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The Online Dating Thread 3..**READ 1ST POST Oct 2012**

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    #2282
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

    I think its a sign when two people call him a nutjob!!

    And come 'ere, you said you're just gone 21, what age is he?


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    #2283
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    And come 'ere, you said you're just gone 21, what age is he?

    30 :o my average range of ages seems to be 25 to 30


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    #2284
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    30 :o my average range of ages seems to be 25 to 30

    Sure no wonder us 21 year old males can't get any dates :P


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    #2285
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Samich wrote: »
    Sure no wonder us 21 year old males can't get any dates :P

    I cant seem to attract guys my age thats my problem!! :o


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    #2286
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    30 :o my average range of ages seems to be 25 to 30

    You're 21 and he's 30? He's chasing no strings missus, sorry! Actually, he's chasing no strings with the bells & the whistles, (in this case the high heels!)...


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    #2287
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    You're 21 and he's 30? He's chasing no strings missus, sorry! Actually, he's chasing no strings with the bells & the whistles, (in this case the high heels!)...

    is it weird that im slightly relieved to hear you say that? :o
    I said it to my friend and she is convinced im going to end up marrying him...and i aint the marrying type!


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    #2288
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    I cant seem to attract guys my age thats my problem!! :o

    Awh. You don't get mails from lads your own age is it?


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    #2289
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    is it weird that im slightly relieved to hear you say that? :o
    I said it to my friend and she is convinced im going to end up marrying him...and i aint the marrying type!

    I think there's a slight difference in NSA and NSA with a fella like that though. :)

    Could be just using you rather than seeing you as equal.


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    #2290
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Samich wrote: »
    Awh. You don't get mails from lads your own age is it?

    I got two. One lives far away and is awkward to get to but now were really good friends so thats a plus! The other guy i felt nothing for and the feeling was mutual! We havent talked since but i dont really care :pac:


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    #2291
    Northclare
    Closed Accounts Posts: 724 ✭✭✭Northclare


    Your very young to be online dating,if you were my sister and she asked me for advice.
    I would suggest she enjoy her 20's

    There's far too many predators on POF,well so I'm told....

    Enjoy your 20s


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    #2292
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    is it weird that im slightly relieved to hear you say that? :o
    I said it to my friend and she is convinced im going to end up marrying him...and i aint the marrying type!

    I really hope this doesn't sound condescending with respect to your age, but I doubt very much that the 30 year old you are dealing with there would dare put that high heel suggestion to a girl his own age, or especially older, it just wouldn't be tolerated and he'd be told in on uncertain terms where to shove it, he is trying to take advantage of you, in a sexual way I'd dare say, because you are young.


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    #2293
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Samich wrote: »
    I think there's a slight difference in NSA and NSA with a fella like that though. :)

    Could be just using you rather than seeing you as equal.

    You make a good point! Im half tempted to cancel.
    Northclare wrote: »
    Your very young to be online dating,if you were my sister and she asked me for advice.
    I would suggest she enjoy her 20's

    There's far too many predators on POF,well so I'm told....

    Enjoy your 20s

    Im closing my account soon i think. Signed up because i was bored!
    In saying that, i did meet nice guys but i dont think im ready for it!


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    #2294
    miaowsky
    Registered Users Posts: 158 ✭✭miaowsky


    DerekDGoldfish wrote: »
    On the subject what people dress in for dates I was talking with this girl once on POF and we aranged a date, she aranged it for quite early so I said I would have to head straight from work and would be suited up. She then canceled the date and said we shouldnt meet up.

    She musnt have liked guys who wear suits.

    Ahhh, now that's just insane....who doesn't love a guy in a suit!?
    Samich wrote: »
    Sure no wonder us 21 year old males can't get any dates :P

    That's coz Pixie is stealing all my late 20's/ early 30's men!!


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    #2295
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    I really hope this doesn't sound condescending with respect to your age, but I doubt very much that the 30 year old you are dealing with there would dare put that high heel suggestion to a girl his own age, or especially older, it just wouldn't be tolerated and he'd be told in on uncertain terms where to shove it, he is trying to take advantage of you, in a sexual way I'd dare say, because you are young.

    I can't agree with this strongly enough TBH.
    Sounds like the kind of oddball who can't cut it with his own age group so tries it on with more naive younger girls.


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    #2296
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I can't agree with this strongly enough TBH.
    Sounds like the kind of oddball who can't cut it with his own age group so tries it on with more naive younger girls.

    That's exactly it...


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    #2297
    Mr_Spaceman
    Registered Users Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭Mr_Spaceman


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    Im not saying that its weird he wanted me to wear them! He just got weird and cold afterwards and cut our date to a 3 hour one instead of an all day one!

    He wants a relationship and then the other things :P but i dont know if im ready for a proper relationship yet, just something casual would suit me :P

    I think he likes to be in control but i had beaten him down on a few topics so maybe he is trying to control the heel thing maybe?

    ill give him a text later...

    It's one thing being an alpha male (or those who like to think they are) but it's another to be a control freak.

    Time to press the ejector button.


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    #2298
    Mr_Spaceman
    Registered Users Posts: 2,958 ✭✭✭Mr_Spaceman


    G-Money wrote: »
    I'm the same age as you but I think I'm a lot less stressed/bothered about it all now than I was at the start. When I re-joined POF recently I sent out about 20-25 emails and I think I got one or two replies, tops. Even then, they pretty much dried up after one or two emails. I was kinda annoyed as I always try to write an original mail. Don't get me wrong, it's hard to make every mail interesting but most of the time that's because the girl's profile is bland and uninteresting and has the standard "I like socialising but also nights in with a DVD and a glass of vino". And they say very little else, so it gives guys almost nothing to go on.

