The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

Larianne

Piliger wrote: »

Thursday evening nice coffee ... went well and asked to see her again. She agreed and we have exchanged two friendly texts .. but no sign of her agreeing to a time ...

Is that getting too long ? or average ? I sense a lack of enthusiasm but it could just be me.

Just put forward a suggestion of a day and see what she says. Only way you'll find out.

Larianne

Ankhyu wrote: »

I'm going to take the thread being so quiet tonight as to mean that ye're all off on dates!

There was a POF singles night last night. Maybe people went to that.

Mr_Spaceman

Daveysil15 wrote: »

I was chatting to a nice girl on POF for a while. We were getting on great. I decided to ask her out. Then she said I was too old for her. I don't know why she didn't just tell me that at the begining.

There are a lot of timewasters out there, sadly.

It's best to ask for a date earlier on after a couple of emails etc. That way if she's a timewaster you won't have invested much time and energy.

Keep the faith.

fat__tony

Mr_Spaceman wrote: »

Ain't that the truth.

If it's any consolation you're not the only one.

The trouble sometimes with good-looking people is that we're not well-liked!

Actually, Im well liked by the very large majority of people I meet in life. I'm not been arrogant by saying this either. I think I have a pretty excellent personality and I've being told this by several girls I have dated. It's just bad luck I've experienced at this point, lack of chemistry and other nonsense.

In fact, I consider myself average looking, if women perceive me to be good looking then great. I can carry myself with a lot of confidence. But I'm at a loss sometimes to figure out as to what women actually want from guys.

Maybe I should stop been nice and start being the typical alpha male personality and treat them a bit rougher and ruder, I dunno anymore.

Piliger

Mr_Spaceman wrote: »

There are a lot of timewasters out there, sadly.

It's best to ask for a date earlier on after a couple of emails etc. That way if she's a timewaster you won't have invested much time and energy.

I agree. I really don't know why people message and message and message. Get straight to a meeting if both are interested and get on with it.

ladylost

fat__tony wrote: »

Maybe I should stop been nice and start being the typical alpha male personality and treat them a bit rougher and ruder, I dunno anymore.

please don't do that. It's really not what most nice, normal women want. Keep going as you are.

ladylost

I messages this guy the other night as I liked his profile. He also had on his profile that he promised to reply to everyone. It's been a couple of days, he's been online, looked at my profile and not replied. Bullet dodged if he can't keep even the simplest promise!

feylya

Chatting to a girl all day yesterday. Found out she's one of my ex's best mates...

Larianne

ladylost wrote: »

I messages this guy the other night as I liked his profile. He also had on his profile that he promised to reply to everyone. It's been a couple of days, he's been online, looked at my profile and not replied. Bullet dodged if he can't keep even the simplest promise!

I think that's just something people write on their profiles so people will message them. :cool:

feylya wrote: »

Chatting to a girl all day yesterday. Found out she's one of my ex's best mates...

So, watcha gonna do??

feylya

Larianne wrote: »

So, watcha gonna do??

Keep chatting

Mr_Spaceman

fat__tony wrote: »

Actually, Im well liked by the very large majority of people I meet in life. I'm not been arrogant by saying this either. I think I have a pretty excellent personality and I've being told this by several girls I have dated. It's just bad luck I've experienced at this point, lack of chemistry and other nonsense.

In fact, I consider myself average looking, if women perceive me to be good looking then great. I can carry myself with a lot of confidence. But I'm at a loss sometimes to figure out as to what women actually want from guys.

Maybe I should stop been nice and start being the typical alpha male personality and treat them a bit rougher and ruder, I dunno anymore.

"Nice guys get washed away like the snow and the rain" - Glen Campbell

I wouldn't go down the alpha male road though. You'll find your own way by the sound of things.

Novella

"Would love to lick you out".

What makes guys think that sending messages like that to a complete stranger is acceptable?

smileyj1987

Novella wrote: »

"Would love to lick you out".

What makes guys think that sending messages like that to a complete stranger is acceptable?

I couldn't tell you , some guys are just complete tools . The worst thing is they make it harder for decent guys to send messages because most women believe oh here we go again another comment about wanting to get off with me . The best thing you can do is delete that message and not even give him a reply .

One thing to never do is come home from the pub and go on POF it makes for interesting reading the next day especially when you send out messages telling people how horny you are and want to ride them . I learned my lesson the hard way especially after all the women i mailed told me I was a w****r .

oddman2

Novella wrote: »

"Would love to lick you out".

What makes guys think that sending messages like that to a complete stranger is acceptable?

Maybe he actually wrote "take" but got done in by autocorrect? :pac:

That is pretty ridiculous, though!

Piliger

Novella wrote: »

"Would love to lick you out".

What makes guys think that sending messages like that to a complete stranger is acceptable?

