what others think

risteard7

I have just turned 24 and working as a barman, quite happy with life but everyday I think I should have went to college. All my friends did and sometimes I feel like a failure working in a bar but I enjoy it.

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

Tesco Massacre

You're being silly.

If someone's perception of you is based solely on what you do for a living then the problem is with them and not you.

cocoshovel

If you're happy with your life and its outcome then so be it. Dont care what other people have done, or what they think of you. If you're happy, great! if not, then ask yourself why not.

starbelgrade

risteard7 wrote: »

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

Pint of Stella please.

daddydick

It's a fact of life that most people will care about others perception of them.

It doesn't matter if you earn €10k or €100k a year, the big question is are you happy?

If you enjoy being a barman, then be a barman. As long as you are contributing in some way then that should be good enough for anyone.

Peetrik

In my experience. People who work in bars are a lot more fun and have far more interesting stories than people who work in an office and wear beige.

Keep being awesome.

tan11ie

risteard7 wrote: »

I have just turned 24 and working as a barman, quite happy with life but everyday I think I should have went to college. All my friends did and sometimes I feel like a failure working in a bar but I enjoy it.

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

Seriously stop thinking about what other people think of you...it's only a downhill spiral if you go that route

humbert

Would you be happy if you were still working in a similar job at 44?

That's what would worry me most if I was in your position.

Lionel Messy

You have a job in one of the toughest environments to work in (a pub) That takes balls. Don't let my nice words go to your head though, nobody likes a cocky bar man. Be yourself. Your grand.

Bipolar Joe

Tesco Massacre wrote: »

You're being silly.

If someone's perception of you is based solely on what you do for a living then the problem is with them and not you.

I hate that platitude. It would be something that affects him, so it kind of is his problem. I didn't screw up the economy, yet it's a problem to me.

Any ways, your harshest judge will sometimes be yourself. If you dig what you're doing keep doing it. If you want to go to college, try get in. If people you say are your friends think less of you for not going to college, they're not friends, they're people you know that are ass holes.

starbelgrade

Lionel Messy wrote: »

You have a job in one of the toughest environments to work in (a pub) That takes balls.

Bit of an exaggeration...

He pulls pints, he's not a coal miner or a soldier!

AlmightyCushion

Forget about what everyone else thinks, you should be proud of what you do.

Edit: Just re-read your post and realised you said barman and not batman. Ignore what I said.

Dangerous Man

Will you still be happy as a barman 20 years from now? If so, carry on.

Lionel Messy

starbelgrade wrote: »

Bit of an exaggeration...

He pulls pints, he's not a coal miner or a soldier!

Fair pint, point sorry. I just imagine you'd have to put up with alot of **** in that job.

Dave!

humbert wrote: »

Would you be happy if you were still working in a similar job at 44?

That's what would worry me most if I was in your position.

This.

OP if you've got a secure enough job and you enjoy it, then I wouldn't be rushing to get a degree just because your mates did. You can always study part-time if you decide you want to get a diploma/degree in something.

Think about the long-term though, because you may wake up in 20 years and have fallen out of love with the trade, and it may be too late to change careers at that stage.

risteard7

humbert wrote: »

Would you be happy if you were still working in a similar job at 44?

That's what would worry me most if I was in your position.

No I dont think so I would like to think I would be a manager by then like hotel manager. As it is im head barman do the rosters,cash tills and that

pragmatic1

risteard7 wrote: »

I have just turned 24 and working as a barman, quite happy with life but everyday I think I should have went to college. All my friends did and sometimes I feel like a failure working in a bar but I enjoy it.

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

You're being silly. If you're doing something you enjoy and earning an honest wage you're lucky. Never live you're life based on other peoples opinions.

starbelgrade

risteard7 wrote: »

No I dont think so I would like to think I would be a manager by then like hotel manager. As it is im head barman do the rosters,cash tills and that

You'd most likely to go to college in order to become a hotel manager. There's a big difference between that and a being a head barman.

risteard7

starbelgrade wrote: »

risteard7 wrote: »

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

Pint of Stella please.

