Being a definite person

TeddyTedson

I'd love to be a definite person. You see it here on boards all the time, people who have strong opinions on something. Dudess had very definite opinions on different topics. But I can never decide and my mind is always changing.
Even my outlook on life seems to change by the day.
Sometimes I wake up very sure of myself and I know what I want to do in life.
Other days I'm lost.
People have quoted me on things and I can't believe that that was my opinion at the time, even though it could have just been the previous week.

It's actually hurting my head to think about it now. But hopefully other people know what I'm talking about. Some days it feels like your living in someones body and feel kind of dead inside and just go through the motions, where as other days you might just be happy all day and be very sure of yourself.

Does it come with age or will I always have this haze following me around.

marshbaboon

I think you're definitely a person. Check if you have opposable thumbs just to be sure.

TeddyTedson

marshbaboon wrote: »

I think you're definitely a person. Check if you have opposable thumbs just to be sure.

nope, just paws:o

Wacker The Attacker

man up

We all want to be better at something. The Oatmeal captured a great point of view in their cartoon.

OP just do your best and don't worry about being a different person. Life is about learning. If you want to be more definite, just push yourself to do it. Plus experience means you'll know a situation and what will happen with it.

4zn76tysfajdxp

Cogito ergo sum, Teddy. Cogito ergo sum.

mackg

I'm the same.

Hande hoche!

A bit of flexibility is a good thing.

Where To

You're my hero Teddy.

mackg

mackg wrote: »

I'm the same.

Wait, actually I'm completely different.

TeddyTedson

Does anyone understand what I'm saying?

padma

Let go boards.ie for three weeks. Then let go all your opinions about stuff. Then come back to earth with a better realisation about what makes you who you are. It's not what you think it's how you are when your thinking it that matters.

themandan6611

christ teddy, will you not go out and get a woman, these late night provocative threads have to stop

marshbaboon

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Does anyone understand what I'm saying?

Yes. Best advice I can give is educate yourself on the topic at hand. The internet is a source of infinite free knowledge. Once you're knowledgeable on the subject you'll be able to formulate a sound, definitive opinion.

I always find the most probable causes for being on the fence are a lack of information, or a lack of confidence.

leggo

Sounds like more of a PI thread tbh.

It's just a case of knowing yourself. Being able to admit harsh realities about yourself, to yourself, and having the strength to know who you actually are...not what you'd like others to think you are. From there, you can also honestly see other people's sides of the story (regardless of how they may effect yours) and understand the reality of any situation...so forming an opinion on it is easy.

In that regard, I always try and look at something with a view to what the truth of the matter is, like a scientist does. Not what I'd like it to be, not what someone else would like it to be. Take in all sides, then see that middle ground of what the reality is. And go from there, regardless of the effects it might have on your life, because at least you won't be in for a shock down the line.

But, to be honest, I think most people go the other way: see what they'd like to be true and build an argument around that. The problem is that the argument changes when your perspective does and it becomes like a dog chasing its tail.

I dunno if that all makes sense to anyone but me, but there you go.

TeddyTedson

themandan6611 wrote: »

christ teddy, will you not go out and get a woman, these late night provocative threads have to stop

I wouldn't put another woman through that!

Shryke

Uncertainty is better than being stolid and entrenched. A lot of smart people turn stupid that way.
You're a great guy for articulating the minutiae of existential crisis.

Jesus Wept

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I'd love to be a definite person. You see it here on boards all the time, people who have strong opinions on something. Dudess had very definite opinions on different topics. But I can never decide and my mind is always changing.
Even my outlook on life seems to change by the day.
Sometimes I wake up very sure of myself and I know what I want to do in life.
Other days I'm lost.
People have quoted me on things and I can't believe that that was my opinion at the time, even though it could have just been the previous week.

It's actually hurting my head to think about it now. But hopefully other people know what I'm talking about. Some days it feels like your living in someones body and feel kind of dead inside and just go through the motions, where as other days you might just be happy all day and be very sure of yourself.

Does it come with age or will I always have this haze following me around.

+1

Jesus Wept

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I'd love to be a definite person. You see it here on boards all the time, people who have strong opinions on something. Dudess had very definite opinions on different topics. But I can never decide and my mind is always changing.
Even my outlook on life seems to change by the day.
Sometimes I wake up very sure of myself and I know what I want to do in life.
Other days I'm lost.
People have quoted me on things and I can't believe that that was my opinion at the time, even though it could have just been the previous week.

It's actually hurting my head to think about it now. But hopefully other people know what I'm talking about. Some days it feels like your living in someones body and feel kind of dead inside and just go through the motions, where as other days you might just be happy all day and be very sure of yourself.

Does it come with age or will I always have this haze following me around.

Disagree with this.

Jesus Shaves

Life experiences make you the person that you are, don't ever let anyone on boards or in real life change that.

TeddyTedson

I don't come across well in text form, especially when I'm coming down.
I apologise and will stop posting now:o

Snowie

i would of thought the most definitive thing about a person is how they approach life...Its not nesscerilly about being the smartest or doing these wnderfulls life i would of always thought definitive well to me is a person who looks past money and high powered jobs and all that crap and just says fvck it I want to be happy.

personally that definitive if wealth comes from taking that approach then all the power to them...

bhovaspack

"Some people are born with clear roots. They know exactly where they come from and who they are, but the world is mysterious to them. I've always been the opposite ... sensitive to the world and forever in the course of discovering who i am and what i am." - Norman Mailer

Chuck Stone

Be like a Honey Badger teddy - don't give a ****.

