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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**
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Pixie-Fairy wrote: »That is really weird.....do you think he deserves a second chance?
Im a little unsure about my date tomorrow. I dont think he is too impressed with me at the moment. We said we would meet in the morning and do stuff all day but he wanted me to wear heels because he has a thing for them but i said i wont id would be very uncomfortable wearing massive heels all day and then he got really weird and goes oh sure meet me at 2 and we'll hang out for a bit!
Asking you to wear heels because he has a thing for them is a weird request, you sure he's not after....what a lot of people online are after :P
I know if I liked a girl and wanted to take her on a date I wouldn't be telling her what to wear?
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Hmmm wonder what was up then?
Did he act odd from the moment you got there?
Not immediately, no. He explained a little bit about the headf*ck he was experiencing, anyway, I accept his apology. My friends are telling me not to give him another chance, but I always give second chances. Never third ones though.0 -
Asking you to wear heels because he has a thing for them is a weird request, you sure he's not after....what a lot of people online are after :P
I know if I liked a girl and wanted to take her on a date I wouldn't be telling her what to wear?
Im not saying that its weird he wanted me to wear them! He just got weird and cold afterwards and cut our date to a 3 hour one instead of an all day one!
He wants a relationship and then the other things :P but i dont know if im ready for a proper relationship yet, just something casual would suit me :P
I think he likes to be in control but i had beaten him down on a few topics so maybe he is trying to control the heel thing maybe?
ill give him a text later...0 -
Pixie-Fairy wrote: »That is really weird.....do you think he deserves a second chance?
Im a little unsure about my date tomorrow. I dont think he is too impressed with me at the moment. We said we would meet in the morning and do stuff all day but he wanted me to wear heels because he has a thing for them but i said i wont id would be very uncomfortable wearing massive heels all day and then he got really weird and goes oh sure meet me at 2 and we'll hang out for a bit!
Woah, really? I think a guy who imposes that sort of thing is just a no go from the beginning! I usually dress up (as up as I ever get, a skirt and my good converse without the holes in them!) for the first date, or special occasions, and after that, they will see me in my jeans and hoodies and they can like it or leave it!
I believe in second chances, we'll see, granted I will be a little more cagey this time.0 -
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Pixie-Fairy wrote: »im just going to dress how i want to and if he doesnt like it then he can go fcuk himself!
the plan was to dress nice and i was going to wear comfy shoes so if he was a nutjob and i didnt like him i could run :pac:
He does seem like a nice guy dont get me wrong, i just dont like that fact that he is kinda thick over the shoe situation
Are you sure he's after a relationship?
Sounds like he feels he's better than you and if you didn't go on a date he wouldn't be bothered. But if you only want something casual than I'm sure you won't get hurt Of course I could be wrong, you're the one talking to him :P 0 -
Ok, I can summarise my POF experience this week with to the following statement:
Women I have absolutely no interest in, are mailing me.
Women who are my type, who I'd genuinely make an effort with, will not mail me back. This is the case even when I get a mail saying, "so and so has added you to their favourites list"...
I don't think I'm that bad a catch, the only thing I can see going against me is my age (35), which may be a little over the hill for girls in their late 20's, many of who I noticed have an upper age limit of around 32 in their profiles, so maybe I'm up against that. And no, I don't expect everyone to think I'm their type, I'm not afflicted with big head, I just genuinely expected a better experience than I've seen so far... 0 -
HellFireClub wrote: »Ok, I can summarise my POF experience this week with to the following statement:
Women I have absolutely no interest in, are mailing me.
Women who are my type, who I'd genuinely make an effort with, will not mail me back. This is the case even when I get a mail saying, "so and so has added you to their favourites list"...
I don't think I'm that bad a catch, the only thing I can see going against me is my age (35), which may be a little over the hill for girls in their late 20's, many of who I noticed have an upper age limit of around 32 in their profiles, so maybe I'm up against that. And no, I don't expect everyone to think I'm their type, I'm not afflicted with big head, I just genuinely expected a better experience than I've seen so far...
There's looooads of women in their 30's on it. Don't give up 0 -
Are you sure he's after a relationship?
Sounds like he feels he's better than you and if you didn't go on a date he wouldn't be bothered. But if you only want something casual than I'm sure you won't get hurt Of course I could be wrong, you're the one talking to him :P
Yea he's mentioned it a few times to me!
Im still iffy about him hence he doesnt know my full name not even my full first name and as far as he knows i live in Dublin!
He does seem nice but im just being careful even though ive met really nice guys online and im still friends with some of them but still you can never be too safe!0 -
Pixie-Fairy wrote: »He does seem like a nice guy dont get me wrong, i just dont like that fact that he is kinda thick over the shoe situation
That sounds pure weird to me I have to say, (him trying to dictate what you should wear on a date), suggesting it (if it was even done tongue in cheek), is weird enough but for him to be throwing his toys out of the pram when you said you wouldn't run with what he "suggested", I think is even more bizarre, but having said that, I don't want to put the heebie sheebies on your date, "take care of yourselves, aaaand each other"!