Its normally the dodgy charachters that are on the stella

Dave!

risteard7 wrote: »

No I dont think so I would like to think I would be a manager by then like hotel manager. As it is im head barman do the rosters,cash tills and that

Well in that case don't be complacent in your current job. Find out if there are qualifications you could get that would make you a better/more desirable candidate for a managerial role, and get started on that. Take on extra responsibilities in the current job if you think that will help too.

starbelgrade

risteard7 wrote: »

Its normally the dodgy charachters that are on the stella

They don't call it "Wife Beater" for nothing.

humbert

risteard7 wrote: »

No I dont think so I would like to think I would be a manager by then like hotel manager. As it is im head barman do the rosters,cash tills and that

That's fair enough.

Going to college shouldn't be as common as it is, all that's important is that you're going in a direction you're happy with.

Jame Gumb

Why don't you look into doing a course in (say) Cathal Brugha Street or Shannon?

Maybe you could open your own place someday?

Lionel Messy

risteard7 wrote: »

Its normally the dodgy charachters that are on the stella

Stellar post.

Diego Maradona

Always regretted not going to college myself, stuck in a ****ty job and 25 in a few days. Hoping to go to college in the evening and gain some qualifications over the next few years though.

OP if you spend your life worrying what other people think then you will be a very depressed man, do what you feel is right for yourself!

There's no toilet roll in the loo!!!!!

risteard7

Diego Maradona wrote: »

Always regretted not going to college myself, stuck in a ****ty job and 25 in a few days. Hoping to go to college in the evening and gain some qualifications over the next few years though.

OP if you spend your life worrying what other people think then you will be a very depressed man, do what you feel is right for yourself!

There's no toilet roll in the loo!!!!!

ill get the floor staff to get you a roll no problem

Lionel Messy

Diego Maradona wrote: »

Always regretted not going to college myself, stuck in a ****ty job and 25 in a few days. Hoping to go to college in the evening and gain some qualifications over the next few years though.

OP if you spend your life worrying what other people think then you will be a very depressed man, do what you feel is right for yourself!

There's no toilet roll in the loo!!!!!

Alright bro?

paddymayoman

The less you worry about others opinion of you, the happier you are. I used to be very self conscious but now i couldnt give a s**t what people think of me.

Diego Maradona

Lionel Messy wrote: »

Alright bro?

You can only call me bro when you win a WC.

Novella

It doesn't matter what other people think. If you only think you should have went to please other people, forget about it. If you want to go for you, go.

SafeSurfer

risteard7 wrote: »

I have just turned 24 and working as a barman, quite happy with life but everyday I think I should have went to college. All my friends did and sometimes I feel like a failure working in a bar but I enjoy it.

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

I'd hate to be a barman. In my line of work I have to listen to enough of customers crap when they are sober. I cant imagine what ist like dealing with customers who have been drinking.

christmas2012

It wouldnt be a perception no , i dont think so , not everybody is academic ,eventhough i did college i wouldnt say im academic , i barely scraped passes..

think of it a lot of college people come out of college only to find they dont have work,or cant get even work exp.

thats something you have that they dont and a wage..

risteard7

SafeSurfer wrote: »

risteard7 wrote: »

I have just turned 24 and working as a barman, quite happy with life but everyday I think I should have went to college. All my friends did and sometimes I feel like a failure working in a bar but I enjoy it.

I allways think peoples perception of me wont be much because of this or am I being silly?

I'd hate to be a barman. In my line of work I have to listen to enough of customers crap when they are sober. I cant imagine what ist like dealing with customers who have been drinking.

I dont listen to them, you prob have to listen to them I dont there drunk. I Tell them to f*** off they wont remember.if you said it youd be sacked

DEFTLEFTHAND

Its nice to hear from somebody who actually enjoys what they do and is content. That's all that matters in life.

Keep doing what makes you happy. Who knows even if you felt like giving college a go in the future its always there as an option, you're never too old.

Lionel Messy

risteard7 wrote: »

I dont listen to them, you prob have to listen to them I dont there drunk. I Tell them to f*** off they wont remember.if you said it youd be sacked

Instead of telling your customers to **** off, try and come up with some banter. Your showing your true colours now, I wouldn't go near your boozer tbh. You've shot yourself in the foot there, son.

3ndahalfof6

I dont think most people would think twice about it, in saying that Im not sure we could be friends untill you get some sort of promotion.

Jesus Wept

You made the right choice.