Facebook relationship etiquette

Jesus Wept

I believe you can change it to hidden so your relationship status doesn't show on your page.

kerry4sam

Andy Carroll wrote: »

I believe you can change it to hidden so your relationship status doesn't show on your page.

you can yeah

You can change almost everything to private or limited viewers nowadays on facebook

PizzamanIRL

frozenfrozen wrote: »

As much as I agree with all of you saying change it now as I am no longer in a relationship, I'll wait till she changes it, that way I can't be doing anything wrong. As soon as that happens it's going on private and I'm not bothering with anything so unimportant again.





Actually might just change it to widowed

She could be doing the exact same thing waiting til you change yours. Why does she have the upper hand in the relationship. You take the lead and show her who's boss. :cool:

Sea Filly

frozenfrozen wrote: »

Is it a big deal or was this person just making something out of nothing

I think we both know the answer to this...

cyrusdvirus

I put up Happy 21st birthday grand-dad a while back, cos it would have been his 21st birthday. He was born on 29 feb.

The amount of confusion it caused among face book acquaintances was amusing

nbar12

gatecrash wrote: »

I put up Happy 21st birthday grand-dad a while back, cos it would have been his 21st birthday. He was born on 29 feb.

The amount of confusion it caused among face book acquaintances was amusing

oh you cheeky divil!

opinion guy

Having a relationship status enabled at all under any circumstances on facebook is simply attention seeking.

Bad Panda

opinion guy wrote: »

Having a relationship status enabled at all under any circumstances on facebook is simply attention seeking.

Unless you get married, fine. Otherwise, just fcuk right off with that rubbish.

Sea Filly

Deleted User wrote: »

If you change it, be prepared for all your "friends" going awwww, nooooo, what happened, sorry to hear that, and all that jazz. I'm sure you can just hide it. Do that instead.

Yeah.

OP, change it then quickly delete the changed status from your timeline. Then nobody will notice. Do the changing at a quiet time.

Funglegunk

Just remove your relationship status altogether. You don't have to show it.

opinion guy

Bad Panda wrote: »

Unless you get married, fine. Otherwise, just fcuk right off with that rubbish.

No **** that too. I'm sick of looking at people' wedding photos and ****e coming up on my status. **** off. If you didn't invite me to your wedding - then clealry we don't know each other well enough for me to be looking through your wedding photos. The baby stuff is as bad. One lad In konw has this thing that updates everyweek - 'how big is your baby in the womb now' at xx weeks your baby can now hear sounds etc etcc etc]. NOBODY CARES

lol....I'm forced to wonder - in 40years time will these same people be updating me on their bowel movements etc ???
'Laxatives working a treat today'
'Betty brace yourself - I've just picked up the viagra prescription I'll be home in an hour'

jimmycrackcorm

Changing to "in a relationship with Facebook" would appear to be correct for many people.

Lollipops23

I changed it about a day after i broke up with the ex. It was a very amicable breakup, went very smoothly and with minimum upset.

I didn't change it with my current OH until we were about 5-6months in and we'd referred to each other as "boyfriend"/"girlfriend" for quite some time.

I agree the "It's Complicated" is the biggest pile of attention seeking **** ever. Just keep the drama to yourself.

Bad Panda

opinion guy wrote: »

No **** that too. I'm sick of looking at people' wedding photos and ****e coming up on my status. **** off. If you didn't invite me to your wedding - then clealry we don't know each other well enough for me to be looking through your wedding photos. The baby stuff is as bad. One lad In konw has this thing that updates everyweek - 'how big is your baby in the womb now' at xx weeks your baby can now hear sounds etc etcc etc]. NOBODY CARES

lol....I'm forced to wonder - in 40years time will these same people be updating me on their bowel movements etc ???
'Laxatives working a treat today'
'Betty brace yourself - I've just picked up the viagra prescription I'll be home in an hour'

I'm only friends with people who's weddings I WOULD be invited to.

No point pretending a relationship exists when it clearly doesn't.

opinion guy

Bad Panda wrote: »

I'm only friends with people who's weddings I WOULD be invited to.

No point pretending a relationship exists when it clearly doesn't.

Nevertheless - why put wedding photos online ? They are for the couple and immediate family - noone else really cares

.ak

Ha, reminds of me of THE relationship status phone call you get off your missus after the first few months of going out with her.

Her: "So.... You know you've got single on your relationship status right?"

Me: "What? I didn't even know you could do stuff like that on FB..."

Her: "Oh, well, it's not important."

Me: "Cool."

The Next Day....

Her: "Hey, how come you haven't changed your relationship status yet??"

Medusa22

I never change my facebook status, so as a default I'm 'single' even though I live with my OH. Anyone who knows me well enough knows who I'm going out with and I don't feel the need to broadcast it to the world.

