Talking to people from your past

pragmatic1

Does anyone else find it really hard/awkward/draining having conversations with people you knew well from years back.

I was at a family event today and had to talk to cousins and friends that I hadn't seen for years. That **** is unpleasant.

Pushtrak

Yeah, too much time has passed, and don't really want to get in to protracted conversations randomly like you are describing. At a best case, I'd arrange to meet up some other time to catch up. None of that on the spot crap.

My name is URL

I'm extremely awkward in those situations and people just give up trying to converse with me after a while

It's a blessing

girl in the striped socks

Yeah. About thirty seconds into the forced conversation you realise that you have nothing in common with them & they are as boring as fcuk.
But why do people carry on like they're best friends & suggest "we should meet up for a drink sometime soon" when it's obvious they are in as much pain as you are. That drink will never happen but it's nearly always suggested out of some stupid sense of politeness.

woodoo

Yeah especially when your life hasn't exactly gone to plan. And you are faced with endless questions.

1ZRed

Not always no.

I was at my debs a year ago now nearly and I met a few of my best friends from primary school there. I didn't even know they would be there!

We hit it off and fell back into routine like nothing ever happened. It was really nice and a great night. Made me realise how much I missed them. It's actually kind of sad we ever drifted apart but that's life I suppose:)

Pottler

It's usually not helped by the fact that now we have feck all in common, except Tony Sopranos "most boring conversation ever" - that being, "remember when.."

Chuck Stone

That's what drink is for bro.

pragmatic1

Chuck Stone wrote: »

That's what drink is for bro.

I wish mate. The valiums will be hit tomorrow for round two.

Pushtrak

girl in the striped socks wrote: »

But why do people carry on like they're best friends & suggest "we should meet up for a drink sometime soon" when it's obvious they are in as much pain as you are. That drink will never happen but it's nearly always suggested out of some stupid sense of politeness.

For my part, I only offer it if I mean it from the conversation that has just gone on. What I hate is the "so whats your new number" one. Well, when I'd rather not give it, I mean.

1ZRed wrote: »

Not always no.

I was at my debs a year ago now nearly and I met a few of my best friends from primary school there. I didn't even know they would be there!

We hit it off and fell back into routine like nothing ever happened. It was really nice and a great night. Made me realise how much I missed them. It's actually kind of sad we ever drifted apart but that's life I suppose:)

I've had something like this happen on a minor scale a number of times. I tend to catch up with people for a while and fall out of touch a fair bit.

Smidge

I thought this would be another thread about psychics and ghost from the title.



Thread disappoints:(

Nodin

Chuck Stone wrote: »

That's what drink is for bro.

Yeah, but sometimes its awkward because of all the drink the last time.....

supernova84

Your not talking to people from your past, it's more like they're talking to people from their future.

pragmatic1

My name is URL wrote: »

I'm extremely awkward in those situations and people just give up trying to converse with me after a while

It's a blessing

I like your style. I think there should be some sort of law that if you haven't seen someone in x amount of time you're legally obliged to ignore them.

Pushtrak

mishkalucy wrote: »

I thought this would be another thread about psychics and ghost from the title.



Thread disappoints:(

With a subtext of excess drug abuse.

pragmatic1

supernova84 wrote: »

Your not talking to people from your past, it's more like they're talking to people from their future.

Good point. It's actually like having conversations with random strangers.

LH Pathe

Tried it, with a former friend bit you know how that goes.. two very different paths and an stubborn undercurrent of mutual condescending. Was left to wonder why he asked for me via my brother in the first place!

Smidge

Pushtrak wrote: »

With a subtext of excess drug abuse.

Me or the OP????