Starting a long-distance relationship.

Highking

Hypothetical question:

You have to study in a foreign country for a year as part of a university course, you have been in the best relationship of your life for the past 4 months and you are very much in love.

However she admits to having cheated on a man she had 9 month relationship with man whom she met on a hook-up/one night stand site.

Would you be able to overlook this?

Dravokivich

Find out the name of the site, modify her hostfile so it will redirect to google.

Await the lulz.

Sykk

Depends on the circumstances. Though once a cheater, always liable to do it again. Should have broken up with him/her if he/she cared to go off with someone else.

Dublin Chick

Is this question really Hypothetical....

kfallon

Dublin Chick wrote: »

Is this question really Hypothetical....

I suspect it's not!!!

aaronjumper

I find it hard enough to maintain non long distance ones, so I'd prob call it off.
Unless she was really hot, how hot is she OP?

xsiborg

no, i'd tell her we should end the relationship now as im an awfully judgemental gobshíte and she should get away now while she still can.

hypothetically speaking of course.

mikom

Highking wrote: »

However she admits to having cheated on a man she had 9 month relationship with man whom she met on a hook-up/one night stand site.

Would you be able to overlook this?

I can't fuckin' read it, never mind overlook it.

seems more of a question about a cheater than a LDR

Crooked Jack

Speaking from experience long-term long-distance relationships are a terrible terrible terrible idea. Just fucking awful. Dont do it.
Tell her how you feel about her, say you'll stay in touch and see what happens when you get back, but dont chain yourselves to each other, just breeds awkwardness and eventually resentment and distrust.
Also, im not belittling you're relationship, but every relationship is the best one ever four months in.

General Relativity

4 months ~ in love.

wat?


After four months you're still not ready to hear her fart let alone be in love. :rolleyes:

Highking

Sykk wrote: »

Depends on the circumstances. Though once a cheater, always liable to do it again. Should have broken up with him/her if he/she cared to go off with someone else.

He basically made her leave his house at 8am even though he had a day off just to play XBOX and texted her that day to say things weren't working and they were on a break.

She considers it cheating anyway, even though they were supposedly in an open relationship.

christmas2012

Personally i couldnt go into a relationship with someone who can casually tell me stuff like that its almost like they are testing you..By being with them after they tell you that and being okay with it,sends its own message,i was in a ''relationship'' that was bullshit,and i didnt realise after something he would say or do by me staying with him i was validating certain behaviour..But if you are comfortable with it and think she wont do it again..Who knows

mattjack

Highking wrote: »

Hypothetical question:

You have to study in a foreign country for a year as part of a university course, you have been in the best relationship of your life for the past 4 months and you are very much in love.

However she admits to having cheated on a man she had 9 month relationship with man whom she met on a hook-up/one night stand site.

Would you be able to overlook this?

Am I in AH ?

Highking

christmas2012 wrote: »

Personally i couldnt go into a relationship with someone who can casually tell me stuff like that its almost like they are testing you..By being with them after they tell you that and being okay with it,sends its own message,i was in a ''relationship'' that was bullshit,and i didnt realise after something he would say or do by me staying with him i was validating certain behaviour..But if you are comfortable with it and think she wont do it again..Who knows

We're both comfortable telling each other anything, she knows that I have my doubts as we're very good at communicating with each other. We've known from the start that if I passed my exams I would be going away, we didn't want to keep secrets.

I just wanted an outsiders perspective.

Dublin Chick

kfallon wrote: »

I suspect it's not!!!

You know I think you might be right

Princess Peach

Wouldn't you have the same trust issues even if it wasn't long distance? You either trust her or you don't, and even if you're living in the same country you can't watch her all the time to know what she is up to.

I'm in a long distance relationship, but I have always trusted him completely. Even when we were in the same country we weren't together all the time. Distance and trust are two seperate issues really.

People say about long distance relationships, oh I'd have to really trust them to do that. Shouldn't you really trust them to be in any kind of relationship?

mattjack

Princess Peach wrote: »

Wouldn't you have the same trust issues even if it wasn't long distance? You either trust her or you don't, and even if you're living in the same country you can't watch her all the time to know what she is up to.

I'm in a long distance relationship, but I have always trusted him completely. Even when we were in the same country we weren't together all the time. Distance and trust are two seperate issues really.

People say about long distance relationships, oh I'd have to really trust them to do that. Shouldn't you really trust them to be in any kind of relationship?

Did you put the bin out this morning ?

Sykk

Domo230 wrote: »

I don't do long distance relationships, they don't work.

I beg to differ! My girlfriend is moving over from Germany in 7 weeks. We done the long distance shizzle for a year. I have Ryanair to thank for their cheap flights.

It was a great experience. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I've made a load of exciting trips over to Germany and she comes here. Always something to look forward to.

mongdesade

No...disloyalty will not be tolerated & must be punished

JJ

I tried it 3 times (almost 4)...DON'T DO IT!

opinion guy

Dublin Chick wrote: »

Is this question really Hypothetical....

kfallon wrote: »

I suspect it's not!!!

Be honest OP....this is really about 'your friend'.
Right ?

mattjack

JJ wrote: »

I tried it 3 times (almost 4)...DON'T DO IT!

At the same time ? you could receive high AH l status ..

Nothingbetter2d

Princess Peach wrote: »

Wouldn't you have the same trust issues even if it wasn't long distance? You either trust her or you don't, and even if you're living in the same country you can't watch her all the time to know what she is up to.

I'm in a long distance relationship, but I have always trusted him completely. Even when we were in the same country we weren't together all the time. Distance and trust are two seperate issues really.

People say about long distance relationships, oh I'd have to really trust them to do that. Shouldn't you really trust them to be in any kind of relationship?

you cheated on mario though :P

see

KeithM89_old

Youve all scared the OP away. Meanies.