Question for the men of AH

Tea_Bag

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Also I find the condom pinhole and stop taking the pill action fascinating, is this a serious concern amongst men?

I can't imagine any rational woman wanting to force a child upon a partner who doesn't want them, thats just asking for trouble for all involved.

its not a myth, put it that way.

omgitsthelazor

bnt wrote: »

"Someday" can arrive long before you expect it. You don't want children now or in the foreseeable future - but you might want them in the unforeseeable future?

You make it sound crazy, but it sounds perfectly normal in my head. :eek:

This is the kind of input I wanted though, thanks.

Jester252

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Also I find the condom pinhole and stop taking the pill action fascinating, is this a serious concern amongst men?

I can't imagine any rational woman wanting to force a child upon a partner who doesn't want them, thats just asking for trouble for all involved.

B!tchs be crazy

Out Of The Night

Oooh that is a tricky one to navigate around. I think it depends on a lot of different factors. Do you want children? Do you want to have children with that woman? What are your ages? (Us ladies have a clock you know ). If you definitley want children and you are serious about the woman it needs to be spoken about soon. It doesn't have to be a big serious sit down kind of conversation."Have you any nieces or nephews"? "Really? I think kids are great". That sort of thing.

I know for me I want children. If I was in a serious relationship now I would hope to have them in about two to three years. However I am single so I'll start to panic when I hit 35. If there is no man past that age I will look into other options.

bnt

omgitsthelazor wrote: »

Also I find the condom pinhole and stop taking the pill action fascinating, is this a serious concern amongst men?

I can't imagine any rational woman wanting to force a child upon a partner who doesn't want them, thats just asking for trouble for all involved.

Pregnancy by deception? Yes, it happens. One example was reported in the Daily Mail - so it must be true! - and it's a first-hand report from the woman who tried it:

Because he wouldn’t give me what I wanted, I decided to steal it from him. I resolved to steal his sperm from him in the middle of the night. I thought it was my right, given that he was living with me and I had bought him many, many M&S ready meals.

The ‘theft’ itself was alarmingly easy to carry out. One night, after sex, I took the used condom and, in the privacy of the bathroom, I did what I had to do. Bingo.

I don’t understand why more men aren’t wise to this risk — maybe sex addles their brain. So let me offer a warning to men wishing to avoid any chance of unwanted fatherhood: if a woman disappears to the loo immediately after sex, I suggest you find out exactly what she is up to.

OK, I'm not buying this particular story in all its detail, but I've heard stories from other men about what happens when the ticking of the biological clock drowns out all other considerations. I'm not going to generalise about how much of a concern it is to men, but it has been known to happen. It's disturbing not only for its immediate implications - pregnancy - but also for what it says about the relationship. The most important decision a couple can take, and it's taken out of the man's hands entirely - he knows nothing and his wishes are irrelevant.