Why Are You Sorry?

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I used to be terrible for apologising, I would be racked with guilt if I thought I had wronged or inconvenienced someone, to the point of not sleeping at night.

But not anymore. I learned a long time ago that the past is the past, even of it's just a few seconds ago, and what's done cannot be undone, 'sorry' is just another word. The present and the future are what you can influence, concentrate on them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHFDa9efCQU

D1stant

Im sorry I read that

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D1stant wrote: »

Im sorry I read that

P.S I had my first sexy dream about Wendy James:)

Lollers

I never apolgize Lisa. I'm sorry but that's just the way I'm am.

Kylo Ren

I'm sorry people feel the need to use After Hours as a shrink.

southcentralts

Apologizing is a sign of weakness. Fact.

minidazzler

southcentralts wrote: »

Apologizing is a sign of weakness. Fact.

Only if you don't know how to turn an apology to your advantage.

CliffHuxtabel

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I used to be terrible for apologising, I would be racked with guilt if I thought I had wronged or inconvenienced someone, to the point of not sleeping at night.

But not anymore. I learned a long time ago that the past is the past, even of it's just a few seconds ago, and what's done cannot be undone, 'sorry' is just another word. The present and the future are what you can influence, concentrate on them.

....Ahem....The news today: Local person is philosophical about things.

ger10

Skip this.

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Keno 92 wrote: »

I'm sorry people feel the need to use After Hours as a shrink.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XocVMrSs_TY

Couldn't resist :pac: The lyrics of this song convey my response eloquently.

paddymayoman

ger10 wrote: »

D1stant wrote: »

Im sorry I read that

Sick of smart arses. I logged in just to tell you that, your comment isnt funny and you need to learn some respect. If you dont like the thread, move on! The op is has something to say, listen or go away.

Im sorry thats the response you got

efb

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFaee49YjMw

Lollers

Where To wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XocVMrSs_TY

Couldn't resist :pac: The lyrics of this song convey my response eloquently.

Top song, top response.

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Lollers wrote: »

Top song, top response.

I hear ya!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AjPau5QYtYs

minidazzler

minidazzler wrote: »

Only if you don't know how to turn an apology to your advantage.

Also even if the apology is really self-directed don't let that come across.

jefreywithonef

I had a tendency to say sorry all the time, even if I wasn't in the wrong. For instance, if someone bumped into me - it being their own fault - I'd usually pre-empt their apology with my own "sorry", just automatically without really thinking. So then, frustratingly, it would look like I was to blame. Nowadays I just stay indoors where I'm safe from bodily collisions and blurting out inappropriate and idiotic sorrys.

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jefreywithonef wrote: »

I had a tendency to say sorry all the time, even if I wasn't in the wrong. For instance, if someone bumped into me - it being their own fault - I'd usually pre-empt their apology with my own "sorry", just automatically without really thinking. So then, frustratingly, it would look like I was to blame. Nowadays I just stay indoors where I'm safe from bodily collisions and blurting out inappropriate and idiotic sorrys.

The next time someone bumps into you just look them straight in the eye, smile, and say

'Oh my, I do believe we have had a coming together, let's just put this incident behind us and get on with on our lives'

im invisible

im invisible

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im invisible wrote: »

Not a patch on the original

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3bqof7qtsjw

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^^^^^^

Come on in lads pull up a pew
We have a little work to do
Don't just sit there feeling sorry
It's better to be honky dory

Kev_2012

I'm sorry, Charlie Murphy, it was an accident. I was having too much fun. I offer you a truce. The stickiest of the icky. You want to smoke with the old boy Rick James?

bnt

I wish people wouldn't say "sorry" when they really mean "excuse me". If someone's in your way, and you need to get past them, it's not your fault and you have no reason to be saying "sorry".

Eve_Dublin

jefreywithonef wrote: »

I had a tendency to say sorry all the time, even if I wasn't in the wrong. For instance, if someone bumped into me - it being their own fault - I'd usually pre-empt their apology with my own "sorry", just automatically without really thinking. So then, frustratingly, it would look like I was to blame. Nowadays I just stay indoors where I'm safe from bodily collisions and blurting out inappropriate and idiotic sorrys.

I think that's different though...that "sorry" in that context is more of an "excuse me" and I think that just makes things more civilised. You're not actually asking them for their forgiveness. Here in Spain there's none of that...they just shout at each other and get all resentful and peed off and walk off muttering under their breaths. Serious anger issues here in Madrid. Makes me look like a Zen Buddhist in comparison. I think this system works much better in Ireland. It's just manners and makes things a little easier for everyone.

I apologise when I know I'm wrong, which is a fair bit and I mean it when I say it. Sometimes I apologise just to keep the peace because I'm fed up with the arguing. I don't mean it but It's just a word and varies in meaning depending on the context.

Someone who can admit their wrong shows strength of character in my opinion.

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Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Someone who can admit their wrong shows strength of character in my opinion.

Admitting you're wrong doesn't change anything though.

You can compensate for a wrong you have done on someone, you can't take it back.