How much hassle does your partner give you?

ThinkAboutIt

Cut the grass, eat health, sweep up, put out the bin etc etc etc.
How much is too much?
I noticed my girlfriend going overload on this lately, and she was never like that before.
I realise there must be some, but how much can you take?

Where To

None.

HazDanz

She sounds like your mother.

Jaxxy

She giving you hassle to help out around the house, OP?

The cheek of her. :pac:

miss.aok

ok getting you to do chores is annoyin but if she say eat healthy its case she loves ya. i tell my bf not to b smoking cause it can bring health problems. I only nag him about cause i wouldnt want to see him sick.

eth0

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

Cut the grass, eat health, sweep up, put out the bin etc etc etc.
How much is too much?
I noticed my girlfriend going overload on this lately, and she was never like that before.
I realise there must be some, but how much can you take?

after the honeymoon period they do get like this. if you don't put a damper on things now or possibly even get rid of her you'll really be in the sh1t shortly. before ya know it she'll be wanting children

Abi

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

Cut the grass, eat health, sweep up, put out the bin etc etc etc.
How much is too much?
I noticed my girlfriend going overload on this lately, and she was never like that before.
I realise there must be some, but how much can you take?

You are a grown adult aren't you? How about you help out without having to be asked? Or would you like her to do everything for you?

LETHAL LADY

I cut the grass and take out the bins all by myself. Does she have any arms and does she offer any services in return for her bossy boots behaviour?

Duggy747

Crack that whip!

Liquorice whip!!

Diego Maradona

None, mainly because I haven't got one.

ThinkAboutIt

Abi wrote: »

You are a grown adult aren't you? How about you help out without having to be asked? Or would you like her to do everything for you?

I cut the grass, clean up, and put out the bin. But I'd like to do these things in my own time rather than be nagged all day. I'll do it when I have a spare ten minutes why does everything have to be done straight away?

More women need hobbies.

Mena

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

Cut the grass, eat health, sweep up, put out the bin etc etc etc.
How much is too much?
I noticed my girlfriend going overload on this lately, and she was never like that before.
I realise there must be some, but how much can you take?

She's pregnant. Look up nesting.

Abi

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

Abi wrote: »

You are a grown adult aren't you? How about you help out without having to be asked? Or would you like her to do everything for you?

I cut the grass, clean up, and put out the bin. But I'd like to do these things in my own time rather than be nagged all day. I'll do it when I have a spare ten minutes why does everything have to be done straight away?

More women need hobbies.

Sounds like she doesn't have time for hobbies with you around, certainly if it takes all day for you to do something.

LETHAL LADY

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

I cut the grass, clean up, and put out the bin. But I'd like to do these things in my own time rather than be nagged all day. I'll do it when I have a spare ten minutes why does everything have to be done straight away?

More women need hobbies.

Since when is cutting the grass and taking out the bin a hobby?

ThinkAboutIt

Abi wrote: »

Sounds like she doesn't have time for hobbies with you around, certainly if it takes all day for you to do something.

LOL

Uriel.

Put a maximum cap of 2 years in any relationship. Problem solved.

heathersonline

Just do what she asks but do it really badly. She'll soon realise your good for nothing and do it herself.

senorwipesalot

She sounds like a right pain in the hole.
Stab some sense into that bitch OP.

Jimmyhologram

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

I cut the grass, clean up, and put out the bin. But I'd like to do these things in my own time rather than be nagged all day. I'll do it when I have a spare ten minutes why does everything have to be done straight away?

I used to be just like you. Till my wife put manners on me .

Some people just like things to be clean and tidy, rather than left to be cleaned later on, or else they get on edge. It actually makes more sense, too.

I changed my lazy ways because it makes my OH feel better, and it doesn't cost much.

stateofflux

Uriel. wrote: »

Put a maximum cap of 2 years in any relationship. Problem solved.

lol so true, after that the action to chores ratio changes drastically

phill106

Abi wrote: »

Or would you like her to do everything for you?

Actually yes!

JonathanAnon

Sounds like she's being passive aggressive.. Have you cheated on her recently?

Doom

I get it real bad, she actually wants me to sit down and talk to each other every now and then....wtf is that about?

AnonoBoy

Having lived with other men throughout my life I know how messy, lazy and sh*te some men can be about the house.

Used to share with a guy who would offer to wash the dishes, fill the sink with water, dump the dishes in and then just leave them like that until the next day when I would find them and have to actually wash them.

Although having said that maybe you just have a sh*t girlfriend?

Either way it's probably your fault. :pac:

NegativeCreep

Why can't she cut the grass or put out the bin herself if it's annoying her so much?
I would do things when I feel like it needs to be done and I should hope that's what everyone else does this too. If it happens that she feels like the grass needs to be cut now, well then she better get her mower out instead of expecting you to do it for her..

To answer your question, I would take zero of that nagging crap :L Why does she think she can tell you what to do? Nip that in the bud before you become whipped as a pig! :L
wimmins have some cheek these days.

Teyla Emmagan

Nothing more annoying than the 'I'll do it in my own time' cr&p. No, do it now! Then it will be done and we can all sit down in a nice clean house!

cocoshovel

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Nothing more annoying than the 'I'll do it in my own time' cr&p. No, do it now! Then it will be done and we can all sit down in a nice clean house!

why dont YOU do it now?

gara

I don't believe an adult ever has the right to tell another adult what to do. People should do things of their own free will -out of respect and consideration because they want to, not obligation because they're told to

Teyla Emmagan

cocoshovel wrote: »

why dont YOU do it now?

