Wedding, oh my poor head

ahnowbrowncow

I have a dilemma, I've been invited to a wedding and don't know whether to go or not. I don't know the guy that well tbh, I bump into him and some members of his family regularly enough but when I think about it I know feck all about him. I didn't know he was getting married or to who, don't know where he lives and don't know what he does for a living.

I'd prefer not to go to save the expense of it all, I guess it would come close to €400 and also the fact that I don't know anyone else that is going too well so could be bit awkward.

It was nice to be invited (or maybe they just want some wedding present money off me :eek:) and it could be fun and would be my first time going to a wedding. I also don't have to come up with a good excuse if I go.

Or how could I get out of it without lowering people's opinion of me? I suppose I don't want them thinking oh there's that ungrateful so and so that we very kindly invited to our big day.

It's not exactly a bad problem but it still has my head wrecked . So what do you think I should do and if you have any good excuses I could use I'll be in your debt, try make them believable though

Hasmunch

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

I'd prefer not to go

So... don't go!!

stupidusername

Say you've got something on that day. Give him a card with an acceptable amount of cash for the situation and that'll be that

El Weirdo

Shag his bride-to-be and ring him to tell him straight afterwards.

That way, the wedding will be called off and you'll have had some sex.

Win-win. For you, anyway.

Battered Mars Bar

Send him that card thing where you decline the invite and don't give him any monies whatsoever, you're not getting fed like so ya owe the bollix nothing, actually put that down on the card too.

drunkmonkey

El Weirdo wrote: »

Shag his bride-to-be and ring him to tell him straight afterwards.

I've a strange suspicion brown cow is a girl and a good looking one at that.

AskMyChocolate

Make an absolute show of yourself at his stag (or preferably her hen), then plead mortification.

ahnowbrowncow

El Weirdo wrote: »

Shag his bride-to-be and ring him to tell him straight afterwards.

That way, the wedding will be called off and you'll have had some sex.

Win-win. For you, anyway.

Perfect, but would that not leave it a bit awkward when bumping into him or his friends in the future?

drunkmonkey wrote: »

I've a strange suspicion brown cow is a girl and a good looking one at that.

I'm a male cow

Mooooooo

southcentralts

I do believe there is a rule that if you do not know who the bride is there is a chance you may have shagged her in the past and you cannot go to the wedding.

delw

just don't go, simple, anyway if this is your first wedding to be invited to chances are it won't be the last,im sure you'll have closer friends weddings to go to in the future,or your own

AskMyChocolate

El Weirdo wrote: »

Shag his bride-to-be and ring him to tell him straight afterwards.

That way, the wedding will be called off and you'll have had some sex.

Win-win. For you, anyway.

drunkmonkey wrote: »

I've a strange suspicion brown cow is a girl and a good looking one at that.

I've a srange suspicion El Weirdo knows this.

\dirty fecker

Yakult

Ok, this is what you do.

LH Pathe

Wait for his funeral instead; won't set you back so much.

Yakult

Domo230 wrote: »

Good advice

Your not the first

drunkmonkey

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

I'm a male cow

Mooooooo

Bahhhh

He's doing a Eddy Hobbs on it then.

ahnowbrowncow

delw wrote: »

just don't go, simple, anyway if this is your first wedding to be invited to chances are it won't be the last,im sure you'll have closer friends weddings to go to in the future,or your own

I'm not familiar with wedding invitation etiquette but do you not need a decent excuse why you can't go. I've already thanked him for the invitation but didn't say whether I'd be going or not.

When people ask me why I'm not going I want some good excuse, so far I either screw the bride or go to the wedding. Suppose I could do both :cool:

Blikes

Pretend you died, but make it a cool story, like you died in an avalanche while saving a litter of puppies.

Blikes

Bro! :P

DebDynamite

Just tick the "unable to attend" box on the RSVP and send it back. You don't need an excuse. Or maybe just put a note to say you already have plans and wish them all the best for their wedding day...

AskMyChocolate

Domo230 wrote: »

Dangerously close to crossing into banned meme territory there.

Indeed. And I'd say the advice the OP would have received by now would have included two other ones if they weren't infractable.;)

Senna

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

It was nice to be invited (or maybe they just want some wedding present money off me :eek:)

If you don't know them that well and you don't go, are you expected to give a present anyway?:eek:
If you are that's complete bollox, understandable if its a close friend or close relative, but to be expected to give a present just because someone send you an invite is a bit much.

