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How much did you spend on "The Ring"?
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She should probably rethink that, if the guy's a cyclist. If you are spending upwards of 5-6k on a hobby it might be a good sign he has a bit of spare cash
I'm another who wouldn't expect a big flashy ring. If we were going to do that I'd like to exchange gifts, so it wasn't so one-sided.
Good point, an expensive bike and accessories is a sign of financial firepower;-) However, you need to know what you are looking at, in her mind, using a bike meant you couldn't afford a BMW or Merc. The exchanging gifts idea is a good one.0 -
You probably have; ask a few guys you know who are married or engaged how much the ring cost and who paid. If you think the amount paid by them was high (up to you what you consider high) then ask them why they did so.Yes, but I haven't met him in real life
My experience of such men is that many will blame the woman, or otherwise grumble, but often would never have bought a cheap ring anyway for largely 'patriarchal' reasons.0 -
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Unreg Bart wrote: »I have noted which styles she likes, and today saw a ring for 2k which I think I can pay for by the end of this year.
She does however know a little about diamonds, so she'll be able to roughly guess the value of any ring I produce.
I reckon that all women (engaged or otherwise!) know a little about diamonds, but you'd really need to be a highly skilled gemmologist to be able to assess the value of stones just by looking at them. And even then it's subjective & variable.
If she's indicated a style (or even better, a specific ring) that she likes, take the hint! This is probably the ring she wants. Go talk to the jeweller. They might be able to give you an identical ring for a far lower price (switch a platinum band for 14/18k white gold, get a very slightly lighter weight band, same cut & carat stones with slightly more inclusions / lower colour grade). I used to work for a company that made mostly engagement rings, & have seen identical finished rings with massively different price tags. :eek: Only if you're going to search for hallmarks on the shank & certificates for the stones will you be able to tell the difference! :rolleyes:
I think most sensible* women would understand that the style of ring is the most important aspect. A €500 ring that suits her hand & style (of fashion & accessorising etc.) is going to look much better than a gigantic €10K bauble that doesn't "go" with her style at all. So I hope you have one of the sensible ones this time round, rather than one who wants to dazzle people with uber-bling.
As one other poster said, if you're at the stage of proposing, I'd assume she's familiar with your financial situation & won't expect you to spend more than you can afford. Well I hope not anyway
When I do eventually get engaged I think I'd want to pick or make the ring myself (I'm a trainee jeweller). I've tried on 1000s of engagement rings (in a professional capacity of course!) and still haven't found the right ring for me. The more identi-kit engagement rings I see, and the more I learn about gem stones, the less I like the "traditional" diamond rings. It'll be yellow gold with coloured stones for me I think. And I won't be spending the price of a great honeymoon on it!
* no comments about lack of availability of sensible women please!
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Pawwed Rig wrote: »Nearly choked on my coffee there. how much for a bicycle??? In your case I think she will want an expensive ring
Haha! No, I'm a girl But that would be about average for a decent bike. Most cyclists I know would have two or three bikes though. And a couple of grand on a spare set of wheels too. But this is off topic. Just saying you can't judge by appearances on who is wealthy or not when you are starting off dating 0 -
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shortie_chik wrote: »The more identi-kit engagement rings I see, and the more I learn about gem stones, the less I like the "traditional" diamond rings. It'll be yellow gold with coloured stones for me I think. And I won't be spending the price of a great honeymoon on it!
You dropping hints here?
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shortie_chik wrote: »Ha! No; at just 5 months in, even though I already know he's the one it's a bit soon to be at that! Anyway, I'm not a good enough jeweller to make a ring I will wear for the rest of my life yet! :P
So your skill as a jeweller will determine when you get engaged???:D I hope you have told him that0 -
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Pawwed Rig wrote: »So your skill as a jeweller will determine when you get engaged???:D I hope you have told him that
As I said, at FIVE months it's a bit soon to be talking about that! But he does know my training plans for at least the next 5 years, so if he sticks with me through all that, I'll happily sign a form in the registry office and head out for dinner-for-two & a few cocktails, wearing a ring from a hallowe'en brack* Actually if he asked me tomorrow I'd be happy to do this (Or I'll just whip up 2 plain metal bands, even I can manage that much!)Poor guy has his work cut out for him picking a ring for a gal who is a jeweler. :eek:
When I was in school I worked in an electronics store & an ex-boyfriend bought me a disc-man for a birthday. His friend said it was like giving meat to a butcher :rolleyes: Was still a good gift!
Actually the more I learn, the less I like what I see! For example, I'm far less impressed with diamonds than I would have been 2 years ago. I'm much more open to cheaper coloured stones, & I know what I'm talking about when I look at jewellery so I'm not dazzled by the price tag. (I can't really afford to shop for jewellery, it's all just window-shopping / part of my education at the moment )
*Although in a dream world I would have my ring commissioned from these guys http://www.dacapo.ie0 -
shortie_chik wrote: »As I said, at FIVE months it's a bit soon to be talking about that! But he does know my training plans for at least the next 5 years, so if he sticks with me through all that, I'll happily sign a form in the registry office and head out for dinner-for-two & a few cocktails, wearing a ring from a hallowe'en brack* Actually if he asked me tomorrow I'd be happy to do this (Or I'll just whip up 2 plain metal bands, even I can manage that much!)
