Starting a New Job

HappyBalance2

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

ArnoldJRimmer

Thats bad form altogether, something should be arranged for your first day

ahnowbrowncow

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

No more info than that? Come on give us something to work with. Oh and what do you think?

PinkGeekette

That's shocking bad form! In my last job in the UK, we used to have a night out for dinner and cocktails to welcome the newbies

MagicMarker

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

If your team usually go for lunch together then yes they should invite you.

However I've never worked anywhere where the whole team go to lunch together everyday, so no, they shouldn't. Why should they?

fasttalkerchat

Eh? Why would they? Maybe if it was a team of 4 people or a you are all migrant workers in Canada or something but its not something I have ever done.

sgb

Lunch is for wimp's

keith16

Thinly veiled "I have a job thread". Well good for you OP. Hope it gets the taste of swan out of your mouth.

El Guapo!

What's all this "team" business?? What do you all work at?!
It's all too lovey dovey American teamwork high-five shíte for me. Any job I've ever had was always every man for himself!

marshbaboon

Dean09 wrote: »

What's all this "team" business?? What do you all work at?!
It's all too lovey dovey American teamwork high-five shíte for me. Any job I've ever had was always every man for himself!

Me too, I always ate my lunch alone in the jacks, crying. Like a man.

Where To

sgb wrote: »

Lunch is for wimp's

The last time I had lunch with anyone it was out of an E.T. lunchbox.

El Guapo!

marshbaboon wrote: »

Me too, I always ate my lunch alone in the jacks, crying. Like a man.

Proper order!

Chuck Stone

You want a corporation to treat you like you're the only girl in the world is it?

You're selling your labour not seeking romance ffs.

Lando Griffin

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

Well if your job is a football manager and your team is Rangers Newco then I wouldn't expect it; no.

fasttalkerchat

Dean09 wrote: »

What's all this "team" business?? What do you all work at?!
It's all too lovey dovey American teamwork high-five shíte for me. Any job I've ever had was always every man for himself!

As soon as I clock out I agree with you. When I'm in work the word team is on the tip of my tongue and the word "try" is banished :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

fasttalkerchat

Lando Griffin wrote: »

Well if your job is a football manager and your team is Rangers Newco then I wouldn't expect it; no.

It would be a small bill so I wouldn't mind.

ArtSmart

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

of course. best thing is to list the offenders, and then get em back, one by one...

mehaha ha ha ha ha ha

B.A._Baracus

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

You ARE joking right?

Goro

Maybe your just no speaking their lingo.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_KvQYaTnLU

LETHAL LADY

Whenever I start a new job I keep quiet and suss everyone out. Work politics are fooking worse than anything I have ever come across but the genuine people always shine through in the end. As for forced camaraderie through a sandwich and a cuppa I would rather boil me own head.

Goro

Yeah screw all the friends bullshizz, it's all for one. Too much arse licking going around, and the biggest ass kissers are always the first to stab you in the back. Best keep your head down and do what your there to do, work and earn money. Especially don't pair up with the office witches (Every office has some green eyed monsters who spend all day conspiring and spreading rumors).

Don't get all pally wally with people you just met. Remember you will have to see them a lot for probably a long time. Best keep them at arms length until you suss out who the decent skins are.

kfallon

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Whenever I start a new job I keep quiet and suss everyone out. Work politics are fooking worse than anything I have ever come across but the genuine people always shine through in the end. As for forced camaraderie through a sandwich and a cuppa I would rather boil me own head.

This!
Keep your head down, suss out who the **** are and align yourself with the sound people!

I usually lunch on my own anyway, the perks of living close to work

kerry4sam

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Do you think if you start a new job, your team should take you out for lunch or invite you to lunch on the first day and if not its rude?

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

Whenever I start a new job I keep quiet and suss everyone out. Work politics are fooking worse than anything I have ever come across but the genuine people always shine through in the end. As for forced camaraderie through a sandwich and a cuppa I would rather boil me own head.

HappyBalance2: When starting somewhere new I did what Lethal Lady said here and kept quiet to suss everyone out. I'm lucky in that I've studied personalities and know when people are being genuine or two-faced; as in only nice when the supervisor is around and will do and say anything to cover their ass and keep their job secure and it being a different one-sided story then when the supervisor is not around! :mad: Watch your back with them and find them fast too!

