The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

smileyj1987

knucklehead6 wrote: »

Ah we're not supposed to meet till 9. I'm not even at the place yet myself, just have a bad vibe about it. She texted about 45 mins ago saying she'd call in a few. Nothing since. And that was the only contact today.

Maybe you should give her a call , I would rather be told I'm having second thoughts then to show up and be left waiting like a fool . That would annoy me even more .

mood

knucklehead6 I think your just panicking. She wouldn't have said she would call soon if she intended to stand you up.

knucklehead6

smileyj1987 wrote: »

Maybe you should give her a call , I would rather be told I'm having second thoughts then to show up and be left waiting like a fool . That would annoy me even more .

In her last text her battery was dying...

Feck it, I'll just have a pint or few and head off home if I'm stood up. Not gonna get bothered about it.

smileyj1987

knucklehead6 wrote: »

In her last text her battery was dying...

Feck it, I'll just have a pint or few and head off home if I'm stood up. Not gonna get bothered about it.

Yeah thats the best thing you could if her battery was dying , whatever happens just enjoy yourself :)

knucklehead6

mood wrote: »

knucklehead6 I think your just panicking. She wouldn't have said she would call soon if she intended to stand you up.

Maybe. Like I said, it's just a vibe I've been getting. Any other first date I've been on there has been a lot more contact in the lead up to it.

chakasklap

knucklehead6 wrote: »

In her last text her battery was dying...

Feck it, I'll just have a pint or few and head off home if I'm stood up. Not gonna get bothered about it.

Stay as positive as you can. It's a busy time - anything could have come up work related delays, or an after work Christmas drink has left her chasing her tail to get ready. Maybe she was going to be running late but didn't know by how much. She could have ended up stuck on an interminable family phone call forced to chat about presents and when she'd be visiting family over the holidays etc.

A million and one things could be an innocent explanation of the text, and the phone dying. Best to remain as happy as you can - even if in the back of your mind you're braced for the night to work out differently than planned I wouldn't stress about it for another hour.

G-Money

Just sent out another few original, pleasant, non-sleazy emails to girls on POI (Plenty of Ignores) there, let's see what happens.

miamee

knucklehead6 wrote: »

It is that simple. No spark = I don't fancy you.

Think I'm about to be stood up.... Posting on the phone so can't include the embarrassed smiley.

Aw no, I hope she has turned up by now!!

knucklehead6

miamee wrote: »

Aw no, I hope she has turned up by now!!

Not yet. But we were only suppose to meet at 9, so she could just be late.
I texted her when I got here asking what drink did she want.... Her response was I'll tell you when I get there.

At least I get to watch the rugby!!

miamee

knucklehead6 wrote: »

Not yet. But we were only suppose to meet at 9, so she could just be late.
I texted her when I got here asking what drink did she want.... Her response was I'll tell you when I get there.

At least I get to watch the rugby!!

Well that just sounds like she is running late. Have a fun night

knucklehead6

miamee wrote: »

Well that just sounds like she is running late. Have a fun night

I'm not holding my breath!!

riveratom

knucklehead6 wrote: »

I'm not holding my breath!!

Hope she turns up man (or has turned up). If not, bad form unless she has a good excuse.

knucklehead6

riveratom wrote: »

Hope she turns up man (or has turned up). If not, bad form unless she has a good excuse.

She turned up. Had a nice night, really enjoyed her company.

Would like to meet her again, but ball is in her court.

LittleFox

Just had a brilliant unplanned first date we went to see the hobbit then drinks in Messer Maguires he said he wants to see me again so happy days

knucklehead6

knucklehead6 wrote: »

She turned up. Had a nice night, really enjoyed her company.

Would like to meet her again, but ball is in her court.

Ah well. Next!! :-)

Esoteric_

knucklehead6 wrote: »

Ah well. Next!! :-)

Ah, shít. Sorry, man. I suppose at least she let you know fairly fast and didn't just try to do a fade on ya.

knucklehead6

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Ah, shít. Sorry, man. I suppose at least she let you know fairly fast and didn't just try to do a fade on ya.

There is that. We're gonna keep in contact, but TOTALLY platonic.