General General

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=spjcPS4ekOA

Giselle

Shryke wrote: »

You're a great guy for articulating the minutiae of existential crisis.

Thats a great back-handed compliment.

Jesus Wept

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I don't come across well in text form, especially when I'm coming down.
I apologise and will stop posting now:o

I understand what you are saying. I am the same regarding lots of things.
It is important to be able to change your mind imo and to be willing to acknowledge that change within yourself and outwardly.

People who can't do this are silly.

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Be like a Honey Badger teddy - don't give a ****.

Nah.

Giselle

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I'd love to be a definite person. You see it here on boards all the time, people who have strong opinions on something. Dudess had very definite opinions on different topics. But I can never decide and my mind is always changing.
Even my outlook on life seems to change by the day.
Sometimes I wake up very sure of myself and I know what I want to do in life.
Other days I'm lost.
People have quoted me on things and I can't believe that that was my opinion at the time, even though it could have just been the previous week.

It's actually hurting my head to think about it now. But hopefully other people know what I'm talking about. Some days it feels like your living in someones body and feel kind of dead inside and just go through the motions, where as other days you might just be happy all day and be very sure of yourself.

Does it come with age or will I always have this haze following me around.

Most reasonable people have quite ambient opinions, as their knowledge of a subject grows, their take on it changes accordingly.

Being flexible is not a character flaw, its the opposite.

NegativeCreep

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I don't come across well in text form, especially when I'm coming down.
I apologise and will stop posting now:o

Do you mean coming down off uppers? Try not to do any thinking about your life when you're coming down off drugs :L

A certain amount of flexibility in your opinion is a good thing. Try and educate yourself before forming an opinion.
I have the same problem. I formulate opinions way too quickly and then when I read up on the subject I'm forced to change my opinion, which is annoying :L

WumBuster

I think as person you are learning all the time. But as you get older, 30+ you become more sure of yourself, your opinions, what you like what you dont like, what you agree and dont agree with etc

18AD

The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.
- Bertrand Russell

Not completely accurate, but quoting makes me look like I'm trying to compensate for my own lack of insight.

Be grand. I don't have a ****in' clue and I like it that way. Just pick anything and go with it, because any stance is probably just as wrong as any other. Everyone's trading fictions.

ArtyM

Dont get a Tattoo.

TeddyTedson

Dónal wrote: »

We all want to be better at something. The Oatmeal captured a great point of view in their cartoon.

OP just do your best and don't worry about being a different person. Life is about learning. If you want to be more definite, just push yourself to do it. Plus experience means you'll know a situation and what will happen with it.

That Oatmeal cartoon is very true. I always think the same, some times I'm thinking, I'll bulk up now. Then I'm thinking no, I'll go down a bit and do more cardio.

I never learn, that's my problem.

TeddyTedson

ArtyM wrote: »

Dont get a Tattoo.

My friends got tattoos when they were 16 but I decided I'd hold off for a while until I decided on something. That was 9 years ago and I'm still a blank canvas.

Tomorrow I will be myself again.
Maybe I should start seeing a psychiatrist.
My ex girlfriend is a psychologist, if that's not enough to make someone paranoid.

gara

"The fool doth think he is wise but the wise man knows himself to be a fool" -I think the best opinions are constantly in a state of flux, open-minded and always seeking to evolve. "My way or the highway" types are never aspirational

By the way, +1 for Dudess. Great poster I found. Sad when I heard she wasn't posting anymore, though I hope she retired the account and is posting on another.

Pantsface

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I'd love to be a definite person. You see it here on boards all the time, people who have strong opinions on something. Dudess had very definite opinions on different topics. But I can never decide and my mind is always changing.
Even my outlook on life seems to change by the day.
Sometimes I wake up very sure of myself and I know what I want to do in life.
Other days I'm lost.
People have quoted me on things and I can't believe that that was my opinion at the time, even though it could have just been the previous week.

It's actually hurting my head to think about it now. But hopefully other people know what I'm talking about. Some days it feels like your living in someones body and feel kind of dead inside and just go through the motions, where as other days you might just be happy all day and be very sure of yourself.

Does it come with age or will I always have this haze following me around.

teddy, you talk so much on here i don't know what is real and what is silly attentio seaking ****, and you do a lot of attention seaking ****

Jimoslimos

You need to be the definite person

/grammar joke

TeddyTedson

Pantsface wrote: »

teddy, you talk so much on here i don't know what is real and what is silly attentio seaking ****, and you do a lot of attention seaking ****

I don't intend to if I do.

CodyJarrett

Pantsface wrote: »

teddy, you talk so much on here i don't know what is real and what is silly attentio seaking ****, and you do a lot of attention seaking ****

Says the guy with pants on his face

wilkie2006

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Does anyone understand what I'm saying?

Ah, I think that having wavering views or a lack of conviction in one's opinions just means that you don't really care about the particular topic. Just have a think about what you're actually interested in and I'm sure you'll realise you got some staunch ideas.