When I was in school I worked in an electronics store & an ex-boyfriend bought me a disc-man for a birthday. His friend said it was like giving meat to a butcher :rolleyes: Was still a good gift!
Actually the more I learn, the less I like what I see! For example, I'm far less impressed with diamonds than I would have been 2 years ago. I'm much more open to cheaper coloured stones, & I know what I'm talking about when I look at jewellery so I'm not dazzled by the price tag. (I can't really afford to shop for jewellery, it's all just window-shopping / part of my education at the moment )
*Although in a dream world I would have my ring commissioned from these guys http://www.dacapo.ie
Hah! Well lets hope he isn't aware of your Boards account!
One word, "Awkward" ...0 -
Hah! Well lets hope he isn't aware of your Boards account!
One word, "Awkward" ...[/Quote]
Nope not awkward. He knows I use boards. He knows I love him & want to spend the rest of my life with him. He knows I don't fancy a big white wedding for 300 of my closest friends. He knows I'm less than enthusiastic about traditional looking engagement rings (from me talking about work). And knowing all this, even this early on, he's not running as far & as fast as he can. Because we work better together than either of us could ever have imagined. (You can puke now if you like )
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This may seem like a stupid question but, if a woman proposes, does she have to buy a ring?
Why is it always men that have to propose and buy a ring?
Im just curious, maybe I sound insane.
Don't know if there's a tradition of the woman buying the ring if she proposes.
No matter who does the proposing in my relationship, if we ever get that far our finances will already be joined, so I'd expect to be paying half.
I would have no problem doing the proposing (no time soon, and definitely not on Feb 29th). I asked Mr Shortie Chik out in the first place 0 -
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When I get engaged I'd like a pair of shoes, nice ones, instead of a ring.
Can't believe some people would consider spending well into the 0000s on a ring.
As long as she loves it, at the end of the day that's all that should matter, be that 80 euro or 800 euro. It's the question and the promise that's more important than the symbol0 -
--Kaiser-- wrote: »The wedding ring has to be the biggest waste of money in western society. What is it, a down payment?
Why not spend the money on something actually useful?
Thankfully for me my girlfriend made diamonds at the time and realised how worthless they were :pac: Off the hook for expensive ring and got a (still reasonably expensive) simple band with a small stone on it.
She went and left it in a bathroom in Heathrow:rolleyes:
The travel insurance covered it, got a replacement from Blue Nile and a good night out from the payout and turns out the new one is worth 30% more than it cost due to the type of Sapphire they put in it clearly without realising or caring that it was Burmese. I reckon they must have gotten a bulk order and not been aware they were more valuable or something! 0 -
Cookie_Monster wrote: »Thankfully for me my girlfriend made diamonds at the time and realised how worthless they were :pac: Off the hook for expensive ring and got a (still reasonably expensive) simple band with a small stone on it.
She went and left it in a bathroom in Heathrow:rolleyes:
The travel insurance covered it, got a replacement from Blue Nile and a good night out from the payout and turns out the new one is worth 30% more than it cost due to the type of Sapphire they put in it clearly without realising or caring that it was Burmese. I reckon they must have gotten a bulk order and not been aware they were more valuable or something!
Having worked in Blue Nile, I guarantee you they did not "not realise or care" about the value of the stones they set in your ring! They are extremely cost-conscious (you wouldn't believe the measures they take!)
However, some jewellers won't purchase Burmese stones anymore. For example, the best rubies come from Myanmar, but Tiffany & Co don't sell rubies now as they don't agree with the regime there. Now they sell pink sapphires instead. (The difference between a ruby & a pink sapphire is just the colour, as they're the same family of stones - corundum, so a pinkish ruby could be called a sapphire, or a reddish sapphire could be called a ruby).
Blue Nile don't sell conflict diamonds (they only buy from Kimberly Process suppliers), but a similar process is not in place for other coloured stones.
Believe me, people working in the gem industry know what they're handling and they know its market value better than anyone else! Where did you get the ring valued? (Just out of semi-professional curiosity!)
Also your girlfriend made diamonds? Like synthetics in a lab? In Ireland? I've studied gemmology & would love to know more! 0 -
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Whippersnapper wrote: »Shocking waste of money in my mind.
My engagement ring is a beautiful piece of jewellery that I'll wear for the rest of my life and hopefully will pass on to my children in years to come. I see it as a lifelong investment. We paid for my engagement ring equally, it was about one months' salary for both of us. Anything but a waste of money to my mind 0 -
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That said many people wear jewellery every day, and pass it down through generations, and they only ever pay fairly modest sums for it.My engagement ring is a beautiful piece of jewellery that I'll wear for the rest of my life and hopefully will pass on to my children in years to come. I see it as a lifelong investment. We paid for my engagement ring equally, it was about one months' salary for both of us. Anything but a waste of money to my mind
I would consider diamond engagement rings a waste of money. With a wedding and possibly children to begin paying for in the future, the money would be better off being put to one side, for a rainy day. Especially in the current economic climate.
I had a friend who's engagement fell through, and to see how little he got back compared to what he spent on the ring would break your heart.0 -
Don't wear jewellery and would set absolutely no value on an expensive piece of jewellery. It wouldn't mean anything to me and anyone that would even consider marrying me would know that so would hope I'm never proposed to with a ring.
He can buy me a deadly pair of shoes instead. And propose with them. And I can wear them on my wedding day. Hopefully they're bright and sparkly. 0 -
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