Man Allegedly Raped in Belfast

speedboatchase

token101 wrote: »

To make light of male rape I'd imagine. People do it everyday and no one says a word, when someone goes to prison for instance. Or is that somehow more acceptable humour because those people 'deserve' it?

So if there was a thread about a woman that was raped in Belfast, would you use the same humour as it's "fair game within reason" or would you relent? Also, why would you hold the two to different standards if so? Do you only make fun of male rape victims because it's socially acceptable?

fasttalkerchat

getz wrote: »

i thought it was only alleged rape? i bet there is more to this than meets the eye,lets look at the evidence,walking down the road with a shoulder bag at two in the morning in belfast,just what did he expect...a pat on the back

He certainty didn't expect a willy up his arse!

No way can you say he was asking for it.

a fat guy

I cannot understand how someone could be capable of doing something like that and I hope I never do.

Rabidlamb

What's the "Allegedly" bit about anyway, it's something I'd like to be sure of before I involve the police.

eviltwin

I suppose for some of the male posters male on male rape is still pretty shocking and humor helps defuse some of it.

As a woman while I don't expect to be raped I am aware of the risks every time I go out and its always there in the back of my mind, most men never do I would imagine so stories like this must be hard to read.

Jester252

Rabidlamb wrote: »

What's the "Allegedly" bit about anyway, it's something I'd like to be sure of before I involve the police.

That would come from the police side. Looking into it to make sure the claim is not false and dealing with the aftermath

clappyhappy

getz wrote: »

i thought it was only alleged rape? i bet there is more to this than meets the eye,lets look at the evidence,walking down the road with a shoulder bag at two in the morning in belfast,just what did he expect...a pat on the back

Why should he expect anything, except to get where he was going safely. Are all males who carry a bag fair game to rape???

Sauve

eviltwin wrote: »

I suppose for some of the male posters male on male rape is still pretty shocking and humor helps defuse some of it.

As a woman while I don't expect to be raped I am aware of the risks every time I go out and its always there in the back of my mind, most men never do I would imagine so stories like this must be hard to read.

You're probably right that men would be less mindful of potentially being raped (correct me if I'm wrong lads), but I'm sure they're a lot more aware of being generally attacked than girls are.
Lately there are so many stories of guys being jumped on nights out and stabbed/ beaten up, this has to be a consideration when they head out for a night.

Jester252

Sauve wrote: »

You're probably right that men would be less mindful of potentially being raped (correct me if I'm wrong lads), but I'm sure they're a lot more aware of being generally attacked than girls are.
Lately there are so many stories of guys being jumped on nights out and stabbed/ beaten up, this has to be a consideration when they head out for a night.

Your right but getting jumped is a major problem for lads. If any poster in hear was in UL you would have heard if rape lane ( no prize on how it got the name) You would try your best not to walk through it on your own. As of getting mugged or beening attacked because other think your a rapist/mugger

Pat Mustard

Jester252 wrote: »

in UL you would have heard if rape lane

Charming. Perhaps it's the Limerick equivalent of Lovers' Walk.

seachto7

Did they catch the "rapiste"

humanji

Two mod warnings, several infractions and many deleted posts. Stick to the topic in the OP please. Bans will follow.

mikom

Ulster says no.

God help the lad if true.

FouxDaFaFa

Fair play to him for reporting it, it's not an easy thing to do.

ahnowbrowncow

mikom wrote: »

Ulster says no.

God help the lad if true.

Ulster say no?

old hippy

Sadly, male rape occurs much more often than we get to hear about. Those making jokes about it are asserting their masculinity, in a fashion - perhaps to show that it would never happen to them. Maybe it happened for "a reason"?

Well, heads up, fellas - it happens to any of us, gay, straight, bi - whatever.

Esoteric_

I for one think the victim has been immensely brave.

Only around 10% of people who rape women are ever convicted for it, and a hell of a lot less so for men.

In an age where male and females are insulted, victim blamed and just plain slagged off over being raped, it's difficult enough for a female rape victim to report what happened to her (from my experience), let alone a male rape victim.

The fact that he reported it is a huge testament to his character, and I sincerely hope the scumbag who did it gets punished accordingly.

fasttalkerchat

LyndaMcL wrote: »

The fact that he reported it is a huge testament to his character, and I sincerely hope the scumbag who did it gets punished accordingly.

Doubt they'll find him. Rapists are often caught when they boast about what they did in a pub, can't see that happening here.

BunShopVoyeur

eviltwin wrote:

I suppose for some of the male posters male on male rape is still pretty shocking and humor helps defuse some of it.

That's exactly all it is.

It's sometimes best to find whatever humour you can in these things....life would be awfully depressing otherwise.

That said, obviously you'd hope the guy is alright and can get over this eventually.

Esoteric_

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

Doubt they'll find him. Rapists are often caught when they boast about what they did in a pub, can't see that happening here.

They can be notoriously difficult to catch, yes, but if it happened outdoors, there's a small chance of CCTV. There is also the possibility of DNA evidence being used if the perpetrator is already on the DNA database.

midlandsmissus

token101 wrote: »

You posted in After Hours, what were you expecting? Tea and sympathy? Some cream for that sand in your vagina?

What do you think After Hours is? Cause I sure as hell dont want it to be a place you're describing. We can have jokes without making light of other people's suffering for **** sake.