SmilingLurker

AnonoBoy wrote: »

Change it to married straight away is the done thing I believe.

I waited until after the honeymoon... Up to the individuals in question.

As for etiquette, in person first, anything else when you get around to it.

blatantrereg

Remove relationship status when breakup is final. Then remove the update that says your relationship status was removed so it doesnt show up in people's feeds. No need to draw attention or to set it to single, just take it off.

cassel16

According to recent findings 72% of Facebook relationships end in a block or unfriending

Jammy Donut

LoIkE iF yHoO cRiEd.

Vicar in a tutu

Just change it to single, then make a few statuses which consist of '':(''
'' hate my life'' etc , or else just change it to single and eff it, you cant comment on it when it comes up as single anyway afaik.

AnonoBoy

SmilingLurker wrote: »

I waited until after the honeymoon... Up to the individuals in question.

I was joking. The OP had just broken up with someone, hence my advice that they change their status to married.

Esoteric_

UglyBolloxFace wrote: »

This...why do you do this...why do you and other people do this? It smacks of attention seeking. Why would you want people to know if your relationship is on the rocks, as that "it's complicated" line does?

My friends don't know that I'm actually in a relationship, so assume I'm changing it for the laugh, since I generally change it when I get bored. They assumed the 'in a relationship' bit was fake, assume the 'it's complicated' thing is fake, and when I change it to 'married' next week, they'll assume that's fake too. I just don't want yer man seeing me down as 'in a relationship' when things are weird.

AnonoBoy

LyndaMcL wrote: »

My friends don't know that I'm actually in a relationship, so assume I'm changing it for the laugh, since I generally change it when I get bored. They assumed the 'in a relationship' bit was fake, assume the 'it's complicated' thing is fake, and when I change it to 'married' next week, they'll assume that's fake too. I just don't want yer man seeing me down as 'in a relationship' when things are weird.

You're getting married next week and your friends don't know?

Why's that?

Is he a Capulet?

Esoteric_

AnonoBoy wrote: »

You're getting married next week and your friends don't know?

Why's that?

Is he a Capulet?

Something like that... :rolleyes:

AnonoBoy

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Something like that... :rolleyes:

Is he one of the other ones?

A Romulan? :eek:

opinion guy

LyndaMcL wrote: »

My friends don't know that I'm actually in a relationship, so assume I'm changing it for the laugh, since I generally change it when I get bored. They assumed the 'in a relationship' bit was fake, assume the 'it's complicated' thing is fake, and when I change it to 'married' next week, they'll assume that's fake too. I just don't want yer man seeing me down as 'in a relationship' when things are weird.

There. Proof, as if proof was needed, that the relationship status option is purely about attention seeking

The Big Red Button

LyndaMcL wrote: »

My friends don't know that I'm actually in a relationship, so assume I'm changing it for the laugh, since I generally change it when I get bored. They assumed the 'in a relationship' bit was fake, assume the 'it's complicated' thing is fake, and when I change it to 'married' next week, they'll assume that's fake too. I just don't want yer man seeing me down as 'in a relationship' when things are weird.

Maybe you should talk to him about what your actual relationship status is ... instead of wondering about how he'll interpret your relationship status on Facebook ... just an idea!

Personally I don't update my status on Facebook. Sure I know what my relationship status is, and those who I care about (and who care about me) know what's happening in my personal life. I don't feel any need to announce it to all of Facebook.

fungun

Although you can hide it, it does come up on your wall that you have hidden it. I hid mine before and it came up as 'fungun is no longer listed as in a relationship', so everyone still commented on it. I got a text on it and had no clue what it was about, as I hadnt actually changed my status, just got rid of it. ffs

fungun

fungun wrote: »

Although you can hide it, it does come up on your wall that you have hidden it. I hid mine before and it came up as 'fungun is no longer listed as in a relationship', so everyone still commented on it. I got a text on it and had no clue what it was about, as I hadnt actually changed my status, just got rid of it. ffs

Yeah, same thing happened to me, about a week after the break up I decided to just delete the relationship status and the onslaught of "OMG are you ok?" started in seconds. Even better is it didn't just say "No longer in a relationship", it said "Budgese is no longer in a relationship with *Ex's name*", just in case anyone was confused as to who exactly I had broken up with. I was not impressed. He wasn't either.

ETA: I think the way around this would be to edit your info so that your relationship status can be seen by "Only me" then change it, it shouldn't show on your friends newsfeed then. Worked this out just too late though!

IrishExpat

I never saw why people take a Facebook (or other social network) r/ship status so seriously. Personally, I´ve had more than one ex get wound up about this.

I don´t even have an account anymore - simply to save time.

But I´m with the previous poster: change your status to:

´in a relationship to (insert willing female friend)´
or
simply change the ´family´ settings in ´about me´ to ´only me´.