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HellFireClub wrote: »Ok, I can summarise my POF experience this week with to the following statement:
Women I have absolutely no interest in, are mailing me.
Women who are my type, who I'd genuinely make an effort with, will not mail me back. This is the case even when I get a mail saying, "so and so has added you to their favourites list"...
I don't think I'm that bad a catch, the only thing I can see going against me is my age (35), which may be a little over the hill for girls in their late 20's, many of who I noticed have an upper age limit of around 32 in their profiles, so maybe I'm up against that. And no, I don't expect everyone to think I'm their type, I'm not afflicted with big head, I just genuinely expected a better experience than I've seen so far...
I'm the same age as you but I think I'm a lot less stressed/bothered about it all now than I was at the start. When I re-joined POF recently I sent out about 20-25 emails and I think I got one or two replies, tops. Even then, they pretty much dried up after one or two emails. I was kinda annoyed as I always try to write an original mail. Don't get me wrong, it's hard to make every mail interesting but most of the time that's because the girl's profile is bland and uninteresting and has the standard "I like socialising but also nights in with a DVD and a glass of vino". And they say very little else, so it gives guys almost nothing to go on.
I'm not sure how/why/when I started getting less bothered about it all. I think perhaps a few girls eventually started replying and I got a few phone numbers from POF and OKCupid so I felt like things were moving along.
Some people say we should treat internet dating as an addition to real-life dating where you date people you meet through other avenue's. That's good advice, however unfortunately for me anyway, that's not much of an option. I never meet single girls in any other environment. The last one I met outside of an internet dating had absolutely zero interest in me even though I fancied her like mad.
I'm not ruling out meeting someone in some other way, but it so rarely happens to me, it seems like if mostly relied on meeting someone offline, I'd never meet anyone.0 -
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HellFireClub wrote: »Ok, I can summarise my POF experience this week with to the following statement:
Women I have absolutely no interest in, are mailing me.
Women who are my type, who I'd genuinely make an effort with, will not mail me back. This is the case even when I get a mail saying, "so and so has added you to their favourites list"...
I don't think I'm that bad a catch, the only thing I can see going against me is my age (35), which may be a little over the hill for girls in their late 20's, many of who I noticed have an upper age limit of around 32 in their profiles, so maybe I'm up against that. And no, I don't expect everyone to think I'm their type, I'm not afflicted with big head, I just genuinely expected a better experience than I've seen so far...
i dont get the whole age issue thing! if you like each other where is the harm!
I was with a 34 year old for a while when i was 20 turning 21 last month and it wasnt so bad. He was a nice guy but it was just casual!0 -
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Pixie-Fairy wrote: »i dont get the whole age issue thing! if you like each other where is the harm!
I was with a 34 year old for a while when i was 20 turning 21 last month and it wasnt so bad. He was a nice guy but it was just casual!
I think experience and maturity counts more than age 0 -
HellFireClub wrote: »That sounds pure weird to me I have to say, (him trying to dictate what you should wear on a date), suggesting it (if it was even done tongue in cheek), is weird enough but for him to be throwing his toys out of the pram when you said you wouldn't run with what he "suggested", I think is even more bizarre, but having said that, I don't want to put the heebie sheebies on your date, "take care of yourselves, aaaand each other"!:D:D
I went out with a guy before who threw tantrums like a 2 year old and i got so fcuked up of him i told him "im not a pedo and i dont want to be going out with a manchild like you" and dumped him!
But he needs to cop on. Im 21 and he's 30 and it seems like im more mature than him. Ill give him the benefit of the doubt this one time and if he acts up he is gone!! God i hope he isnt a boardsie! :pac:Oh, well if he's hinting at it he's surely after NSA? Again you're the one talking to him so know better :P Just my opinion
NSA i wouldnt be turned off by :P i would kinda prefer it...relationships are too much effort! But in saying that i wouldnt turn one down if i liked the guy!0 -
Pixie-Fairy wrote: »i dont get the whole age issue thing! if you like each other where is the harm!
I was with a 34 year old for a while when i was 20 turning 21 last month and it wasnt so bad. He was a nice guy but it was just casual!
Ok at the risk of now identifying myself.... (galvasean I saw you on POF
) my favourite item of clothing is a very bright tie dye hoodie from San Francisco. I wear it in more than one of my pics, including my main pic. A 21 year old guy started chatting me up the other day and I kept letting him down (I'm 31) to which he eventually responded "Ye big bag of colours!" and fecked off.
I cried laughing for about three hours straight, it still makes me laugh when I think of it!!0 -
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Pixie-Fairy wrote: »But he needs to cop on. Im 21 and he's 30 and it seems like im more mature than him. Ill give him the benefit of the doubt this one time and if he acts up he is gone!! God i hope he isnt a boardsie! :pac:
This is the point I'm trying to make, if you were 10 years older, you'd have already told him to shove it!
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