Sharpshooter

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

It's not exactly a bad problem but it still has my head wrecked . So what do you think I should do and if you have any good excuses I could use I'll be in your debt, try make them believable though

The invitation should have RSVP, meaning Please Respond.

Just respond with, Unable to Attend.:)

You don't owe them an explanation.

hondasam

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

I have a dilemma, I've been invited to a wedding and don't know whether to go or not. I don't know the guy that well tbh, I bump into him and some members of his family regularly enough but when I think about it I know feck all about him. I didn't know he was getting married or to who, don't know where he lives and don't know what he does for a living.

I'd prefer not to go to save the expense of it all, I guess it would come close to €400 and also the fact that I don't know anyone else that is going too well so could be bit awkward.

It was nice to be invited (or maybe they just want some wedding present money off me :eek:) and it could be fun and would be my first time going to a wedding. I also don't have to come up with a good excuse if I go.

Or how could I get out of it without lowering people's opinion of me? I suppose I don't want them thinking oh there's that ungrateful so and so that we very kindly invited to our big day.

It's not exactly a bad problem but it still has my head wrecked . So what do you think I should do and if you have any good excuses I could use I'll be in your debt, try make them believable though

You rsvp and say you are not attending. There is no need to give a reason. I'm sure the wedding will go ahead without you op.

Teyla Emmagan

When getting out of weddings I generally tell people I can't get the day off work/have something else on (family occasions generally good here)/will be away on that date etc. I feel better about turning down an invite when I have a solid made up excuse.

You definitely don't have to go anyway OP. It was nice of them to ask, but clearly they only did as they have no friends, and it's not really your responsibility to make up numbers. And also, weddings are awful. Just return the RSVP with your made up excuse and a clear conscience and the next time you see your man tell him you'll take him for a few pints so you can hear all about it. And sin a bhfuil.

fishy fishy

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

I have a dilemma, I've been invited to a wedding and don't know whether to go or not. I don't know the guy that well tbh, I bump into him and some members of his family regularly enough but when I think about it I know feck all about him. I didn't know he was getting married or to who, don't know where he lives and don't know what he does for a living.

I'd prefer not to go to save the expense of it all, I guess it would come close to €400 and also the fact that I don't know anyone else that is going too well so could be bit awkward.

It was nice to be invited (or maybe they just want some wedding present money off me :eek:) and it could be fun and would be my first time going to a wedding. I also don't have to come up with a good excuse if I go.

Or how could I get out of it without lowering people's opinion of me? I suppose I don't want them thinking oh there's that ungrateful so and so that we very kindly invited to our big day.

It's not exactly a bad problem but it still has my head wrecked . So what do you think I should do and if you have any good excuses I could use I'll be in your debt, try make them believable though

somehow I don't think you would be the centre of their world and the topic of conversation if you don't go.

if you don't want to do, politely decline - end of story - not a big deal.

fishy fishy

stupidusername wrote: »

Say you've got something on that day. Give him a card with an acceptable amount of cash for the situation and that'll be that

not going, no cash.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Simply tell him you already have a family wedding that day and then just stay away from the hotel/church/whatever where the ceremony/reception is being held.

Nothingbetter2d

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Perfect, but would that not leave it a bit awkward when bumping into him or his friends in the future?



I'm a male cow

Mooooooo

a male cow? isnt that a contradiction in itself? a male female.... means your a tranny then

cow = female

bull = male

the species you refer to as a cow is actually bovine (cow is just the female bovine)

BigFatGiant

You should go. Weddings are great craic and there is always loads of single women who are vulnerable and looking for a husband of their own. But if you really don't want to go just say your away on holidays that weekend and tickets are non refundable.

jesus op you're not obligated to go just because a stranger invited you
say no on the rsvp, wish them all the best, and move on with your life

i can't believe you want to waste 400 on a wedding you dont want to go to because you "don't have a good cover story"
man up

admiralofthefleet

its not monday week is it?

pearliefan

Really thought this was going to be a hangover thread...

AskMyChocolate

bluewolf wrote: »

jesus op you're not obligated to go just because a stranger invited you
say no on the rsvp, wish them all the best, and move on with your life

i can't believe you want to waste 400 on a wedding you dont want to go to because you "don't have a good cover story"
man up

Good advice.

That said, don't ever go to a wedding with Bluewolf. She'll intimidate you into asking her to dance, and then expect to lead. She'll ruin your form.

She's the marital equivalent of fighting a Southpaw.

\carries her high-heels home.