Because I will have already made the dinner, and slaved lovingly over it. Loading the dishwasher after shouldn't be that big an ask.

smcgiff

Oh op, I only wish, wish, wish I had a girlfriend to nag me.

















As for my wife ...

whatdoicare

We have this deal in our house - I clean inside and himself does whatever has to be done outside- we came about this decision due to the fact that I like to be clean and I am allergic to everything that the outdoors has to bring and his dream in life is to climb in the bin and roll around for the day - we both do the hoovering and mopping in one go.

If the other doesn't do whatever has to be done in their domain that's their problem and noone is to blame but themselves. The rules are simple - we don't ask about the others domain and we don't complain about the others domain. If we see something that isn't done in the others domain, we close our eyes and keep walking - we don't comment, roll eyes or judge - we assume that whatever it is will be done in good time.

It's the fightclub of domestic bliss.

The rules are simple and everyone is happy with no need for nagging and more time for a good bit of wink, wink, nudge, nudge.

stovelid

A moderate to fair amount.

It's all justified even though I will never, admit it and usually postpone doing anything on principle.

stovelid

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Nothing more annoying than the 'I'll do it in my own time' cr&p. No, do it now! Then it will be done and we can all sit down in a nice clean house!

OCD.

mattjack

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

Cut the grass, eat health, sweep up, put out the bin etc etc etc.
How much is too much?
I noticed my girlfriend going overload on this lately, and she was never like that before.
I realise there must be some, but how much can you take?

Have you thought about getting a lodger to entertain her ?

Varied

Abi wrote: »

You are a grown adult aren't you? How about you help out without having to be asked? Or would you like her to do everything for you?

Abi wrote: »

Sounds like she doesn't have time for hobbies with you around, certainly if it takes all day for you to do something.

...

:pac::pac::pac:

osheen

Just brought in the washing for herself.
Told hang the rest out ! Then cut the grass and oh put petrol in my car.
I should have stayed in work today

charlemont

ThinkAboutIt wrote: »

Cut the grass, eat health, sweep up, put out the bin etc etc etc.
How much is too much?
I noticed my girlfriend going overload on this lately, and she was never like that before.
I realise there must be some, but how much can you take?

Just finish with her, No need to put up with that especially as you say she is going overboard lately.

Teyla Emmagan

stovelid wrote: »

OCD.

Grown up.

Pottler

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Because I will have already made the dinner, and slaved lovingly over it. Loading the dishwasher after shouldn't be that big an ask.

That's only half doing the job. Try harder to see it through to completion, cook it, serve it, clean up after it.

ducks and runs

blatantrereg

None.

My experience of people who do this is that it's not to do with wanting demands to be met, but to do with wanting to give out. They'll give out no matter what you do in other words. Just my experience mind.

theholyghost

Have you tried blasting her with piss?

Latchy

Everything is balanced out evenly over a week so as not to leave to many domestic chores on one plate and cleaning /tidying up is something that is just second nature to me .

cocoshovel

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Because I will have already made the dinner, and slaved lovingly over it. Loading the dishwasher after shouldn't be that big an ask.

ri! get us the dinner made now at 1pm, and fetch me a beer from the fridge ty. Double standards all around.

Teyla Emmagan

cocoshovel wrote: »

ri! get us the dinner made now at 1pm, and fetch me a beer from the fridge ty. Double standards all around.

Wha'?!?

humbert

I hate people with the attitude that all jobs should be shared. If I cook the dinner I'm quite happy to finish the job and wash up, especially if it's for someone I'm fond of.

Some people have a notion they are being taken advantage of if the do the whole job themselves and create an awkward situation where if they start something you have to help, even if you had sod all interest in it to begin with.

lolz81

I've just come out of a 5 year relationship which had become nothing but nagging and hassling. He wanted us to spend quality time together and everything (apparently the 7 hours a night we spent together while sleeping didn't quite cut it). Effort!

Jesus Shaves

whatdoicare wrote: »

We have this deal in our house - I clean inside and himself does whatever has to be done outside-

I currently have the same deal with my OH, I refuse to go outside when it's raining though.

Ms.M

We spend a very minimal amount of time giving each other hassle.
We're both messy f*ckers if let be though, we really need it.
Many moons ago when he hadn't started doing his share of the upkeep I did tear into him. He just wasn't used to doing much. I don't mind being the giver or receiver of a good rant once in a blue moon but if I had to nag everyday I'd be soul-destroyed.
Maybe your oh is doing more than you around the house and she feels resentful and that's the real reason why she's nagging you? Or she could just be a control freak! Either way you'd be better off talking to her than AH. Control freaks usually change their habits for the sake of a happy compromise. Otherwise you'll end up miserable and the relationship can't last. If you're a "traditionalist" (not the word I'd use ) you'll make her miserable too. Even if she hasn't complained about doing more housework. Good luck with that anyway!

OneArt

Pave over the garden and you won't ever have to cut the grass again.

I purposely live in a high-up apartment so I don't have to deal with all that gardening sh!t. Plants should die.

Scanlas The 2nd

There's an argument that can be made that whoever gets more pleasure from the clean house should probably do more chores. If one person is content with dirty windows and didn't make them dirty for example, then why should they be expected to clean the windows.

stovelid

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

There's an argument that can be made that whoever gets more pleasure from the clean house should probably do more chores. If one person is content with dirty windows and didn't make them dirty for example, then why should they be expected to clean the windows.

I have been advancing this theory for years.

On deaf ears I might add.