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Lonely and not sure what to do about it!

  • 29-07-2012 1:22pm
    #1
    DudeBoy
    Registered Users Posts: 6 ✭


    Hi There,
    This is my first post ever so I hope I am doing it right! I just wanted to get some opinions on something I am going through. I am a 31 year old guy, I have lots of A lot good friends, I have an OK job that I don't mind too much and I have nothing really to be down about but the last few months, I have just been feeling lonely and I can't seem to shake it. I am single and I find it very hard to meet girls that don't end up wanting to be my "best friend", anytime I like a girl, I always seem to get this, even if I have hooked up with them. A lot of my friends are in relationships now and a lot of my close friends aren't around any more and I kind of feel like I am isolated a bit and down in the dumps about it. Don't get me wrong-I amn't fully depressed and I socialise and I am not some kind of weirdo-its just this feeling that I can't seem to shake. Is this a common thing with guys this around this age or has anyone else gone through something like this and have you any advice on how you got through this? Thanks!!
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  • #2
    Pawwed Rig
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Home & Garden Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 22,389 CMod ✭✭✭✭Pawwed Rig


    It is fairly common alright as you are moving to a new phase in your life. Old friends are settling down and may not want to socialise as much as previously. The partying 20's are over. you will find the 30's a bit more sedate and the hangovers get alot worse. You will find as the single person you will have to make the plans for meeting up and going out.
    WRT meeting someone, when I was 31 I had not at that stage met the girl that I ended up marrying, so you are not on the shelf yet. Maybe try another method of meeting women such as further education or online dating (there is an extensive thread on this forum, don't be put off as it is VERY common)


  • #3
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    hi op,

    I'll move this to PI as it's better suited there.


  • #4
    DudeBoy
    Registered Users Posts: 6 ✭DudeBoy


    Thanks for the reply. I feel a bit better knowing that other dudes go through the same thing. I suppose a lot of people so and you would never even know-I have never really talked about this even with any of my best friends-I suppose I always thought it might just be an over-reaction on my part or something. I actually meet a lot of girls socially, I just never seem to get anywhere with them...I don't think I am on the shelf yet I suppose I am just worried for the first time that it might happen if I don't find some way to get out of the rut! One thing-I am new to this-what does moved to PI mean?! :pac:


  • #5
    Pawwed Rig
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Home & Garden Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 22,389 CMod ✭✭✭✭Pawwed Rig


    PI = Personal Issues. The moderators will often move posts from one forum to another if they feel it would fit more appropriately.

    When I was 30 I went back to college in the evenings part time. Met a whole new social group there many of whom I am still in contact with. Might be worth looking into something you are interested in. Most enrollments are around this time


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