The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

Galvasean

Samich wrote: »

Well you see I first sent her a message a week ago and she replied and last night was her first time online since. So I just finished up saying "wanna chat again or swap numbers if you like?" as she could have went another week without logging on.

Well since you guys are texting back n' forth she must find you nice/interesting enough. As others have recommended just ask her what she's up to on [insert day you are available] and if she's free suggest meeting up.

macjohn

CastorTroy wrote: »

She didn't have a pic so no comment there.

And I wondered what the phrase meant as well, but didn't want to ask. Kids today and their slang. :P


I showed my profile to a couple of girls I'm friends with and they genuinely laughed at the parts they were meant to(Idea for first date) so that's a positive sign.

Ah, if it is the same lady then dont rule her out just cause of my feedback.
She was actually the first lady I chatted to that didnt have pics up ( my original rule was to be like the girls who say "no pics = no reply". TBH is was more in case someone was taking the p out of me than being obsessed with looks)
As I say we were looking for different things, but if it is the same girl dont want to ruin her chances with you either just cause of internet chat.

IT-Guy wrote: »

I'd say she means wearing the face off each other i.e. SCORE

Ah makes sense now, thanks, I was prob being a bit slow!!! (This see can I do 14 days without beer is slowing my brain down!)
Just the fact that was it was in the car seemed to confuse me - wasnt sure if it was good or bad!

CastorTroy

macjohn wrote: »

Ah, if it is the same lady then dont rule her out just cause of my feedback.
She was actually the first lady I chatted to that didnt have pics up ( my original rule was to be like the girls who say "no pics = no reply". TBH is was more in case someone was taking the p out of me than being obsessed with looks)
As I say we were looking for different things, but if it is the same girl dont want to ruin her chances with you either just cause of internet chat.

She's from Sligo so would be about a 2 hour drive to get there from here. Think I'll exhaust local options first

Hardonraging

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

I'm as proactive as a mofo.. Still find it hard to find people to message.. I have standards and I'm not going to raise them for anyone

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

Ah I'm only joking really.. My standards are attracted to the photo, witty banter and the profile not full of ajskgjsk;gljas;lkgjas;gjsag;alsjg

It's a lot to ask of the dating world apparently

Lucky you corrected that one

I've seen a few guys reply here saying they cant get replies... this is pretty much impossible !!

Have a think about what you're doing, and try to not do it for a week while you are sending out mail, you dont always have to write an essay to people, keep the mail's one maybe two line's, ask a question, pose a statement, I keep saying the same old same old, the wimen on pof get so many mail,s you need to stand out, if you're not going to pay attention to the little things you'll never get her attention ..

If any of ye want, drop me a pm, and we can have a chat ... i dont bite..

bogger14

Hi all, not sure if im in the right place but was just wondering if anyone has any experience of bojos35...used to be bojangles im told until recently in harcourt stree, few over 40s (motly single in fairness) heading to Dublin in a few weeks time and looking to visit a few old haunts but im told sachs is no more, any advice would be appreciated:)

Panthro

bogger14 wrote: »

Hi all, not sure if im in the right place but was just wondering if anyone has any experience of bojos35...used to be bojangles im told until recently in harcourt stree, few over 40s (motly single in fairness) heading to Dublin in a few weeks time and looking to visit a few old haunts but im told sachs is no more, any advice would be appreciated:)

Hi, Has this place anything to do with online dating? Because if not, if its a pub or a venue say, (I'm not familiar with Dublin!) perhaps try asking in the Dublin Forum located here
This thread is for discussion about online dating experiences only.

miaowsky

So I've hidden my profile from searches so this ultimately means that I have to send allll the messages to guys, but while I had a few non-replies it's actually working out for me this way. No longer am I getting pictures of penii

Hardonraging

miaowsky wrote: »

So I've hidden my profile from searches so this ultimately means that I have to send allll the messages to guys, but while I had a few non-replies it's actually working out for me this way. No longer am I getting pictures of penii

I'm assuming that's on pof, is it not cutting your nose off to spite your face ? why not block people who have msg's other looking for IE ? i'd say it would cover about 90% of those types of msg's ...

miaowsky

Hardonraging wrote: »

I'm assuming that's on pof, is it not cutting your nose off to spite your face ? why not block people who have msg's other looking for IE ? i'd say it would cover about 90% of those types of msg's ...

Not as I see it, this way also gets rid of the twoliner messages too. I'm not as inundated by pointless messages either, and I can focus on those that I mail.

BUT this could all change in a week or two!

Hardonraging

miaowsky wrote: »

Not as I see it, this way also gets rid of the twoliner messages too. I'm not as inundated by pointless messages either, and I can focus on those that I mail.

BUT this could all change in a week or two!

Closing your profile in a week or two ?

Ohh did you get over the 3 date curse ??

miaowsky

Hardonraging wrote: »

Closing your profile in a week or two ?

Ohh did you get over the 3 date curse ??

Nah not closing it, I meant that I might just change the profile settings back to public.

