress. I'd imagine it will be hard enought to organise dates between now and Dece,ber 25th. Not to mention most places will be jammers.




    Well, the last two girlfriends I had were at least 3 years older than me, so I'm probably not the bst guy to ask.
    Conversely, I have noticed that most girls seem to leave alot of leeway for dating older guys, but not much in terms of younger (I've been told I'm 'too young' by girls the same age as me).
    It just seems to be an old fashioned kind of thing, where the guy is typically older. I think it's some sort of traditional 'breadwinner' thing. A lot of guys can be insecure about their percieed 'mailiness', and being seen to be the one 'bringing home the bacon' is a priority for them.
    I'm very open to dating younger guys...up to about 7 years younger but only 2 or 3 years older. The reason is not so much Age difference but stage in my life...I find I've more in common with younger people than people who are the same age as me. Also I look 7 years younger than my actual age. Although I got asked for over 18 ID a few weeks ago As they thought I was 15 years younger than my real age...that night I snogged a 22 year old and he thought he was much older than me :)

    Also I'd imagine men die before women, so I want a young man looking after me in my old age :)

    I'm arranging lots of dates over Christmas...what else is there to do besides watch same movies over and over? Would be so boring sitting in for 2 weeks...at that rate I should have booked a holiday to new Zealand


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    #9263
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: »
    I've actually found I'm attracted to girls the same age as or slightly older than me.

    I'm 26, the youngest I dated in the last while was 24, I dated a good few girls who were 28 and 30... the girl I'm seeing right now is 26, but in general I appreciate the maturity and self-assurance that comes with girls (ladies, women?!) in their late 20's.

    2 years age difference is nothing!!!


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    #9264
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    With regards to age differences, I'd like to think I'm fairly open about age. I'm nearly 24. I'd date anyone up to about 32/33, but to be honest, I've never dated anyone more than 3 years younger than me. I have no problem with younger guys (once we're both adults, who cares? :) ), but I've found that the few men I've dated who were younger than me were also extremely immature. I'm not saying that I'm ridiculously mature, I still go out on mad nights out and what not, but in terms of life experience and perhaps emotional maturity, I seem to have more in common with people in their late 20s/early 30s. Guy I'm going on date with in a week or two is six years older than me, but on the same wavelength, so it's all good.:)


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    #9265
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Was chatting to a girl off POF. Could string a sentence together, had all the right boxes ticked and drop dead gorgeous. Couldnt believe she was chatting to me and then I noticed I had no photos displayed.

    So I sent a few to her and.......NOTHING!! Really is a massive kick when that happens :-(


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    #9266
    Erper
    Registered Users Posts: 539 ✭✭✭Erper


    im not sure i do understand this...
    but how and where do you post your info to meet someone


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    #9267
    Esoteric_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    Erper wrote: »
    im not sure i do understand this...
    but how and where do you post your info to meet someone

    This isn't a place to meet people. It's a thread to talk about online dating sites like Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, Tagged, Smooch, E-Harmony and all the other dating sites out there.

    It's to talk about our experiences with online dating sites and get advice/opinions/share funny stories, not for picking up dates. :)


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    #9268
    knucklehead6
    Registered Users Posts: 6,783 ✭✭✭knucklehead6


    magneticimpulse wrote: »
    I'm very open to dating younger guys...up to about 7 years younger but only 2 or 3 years older. The reason is not so much Age difference but stage in my life...I find I've more in common with younger people than people who are the same age as me. Also I look 7 years younger than my actual age. Although I got asked for over 18 ID a few weeks ago As they thought I was 15 years younger than my real age...that night I snogged a 22 year old and he thought he was much older than me :)

    Also I'd imagine men die before women,     so I want a young man looking after me in my old age :)

    I'm arranging lots of dates over Christmas...what else is there to do besides watch same movies over and over? Would be so boring sitting in for 2 weeks...at that rate I should have booked a holiday to new Zealand

    Normally that's through choice!!


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    #9269
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    magneticimpulse wrote: »
    I look 7 years younger than my actual age.

    That's very specific!

    My husband was younger than me. And I earned more than him for the first few years, til I got made redundant and pretty much went back to square one salary-wise.

    There's a point in there somewhere, but I'm not sure what it is...


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    #9270
    andreac
    Registered Users Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    magneticimpulse wrote: »
    My date said he is giving me a cd of a band we went to see....wonder if it is the same guy

    Dont think so, as he hasnt seen this band, if its the same band,lol. Plus i was his first and only date (so far) from POF.

    All good though, but will be after the weekend before we see each other again but cant wait already!!


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    #9271
    magneticimpulse
    Registered Users Posts: 1,952 ✭✭✭magneticimpulse


    andreac wrote: »

    Dont think so, as he hasnt seen this band, if its the same band,lol. Plus i was his first and only date (so far) from POF.

    All good though, but will be after the weekend before we see each other again but cant wait already!!
    I enjoy my dates but I'm enjoying 1st dates with lots of guys at the moment. Hopefully I can then decide. I'm hoping to meet my Galway guy from pof this weekend in Galway :)


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