Chuck Stone wrote: »

You want a corporation to treat you like you're the only girl in the world is it?

You're selling your labour not seeking romance ffs.

Should you not just start your job and see if and what people there are actually like before thinking and wondering whether they'd take you out for lunch? As Chuck Stone says here 'you're there to work'. How's about thinking work-first and sussing out who is who before thinking about anything else or do you think a happy lunch would help with that?

supernova84

You should invite them out for lunch and make a first day speach telling them how delighted you are to get the gig

Mint Sauce

In fairness, I think someone getting a new job in the current crisis is enough, without your new colleagues taking you out for lunch as well.

HappyBalance2

Goro wrote: »

Yeah screw all the friends bullshizz, it's all for one. Too much arse licking going around, and the biggest ass kissers are always the first to stab you in the back. Best keep your head down and do what your there to do, work and earn money. Especially don't pair up with the office witches (Every office has some green eyed monsters who spend all day conspiring and spreading rumors).

Don't get all pally wally with people you just met. Remember you will have to see them a lot for probably a long time. Best keep them at arms length until you suss out who the decent skins are.

Well surely, if they are all going out for lunch? (3 others) they shud have invited me?

Pottler

Team me hole. Get back to work. Bleedin newbies, soft they are. No lunch in my day, lucky if they didn't jock you in the corridor you were, started at 4 in the morning we did, finished at 3, am. Bleedin modern teamloving cissies. Far from lunch ye were raised. Where do you work OP? Google? Lunch is a coffee. Anything more is dinner. And it's not dinnertime at lunchtime, now is it?? Man up, ffs:D

Namlub

Goro wrote: »

Don't get all pally wally with people you just met. Remember you will have to see them a lot for probably a long time. Best keep them at arms length until you suss out who the decent skins are.

You're making it sound like prison...

Lando Griffin

irish-stew wrote: »

In fairness, I think someone getting a new job in the current crisis is enough, without your new colleagues taking you out for lunch as well.

That's totally unfair. The price of eating out these days has fallen tremendously the last few years you can get some spectactular deals nowadays. Nothing like a slap up meal to make you fee special or important.

HappyBalance2

All I thought was that if people are going out for sandwich that they could have invited me. Its not being soft, I think its just a decent thing to do. I have done it in past. Say in the morning were all going for a bite to eat at 1 o'clock and we would like u to come and get to know the team?

They are not my friends its true, they are not strangers either, they are colleagues.

I don't think I will stay in a place that treats ppl like this.

Goro

Usually an after work drink on the first Friday of the job is what I have done.

Namlub wrote: »

You're making it sound like prison...

You obviously never worked in a call centre.:D

Pottler

Goro wrote: »

Usually an after work drink on the first Friday of the job is what I have done.



You obviously never worked in a call centre.:D

Soo, you like a drink, do you. Hmmm. Take a note Miss Jones, that Goro is a possible deviant alcoholic. Next they'll want a union. Scandalous. This is how it starts, looking for a "Team lunch". Next it's a raise, then they want a bigger office. Nip it in the bud, sack em. Hire an immigrant who brings in their own sandwiches and speaks no English. Make sure they don't own a watch.. Feckin commies. Team Lunch??? Thin end of the wedge if you ask me.

kerry4sam

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

All I thought was that if people are going out for sandwich that they could have invited me. Its not being soft, I think its just a decent thing to do. I have done it in past. Say in the morning were all going for a bite to eat at 1 o'clock and we would like u to come and get to know the team?

They are not my friends its true, they are not strangers either, they are colleagues.

I don't think I will stay in a place that treats ppl like this.

That is not too much to ask for most people.

It all depends on the personalities that are in place there and who leads or uses what-ever means available to them to persuade the others (be it natural dominance or flirting) and whether they are two-faced and nasty or otherwise.

Not everyone is genuinely nice. Just bare that in mind. Don't assume you will be invited. You could always ask where it is they are going and whether they would mind you going too

HappyBalance2

kerry4sam wrote: »

That is not too much to ask for most people.