Esoteric_

knucklehead6 wrote: »

There is that. We're gonna keep in contact, but TOTALLY platonic.

I've done that before, actually. I know a lot of people are completely against that, but two people I met through OD are pretty close friends now. Sometimes it works out that way, and it's nice when it does.

mood

knucklehead6 wrote: »

She turned up. Had a nice night, really enjoyed her company.

Would like to meet her again, but ball is in her court.

Why is the ball in her court?

miamee

knucklehead6 wrote: »

Ah well. Next!! :-)

Ah flip. Next is right!

knucklehead6

LyndaMcL wrote: »

I've done that before, actually. I know a lot of people are completely against that, but two people I met through OD are pretty close friends now. Sometimes it works out that way, and it's nice when it does.

The way I look at it, anyone I meet is a potential friend first, then possible partner.

singlesnights

knucklehead6 wrote: »

The way I look at it, anyone I meet is a potential friend first, then possible partner.

The way I look at it, anyone I meet is a potential friend, then potential source of hotter friends/possible partners.......;)

silvervixen84

Was messaging a guy last night who seems cool. He already asked me to a screening of Barbarella today but I've plans so can't. Looks a bit promising.

Got another message from a guy who's in a Star Trek uniform in his profile pic. His message was "red hair yum yum" :rolleyes:

knucklehead6

singlesnights wrote: »

The way I look at it, anyone I meet is a potential friend, then potential source of hotter friends/possible partners.......;)

Living up to the username there!!

singlesnights

knucklehead6 wrote: »

Living up to the username there!!

Seriously though, being in the "friend zone" has its benefits. A girl you like is likely to have similar friends - in terms of looks, personality, interests.

If you can become genuine friends (as in friends that actually socialise together) then that's always a good thing.

magneticimpulse

LyndaMcL wrote: »

I've done that before, actually. I know a lot of people are completely against that, but two people I met through OD are pretty close friends now. Sometimes it works out that way, and it's nice when it does.

Yeah I hope that works out for me and a guy I dated from OD. We were chatting yesterday and It went well enough. He seemed happy and i was happy we were chatting again. I thought when he said 'lets be friends' when it ended was just him being nice in a bad situation and that it would never actually happen. I also then thought it would be a bad idea as I thought I would always try to get back with him. It is a bumer it didn't work out as a relationship but I do like him enough that being put into the friends Zone would be great as I do enjoy his company.

I hope we can actually meet for coffee in the future....as of now I know we might still need space to make that transition

singlesnights

magneticimpulse wrote: »

I hope we can actually meet for coffee in the future....as of now I know we might still need space to make that transition

Tell him you really fancy one of his friends.

Then watch how his feelings towards you miraculously change in a very non-platonic way......;)

Daveysil15

singlesnights wrote: »

Seriously though, being in the "friend zone" has its benefits. A girl you like is likely to have similar friends - in terms of looks, personality, interests.

If you can become genuine friends (as in friends that actually socialise together) then that's always a good thing.

I agree. There's certainly no harm in expanding your social circle. It improves your chances of meeting someone. I still keep in touch with the first girl I ever met from OD. That was over a year ago. We're planning on meeting up after Christmas. She'll be bringing a couple of her single mates so you'd never know.

magneticimpulse

singlesnights wrote: »

Tell him you really fancy one of his friends.

Then watch how his feelings towards you miraculously change in a very non-platonic way......;)

Well at this stage I'm very happy to go down the friends route. Yesterday I was chatting to lots of people and was very confident so I think that helped as he definitely knows I've moved on with my life.

Even if he turned around and said lets get back I'd question it...but at the moment or (ever) I hope we can stay in touch

yeahimhere

And I'm back to OD! Was seeing the second guy I met online for a little while, I wasn't sure on the chemistry on the first date but decided to give it a go. Had a good few dates and he was fun, maybe a little full on though. but alas just not there so called it quits.

Going to give my profile a proper go now, think I may have been a little waffley before so going to condense it and actually have a public picture. More confident in having it public now after spotting a few people I knew on there and later chatting to them about it. Not sure why I was paranoid about it before!