    Absolutely bang on the money.

    I'd guess this is a familiar experience for guys on POF.

    It's hardly worth the effort.


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    #2299
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    I wasn't going to post in this thread again but Pixie I'm just a few years older than you and would be going for the same sort of age range that you are aiming for however I'm not looking for NSA like you are, but I tell you now : if any guy told me what footwear to wear while out with him, I'd be gobsmacked. I mean especially considering this guy is a total stranger!!? Outrageous.

    Feic him and the date, i'd advise you to cancel, he is clearly very controlling and trying to milk it for all that its worth.
    You're 21 and he's 30, he must think he has hit jackpot, I'd stay well clear, he sounds very intimidating tbh.


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    #2300
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    I really hope this doesn't sound condescending with respect to your age, but I doubt very much that the 30 year old you are dealing with there would dare put that high heel suggestion to a girl his own age, or especially older, it just wouldn't be tolerated and he'd be told in on uncertain terms where to shove it, he is trying to take advantage of you, in a sexual way I'd dare say, because you are young.
    Galvasean wrote: »
    I can't agree with this strongly enough TBH.
    Sounds like the kind of oddball who can't cut it with his own age group so tries it on with more naive younger girls.

    Guys, ye are entitled to your opinions. I can't help but get the feeling that ye are right. I think the reason he kind of got weird with me is the fact that I didnt relent and say yes i will wear the heels and that i refused. I am not the sort of person that would let a guy dictate what i can and cant do. I think he was expecting me to agree but i refused straightout.

    @Galvasean: I dont like the fact that you used the word naive. I know you didnt mean it in a vicious way or anything but it makes me out to be someone who falls for someone/something easily, when really im not. Im very cynical at the best of times and dont fully trust people at all. Im a weirdo like that!

    Im really not having a go at you if that is what you are thinking! :)


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    #2301
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    @Galvasean: I dont like the fact that you used the word naive. I know you didnt mean it in a vicious way or anything but it makes me out to be someone who falls for someone/something easily, when really im not. Im very cynical at the best of times and dont fully trust people at all. Im a weirdo like that!

    Im really not having a go at you if that is what you are thinking! :)

    Allow me to ammend in that case. A more appropriate phrasing to my last post would be 'younger girls who he would perceive to be naive' or something to that effect.


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    #2302
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Allow me to ammend in that case. A more appropriate phrasing to my last post would be 'younger girls who he would perceive to be naive' or something to that effect.

    Ahhh right thats fair enough!!

    Ehhh anyone...can i get advice on how to cancel a date without sounding like a bitch?? :o :pac:


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    #2303
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Allow me to ammend in that case. A more appropriate phrasing to my last post would be 'younger girls who he would perceive to be naive' or something to that effect.

    Your right I'm afraid, I know that guys my age, perceive girls in their early 20's to be fairly clueless, innocent in terms of being able to properly judge a character, yet mad for sex. I'm not saying that that is true but it is the mindset out there for a lot of lads...


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    #2304
    HellFireClub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,912 ✭✭✭HellFireClub


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    Ahhh right thats fair enough!!

    Ehhh anyone...can i get advice on how to cancel a date without sounding like a bitch?? :o :pac:

    Just say NO, it's allowed ya know, and as for how it's received, why would you give a f*ck under these circumstances?!? :cool:


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    #2305
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    I would message him "Tell whichever friend of yours that dared you to ask me to wear heels for you that i'm no longer interested. Best of luck. Bye!"


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    #2306
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    HellFireClub wrote: »
    Just say NO, it's allowed ya know, and as for how it's received, why would you give a f*ck under these circumstances?!? :cool:

    Im a weirdo like that!! :pac: it its done now!
    SpaceRocket wrote: »
    I would message him "Tell whichever friend of yours that dared you to ask me to wear heels for you that i'm no longer interested. Best of luck. Bye!"

    I said that i didnt want to meet up tomorrow and if he texts back im just going to say that im not impressed with the heel suggestions and the fact that he acted like a child when i refused!


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    #2307
    miaowsky
    Registered Users Posts: 158 ✭✭miaowsky


    Just saw this on some guys profile, what do you make of it?
    WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this.


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    #2308
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    ^^ Sounds like somebody got used as a case study.


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    #2309
    herisson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,676 ✭✭✭✭herisson


    He text back asking why!!

    I said it to him that i didnt like the fact that he acted like a child when i said i wouldnt wear the heels and i said that i dont think we should meet up at all because i am uncomfortable with it.

    "I really liked you, but now it seems you were messing me around the whole time"


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    #2310
    Samich
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭Samich


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    He text back asking why!!

    I said it to him that i didnt like the fact that he acted like a child when i said i wouldnt wear the heels and i said that i dont think we should meet up at all because i am uncomfortable with it.

    "I really liked you, but now it seems you were messing me around the whole time"

    HA, if he really liked you he wouldn't be mentioning anything casual :rolleyes:


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    #2311
    SpaceRocket
    Registered Users Posts: 233 ✭✭SpaceRocket


    Pixie-Fairy wrote: »
    He text back asking why!!

    I said it to him that i didnt like the fact that he acted like a child when i said i wouldnt wear the heels and i said that i dont think we should meet up at all because i am uncomfortable with it.

    "I really liked you, but now it seems you were messing me around the whole time"

    Block him and move on. Sounds like he's full of BS


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