It beggars belief. But unfortunately it is a fact of life that a certain percentage of men are ignorant, juvenile a$$holes and always will be. It is one the facts of life girls need to learn from an early age regrettably.

Hardonraging

Honey-ec wrote: »

Have a lunch date today. Initially got talking to this guy MONTHS ago and between his schedule and mine we more or less agreed that the fates were conspiring to keep us apart, ha ha! Stayed in touch via the odd text, though, and we're going for lunch this afternoon. I actually think I'm more nervous about this than I was about my first ever date, simply because it's been in the offing for so long. Wish me luck!

I just hope we don't bump into a guy I had to kick to the kerb the other day because he was constantly booty-calling me. He lives on Camden St and I'm meeting this other guy in a place on Camden St too (his choice, not mine!). Could be interesting!

Not before time TBH ..

Rattlehead_ie

Well, I thought I would give PoF another proper shot, had a few non OL dates here and there but nothing special, so might as well try to see if there are new faces on PoF,

LegacyUser

Hi all

I am a long time member of Boards, and have been lurking here for months but have to go anon because my Username is actually my real name, anyway

Just wanted to give my tuppence here

I have been using POF and OKC for several months now and what astounds me is what apparently seems to be a huge amount of Male weirdo’s (I am male).
A lot of Female profiles (more so POF) seem to have warnings about guys been married, strange requests, strange photos etc. etc.
What it seems to have done is make all the females very apprehensive ( which is very understandable) about the guys which in turn does not help any guy that is honestly looking for someone.

I have messaged several people on POF on the back of reading their profile and commenting on their likes/dislike etc, I have tried long messages and short messages but what i have found is the shortness of some of the replies which do not seem to leave a window open for a response(maybe they just didn’t like me) then there are the profiles which provide no information what so ever how, or have not completed their profile page correctly "Do you have a car"-"Prefer not to say" What’s that about ?

Maybe the earlier poster commenting on the lack of response from the guy who promised to reply was talking about me, I have replied and always will, it is only polite to reply even if the response is going to be negative(check your inbox).

Anyway Rant over.

Snowie

Honey-ec wrote: »

I just hope we don't bump into a guy I had to kick to the kerb the other day because he was constantly booty-calling me. He lives on Camden St and I'm meeting this other guy in a place on Camden St too (his choice, not mine!). Could be interesting!

Theres worse like going on a long walk and bumping into her xbf and her daughter mid date :eek:

Ive never wanted the world to swallow me :pac:It was so fricken awkward :pac:

DerekDGoldfish

Snowie wrote: »

Theres worse like going on a long walk and bumping into her xbf and her daughter mid date :eek:

Ive never wanted the world to swallow me :pac:It was so fricken awkward :pac:

Sounds like the plot to a porn movie.(assuming the daugher is of age of course)

Larianne

Saw a warning profile just there - someone saying don't trust a certain POF user. Bit mad. Wonder if it will catch on and half the profiles will be warning profiles! :eek:

How'd ya get on yesterday Honey-ec??

newbee22

I've just been messaged by an american who is looking for a wife and will get me a fiance visa! Time to start buying some wedding hats people!!! :P

Samich

A girl on pof has a pic of her and her friend up.

She's sitting sideways on a seat kinda leaning back. Arse cheeks on full view.

Also hate the way some girls, girls in the mid-late 20's taking pics in the mirror of just their backside.

njs030

Larianne wrote: »

Saw a warning profile just there - someone saying don't trust a certain POF user. Bit mad. Wonder if it will catch on and half the profiles will be warning profiles! :eek:

How'd ya get on yesterday Honey-ec??

How does that work? If you only see the opposite sex's profile how will the right people see it?

Galvasean

Had that long awaited date last night. 'Twas good fun.

Larianne

notjustsweet wrote: »

How does that work? If you only see the opposite sex's profile how will the right people see it?

The girl set up a new profile with the guy's picture and detail in the profile with the headline and profile description saying not to trust this guy etc. etc.

Sarah**

Larianne wrote: »

The girl set up a new profile with the guy's picture and detail in the profile with the headline and profile description saying not to trust this guy etc. etc.

Surely she should just report him and not go to that extreme.....

Larianne

Sarah** wrote: »

Surely she should just report him and not go to that extreme.....

She stated on the profile that you cannot report a profile, only a photo.

Sarah**

There is a section in which you can report a user.

The below is from there website...

"You can report a user by clicking on the Report User link at the bottom of their profile.


When a user is reported, our customer service team carefully investigates their account for suspicious activity. Numerous blocks, duplicate accounts, offensive content, abusive language, and other violations are reviewed. If we find that they are violating our terms and conditions, they may have their profile deleted.


If the user has committed a minor offense, they will be sent a warning."

Larianne

Well she didn't read the site properly then. :pac: