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Question on ex paying towards kids

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  • 28-05-2012 10:31am
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    LegacyUser
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    Hi all,

    Hope i can post this here but - my brother and wife(obviously she has no money at all now with been married) - Well the story is she has kids to a previous man and he is really messing her around money wise. They have arranged betweeen them that he pays money into her account - some weeks he pays some weeks not he sees them for a day at the weekend and if he doesnt pay she doesnt send the kids - think she needs legal advice

    Just really want to see if anyone here has problems and would solicitors be the way to go -

    Any advice appreciated


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    Daisy M
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    Yes she needs to get a solicitor and see about getting legal aid. The most important thing she should do is stop using the children as aweapon. I understand she is been treated poorly but its not fair to make them suffer for their fathers actions.


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    silly
    Registered Users Posts: 1,722 ✭✭✭silly


    help21 wrote: »
    my brother and wife(obviously she has no money at all now with been married)

    Has she considered getting a job?
    Daisy M wrote: »
    Yes she needs to get a solicitor and see about getting legal aid. The most important thing she should do is stop using the children as aweapon. I understand she is been treated poorly but its not fair to make them suffer for their fathers actions.

    I agree, the kids are not to blame here.

    She can take him to court and get a court order etc...but from experience, even with a court order, if he continues not to pay...not much will be done.
    Unless she can convince a judge to get the payments made directly from the SW (if he's on SW) or his employer, but afaik this is rare.


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    puffishoes
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    A solicitor would be the way to go.

    But first if I was in her shoes I would stop using the kids as a bargaining tool for money in a family they're not a commodity.

    His payments or lack of payments is completely irrelevant to the kids having a stable relationship with their father.


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