Galwayguy35

Horrible thing to happen to anyone. As a man it would never cross my mind that something like this could happen to me. When I used to be going out to nightclubs it would always be in my mind that a row could start and I could get beaten up but not sexually assualted.

cristoir

Seriously who has this thought process:

"A man has been viciously raped, his life has probably been irreparably damaged and he and his family will take years getting over it. Sure that's mad funny I'll take the piss!"

I know some comedians make jokes about rape but I have rarely heard them make jokes about specific cases like some are in this thread. I worry if people have these attitudes off the net as well? My thoughts are with the Man, he has been through more then most of us will ever know.

fasttalkerchat

Makes you wonder how many gay men are date raped. Not something you would every hear about.

ahnowbrowncow

LyndaMcL wrote: »

I for one think the victim has been immensely brave.

Only around 10% of people who rape women are ever convicted for it, and a hell of a lot less so for men.

In an age where male and females are insulted, victim blamed and just plain slagged off over being raped, it's difficult enough for a female rape victim to report what happened to her (from my experience), let alone a male rape victim.

The fact that he reported it is a huge testament to his character, and I sincerely hope the scumbag who did it gets punished accordingly.

Where's that 10% figure from?

wickfreescott

wow this sounds bad

fran17

was the attacker 5ft 9in or 5ft with 9inches...ouch:pac:

Mod: Banned.

Esoteric_

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Where's that 10% figure from?

http://www.rte.ie/news/2003/1003/rape.html

That link (from 2003) says it's only 1-2% in Ireland, but AFAIK worldwide, it's around 7-10% depending on the country. I'll look for more stats later, I was reading it in a Rape Crisis Centre report a few weeks ago.

Esoteric_

fran17 wrote: »

was the attacker 5ft 9in or 5ft with 9inches...ouch:pac:

Do you just ignore mod warnings or something?

A person was raped. When the fcuk is that EVER funny? :mad:

LyndaMcL

LyndaMcL wrote: »

A person was raped. When the fcuk is that EVER funny? :mad:

When it's a man apparently. Oh and I think Escorts are fair game too :mad:

Jesus christ I hope the catch the bastard who did this. Poor bloke, hopefully he'll get through it but it must be very difficult to cope with.

Micky Dolenz

Deleted User wrote: »

When it's a man apparently. Oh and I think Escorts are fair game too :mad:

Jesus christ I hope the catch the bastard who did this. Poor bloke, hopefully he'll get through it but it must be very difficult to cope with.

What's the craic with spam in your post?

edit, it's gone now, weird. Seen it on a few posts today. Must be a glitch in the matrix.

no mind me, carry on.

ThatsAWrap

Its really terrible, and I can't believe some of the immature comments on here about it. How is this in any way funny?

fasttalkerchat

ThatsAWrap wrote: »

Its really terrible, and I can't believe some of the immature comments on here about it. How is this in any way funny?

This section of boards is like that. Most threads have reoccurring jokes and are a general pisstake after 2 pages.

ahnowbrowncow

LyndaMcL wrote: »

http://www.rte.ie/news/2003/1003/rape.html

That link (from 2003) says it's only 1-2% in Ireland, but AFAIK worldwide, it's around 7-10% depending on the country. I'll look for more stats later, I was reading it in a Rape Crisis Centre report a few weeks ago.

Have a look at this

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/mar/19/myths-about-rape-conviction-rates

PrincessLola

Deleted User wrote: »

When it's a man apparently. Oh and I think Escorts are fair game too :mad:

Jesus christ I hope the catch the bastard who did this. Poor bloke, hopefully he'll get through it but it must be very difficult to cope with.

I dunno, there was controversy recently when a comedian Daniel Tosh said 'rape is always funny', and then said (about a woman in the audience who objected) "wouldn't it be funny if 5 guys raped her right now"

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/11/comedians-defend-daniel-tosh-rape-joke-twitter_n_1666072.html?utm_hp_ref=comedy

And of course comedians are defending him.

kegzmc

Depends on the gender of attacker I suppose. I'm male so I wouldn't get too upset if my raper was male.

I'm a homosexual you see...

PrincessLola

PrincessLola wrote: »

I dunno, there was controversy recently when a comedian Daniel Tosh said 'rape is always funny', and then said (about a woman in the audience who objected) "wouldn't it be funny if 5 guys raped her right now"

I was referring to AH specifically, but it's never funny, I'd be pretty appalled if I was at a comedy gig and that was the joke, and I'm not appalled easily.

Esoteric_

kegzmc wrote: »

Depends on the gender of attacker I suppose. I'm male so I wouldn't get too upset if my raper was male.

I'm a homosexual you see...

I'm straight. Doesn't mean I'm gonna enjoy a man raping me.

ahnowbrowncow

kegzmc wrote: »

Depends on the gender of attacker I suppose. I'm male so I wouldn't get too upset if my raper was male.

I'm a homosexual you see...

So when a heterosexual female is raped by a male she shouldn't be too upset because she should like intercourse with males?.

Your logic is flawed.

midlandsmissus

kegzmc wrote: »

Depends on the gender of attacker I suppose. I'm male so I wouldn't get too upset if my raper was male.

I'm a homosexual you see...

Kegzmc with all due consideration I don't think you understand what rape does to a person. It's not which gender/sex, it's about completely disrespecting another person at the utmost level you can just because you can, and that person is always left with that memory that another person cared about them so little to do that to them.

KeithM89_old

Disaster of a thread. Rape isnt funny.
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