It all depends on the personalities that are in place there and who leads or uses what-ever means available to them to persuade the others (be it natural dominance or flirting) and whether they are two-faced and nasty or otherwise.

Not everyone is genuinely nice. Just bare that in mind. Don't assume you will be invited. You could always ask where it is they are going and whether they would mind you going too

Can we all agree in the perfect world they should have invited me?

kerry4sam

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Can we all agree in the perfect world they should have invited me?

I will agree with you. I like being genuinely nice with people who are genuinely nice with me. I'd do anything for them!

I would agree with you yeah

Pottler

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Can we all agree in the perfect world they should have invited me?

They didn't. How does that make you feel?

HappyBalance2

Pottler wrote: »

They didn't. How does that make you feel?

Not great, a bit sh*t tbh. Its the first time this has ever hpnd to me in 15 yrs of working. In every job I have been I saw ppl plan the newbies lunch. Maybe its a sign of the times that you are there for work and be happy about it but still feel its the 'norm' to make you feel welcome and to get to know you. Anyway glad to know other ppl feel the same as me. Thanks all.

Pottler

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

Not great, a bit sh*t tbh. Its the first time this has ever hpnd to me in 15 yrs of working. In every job I have been I saw ppl plan the newbies lunch. Maybe its a sign of the times that you are there for work and be happy about it but still feel its the 'norm' to make you feel welcome and to get to know you. Anyway glad to know other ppl feel the same as me. Thanks all.

Ok, we'll bring you on Monday. Better now? In fairness, we all thought you were a bit quiet and snobby, tbh. I asked the others if we could invite you, but they said no, it was too soon. Sorry about that. Our bad. Jasus, this is draining..

HappyBalance2

Pottler wrote: »

Ok, we'll bring you on Monday. Better now? In fairness, we all thought you were a bit quiet and snobby, tbh. I asked the others if we could invite you, but they said no, it was too soon. Sorry about that. Our bad. Jasus, this is draining..

cheers see u then.

Pottler

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

cheers see u then.

It's a date. Subways at 1.05. I'll bring "the Team".

fasttalkerchat

Pottler wrote: »

It's a date. Subways at 1.05. I'll bring "the Team".

Order subs for each other as an ice-breaking bonding exercise.

HappyBalance2

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

All I thought was that if people are going out for sandwich that they could have invited me. Its not being soft, I think its just a decent thing to do. I have done it in past. Say in the morning were all going for a bite to eat at 1 o'clock and we would like u to come and get to know the team?

They are not my friends its true, they are not strangers either, they are colleagues.

I don't think I will stay in a place that treats ppl like this.

I've never been invited to lunch on my first day. Just asked my BF and friends and they haven't either. I'd be of the opinion that work friendships develop over time. I definitely wouldn't expect to be made a fuss of just because I was new.

HappyBalance2

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

Order subs for each other as an ice-breaking bonding exercise.

we work on an industrial estate (remember), who is driving?

HappyBalance2

Kaelyn Fat Fluff wrote: »

I've never been invited to lunch on my first day. Just asked my BF and friends and they haven't either. I'd be of the opinion that work friendships develop over time. I definitely wouldn't expect to be made a fuss of just because I was new.

where have u worked?

HappyBalance2

I dont want to say where I work but its a well known Irish food brand.

HappyBalance2

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

where have u worked?

Hotels, call centres, schools, office jobs (receptionist, admin)

Pottler

HappyBalance2 wrote: »

I dont want to say where I work but its a well known Irish food brand.

You work on a bacon and cabbage farm????? No wonder there's no lunchtime get together. I thought you worked at Google. LUNCH IS OFF. Feckin peasants.,

Goro

Sounds like your work colleagues are Galtee of excluding you from their lunch. I Denny know what you should do.

Pottler

Goro wrote: »

Sounds like your work colleagues are Galtee of excluding you from their lunch. I Denny know what you should do.

You are just clutching at straws here. I dairygold you to name the johnston mooney and o brien of the Op to glanbia the Bulmers out of the Brennans and Cusine de France all over it. Am I doing this right?