Haha that's a funny story....I had gotten to date 5 and then he moves to another city for work. Typical!

wobblyknees

miaowsky wrote: »

Nah not closing it, I meant that I might just change the profile settings back to public.

Haha that's a funny story....I had gotten to date 5 and then he moves to another city for work. Typical!

Have you tried deodorant?

Honey-ec

Galvasean wrote: »

Going to Galway for a few days... should I change my POF/OKC locations and see what happens? :pac:

If you have the mobile app you'll probably get loads of messages from people who've seen you on the "mobile users" feature anyway. That was certainly my experience when I was down in Cork last month.

I think I'm going to hide my profile for a while. If I go on any more dates my mother is going to start thinking I'm working as an escort.

Samich

Meet up for next week sometime :P

Sarah**

I always read peoples profiles. I've no problem sending messages to guys. Im sick of getting the "How R U?" or "Wow" or "Give us ur number" messages. I've more than two lines in my profile (In fact one could say I've a very meaty profile) and two pictures up - not really sure what else to do... POF by the way.

It's very frustrating.....

Rant Over

CastorTroy

Sarah** wrote: »

I always read peoples profiles. I've no problem sending messages to guys. Im sick of getting the "How R U?" or "Wow" or "Give us ur number" messages. I've more than two lines in my profile (In fact one could say I've a very meaty profile) and two pictures up - not really sure what else to do... POF by the way.

It's very frustrating.....

Rant Over

Offer free hugs?

Why do people have the profile set up to just have private images? I know I've seen one girl who used to have her profile pic up, but now the profile says she has private images

Sarah**

CastorTroy wrote: »

Offer free hugs?

Thanks!

It's just frustrating when you actually do want to go and date and meet some nice people and you try this avenue and it also produces disappointment...

Samich

CastorTroy wrote: »

Offer free hugs?

Why do people have the profile set up to just have private images? I know I've seen one girl who used to have her profile pic up, but now the profile says she has private images

Why not? I don't see why someone shouldn't be allowed choose to only show their pic to someone they are interested in.

Larianne

Honey-ec wrote: »

I think I'm going to hide my profile for a while. If I go on any more dates my mother is going to start thinking I'm working as an escort.

Brilliant!

Samich wrote: »

Meet up for next week sometime :P

Woohoo!

CastorTroy wrote: »

Offer free hugs?

Why do people have the profile set up to just have private images? I know I've seen one girl who used to have her profile pic up, but now the profile says she has private images

Could be any of a number of reasons -

Their job (say teacher etc.)

Photo causing them to have too many mails.

Embarrassed about people they know seeing their profile. (A friend, an ex, a family member.)

HellFireClub

Just signed up to POF at the start of the week, not exactly sold on it so far I have to say!

What is the story with this site, I'm getting mails from women 43 plus and I can't get a reply off anyone my own age (35)?!? And no I don't think I look like Quazi Moto!

Dolly Daydreams

Would be great craic to know how many of us have dated the same people. I'd say the numbers would be quite high

Varied

Sarah** wrote: »

I always read peoples profiles. I've no problem sending messages to guys. Im sick of getting the "How R U?" or "Wow" or "Give us ur number" messages. I've more than two lines in my profile (In fact one could say I've a very meaty profile) and two pictures up - not really sure what else to do... POF by the way.

It's very frustrating.....

Rant Over

It is pretty much the same for girls that I messaged, you'd write a fairly good message and get two word responses. It was like having a conversation with a child.

Piliger

Yeah ... in the last week I messaged too really lovely girls of about 46 with good messages, referring to why I messaged and contents of their profiles . Both replied with only .. Im chatting with someone here at the moment ..... that's all! What is that supposed to mean ?

VinLieger

Piliger wrote: »

Yeah ... in the last week I messaged too really lovely girls of about 46 with good messages, referring to why I messaged and contents of their profiles . Both replied with only .. Im chatting with someone here at the moment ..... that's all! What is that supposed to mean ?

That they might be interested in you if the person they are currently chatting with on the site doesnt work out.

Panthro

I'd read that as a polite "heave-ho" to be honest.
Reply with "that's grand, and thank you for replying" and leave it at that.
Don't give them the opportunity to keep you as a back up should the men they are presently talking to goes pear shaped for them.

Larianne

Panthro wrote: »

I'd read that as a polite "heave-ho" to be honest.
Reply with "that's grand, and thank you for replying" and leave it at that.
Don't give them the opportunity to keep you as a back up should the men they are presently talking to goes pear shaped for them.

And sure if they can't multi-task, you're better off leaving alone! :pac: (I kid!)

I've gotten to the stage on POF, that I dunno if I've contacted someone already or not.

Should I give POF a go? I get the impression I wouldn't be suited to it though.

Samich

Karsini wrote: »

Should I give POF a go? I get the impression I wouldn't be suited to it though.

Why don't you think?

Samich

Samich wrote: »

Why don't you think?

Sounds a bit, well, casual (for want of a better word).

Larianne

Karsini wrote: »

Sounds a bit, well, casual (for want of a better word).

What site have you been using before?